It should be fair … it’s ur (both) baby , you want ur mum , he wants his mum …
Best is just have only him , no one else , not ur mum , not his mum
My mother in law was amaizing and was in there with me she was more helpful then my partner. I would compromise . It’s a big moment for.both of you.
Tough. It’s your ‘medical appointment’, your body, you who are going to be going through this not him and having a baby is just not always easy and simple and you need people there too support you.
He doesn’t get too choose.
If he doesn’t like it then I’d be concerned. He needs to respect your decision and so does his mum!
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It’s your birth experience, I had wayyyyy to many people in the room and regret it deeply. My son is 6, I really wish I had trusted my gut and said no to people. It’s such a vulnerable time and you need to be able to focus.
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You and him made this baby and its fair that you don’t want her in there, no disrespect to her. He should respect you on this matter and not push you. Its your body, and you and your husbands baby. God bless 
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You should stick to your guns and if he can’t respect your wishes replace his asa too. It’s your body and your choice nobody has a right to anything but you!
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Your husband sounds like a little bitch if he needs his mom in the room with him when YOU ARE in labor 
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If he can’t respect your decision his childish ass don’t need to be in there neither. Now neither of them get too! During birth your whole ass coochie is gonna be out and it’s not bad you don’t want your mil there to see it. She will be just fine in the waiting room with everyone else. On the other side, it’s a bit unfair to have your mother but not his. It’s a bit one sided but then again revisit point 1 lol.
Tell your husband, when he gives birth, he can allow whomever he wants in the room, including HIS mother.
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Allow her in, and look straightforward in her eyes and gargle everything Regan said in “The Exorcist” 
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I didn’t allow my mil in there, sorry but it’s my vagina and she isn’t supportive. I had my husband, my mom and my bestie
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I would just have my husband and that’s it.
The only people who are allowed to look at my lady bits in such an intimate moment is my man and my mother. Thats it. Nobody elses feelings matter when im the one on display
When he is pushing he can choose who’s in the room. Unfortunately for him it isn’t his body or choice.
Tell him to leave it alone or he’ll be out in the lobby too with the MIL
In all seriousness they probably won’t allow many in the room anyway because of the rona
To be honest it’s not something that I would want anybody else to see. It’s quite a special moment that in my eyes should be just you and him. Especially if it’s your first child together. X
You are the one giving birth!! You get to make the decision on who gets to be there for that! He can go right ahead and be mad!! I think it’s totally fucked up he is asking you to do something you aren’t comfortable with and then taking it out on you…
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Tell him he can sit outside too if he has an issue with it.
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it’s your body, you’re the one that’s going through the pain and change. giving birth is hard, don’t put yourself in an uncomfortable position
I allowed my mother in the 1st time. It was too much, no matter how much I love her. I said no the next times and don’t regret that it was only my husband and myself focusing on our sons entering the world without any onlookers. Trust your gut.
Honestly it should just be u and your hubby! Don’t get me wrong I have a great relationship with my mother in law and she is the best person ever but I did not want her in the room. I wanted my mom but she did not want to be there bcuz she did not want to see me in pain (which is fine with me) u want people who are going to make YOU feel comfortable and loved and actually HELP when u are delivering. The only people I had in there was my husband and my oldest sister and it was the best decision. But for our next baby (I’m due in March) I just want my hubby and I and thats it! But remember its about u and what will make You feel comfortable and safe
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Ultimately you are the one giving birth. You’re the one that has everything out. He should respect your decision. I personally only allow the father in the room. I don’t care if it was my own mom.
Felt Blessed my daughter included me, her mother in law and sister in law to join her and our son in law. Definitely an experience I will hold close to my heart.
Covid may not even allow anyone other than your partner in there anyways unless you’re doing an at home situation… so she may not even have the option…
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Personally, I had only my husband in the room for all three of our births. My mother and MIL seemed a little disappointed on the first kid but honestly my husband and I wanted to experience it together. It was such a big moment and I’m so glad we minimized distractions and didn’t have to worry about anyone’s feeling but ours. Or having to choose and hurting others. There is really no wrong way to do this, whatever makes you the most comfortable. Good luck mama!
Do what is best for you! I wouldn’t have mine either she’s a little too judge mental for me esp when all my stuff is out!
He’s not pooping out a baby so I really don’t think who is is the room is his choice to be honest. He can have opinions, but it’s completely your choice.
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I wasn’t keen on my mil being in the room either but my mother was there so I guess it was only fair…
Tell him when he pushes the baby out of his hole he can decide who is in the room
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It’s all about who Mom to be wants there!!! No-one should get their feelings hurt with this decision. It MUST be what makes Mom most comfortable!!!
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Take a tour of the birthing room. Twenty three years ago, I invited both grandmothers to attend. The room was set up so that they were seated on the other side of the room on a sofa and only had a side view of what was going on. They both sat quietly through the entire process and only came near me after my son was born and everything was good. The decision you make (and it is entirely up to you) will have long term effects. If you are uncomfortable now with MIL consider how uncomfortable it will be for the next few decades. This is a real opportunity for you to build a better relationship with the one who gave you the man you love. She will never forget it, regardless of your decision. Set some ground rules, share with the attending health professionals, they will have no problem removing them. I am sure that both grandmas will adhere to your rules if they want to be included. Best wishes for a happy and safe delivery.
with the covid crap going on i was only allowed 1 person and chose my sister over my husband lol
Corona is happening so doubtful it will happen. It should only be yojr husband anyways. And I think if your gonna have two of your family members but just him that is a little messed
But on the other hand I wouldn’t want my m.i.l. there at all. While birthing. So maybe just make it a moment between you and your husband and compromise.
I only had my husband and my mom in the room for my first pregnancy, then it was only my husband and I when my twins were born. You’re the one giving birth! It’s is up to you who you have in the room.
No!!! It is your decision at the end of the day. POINT BLANK PERIOD. IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS.
My MIL was in the room with my first and before I saw my daughter I hear her say “She doesn’t have any feet” I was HORRIFIED! All bc I said okay she can come in. Nope never again. I can respect her as a MIL she needs to respect me and my own privacy as a WOMAN.
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With Covid good luck with having more than him.
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Half my husbands side of the family waiting around the clock in the waiting room for support to us both! It really supported my husband and I felt the love. Oy my husband was in the actual room with me tho!!
Your vagina your choice. He should be glad you’re allowing him in there with his attitude. Remind him that he just played with the package the baby comes in.
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Then your husband needs to take a shit because its your choice hes not the one pushing the baby out and neither is his mother if you are not comfortable with her in there then he should respect that.
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YOUR choice & YOURS alone. The only person in the room with me was my husband. We didn’t even tell family till it was over.
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I think both Moms should be allowed in. Let your sister wait outside 
He is your husband . You are MARRIED . It’s not just like he is your “baby daddy” .
Your mom is in there , his should be too. Just make sure you lay down to him how you feel and maybe she can stay above your head ?
Idk but if I were him I’d leave your ass.
Once again… HUSBAND . Not a fling and then y’all are casually dating , or it was from a one night stand . I could possibly see that. But like it or not she’s your mother in law and she WANTS to be there for the birth of HER grandkid.
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No one was allowed in the surgical room when mine were born. No I didnt have C sections. But in 78, 81 and 83 not even husbands were allowed. I had a really hard time with my last baby and asked if he could come in. Dr said yes and nurse went to get him…he refused… I foresaw a divorce in my future…and I was correct…
Two in a marraige, not the entire family. He is there to support you. What the hell does he need support for?
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You should tell your husband to back off, or he won’t be allowed in there either. You need to have people there who you are comfortable with, and who will support you. You are the patient. You are the one bringing a child into this world. It is 100% your choice.
Just your husband. It’s your body and you will be going through the pain and the motions during labor. If you don’t want her in there, listen to your gut. Follow YOUR birth plan.
When my oldest daughter had children, I was in the room when all 3 were born. Stood next to her bed and held her foot in my hands. Her husband was there was his mother was in the waiting room. She never expected to go back.
My MIL was in the room when I delivered and we haven’t exactly seen eye-to-eye throughout the years prior. Fact is, it was her only son, having his first child and it was important to him for her to be there. I didn’t get myself worked up over it because I respected and wanted to honor my significant other’s request during such a memorable time in our lives. My MIL respected my privacy and stood where she couldn’t see everything. In the end, everyone was happy and to be honest, I could care less who was in the room when my husband and I saw our daughter for the first time.
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Dont have your mum or sister. It’s only fair if the MIL cant come in then your mum shouldn’t be allowed either.
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You need your mom with you your mother law should realize how selfish she is
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you wont really care who is there when the time comes, and you never know it might bring you closer to her.
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Tell him before your willing to have her in the room you need him to lay on a table butt ass naked for 8 hours straight infront of your whole family and his and shit him self in the process at least one to two times before you are even willing to think of having his mother in the toom
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Saw this recently:
“Tell your husband that before you’ll allow his parents in the room to labor and delivery, he must stand naked and also produce a bowel movement in front of your parents. He must remain naked, spread eagle for at least 12 hours. If he accepts this challenge, allow his parents.”
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I wouldn’t want my MIL to see my legs spread wide open and my vagina in action either after being impregnated by her son 
awwwkward:joy:
Ok! I just wanted to tell you, it would be unhealthy for yourself and your baby for you to feel extra stress during birth! If you don’t feel comfortable with your MIL in the room with you then you keep her out! If you feel more comfortable with your mom and sister there then awesome! Remind your husband that he doesn’t even have have a legal right to be in there with you! He would consider himself lucky you are allowing him this opportunity!!!
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It’s covid. You will be lucky to have 1 person!
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tell your husband that when HE has a baby his mommy dearest can be in the room. I was naked and opened for the world to see when I gave birth. I would NOT want my baby daddy’s mom to have been in there staring at my crotch. Your husband sounds like a huge manbaby mommy’s boy 
sorry for your loss.
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Its you thats doing the pushing.
But keep in mind, you will be a MIL one day too…
Was she there when you made the baby
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Nope. You do not need to feel uncomfortable during that time. This is about you and that baby. There’s zero compromise here when it comes to who you choose to expose your body to
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When I gave birth to my oldest son I had asked my exs mom to be in the room with us, my sister and my mom, and unfortunately she didn’t make it because of work, with our second child she was there. When I delivered my third child, different dad, he wanted his mom in the room but we didn’t talk much and I was super uncomfortable around her, he got mad and we argued for months about it, but I didn’t care I wasn’t changing my mind. I get that its two peoples lives changing but youre the one showing your stuff, youre the one delivering the baby, youre the one who need to feel comfortable. I believe it should be 100% your choice! I had my mother in the room but I didn’t want my daughters grandma in the room, its nothing about the disrespect or the not liking her or anything of that sort, its the feeling comfortable.
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it is your choice who you are cmettable with ,not him or his mother ,if they tell you what to do now it will never end ,this advice is from 78 old ladie married 62 years .
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I told my husband that when he is the 1 to carry a baby 9 months then push out that baby out his privates then he can decide who is in the room
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I see both sides of this argument. Yes, he is becoming a father that day and him having his mother there might be his preference but his joy will be no less if she’s there in the room or he tells her in the waiting room 20 minutes later. The difference is you’re becoming a mother AND your body is going through a traumatic experience. You shouldn’t have to add to that by being uncomfortable too. Having a child is the most wonderful experience in the world but if it wasn’t for the baby, for example if you were passing an 8lb kidney stone instead, it would not be, it would be awful - the contractions, the (possible) tearing, the pain. It is so hard on your body and so emotional for you. I understand that he’s becoming a father too but I personally think it’s up to you and he should respect what you’re about to go through to bring this child into the world and do everything he can to make it as easy for you possible & if that means not having his mother in the room - so be it.
Your vagina your rules.
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Oh hell no, you allow who you feel comfortable with. That’s why they ask you, not your husband. You are the patient.
Your husband can choose who he wants in the room when he gives birth. Lol
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If you’re not comfortable don’t do it. Reality is it’s your decision. No his or anyone else’s. You could tell them to kick him out if you wanted and they would have to lol so he needs to be glad he can be there also you need people to support you. Your mom and your sister will. Your husband just needs to stop stressing you out. His mom should’ve had a daughter.
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Your vagina your rules
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When are you due because you may not even be allowed to have anyone in the room besides your husband
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Honestly, once you get to the pushing part, honey you won’t give af who is in the room!
She can wait in the waiting area and come in after the birth, when everyone is cleaned up.
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Honestly, I have a great relationship with my mother in law (who was also a nurse) but refused to have her in the room for the birth of either of our children. It’s a private moment and the mother is in a very vulnerable and exposed position/situation. Mom has the final say.
If my husband had insisted on his mother being there, I would have told him to wait outside with her instead of being in the room. When he has to push a child out of his body then he can have the final say as to whom is in the room. His job is to support the mother of his child, not to be busy requesting support from his mom. He’s a big boy now and about to be a dad and needs to act like a grown adult.
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My mother-in-law was there and I felt weird. I don’t blame you.
If you aren’t comfortable you aren’t comfortable when he’s having a medical procedure done then he gets to decide who he wants as support.
I had c sections but was allowed 2 ppl and only wanted my husband there. I didn’t allow any visitors until after i got home and settled. So about a week after each kid was born and i have 3 bios.
Tell him to get naked, spread his legs and hang out with your dad like that for an entire day. You are the one with your pants off, so you get to choose who you are comfortable having in there. She has no right to be with someone receiving medical care. The fact your being comfortable is not on the forefront of his mind is concerning. He’s a married man and soon to be dad…time to mature.
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Why not just you and your husband? Flip the shoe & how would you feel if he had the say & wanted his mom but not yours?
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If you are stressed about having her in the room it will make labour more difficult for both you and your baby. A little compromise could be having just him and your mother in the delivery room and asking your sister to wait in the waiting room as having them both in there may be making him feel pushed aside
I love all these " its his moment too" comments
Nah girl, until he has an entire human trying to exit his body, its not his freaking moment at all. He’s there as a support person so tell him to shut up and be supportive.
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Ask him “are you pushing a child out of you? Going through hours of pain? Pricked and prodded by nurses and doctors? If any of your answers are no, you don’t get to make the call of who is in the room
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I would wait and tell the nurse privately that you don’t want her in there and have the backing of nurses to tell your husband to shut the fuck up and boot his mother.
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Is your husband even ready to be a father. He seems like a mommy’s boy. Ask him of his mother had her mother in law in the room. If this is the stupid shit your going through now, it will only get worse during the first year of parenting because it’s brutal and you need to be on the same page to make it work.
I was only allowed one person so my mom stayed not even my hub and we don’t regret it because I needed her support and he felt my needs were a priority as I was the one bringing our miracle into this world.
Alot of people judged him for not being in the room and told him he would regret it. He doesn’t. I think he takes pride in the fact that he supported me as I needed not as expected by others. They traded places during the process.
I feel like 3 is too many for such a private thing though. To compromise why not only have him and your mom or your sister not both. Just suggesting. Or consider having your sister and his mom trade places for abit, if you want to honour his desires.
If you feel that that’s not an option then it should be acceptable. I’m sure they get to see the baby as soon as your moved to the delivery ward or visiting hours…or avoid stress and only have him with you no one else.
But honestly in that room. You are Queen. No one should be making you feel pressured or uncomfortable in anyway. It should be about the type of energy you need around you that will aid you through the process. You shouldn’t even need to explain that to anyone especially your life partner. He should be the last person asking you to do anything that will put you in a negative state. I’m sure his aware your not comfortable with his mom.
My mom passed on a month ago and I don’t regret her being my choice for a second. He doesn’t regret, not seeing me in pain … a pain he couldn’t take from me.
Be assertive express your need compromise where possible if his worth it.
Best thing is put everyone but him out and make them all visit your baby during visiting hours. But if you need your mom or sisters support and feel your hub might not Be able to drill sergeant you through it all which is what your going to need during contractions and a comedian during the ad breaks in between. I truly hope your not raising your husband as well.
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I had my husband and my sister! I would have loved to have my mom there. I adore my mother in law, and I wouldnt want her there
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Your comfort should be the priority. Creating a peaceful and calm environment for baby to come into is the priority. Birthing a child is hard enough without having to worry about hurt feelings.
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You have invited your mother and sister. If he really wants MIL there then he can give up his space.
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When my daughter in law gave birth, I felt like she was doing all the work and should have the say about who is with her. Neither grandmother was in the room, just my son, but if she had wanted her mother I would have been fine with it. I was prepared that she might, and probably wouldn’t feel comfortable with me in there at that time. We have a great relationship and I love her dearly, she’s an amazing wife to my son and mother to my grandsons. Its just a moment in their little lives, she makes sure I get lots of time with them regularly. I think your feelings are the ones that matter at that moment
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Swollow this time , and have both G.Moms better in long run.
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Your body your choice.
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You want your mother to be there, but hè cant have his at such an important moment?! I think you should reconsider and is low her. It is his child to!!!
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I have given birth 3 times. I understand that you feel uncomfortable. But she is one of the Grandma’s. To exclude her, is asking for problems down the road. Just think, this might just be the thing that brings you and her together and make you feel a bond with her. I say, your husband and both mother’s.
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His mom can see your baby after the birth. Don’t put yourself and your unborn child in an uncomfortable position during a time when you will need loving support. Have your mom and sister with you. If your husband continues to “take it out” on you, you have every right and legal authority to not have him in the delivery room, either. Maybe you should remind him of that.
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I allowed my mother in law in the birth room for our first, and denied her request for entry with our second. My reasoning behind it, I tried the first time around…it didn’t work out so well for me. I don’t regret not allowing her thereafter. I do, however, regret not allowing my mother entry. I was trying to be fair. My point is this is your body, and this is your family…you’re about to bring that beautiful child into this world. Do what makes you happy and comfortable 
congrats momma 
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Yr the one going threw the pain, having to birth this child. Its your effing body! Tell him to screw off!
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Use the grey’s anatomy way tell h since the kid is coming out of your body you get an extra special vagina vote and since you house the baby you get the vote
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Do what makes you happy and comfortable.
Your choice. Not his
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You get to decide who can be in the room. Your husband’s presence is optional as well. Is your husband willing to lay naked and open up his legs with your mom in the room? Grandparents don’t have automatic rights to be present for whatever he or they want. I think you both should go to therapy before the baby comes becaise it will only get worse when the baby comes. He’ll want his mom to be a third parent and you should have the tools you need to prevent that. He should be on the same page as you.
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We were only allowed to people and since it was my first baby (I’m the youngest of girls) I had my mom and husband in the room. I am pretty close with his mom but it still felt kind of odd and I really felt I wanted my mom there. My mom did offer to let her be the one in the room on the day but I just felt it needed to be her. He wasn’t mad or anything. I don’t have any great advice except do what is going to make you the most comfortable. You got this mama
Depending on where you are in a few months you may only be able to have one person in the room with you anyways 
I just gave birth a month and a half ago and was only allowed one support person. I wasn’t upset because I didn’t want my mother there. So it may be an argument that is pointless at this point to have
Have who you are most comfortable with. Mother Inlaw should understand as her turn may come with her own daughter wishing her there when her time comes. But dont forgo your own Mum.
I’m disgusted by all these “women” telling you just to agree and get on with it wtaf !!!
No not at all this is your body not his its your privacy not his and its your god dam vagina on display would her like to stand there naked from the waste down for your mom and sister ? I think not ! Put your foot down and just say no it might be his baby but its your labour your pain your hard work !!!
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