You are the one giving birth. What you say goes 
I wouldnât want my MIL in there either since we donât have that great of a relationship.
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My two cents:
I married my husband. I chose him, his strengths, weaknesses, and his family- just as he did mine. Bottom line. He is my partner in life and my babies father. It takes both of us to make our marriage work, it took both of us to conceive our child, itâs taking both of us to get through our pregnancy, and it will only take both of us to have this baby. He is my other half; my love, hope, strength, support, encouragement, and stability- as I am his. Neither my family nor his (regardless of our love/opinions on them) need to be there in our intimate and most vulnerable state as a couple to bring into this world what we created together. Period.
Iâm a firm believer in everyone chooses what is right forâ themselvesâ. However, having a baby is not just about you anymore, itâs also about that baby (individual), AND the babies father as well. On good or bad terms, all three of you are in each otherâs lives regardless. 
Whatever âyouâ choose, I hope it is what you want, feel comfortable with, and feel is best. I wish you luck and congratulations!
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Do whatever you feel most comfortable with I had a similar situation, I let my mother in law come in because my boyfriend wanted me to and I was not comfortable at all⌠and she ended up being the worst person I ever came across
when I was in labor with my 1st son, my mother in law thought she was going to be in the room during my entire labor.
well, she learned quickly that it wasnât going to happen. i nicely asked her to please wait in the hall while they checked me and she refused. then, the nurses asked her & she caused a scene in the L&D room
but, oh my goodness.
it worked out in my favor soooo much! thise nurses rallied around me & stood up for me soooo amazing. i will never forget my nurse. she was a angel. she was my favorite with my 1st 3 babies. she remembered me after that disaster each time i went back.
my labor ended in a csection but, for 14.5 hours of labor with my 1st born, she kept that room locked down & i thought the world of her.
afterwards, some of my family/his family talked about what a âb----â she was and theyâd ask me didnât I think she was ?
and i said who? her? nope. i thought she was damn near perfect & LMBOOOO. they just shut up, finally.
IF YOU are scared to speak up for yourself, talk to your nurses privately and tell them everything & what you WANT and why you need help then, they will see to it that your delivery is respected and youâre stress free.
and if youâre like me, who had a emergency csection the 1st time, then i had repeat csections after that : you can only have 1 person in the operating room, so that helped reduce the stress tremendously.
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Have husband ONLY PEORID
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Iâd say. When you push a baby through your weiner hole, then you can have a sayâŚuntil then, nope. Lol
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Donât let anyone, including your husband, guilt trip you into having somebody you do not want in the room with you. This is a very intimate and vulnerable time for you and you should not be made to feel any extra discomfort at this time. The less stress you are feeling, the less stressful the delivery will go. This moment is not about your husband, its not about his mother, its not about your mother, its about YOU! The people in that room should be there to support you and help you as best they can. They are your support team and if you feel like you will not be getting something positive from one of them then feel free not to have that person in there.
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Stick to your guns. You will never in your life be as vulnerable and raw as you are in that moment. Itâs is 
about your wants and needs. If you need your tribe there with you, he needs to support that.
I chose to have only my husband with me for the birth of our sons. Just bc you are allowed 3 people doesnât mean you have to choose 3 people. You do whatâs best for you and that baby momma.
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Itâs not about her. Your body, your decision, end of story.
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I would say that with Covid and all the fewer the better. Dad, your mom and you. Sorry sis. Keep it simple and small.
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I have NEVER allowed my MIL in the delivery room. I have 5 kids with her Son. Ainât no way in hell. My Mom was there each time tho. Donât let him bully you into ruining your birthing experience. Tell the Nurses she can NOT come in until afterwards. They will go by what YOU want
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I think it sounds like you need to communicate more with your partner and come to a decision you both can agree on. . My mother and my mother in law and my husband were in the room for the birth of our first child. But I love my mother in law so it wasnât a huge deal to me. Also when itâs time for baby to come it doesnât really matter whose there. Honestly they could have marched a band through and my only concern at that point was getting the baby out. With my second it was just my husband because of covid. Honestly that was a nice experience too. But my births were both so different. Ultimately have the people that are going to be the most helpful and supportive.
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I was guilted into my first borns grandma being in the room even though I told them no at the last minute they brought her in⌠I regret not standing up to themâŚso this is Your choice, and if your answer is no then thatâs that 
this is a very intimate experience and you should be comfortable with everyone in there
Tell him if he wants he can be outside with her too! I donât want mine with me either! But my husband wont fight me because he knows I wont let him and his bs stress me out during labour.
You donât owe anybody shit with your labour and delivery! Do what YOU are comfortable with and donât let nobody make you feel guilty for it! Foot down! You got this mama. 
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I never wanted my MIL in the room with any of my kids. Husband, mom, and sister. He didnât fight me on it. Youâre the one whoâs vagina is going to be out. Youâre the one whoâs going to be screaming and in pain. You get to choose who you want in the room.
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Your body, your decision. If you donât want her there, then donât. When he pops out a baby, he can decide who is in the room and veto anyone he wants.
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Keep it to just your husband. Problem solved.
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You should feel comfortable. Sorry. No. Tell him you donât feel right being spread eagle in front of her.
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Stuff like this pisses me offâŚur mother may mean something to U but his mother means something to HIM and itâs BOTH yâallâs child have a lil respect for the fathers every once in a while and yâall wouldnât loose emâ:joy:
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You should have whom youâre comfortable with. Period.
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If she cared about your feelings, sheâd understand, I do
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FTR, my mother in law had NO business being in the room while Iâm birthing MY child. She had her kids. Thatâs my day, not hers.
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Tell him no. That itâs your private parts being shown and no
I was choosing my fiancĂŠ my mom and my sister. But I was able to have literally anyone I wanted in room so it was them plus my mother in law and grandmother. I couldnât say no when they asked in the room and they were all there 
When I delivered my daughter (2.5 years ago) I had my fiance, dad, aunt and his mother in the room. Though his mother and I have never really got along and its coming up on a year that weâve last talked to her. I still felt like he himself needed some type of support system. Yeah, I was worried about âher seeing my vaginaâ but honestly when it comes time for all that you could careless who sees it. Not only that, but I promise you whoever is in there isnt even thinking about your lady bits and what they look like. Theyre just anxious for the precious bundle of joy youre about to deliver!
Again, your body your choice!!! But your husband might just want some support himself. Youre not the only one going through something life changing
Nope!! Youâre the one birthing the baby. She is not a part of it.
Both my daughterâs had the option of having 3 people in the room also and they picked their husband, sister, and me. I feel this is completely up to you because this is your labor, your body, and your comfort. Your mil or your husband should not be upset. Itâs a consent thing for me.
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No. Ask him how he would feel of your mom and sister watched him push a watermelon out of his peehole .
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This is your body and your choice mama and DO NOT let your husband guilt trip you into letting your mother in law in there. You have in there ONLY who you are comfortable with!!!
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Tell the nurses they will get rid of her!
Its your choice your body you do what you want
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I let my MIL stay well laboring but had to leave when it was time for pushing. Just my husband in the room after that.
Tell him no and if he keeps insisting he can wait in the waiting room with her!
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Tell her ass to stay out i thought with covid she would not be allowed
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Itâs your vagina and birthing is hard enough. You need to be comfortable. Stress can fuck up the process.
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Your choiceâŚnot his. If you do not feel comfortable do not be forced to do something you , yourself is uncomfortable with
Your who ha the kid is coming out of⌠your say who gets to see it!!!
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If your involving your mom , then you should involve his mom
I can totally relate. I ended up losing this battle the 1st go round. We had a three ring circus in the room the 1st time and I regret it bc the birth ended up being very traumatic and my son almost didnât make it. I put my foot down on the rest (we have 4 kids now) and it was just my husband and I in the room for the rest of them. It was so much more relaxed that way and what I personally recommend (pandemic or not), only you and the husband. Youâll have time to bond with the baby and then once everyone is all cleaned up, let others in the room if theyâll allow it.
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Its not her right to be in there regardless if its YâALLS child or not. Its not disrespectful to her or him. Thats a VERY vulnerable time and a very personal matter. I didnât even let MY mom in the room. I felt like it was something personal between me and the father of my child and I didnât want to share it with everyone. My MIL and mom hung outside till I was sewn up and dressed, then they came in. His momma can come in when they sew you up. Donât let anyone make you feel guilty or treat you bad over it. Its not his or your MILs vagina displayed for the world to see⌠Its ultimately your decision. You do what makes YOU feel comfortable.
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He can either agree that your needs and wants during labor are the most important thing or him and his mother can wait in the waiting room together. You need to be at your most comfortable to have an easy birth. The more stress the greater the chance for complications.
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Tell him to bend over and show his Booty hole to your mother, then yaâll can talk 
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I would say, no thank you, itâs your naked body, you should be able to choose, however, she could kindly wait outside the door for baby to be born. Your the one pushing a child out, you need a group of people there to support you and help you through it
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Tell him your mom needs to be in the room when he gets a prostate exam, then. 
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Shame on you. You should have been closer to your mother in law. I would divorce you. Disrespectful lady. He lives his mother just like u love your mother . I had a daughter in law act like this but my grand baby loves me today.
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This is a tough one. I empathize with both sides of this. The only thing you can really do is talk it out with your husband. He needs to listen to your feelings and you need to listen to his. Then decide from there.
And if a compromise canât be made on who to let in. Maybe just to make it you and him and everyone else needs to wait outside.
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These comments are just blowing my fucking mind 
who gives a fuck if he needs âsupportâ when shes in labour it ainât about him he can get the fuck out to if he donât like it! (if I was in this position) geez the woman on hereâŚ
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Iâm surprise they are allowing that many people in the room right now. In New York they are only allowing one person the delivery room before it was zero
Well her mom and sister shouldnât be in there itâs not fair
Tell him to take a big dump spread eagle in front of people that make him uncomfortable and see what he says. Itâs your labor, heâs a bystander. He wonât feel anything you feel so really not his choice
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This will be you in pain and having a baby not him not her! Itâs your Choice who you want in that room!
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Your vagina, your decision.
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Tell him if he can sit on the toilet and have a massive poop infront of your parents and not be embarrassed by it then maybe you can talk about it. But itâs your body and itâs a very intimate experience between you and your spouse.
Ask him if he would be comfortable showing is stuff to your Mom and Sister. You are the one going through it not him.
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My Daughter did not want anyone in the room but her Husband. Everyone respected her wishes
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Hell to the no. My husband had her watch our kids. Labor happened so quickly for us, we had to call her to walk down to our house on the way to labor and delivery. She can be outside the room I had my ex mil and her son kicked out of the room because they wouldnât stop taking video and pictures of my vagina while baby was crowning. 
Worst experience ever.
Now with hubby and our son, we were laughing and so was the OBGYN/ midwife. Best delivery ever.
All of you saying " her birth not his " and " itâs not his choice " and EXACTLY why men are seen as second class parents. Itâs all " they need to be equal " when it comes to diapers , House work , taking care of the kids etc" but when it comes down to something mom doesnt agree with it dad is second class. Um no it may be her body BUT he impregnated her , hes raising this baby too and he should have a say .
Either hes equal in EVERY WAY ( house cleaning , diaper changes AND choices such as this ) or no way and you can shove your " he doesnt help me " its not just when its convient for mom âŚ
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Then only u and husband solved
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I would go for what you feel comfortable with. Me? I wouldnt have anyone but my hubby in thereâŚthat is a special time and a time to focus on each other and becoming parents together.
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Fuck that. You do not need anyone in the room that you are not comfortable with bottom line.
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Stand ur ground love. You shouldnât have anybody there you donât want. You are the one popping something out of you, not him. He needs to understand.
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You and ONLY YOU have the right to determine who is in the room with you.
If he doesnt know how to understand this tell him that you will agree if he lays in bed naked, sparled out with everything out there and he lets his mom and your mom watch him poop.
I am so blessed that my husband respected my wishes for who I wanted in the delivery room with me
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Your giving birth !!! Not your husband itâs who you want there Who will make you feel at ease
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Tell him to grow a pair
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I think just your mom and husband should be in there. I wouldnât do anything your uncomfortable with. Your sister should not be in there. It will keep the peace if it is just your mom and husband. I know he isnât giving birth but he might feel isolated because your mother in law isnât going to be in there. So I would just do mom and husband.
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It is her choice. She is exposed and absolutely no one she doesnt want in laws, no way!!!
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I get it on you wanting to compromise but this is about you in this moment. Youâre the one doing all the work. Itâs your intimate moment. If you donât want someone present you are under zero obligation, husband or not. Not to mention this is YOUR medical situation here, NOONE is entitled to this.
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More then likely covid will still be in full swing and she wonât be allowed anyways. So donât stress over it!!
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Youâre giving birth, not him. Tell him to stfu.
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I would not let her in! I have 5 kids with 2 different dads and neither of their mothers were in their but mine was! Thatâs your choice itâs just to personal for the Mother at her babies birth. If he canât deal with that well to bad!
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I was the same way. And I had to constantly remind him that she wasnât MY mother, she was HIS. Therefore it was my choice. In the end, it was only him inside with me during the birth. We didnât piss anyone off and it was all good.
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You need to be comfortable as you can in an already stressful situation if he canât handle that he doesnât have to be at the hospital either. My boyfriends mom wanted to be at the hospital when I gave birth but I said no. I wouldnât have even wanted my own mother in the room. It was my boyfriend and the hospital staff only the only other person who got to see my hooha was my kids when they came out. If youâre not comfortable with her there then your word is final. You can let the hospital know ahead of time if you donât want anyone to visit until you say its ok.
I get you, but this is your husbandâs baby too.
What about husband, your mum and his mum?
Or
Just husband and you to save any hassle?
I wouldnât want my mother in law knowing what my vag looks like eitherâŚthatâs YOUR private areas and only you can choose who YOU will show them tooâŚyour are the one giving birthâŚgranted he is the father but we as women are the ones who deliver them!! HenceâŚyour choiceâŚPERIOD
Stand your ground and keep your answer NO
It is your choice no matter what âŚif he keeps it up he can wait outside with his mom and you can have someone else with your mom and sister that are supportive 
It is absolutely your decision who is in the delivery room! Your husband has no say at all!
Tell him to lay naked sprawled out & poop in front of your mom & then your mil can be in there. be sure to tell the hospital either when u get there or before that under NO circumstances is your mil allowed in during delivery regardless of what your husband tells them.
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Tell him its the husband or the MIL his choicd or have the doc say only 2 no ndgotiating only 2
I have no children myself but 5 sisterâs that do and not one had a m-in-law at the deliveryâŚ
Itâs crazy to me how many people are going out of their way to defend that itâs his baby too, he helped make the baby, he should be able to decide who watches her push a baby out, rip her vagina apart, potentially soil herself, and be in the worst pain of her life. FUCK that. It is HER privacy in question here, her intimate and vulnerable moment, not his. He has ZERO say who is in that room and if he doesnât like it, he can get lost too. My mother, sister, and babyâs Father were in the room as they were the biggest supports to me and I was at ease knowing they were with me.
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No no! Girl you do what makes YOU feel comfortable! Iâve birthed 3 kids and that an intimate private time and no matter whether youâre married or not (which Iâm married) itâs your personal space and YOUR pain!! He needs to understand that 
Say you donât feel comfortable with it. You the one whoâs vagina is gonna be open to the world and its your body.
You and him,
Thatâs it.
Not a party!!!
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When the time comes, youâll be in so much pain you wonât give a flying fck who sees
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If you donât want her there thenđ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸ itâs not up to him at all. Heâs not the one with his vagina out
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I had the same situation with my mother in law⌠she ultimately wasnât allowed at the hospital due to COVID⌠but I told him, I am the one being exposed not him. So it is my decision on who is the room and who is notâŚit is completely up to you. If you donât want her there, then sheâs not allowed there⌠honestly you can have one of the nurses ask her to leave when its time so you donât have to worry about telling her yourself.
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You do you babe. In no way should you feel uncomfortable. He will be okay, and either way she will love the baby.
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Im sorry you have the say who you want to see your bits & possible 
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I would tell him he can wait in the waiting room with her.
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Hell I wouldnât want anyone in the room but my partner and midwife. Iâd be telling them all to get f***ed. Mothers body, mothers choice.
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Tell him you will let his mom in the delivery room when he gets butt naked infront of your parents spread eagle and pushes for several hours and pushes out a eight pound poop infront of them changed my husbands mind the one time he brought it up
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Your husband should respect your wishes. I was the same but ultimately for myself when the moment came I could care less who was in there.
Donât have either mom. Only husband
I wouldnât have mine in either
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no moms, just the husband.
This is why i only allowed my husband really your choice not anyone elseâs.
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Why are ok with your mother and sister, but not his?
If there is any negative energy in that room when you give birth it will mess with your birth. If she cannot take no for an answer then she is selfish.
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I wouldnât let anyone in besides my husband. Didnât call anyone to come up until we had a few hours to ourselves with baby too. I didnât need anymore stress while trying to give birth for the first time.
Your body, your audience. No way in hell Iâd want her there. Hell fucking no!
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