Her being there isn’t a RIGHT 
It’s a privilege that only YOU can give.
Perhaps you could remind your partner that in many countries, mothers are only allowed ONE or (in some cases) NO birthing partners at all during delivery…
Giving birth is a very intimate affair, I personally didn’t want anyone by my husband in there with me. Everyone else can see the baby very shortly after birth. 
They’ll have a lifetime with that baby!
You’re the one whos body is gonna be on view. I think your husband should understand with what you’re going through, at the very least what you’re going through physically, you should be able to pick who is there
My MIL waited outside the whole time and was happy with that.
I’d compromise and ask she stay up near your shoulder (away from the business end) and just explain your not comfortable with her looking at your vagina! It’s his Mom and if it means that much to him then compromise… by the 3rd kid no one will care who’s vagina is on show … trust me!
Tell him to strip down naked and take a shit in front of his mother, your mother and your sister. If he says no, then tell him why the fuck is he expecting you to basically do the same thing.
Mils please allow us be!
When your husband is willing to lay spread eagle completely naked in front of your parents for 4+hours (throw in pooping too) he can have a say who is there when you give birth! If his mum wants to sit outside the room and come in as soon as baby is born and you are covered up that’s a bit more reasonable. You can always tell your midwife you don’t want her in there and they will ask them to leave (they won’t tell them you don’t want them there they will just say it’s too many people/hospital policy or something similar) at the end of the day it’s your choice as it’s your most vulnerable time. If my husband kicked off wanting someone in the room he would have the choice of waiting outside with them or shutting his gob and being present for the birth of his child 
honestly they just don’t get it do they!? Good luck mumma stand your ground 
I personally made my ex wait until the baby was born to even call his parents. I didn’t want them there and he respected that request. He himself just made it to the birth, he was 4 states away at the onset of labor. He didn’t even question why my mom, dad, grandmother and labor coach were there and his family not. He literally said it’s my vagina my choice.
Your body your choice who sees that, maybe once your comfortable. Depends on how well you get along, i wasnt meant to be in room for a sibling and partner. But been near also helps too.
I said the same thing but she weaseled her way in and got in my face while I was pushing
Fuck that shit! I do not want anyone who is not my husband or my own immediate family to see my tear up vagina. You are the one giving birth, and you are allowed to have a comfortable environment during labor because it’s stressful enough as is. You don’t need more drama. What about this does he not understand? Tell that homeboy NO!
Then your husband needs to take a back seat you can also sit him in the waiting room with your mom cause I mean 3 is to much of a crowd . It’s a moment for you to experience and be comfortable in all mommas opinion we all rather our mommas sisters not sure about mother in-laws I mean a really wouldn’t want her in ther .
Man I didn’t even want my mum at any of my births! He should respect that you aren’t comfortable with that
Ur choice and dont let anyone change that. Or force u to change that. Ur the one thats gonna be at ur most vulnerable. Speak to ur midwife and tell them and they will stop anyone u dont want from coming in. Tell ur husband his mum can come in straight after.
I had my childs father, his mum and his Neice in with me, none of my family. Next time I will be having my sister with me. It’s all ur choice so even if u dont want anyone with u. People got to respect ur wishes
No, no, no. Your decision. No need for any added stress. Pleasd so not listen to anyone who is telling you to agree with this if you are not comfortable with it.
It is his kid too. Your mother gets to be there so why the fuck can’t his? I had my boyfriend, my mother and his mother in the delivery room. It’s up to him to manage her tho and if you say out she gets out. The nurses will side with you btw. Save the fight with your spouse and compromise. You’ll be the cunt who doesn’t consider her husband feelings and he’ll remember that shit I know I would.
Men and their Daym ego… as if we owed them something 
stand your ground mama ! It starts now, if he gets away with this after you already said no, he’s going to change your mind for things in the future as well. Don’t let this happen. Stick to your gut, or vagina and do what you got to do for yourself ! No one else matters !!
If they weren’t in the room when making the baby they shouldn’t be at the arrival of baby. No one but the babymakers. Personally after 5 I wouldn’t want anyone but the father in the room. It’s not a spectators sport. That’s why we don’t invite anyone in when making it or delivery. It’s personal and only should be the parents if the new arrival. Everyone else can wait outside. Your mamma and his mamma had their day, they had their day to shit the bed and all that comes with it, so they should all leave you to your own and give you your privacy.
Gross. I didn’t even want my parents there im not having the mother in law there to see my bits. I’d stand my ground on that. This is about you being comfortable during the most painful time in your life.
Girl use COVID as an excuse
At the end of the day you need to talk with husband before it gets out of hand …
My mother in law was in the room when I gave birth to our boys. I didn’t give a rats ass who was in there as long as the nurses and doctors were there. Why is it fair to have your mom but he can’t have his? It’s not! Sorry!
Compromise and consider his thoughts as well
I didn’t even want my mum there let alone his mum, it’s not a party
I see both points, the truth is though when the times comes you’ll be so focused on delivering you baby safely that you probably wont care whos there, my mil was more support than my mum, as she wasnt hurting watching me hurt, it may even bring you closer together as you share the most magical moment x
I’d just have the two of you. And let the mothers be outside if they wish for when the baby arrives.
It could all change due to covid as in our area it’s one person if that. Do what your comfortable with x
Don’t have her in there & that’s it ! You’re the one who’s gonna be in labor it’s WHAT MAKES YOU COMFORTABLE.
If you don’t feel comfortable with her there then she shouldn’t be there. You’re giving birth, not giving a toast 
you’re going to be uncomfortable enough as it is without the stress of having her there
Tell him your the one in labour and giving birth so if u don’t want her there u don’t have to have her there!!! Am sorry but I wouldn’t want my mil there either xx
Okay, we can all give our opinions, but it is up to you and your husband. Personally with 3 kids, I didn’t care as long as the babies were safe. I think with covid, you won’t be able to have anyone but your husband in there. Just remember you two are the parents, but all of you are family. You may feel odd with her, but she is gma too.
Well with Covid it will only be him so your safe.
I know this is a serious question your asking but I can’t help but post this, my husband agreed just the 2 of us would be in the room. But I was worried my mom or MIL would have strong feelings against it and this just made me laugh and take some of the pressure/stress off of it. In the end it’s what you both want, but it comes down to you it’s your body on display. We chose to keep that moment as private for the 2 of us.
Stick to you guns here don’t ruin what’s meant to be the one of the best days of you life because you husband wants his mum in the room, no offense he’s not giving birth and I actually think he’s really selfish to be taking it out on you because he hasn’t got his own way. Needs to grow up!
Well it won’t let me post a picture but what the post says is:
I’m pregnant and my husband is forcing me to let his parents In the delivery room but I don’t want to. What should I do?
And someone answered:
Tell your husband before you allow his parents in the room for labor and delivery, he must stand naked and also produce a bowl movement in front of your parents. He must remain naked, spread Eagle for at least 12 hours. If he accepts this challenge then allow his parents.
Hope this helps you laugh a little while figuring out what you 2 want to do. 
He’s not the one giving birth. He’s being an ass. Stick to your guns, the last thing you want is to be uncomfortable when you’re in that situation.
Why not just have your husband in the room is there any call for the rest to be there just having ur husband would stop the arguing
Would he feel comfortable getting his dangler out in front if your mum… probably not!
It’s your decision. It’s about making you as comfortable and stress free as possible.
But, due to Covid, the only one that most likely will be allowed in the room with you is your husband.
Flip it ask him how he would feel if he was to have something done where his dignity was to disappear and your mum was there? Xx
Is he the one with legs spread, vagina out on full show, pushing a basketball out the gooch whilst screaming in an inhuman manner? No? Then it’s not up to him. Dad or not, you are the person who gets to decide who sees you in that vulnerable state. I would never agree and allow my MIL in there to stare at my vagina either.
Girl stand your ground!
I chose my mom, and I let my husband choose one person to be in the room…also…I PROMISE you, who is in the room, and who is lookng at your parts will be the farthest thing from your mind when you’re pushing that baby out. Lol. All youre going to care about is the baby, and pushing.
Why would your mother in law want to be in there? A mother shes seen u naked etc it’s all personal your her kid. The mother in law stareing at your lady bits that’s just odd lol. Wait in the hall like everyone else lol it’s no more fun getting the front row seats haha
Where I’m from their only allowing one support person due to Covid right now 
also is not her special moment is yours and his. 
Tell your husband that if he wants his parents in there so badly that he has to lay bare ass on a bed with YOUR parents watching, for twelve hours while he craps twice🤷♀️ just a thought.
I was only supposed to have 2 birthing partner (my son’s dad and my mum), but it all happened so quickly that no one told his mum to leave when I was pushing. I have always hated her, and she’s never made any effort to even want anything to do with my son (didn’t even come to my baby shower) yet wormed her way into my birth, despite being told outright she was not welcome in the room. It’s the one thing about my whole birth experience that I didn’t enjoy. And I’ll never forgive her for it. That being said, it’s your decision at the end of the day, no one else’s I don’t believe. Ask your partner to lay in a bed spread-eagle for hours on end in agony, bare ass naked while your parents watch him potentially shit himself. See how he feels about that xx
pick your battles. usually you don’t even notice or care when you are in the process of pushing baby out. he wants his mom in the big moment just like you do. its as much his child and her grandchild as it is yours and your mom’s.
and thats if they even let anyone besides the husband in there because of COVID
Why can’t she be in there? You have your mom and sister. That’s not fair. You’re really not going to give a shit while your in labor anyway. Don’t be selfish. It’s not all about you.
Why would you want your mother and sister there just have your husband
Yeah no. I said no too. That’s way too personal. I didnt even let my mom in and I was planning on it. Needless to say I didnt want to hear them while I was pushing out a baby. I was happy just to have my fiance there. The grandparents came in literally minutes after she was born and that was fine. Kicked my mom out once they said the words “fully dilated, time to push”
With covid you can’t have anyone anything but your support person. I would just use that and avoid the argument.
Yesstop,think,compromise,trust me you’ll be uncomfortable whoever is there but only bothered about you n bubba,both mum’s would be really special,probably bring you closer too,win win.Think about names,perhaps use a name of one who can’t be in,also be thrilled they wanna be there.Good luck with it all.hugs
I’d just say no due to covid restrictions I’m sure will be in place in 2 months unless you have that real cool kristy noem as your governor…there really is no point in even arguing cuz come Biden in office first 100 days is gonna be a shut down
Ugh have him be naked with his shit sprawled out for 24 hours and shit while he’s at it, once he can do that allow it until then tell him helll nah
It is and will always be your decision. You of course want to feel comfortable, supported and safe with those around you, nothing wrong with that. But have a talk with your husband. If he cannot support your decision, he doesn’t have to be in there. He should not be making you feel guilty over this.
During 1st born i wanted my mom there and my then husband. I was really scared and just wanted people I was comfortable with. After that experience and how things went down, kinda regret having extra people in the room. My mom took a big moment for my ex and held the baby 1st.
My 2nd child I opted to only have him in the room. Things went a lot smoother.
Congrats on the lil one.
Your hospital is allowing more than just the father in the room? You’re lucky. My daughter is pregnant with number 2 and only the father may be in there for any of it. Covid made it so nobody is even allowed to visit afterwards either
Request that he openly squat over a bucket. Then tell him you get to decide 3 people to watch him squat over said bucket. Whoever you want. He gets no say. See how well he will be down for it.
Nah boo. You’re giving birth. It’s HARD! YOU get to decide who you need with you to make this easier. Tell him next time he’s ready to get a prostate exam and lay naked on a table and poop in front of your mom, you’ll consider it. Until then, totally your choice. This is one where we get to be selfish. And if you need your mom and sister with you, he doesn’t get to shame you for that and make you leave them out.
Your body, your choice. U will need to be the most relaxed and comfortable as u can be in that situation, so anything that will make u uncomfortable I say no! Btw ur luck u u get 3 people in the room with this covid people are lucky that they get one person with them.
You are the one doing all the work and have to deal with the pain he needs to suck it up
Stand your ground. Labor is just that, it’s hard. Try to talk to him about your feelings on why you don’t want her in the actual room. Is the place allowing visitors in the waiting room?
Well with the virus only 1 person can be in the room
Your husband is wrong. You will be exposed. It is up to YOU who you allow to see you like that. Period. 
But this whole argument may be taken out of your hands. A lot of hospitals are beginning to tighten up their Covid restrictions again, so it is possible that they may not let anyone in the room with you except your husband by then.
If it wasn’t for my strong willed nature I would probably be on anxiety medication because of my mother in law and her daughter. I wouldn’t want anyone in the room that made my life harder than it had to be. My husband and sister were there the first time, just my husband the last two times. Unfortunately, I don’t have a very kind mother in law. I think your husband is being petty and should concentrate a little more on being a dad than his mother. But that’s just my opinion. Too often we let the small things bring us more stress than they’re worth.
With the virus it is 1 person and I’m sure it’ll still be that way in 2 months. I can understand if you don’t want her in there due to privacy on your behalf but other than that if it is just because you don’t like her perhaps then it is crazy.
I think you’re gonna have more problems with him and MIL well after the baby comes. Rest up girl!
Id be like fine. U want ur momma in the room? She can take your place. Lol. I wouldnt actually let it happen but 
100% his baby as well as yours. If you start this “I pUsHeD tHe BaBy OuT” stuff you’re making him a second class parent instead of your partner. If you’re uncomfortable with his mother being in the room, and you’ve been honest with him maybe it’s time to cut your own cord, put the family you’re creating first, and uninvite your mother and sister. It’s not about what you want singular anymore. It’s about what you and your husband want/ compromise on for your child. I personally feel like if the roles were reversed and your husband was the one giving birth you’d still ask this question but as “how can I convince my husband to let my sister and mother in the room while he’s giving birth?” Maybe if all grandparents aren’t welcome, none should be. That IS what’s fair but most moms aren’t ready to have the equal parenting conversation
It’s your body! Stand your ground! But right now I believe only 1 person can be in the room with you.
You’re the one giving birth. You get the decision. You tell him to get over it. you want people that make you comfortable around you , especially during that time.
I would think you and Husband is all that needs to be there-my opinion
He can get the hell over it. You’re the one who has to give birth, so you get to dictate who’s there.
Threw my pregnancy i didn’t want my in law in there, but when the time came she came to the hospital and it did not bother me one bit as I was focused on the contractions and then pushing our girl out. She actually stood beside me coaching me and helped out alot.
I gave birth two months ago. Depending on where you are, most places will only let your husband in the room right now. Nobody is allowed to come visit. They want you in and out in 24 hours. So there’s nothing you can really do but take a video and lots of pics. MIL can wait.
Let the mother in law in there it’s her son’s child too , don’t take that experience away from your husband and his mom
Where do you live that 3 people are allowed in?
Giving birth is an intense, event.
And it is when women feel all sorts of things including pain, vulnerability, anxiety.
Your birthing experience. Your choice.
And the birthing room is just not the time to attempt to ‘bond’ with someone you are currently uncomfortable with.
And speaking as a mother in law. Bonding with that Grandchild is heaven. And heaven can, and does, wait.
It should be up to the one giving birth. I didn’t want anyone but me and my husband in there and that’s how it was.
Personally I wouldn’t even have my sibling in the room lol. Also depending where you are right now because of covid you may only be allowed one person which is understandable id double check on that. Always thought about letting my mil in if I ever had a second one more then likely won’t but my opinion of her has changed so she wouldn’t get anywhere near there now lol
If your gonna have him and your mother I think it’s only fair the 3 person be his mother if she wants to be there. it’s his baby as well and a special moment for him also. If your really stuck on it then maybe to be fair it should only be you and him, even through allowed 3 you don’t need 3.
I think you should respect your husbands opinion and allow her in the room. Your sister can be there after. It might even improve your relationship with her. It’s his child as well.
Maybe find a new husband !! Let him go back and enjoy all the time with his mother he feels he needs. Your body , your choice , PERIOD!
I think you should stick your guns. This is extremely stressful and emotional for moms and your “in room support” is 100% your choice! This is no time for new bonding and there is no reason for mom to be any more uncomfortable than she already is!
With the covid most hospital not allowing anyone but the dad no visitors
It’s your body on the bed about to give birth, not his. I’d stand firm with the decision you have made. Best of luck and congrats.
My mom and mother in law took turns. It wasn’t fun. I ended up having them both leave
To me; it’s yours & your husband’s moment not anyone else’s.
But makes no sense in a second wave that you can have 3 people when I was only allowed the father…
Shit i didn’t even want my own mum in there! Just me and my man. Stuff anyone else, its yr personal thing. If he or she dont like, tough shit. Use those hormones and get up him, pull his head in
If he’ll strip naked and shit in a pot in the front yard, in front of your family and neighbors… then sure… maybe have her in the room… but only if he’ll go first 
My last delivery was just me and the baby dad. It was the best delivery ever. Out all 3 it was calm and relaxing. My other two was babies dad and my sister. It’s what you want bottom line.
I only allowed my husband in the room for both my kids… my son was 11 when I had my daughter and he sat in the waiting room with my best friend… no way in hell would I have let my mother in law in the room…
Only and only if you are comfortable beg your nurse to have one more person. I’m very comfortable with my MIL. So she was in the room, my sister, mom and husband.
I only had my husband in the room for all 4 of my births. I thought it was alittle weird to have anyone else there. But that’s just me. If you don’t want your MIL there, then that’s up to you. You are the one giving birth
Honestly I would keep in mind this is his experience too, he’s becoming a parent and while yea he’s not pushing anyone out. The woman he loves is going to be stressed and in pain. He’s going to be scared and need a support person. My son and myself almost died during his birth and so hearing the details from my mom that my guy was scared with no support person broke my heart. My mom did her best but he needed his family. The birth of our next child (5 years later) I made sure to tell him to pick his person 
but he wanted everyone in the waiting room that time so we could just have the moment for us
He can stay mad
So tell your sister she wont be in the room an that your mother in law will be bc that is what your husband wants!!
When his vagina is on display for all the world to see then he can have his mommy in there.
My MIL is a mess at best. But if my hubby’s Grandma had been living I would have let her in there if I was allowed. Seeing as though our 1st was a 33 week preemie…the birth was stressful for us all…he could have used her.