Sometimes husbands need us to just say shut the FUCK UP! This is YOUR DAY! Not his not his moms not aunt whoever. YOURS! You and that baby can easily die. This ain’t no bullshit this is a SERIOUS operation, the most important one in your life. His feelings his history his whatever can go fuck themselves. Tell him he keeps opening that pie hole and he will never meet his child. Point blank. At least my in-laws had the decency to not even ASK. This is a situation when if you’re not recruited it’s because you’re not wanted or needed. She wants to be there fine wait outside.
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Also if you are uncomfortable it can cause labor complications which can and usually do turn into birth complications (think interventions increased which leads to increased risk of c-section and fetal distress/problems).
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No matter what, IT IS YOUR CHOICE & ONLY YOURS. IF IT S STRESSING YOU OUT, LET THE DR KNOW & HAVE THEM TELL YOUR FAMILY DUE TO COVID THE RULES HABW CHANGED & THERE WILL ONLY BE 2 ALLOWED THEREFORE YOUR SISTER NOR HIS MOM CAN BE THERE. I’M SURE YOUR SISTER WILL NE OK WITH THAT & YOU WILL BE ABLE TO HAVE A STRESS FREE CALM DELIVERY.
So even medically it’s not advised for you to have someone there your aren’t comfortable with.
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His baby just as much as yours have hubby mil and mother in there! He needs his mom just like you need yours.
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It’s not about him and what he wants. He is not in labor. He is not in stirrups. He will not be exposed.
This isn’t his choice.
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Its your body, your the one giving birth. I think if you are uncomfortable with her being there then he should respect that. Especially if this is your first child. You will be in one of the most exposed situations you may have ever been in, and for me I have never felt so emotionally vulnerable in my life, then when I had my first child. Also her as a woman and obviously has given birth to her own child, she should understand the situation and what it’s like. Just my opinion, hope it helps.
My advice… use covid as a reason. Most places wont let her in the room anyways because of covid
Her vagina is going to be out full spread eagle, legs in stirrups he has no right to demand bringing in people she’s not comfortable with. Look at it this way, if he was on a doctor’s table, with both legs in stirrups and his junk completely on display and she wanted to bring her mom in that room, would he be okay with that? Doubt it.
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Only your husband needs to be in there. Tell a nurse you don’t want them in and they will find an excuse for them not to be in there. I wouldn’t want my vagina on display for everyone to see
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Ultimately it is your choice, but I can 100% understand why your husband is upset, you want your mom, he probably wants his, maybe have your sister sit out to keep the peace.
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Should be both grandma’s only fair
I agree with the majority of the comments & that is to tell him and his mother to shut up 
your body and your most definitely allowed to decline his mother being there, regardless of the fact it’s “his baby too”
You do what you want to do & don’t let anybody dictate x
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I am a mother in law, and I VERY much appreciated being able to be there for the birth of my grand daughter. I was very respectful and didn’t gawk and took some amazing pics of her and her mom. I say unless there is prior drama, don’t make it about you, make about you and your husband. It is just as a special moment for your mom as it is for his
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all ik is that the less people in there was much better for me. too many chiefs when the only person you should be focusing on is yoursefl and getting baby out healthy and safe.
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I had my mom, my aunt an my husband when I gave birth. He has told me many times that he felt alone like they were there to support me and he had no one for support. So in my opinion you should compromise and have both your mothers.
I sure as hell wouldn’t let her in the room! That is YOUR decision on who’s in the room. You’re the one in that vulnerable state, you’re the one with all your personal business hanging out. If you weren’t comfortable with her in the first place, having her in the room when you deliver would only make that situation more stressful for you. With my first I had my ex, my mom, and my aunt in the room. With this baby, my boyfriend already said he doesn’t care who else I have in the room as long as he’s in there. Which, I think he’ll be the only one allowed in the room bc of Covid anyways
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I wouldn’t have wanted my MIL in there while giving birth and I love her to death! It’s my body and I get to decide who gets to be there!
Difference is…my husband, no matter what he preferred, would have respected that 100%!
This is one of those things I would never back down on. Period.
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You are the one gonna be on display for every one in the room to see! Not one of my mother in laws was in the delivery room…mom sister hubby have been the only ones…not always all of them either…some were just hubby! I would explain to him that its you that is going to be exposed to every one so you only want people you are ok with seeing you that way in the room…it’s not his choice.
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While i personally wouldnt of had my mil in the delivery room the husband is right to ask and want his mother there for support. It is also his child.
tell him to get his head out his ass, then grow a baby & push it out for his mama. he sounds pretty selfish. that being said, i didn’t allow my own mother in the room. it was just my husband & i. our business. our family.
Do as you wish it is the best day of your life…he is not giving birth… i dont think he will be comfortable with his dick out in-front of your mum… so am I with my vagina opened giving birth in-front of his mum… you should feel comfortable with the people next to you his mum is not one of them
If you tell the nurses you only want certain people there, they will make that happen, even discreetly.
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Honestly, I had no clue what was going on when I went into labor with my first.
I knew I wanted my husband and my mom there, both my SILs visited before I went into hard labor and my poor dad tried to stay up by head but he had to leave the room because the epidural didn’t work and he couldn’t stand seeing me in pain so he’d just pop his head in every 5-10 minutes and say “you’re doing great hon”. 
There was no plan and people just came and went, it was great.
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Kick them all out if you want!! Your choice!!
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in reality you should not have to go through all this, as he should respect your wishes because it is your body and your delivery… but since you do Here is my advice… Talk to him about the reasons for your choice. From my experience in my relationship , it is always best to say " this is how it makes me feel…" My mom and sister help me to feel relaxed and supported, etc…instead of I don’t want her there. She isn’t calming… etc… People cannot deny the way you feel or say that is is not true. Be careful with using words like mother in law makes me uncomfortable because that will cause strife in both relationships. What I do when i have to have a hard talk is write/type out everything i want to say… then go back, read it and pick the parts that sound the best and say those…
Kick his ass out too!
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Do not put yourself in a uncomfortable situation if he can not understand tell him to spread f**ng egeal and sht himself in front of a room full of people
Your body your choice 
I would simply refuse to push till he gets the picture 
yes of course dad matters … but you’ll be the one with no pants on and a head coming out of you . Your comfort is first
I only had my mom and sister and husband. Ur pushing a baby out of your vagina. Tell him sorry that it hurts his feelings. But that is what will make you more comfortable.
It’s your pussy not his. MOL can see baby right after. Ask him can my mom se your butt hole?? !!!
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Must not be a recent question. No way you could have 3 visitors during COVID!
Get another husband then…JK, JK…or am I:face_with_monocle:
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My mil was mad at me because I said no for her being in the room for my husband’s first born. I did not care that it hurt anyone feelings because it was my day and a day I wanted stress free. Plus I was delivering a high risk baby and only wanted my husband and mom there. It was stressful enough with all the medical team in place. So let him have his temper tantrum but this is one time I wouldn’t side with the dad baby being his and all its still your vagina that will be seen just ask him if he would be ok with your mom seeing his penis. Wishing you a safe and drama free delivery.
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Personally I always felt my husband and I should be the only ones present at the time of birth. Nobody was with us while we conceived 
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It’s not entirely about you. Make him and his family involved.
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Um… You’re the one who is laying out with ALL of you exposed… I totally get that through pregnancy and birth that all modesty is basically thrown out the window. BUT, that doesn’t mean you need to deal with people (family or friends) that you don’t feel comfortable having there.
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I was in the room but both my son n his gf wanted me there for support. In reality. It ahould have just been him n her. But grandparents should get to hold first after the parents have their moment
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Just say no-she can be the first to visit in the hospital nursery
In addition, during these Covid times here in my county they are only allowing one person in the delivery room ( delivered 09/2020). So my suggestion would be to contact your hospital to see what is their current Covid guidelines when it comes to birthing. 
Tell him to get naked in front of your mother and let her watch him take a shit… sounds fucked but that’s essentially what will be happening to you when you deliver… not everyone poops on the table but most do bet you 10000% he would say no lol
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I was actually going to have my my mom, mil, stepmom, and husband in there with me. I had to have a C-Section, though, so only my husband was allowed. It’s a tough situation. I tried to be fair, so I allowed her in. To me it wasn’t a big deal because I was on all the (safe) pain medication (and epidural) I could be on. We get along really well too. I love her. They don’t necessarily have to be at your vagina, lol. However, this is your decision. Just know that your husband might get mad/hurt about it, as well as your mil. I’m sure she wants to be in there, but it’s your choice. You shouldn’t have to worry about who to please on what should be the most wonderful day of your life. Just remind your husband that there will be plenty of times/occasions that his mom will be present for. Best of luck and God Bless!
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Everybody will have different opinions. Depending on relationship you have with MIL i for one as a mother in law would not want to see you in labor, I would want for you to deliver with the least stress as possible. I just want a healthy baby to see afterwards. This labor responsibility is for your Husband and your chosen support. Your Husband should support this otherwise looks like MIL will decide what’s best in your relationship in the future but this is just my opinion Good Luck !
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Yea no… it’s my vagina she can sit in the waiting room
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Ask him when it is time for his vasectomy if your mommy and daddy can be there with him. Explain it bluntly, the only way his mama can be there is if his daddy is in there with her…no man wants his daddy to see his wifes lady parts…
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Just have your husband in there. Eliminate the drama and keep it as stress free as possible. With all the Covid stipulations, it should be easily explained to family members.
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Do what makes you comfortable. She can immediately see the baby afterwards. It’s a matter of privacy nothing more nothing less. Ask your husband if he would be willing to let it all hang out during one of the most important times in his life with your parents in the room.
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Have your family there but when it’s time to push…you and your husband. But that’s up to you.
Make it simple. Him in the room. Everyone else in the waiting room
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For goodness sakes, she can see the baby as soon as it is born. How awkward to have a basic stranger there while you deliver. Ew. You are asking the people who will support you during your labor.
I personally don’t even understand your sister being there . So if there needs to be a compromise I suppose that would be it. Your mama and your husband should be ample
Support.
I’m amazed you get that many people. We are still at one support person per delivery.
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It’s your snatch…it’s your decision. DONE!!
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I would tell the mother in law to her face that I don’t want her or anyone else who isn’t my husband or doctor anywhere near my exposed vagina. Get a back bone now because you’re sure going to need one when the baby gets here if they’re being pushy about this now.
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Shit when I just had my daughter on the 12th of nov they only let one person in the room bc of covid
Also you can tell your doctor to say 1 person only in the room. They’ll lie for you😏
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I would say no. There’s no need for her to be there ESPECIALLY if you don’t want her to be and she makes you uncomfortable. My own mother wasn’t in the delivery room when I gave birth, she wanted to be, but I did not want her there, and she was PISSED but she got over it!
At this point it is about the birthing experience and the mother is the one whose body will be under great duress and stress…there is no “fair” or “right” here, she gets to choose because they are the people she needs there to support HER through the process. Period. Everyone else can wait. BTW, if Dad starts to stress her out during the delivery, she has every right to remove him from the room as well. Soon-to-Be Mama, you are In Charge here…make the call, do what is right for you and Dad can get over it or not…
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Girl f him and his mom. Lol it’s your vagina YOU need to feel comfortable if that means your mom and sister that’s it… it’s about your comfort not his he’s not the one that’s gonna he pushing out a human. The people saying oh it’s fair lmfao um no f being fair its your body and your baby
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She wasn’t there when you made the baby, so she shouldn’t be there when the baby comes out.
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Honestly, I don’t want anyone to be seeing my bits. So I be a hard no on my feelings on this one.
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Your body, your medical procedure, choice. The day he takes a shit with an audience is the day he gets a vote. Having an unwanted person in the room can cause you to stress out and stall labor and potentially cause a C section. At this point if he wants to act a fool his attendance is optional as well.
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During this pandemic that is still going on, you will likely only be able to have your husband with you. Or one person of your choosing. Personally, I wouldn’t have the MIL in the room, or your sister. Husband yes and your mother if you are allowed.
I have seen soooo many people say ur sister should be out . I could not agree less.
This isn’t about entitlement, she is not owed a place in that room. This is about you being in a state of comfort with full support. This is you vagina on show. This is you pushing a human out of yourself, when he does it, he can choose.
There’s plenty of room for compromise in a relationship, as your labia gets torn open… it’s his turn to compromise.
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This decision is yours and yours alone. Covid guidelines here are only 1 person allowed in the delivery room. Call your hospital. Good luck.
I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I had my mom and husband in the room, and my MIL asked, and I said no and her respecting that decision really meant a lot to me and earned her the spot of being in the room when we have a second.
I feel that you as the mother asked not being respected. And I am truly sorry for that. This is a special and hard moment for you and you should be empowered and respected however makes YOU feel comfortable.
ALSO, YOU tell those nurses what you want and they will make it happen!!! My nurse would have Batista bombed someone out my room if I had asked her. L&D nurses are a different breed!!
Take it from someone who has been married for 25 years and STILL has mother in law drama. NO MATTER what you do, it will NEVER be good enough. I let her in 2 of my 3 of my deliveries, against my will. The last one was my baby girl and I wanted it to be just me and my husband… She showed up at my hospital door BOLDFACED AF and they hadn’t even removed my placenta yet. All out of courtesy to my husband and thinking it was the right thing. I regret every thing I have EVER done for her “because of my husband”. She still hates me and talks crap out me. And now I am much older and WAY less tolerant of the tyrant. We don’t even speak and I don’t care. Do whatever you want. Your husband will have to understand.
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Ugh…this is a tough one. My first instinct is to say, labor is tough. You need to be relaxed and if you’re not comfortable with your MIL then you need to stand your ground. THEN, I really started thinking about it. I’ve had two children. It’s the most beautiful experience. Babies have a way of bringing beauty and togetherness. What if this labor and delivery is exactly what you and your MIL need to bond? What if you set some boundaries with both of your moms? Example: you can be in the room but if requested could they give you and your husband space if needed. This is a way for the two grandmas to bond as well. Think of it as a positive thing. Excluding your MIL would be the easiest solution but I think in the long run, allowing her in the room will show character, grace, and lend a path for a good relationship. Someday-you’ll want to be in the room with your child as they give birth (before you know it). The circle of life is crazy. You wouldn’t want to be excluded. Good luck, Momma!
My Daughter-in law allowed me the mother in law and the great grandmother when she gave birth to my Grandson. Its a wonderful natural thing for a women to give birth. How do you think it was done back in the early 1900. All the women in town help these women give birth.
See if he’s comfortable with your mother accompanying him to his prostate exam🤷♀️
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Both times my DIL gave birth it was just her and my son. we all got to just wait!
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3? They’re going to push the baby for you?! 1 person is enough, that being your husband. Keep it your moment together and you remain relax not worrying who’s in and out.
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Than only your husband should be with you, otherwise bad feelings for along TIME
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No. It’s your body and no explanation is needed.
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Tell him to stfu or you wont let him in either.
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I let my exes bitch mom be there and she ruined the memories for me that’s all I’ll say…
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Its your privacy. I didnt want anyone in there with me except my husband i didnt want anyone seeing my vagina! You have the right to not let anyone in!
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Compromise. If you are going to have family in there he should be able to also.
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I wouldn’t want my MIL in there with me. 
It’s not your job to compromise for everyone else… You’ll be doing more than enough. Hubby and MIL need to know their job is to respect and support you in whatever you need, as you are the gateway for bringing their child/grandchild into this world.
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I had the same problem. Our first child (twins) together. Plus it didn’t help that I didn’t like her at all. I simply told her she needed to go to the waiting room. The nurse backed me up on it too. It’s your choice.
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You are the one doing all the work. If you don’t feel comfortable in a normal setting with her then you shouldn’t be pressured into making that special memory stressful and uncomfortable.
If you’re not comfortable, given everything you’ll already be going through, he should be more understanding imo. That said, his mom could always wait in the waiting room and she’ll still get to meet the baby very soon after birth or another option is something like what we did with the birth of our child is we just had us two in the delivery room and then we contacted our parents/siblings etc afterwards and they came to visit at their earliest convenience…a few family members were waiting by the phone and came right over to the hospital as soon as she was born.
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Its your body on display for all to see. You…your body going through the delivery process. YOU need whomever will help you be calm and comfortable. Talk to your husband and try to explain why you want your mom and why you want your sister instead of why you don’t want his mom.
Hell I kicked my (now Ex)husband out of the room because he was stressing me out!
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The only person who should be in the room is the baby’s Daddy. That will take care of it. No preferences at all
Fuck that. It’s your decision. Tell him to fuck off.
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They are allowing visitors???
I’d tell him thats too damn bad for him.
Or he can compromise, and next time you’re over at your mother’s house, have him strip naked, lay on his back with his legs in the air in the middle of her living room and have a bowel movement while your mother sits there and watches. If he won’t, then it’s a no for your MIL being in the delivery room
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It’s your procedure. You call the shots. If you want your mother and sister there for support, then that’s it! His mother can be nearby to see the baby soon. You Do not need to be intimidated by someone you don’t feel comfortable in front of. This is one you’ll have to put your foot down for. Ask him if he had to have a rectal procedure done, would he want your mother in the room?
Whoever is going to help you stay comfortable in those long hours, that is who you want in that room. If she isn’t one of those people, then she can’t come. End of discussion.
Yeah not during birth. I’m gonna let you in on a little secret…when you’re labor gets really going, you’re probably gonna kick out everyone. Lol it’s serious stuff and all consideration of others goes out the window. The baby, you gotta share. But giving birth? Naw that’s a serious thing you’ll be going through, you deserve privacy and space. You do whatever tf you’re comfortable with. I was in labor for 25 hours with my first. I invited everyone. Those contractions got going and I told em to pack up and get out. I needed to breathe and bleed and grunt and all sorts of stuff was exposed. Glad I got privacy to do those things without an audience. Best wishes!
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It should be who YOU are comfortable with. You need as little stress as possible when in labor and if mother in law already makes you uncomfortable then I cant image how shed make you feel during labor.
I’m a bitch if my husband was acting like that and not willing to have his mother who made me uncomfortable sit in the waiting room id tell him he can spend his time with her then
When he gives birth he can have his mother there. Otherwise it’s your choice.
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Do you even get the choice of more than one with CoVid???
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if they allowed us three it would be my husband,and both of our moms regardless but they’re only allowing one which is going to be my husband but if we had the chance to have 3,we definitely would have both of our moms there with us.
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Your vagina. Your choice 
You’re lucky you get to have 3 people.
Im due in april and hospital here only allows 1 support person due to covid.
Nope, your body your wish,he should understand that and respect that. Im not sure where you live but you’re lucky I just had my first baby and we were only allowed one person in the room and no visitors.
Replace hubby with a friend or sibling
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Don’t have anyone except your husband. Best choice i made & very intimate moment to share together.
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He needs to grow up, and if his mommy is bitching to him she needs to grow up to.
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Your husband is dead wrong ! You are the one who will be naked in there not him
You have every right to your privacy
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Oh hell - I kicked my MIL out of the room. No way I wanted her there! Tell your husband to get over it - It’s your choice.