Tell the nurses who you want and who you don’t. We are very good at running interference.
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The way I see it, it’s your coochie that’s gunna be all out there so it’s your choice, his mom will still see the baby it’s not the end of the world.
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When my sons get married and have a baby, I would never expect my DIL to have me in the room. If she was comfortable and asked I would but only if she asked. I would never assume or expect. That is a time where the woman is to be the most comfortable. And I would be mad at my son if he did what was happening in the post. All I would want is to be able to meet the baby when appropriate after the birth
Tell him to give the MIL his spot!
This is not a true statement and really don’t appricate it all going on face book.
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Compromise. Something as big as this (and it clearly bothers him), he could lose all respect for you from it. Not to mention the resentment that comes along with it. It is his baby just as much and he might need the support from his Mom. Or compromise and have no one. Things like this make and break relationships.
I don’t feel like it should be an issue maybe he’s upset that your sister will get to experience the moment and not his mom?
If you weren’t comfortable with here prior And he’s aware of that I don’t c why it should be an issue for him. Also just explain that you don’t want her there when ur naked and what not just say No you don’t have to give in! Maybe his mom is bothering him about she can be in the waiting room
Until he can produce a poop in front of your parents while maintaining a birthing position for hours completely naked, there is no argument. Fair is fair.
Only my husband attended either of my births.
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I would feel awkward with my mother in law looking at my body parts. She’s nice, but I don’t know her like that. I would probably just have my husband with me
Just have your Husband in the room then and no one else. That will keep it fair all around.
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Lol. I would not want my mother in law watching me give birth. I say go with what makes you feel comfortable.
This is not going to win me anny friends, but I don’t think anyone but your husband should be in the room. To me, it is a private moment between me and my husband why would I need or want anyone else there.
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Don’t let her in, it’s your birth, not hers. Also, don’t put your husband’s name on the birth certificate paperwork either, ask a nurse to fill it out with you alone when he isn’t around.
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Only the 2 people that made that baby should be in the room it’s ur time and ur husband’s time
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I’m honestly surprised they will let more than 1 person in there.
Dude crazy if he thinks his momma’s lookin at my business on the craziest, most vulnerable day of my life.
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It’s your body and your choice. But maybe the compromise is only be js allowed in so no one feels left out
Nah. Its important that you feel comfortable and relaxed while giving birth, well as much as you can anyways. Its your choice. Yes he is the father, but he is not the one whose life is on the line, trying to bring a child into this world.
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When it turns into an argument over who can be in the room then I always default to dad only no one else
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If she isn’t too close to you giving birth and she wont be in the way… im sure its him wanting his mom to experience this life changing part of the family. Do what makes you comfortable
It is your body and it should be respected no matter what others might feel. It is ok do express feelings and listen but the fact that he doesn’t care about yours in the end result And puts yours first, makes me worry for you a little. She should be happy and excited right there in the waiting room for you.
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You do what’s best for you & your baby. He should respect your feelings over anyone else’s, bottom line
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This topic is so frustrating to me. I don’t understand why other people don’t realize that this can be a very scary thing for a woman to go through, and forcing her to do things she is uncomfortable with while dealing with fear, pain, etc. is the dtupidest thing you can do. Honestly f**k him if he thinks that he has any right to dictate how your birth plan should go, as well as anyone else who feels they should have a say. To me it takes some mad disrespect to try and force a woman to have people in a room that make them uncomfortable, when the literal point of the people in there with you are to encourage, support and comfort you. Tell him he can wait outside in the hall with his Mother if he’s going to disregard your feelings in this stressful and emotional time.
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Kick his ass out the room too then. You should be totally comfortable and if she makes you uncomfortable so be it. This is your day to go thru hell to welcome that little miracle.
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No way. You are you going to want to be comfortable for yourself…even if it sounds selfish…but this day is about you and that baby of yours…you are going to be naked and super vulnerable…trust me on this one…you are going to want only people in there that you trust 100% and feel 100% comfortable being around in that state…no way in hell anyone was going to tell me who I had to have in the room with me when I had my twins lol
I am a Mother in Law and I was at the hospital but never expected to be in the room, the point is what makes the person giving birth comfortable and calm. I was on hand for my son and that made him comfortable and calm so he could take care of my DIL and his coming child.
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Stand your ground, Mama! Have an honest conversation with your MIL too…so she understands where you’re coming from. And tell your husband that he needs to be your safe space now more than ever. He has to have your back!
My friend said her whole birthing experience was ruined because she catered to other people wishes and she was completely uncomfortable and upset the whole time. That the family distracted her husband from the birthing and that her mom and mother inlaw took over with the emotional support…when all she really wanted was her husband…me personally, I think I would prefer to just have my partner in the room. More intimate and less pressure.
Your the one giving him and a baby and plus a grandparent will be in the mom your mom. So stand your ground once the baby is born he will come around. Plus its not about being mean or hurting anyone’s feelings. That is the one time do what you want cause its your responsibly to make the sure the baby and your are safe, and worrying about this or being uncomfortable during the delivery of your baby is the worse thing you can. Anxiety and stress will not help either of you and I’m sure your Dr will agree. So have your Dr let your husband know. Good luck girl and hang in there. You got this you just have to own it.
Compromising would be to have her at the hospital just not in the room and she can come in right after.u are the one giving birth and u need to feel comfortable.
I would laugh. Like he has a say at who gets to look at your hoohah. Do what makes you comfortable and he needs to respect it.
Heck no… have who YOU want. Having a baby is literally life or death. The momma & baby need to stay calm & healthy.
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If you and mother in law does not have a relationship . Your husband should respect the fact that you don’t want her there.
I had my husband, my mom, my aunt & my grandpa. My aunt can’t have kids so I wanted to give her the opportunity to see what all happens to bring a baby in the world, my grandpa is the one who raised me because my dad left & my grandpa cut my cord + I was naming our son after him.
Ask him if he’s willing to lay in bed naked and take a crap in front your mom, it’s not the same but you get my point.
Hell no. My vagina, my decision. Also, your hospital is allowing that many ppl in woth Covid? Ours only allows 1, and no visitors after.
The only three people I’d have is the doctor, nurse and guy who gives the drugs.
Reality is, it’s my body. My own mother and I don’t get along, she was not in the room. You’re the one doing all the work, you get to choose who gawks at you while you do it. It’s already an uncomfortable position to be in, I say eff anyone who can’t comprehend that.
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It’s you doing the work!!! You get to make the call. You NEEE and DESERVE to be COMFORTABLE.
Honestly , in two months time I’ll be surprised if they let you husband in the room with covid. It’s your decision not his, unless he’s the one pushing. He needs to take a pill.
I say NO! It’s a very intimate moment seeing the birth of your child!
I said no to my oldest daughters ‘grandmother’ but she still snuck in believe it or not. I had no idea until I saw pictures about a week or so later! I couldn’t believe it!
Dear God! You don’t have to have ANYONE in there if you don’t want. It’s YOUR body. It isn’t a time to be worried about ANYTHING! You are supposed to be at peace and give your baby its most peaceful entrance possible into this world. That she would want to intrude is amazingly rude when she knows you two aren’t that close. Your sister has seen you at your most vulnerable. So has your husband. She has not and he has NO right to tell you how you should feel when you are at the MOST vulnerable point in a woman’s life. Take every comment telling him to GROW UP and SUPPORT you and make a collage. The tribe has spoken. Get him counseling. Whew
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Just you and your husband that’s all you need
Your birthing is your time no one else gets to make that choice for you. I don’t want my mother in law looking down there or trying to make it about herself. Its somewhat normal to have your mom there but not your MIL 
My MIL was in the room when I gave birth to her first grandbaby. I would NOT change it for the world. Ita different for everyone. I was pretty close with mine so it was such an amazing experience to share that moment with my husband, my MIL and my sis in law.
You &your husband!The rest can stay out,and visit later one…You do not want to be seen in that situation!Good luck!
I am sure with Covid she wouldn’t be anyway
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Your vagina - your choice? People seem to forget how intimate and personal child birth really is.
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Honestly, it doesn’t really matter what he wants. You are the one who is going to be the most vulnerable person, have everything hanging out, maybe crap on the table. You need to be able to focus on pushing not another person’s feelings. Tell him to keep it up and he may not be in the room either. Many places only allow 2 people, with COVID he may not even be allowed in the room.
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Definitely your choice, you deserve to be comfortable especially in that kids of situations. You’re already going to have a bunch of random people up inside you so your support team needs to be people you made you feel comfortable and safe, last thing you need is added on stress.
Leave him he’s a momma’s boy
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How is it fair to him that your mom and sister get to be in there…suck up your pride and just let her be in there…after all it is her grandbaby too
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I had all 3 of mine via csection. Oh how id loved to have given my now deceased mother n law to have that experience with me & her son and for my mom to be there. I so wish my mother n law could see her grandbabies today. She passed 4 months after i had her first grandbaby and never got to meet my other son. Just like you want to have your mom there. Your husband wants his mom. Thats not just your child you are carrying. Its his also. And why is your sister even going to be in there?? Thats kinda selfish.
Your lucky you got 3, in Washington we only get 1
Tell him when he’s the one pantsless on a hospital bed, he can pick who sees his goods too. It’s not a show. It’s medical trauma. You pick who you need to get thru it. I had my mom and husband and the pain was unbearable, I couldn’t have anyone else seeing me that way as I clung to both of them sweating, swearing, bleeding. No, my mother in law will never see me that way. Ever. But my husband also had more respect for me and respected that.
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Just have him in the room. No one else. Done.
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Who tf is having the baby?!
I would not have wanted my mother in law with me when I had the kids. No way
It’s your body so if you say no it’s a NO honey ! The father of my kid wants his mother to be in the room also which I already told him no period it’s my body I need to be able to feel comfortable when I’m about to give birth, if he don’t like it he could be out in the waiting room along with his mom since he can’t respect the decision. At the end of the day it’s your body plus your vagina, your privacy & your special moment. They going to respect it overall willing or force
It was just me and my husband, no one else and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. My mom was a little disappointed but she can stress me out at times and I wanted to feel as comfortable as possible. She was there tho before and after I pushed. It was a wonderful delivery. I would feel very uncomfortable too if my MIL was in there. It is up to you since you are the one giving birth.
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If u don’t want her there put your foot down girl…I’d like to see your other half led on the bed with your choice of audience squeezing something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a lemon ha idiot no way!!
Didn’t tell know one when it was time other than my husband. You probably won’t have stress over this because of the corvid-19, you will be lucky if your husband will be in there.
You’re the one pushing a kid out, compromise and say she can be there during labor and after to see the baby but that you’d rather she not be there for the bloody vgina part of it.
Honestly that moment should be for you and your husband only and the new baby. For the rest of time your gonna have everyone butting in. Cherish those moments with you and him and the baby and the perfection of it all because it doesnt last long lol that moment you give birth is chaotic and the least thing you need is 3 people in that room. It goes so fast and then its gone.
if your lucky covid will still be around you might not have anybody
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Compromise… tell him that if he does labour with you without any pants & undies on thennnn he can have his Mum in there too 
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Your body, your choice. If he doesn’t like it, he can exit the room peacefully as well.
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I only allowed the father in the room. I personally find it inappropriate for anyone else to be in the room. It’s not a spectator sport. I do see your husband’s point since you want so many others in the room. He probably feels you’re trying to exclude his family members, which you are.
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I had home and hospital births and had in laws, siblings and my own kids with me which was great for me. BUT it was completely up to me which is the important point here. My body, my choice. You need to be comfortable so definitely put your foot down.
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Just you and your husband
how about have nobody in there just him. saves the bullshit an constant stress in the last few months of bub coming
Here’s an idea just you and your husband done that’s it
You have to do what’s right for you. My mom was with me when I delivered my oldest. My husband, at the time, was with me when I delivered my youngest.
Tell him ok.
As long as YOUR mother is present for his first colonoscapy and next bowel movement. With a camera.
Taking photos.
It’s only fair for both grandparents to be there
I say let her in, but he has to be naked and he has to bend over and spread his butt cheeks until your baby is born 
I think that’s a fair ask.
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You do what you feel is right for YOU. Period. You need to feel comfortable. Period. He is manipulating and bullying you. Don’t allow it. You have a right to set boundaries. Set them. Good luck.
I wouldn’t have him in there either then.
I could maybe his mother in law, but not hers.
As much as it’s the birth of his child, this is happening to YOU! Not him. He’s not contracting or dilating, and for god sake he’s not the one pushing a human out of his body. The people there are support people for YOU! It’s not a party or a family gathering. Let her be at the hospital to come meet baby shortly after delivery, but if you want your sister and mother’s support then that’s who should be there. HE is being short sighted and selfish. Especially if you don’t have the best relationship with her, it’s completely fair that you wouldn’t want to be that vulnerable with her there. It’s also completely fair to not want to share that with someone who stresses you out or makes you uncomfortable, when you are already literally in the most uncomfortable position of your life! Why does he need his mom when you and his baby should be the focus? He is a support person at the end of the day as well, and you should feel nothing but respect and love from him. Not pressure to have someone you don’t want there, or feel like he’s mad because he didn’t get his way. Time to cut the cord there sir! I understand his sentiment, but honestly I think people can eff all the way off when it comes to “it’s his baby so it’s his birth too”. Nope 
it’s not. Yes it’s the birth of his baby… BUT you are the one giving birth so you get to call the shots. Period.
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I had my MIL in the room with me for my 2nd. We’ve never really been close but she doesn’t have a daughter and I wanted to give her an experience that she would not get otherwise. It was fine except for the point the nurse turned the mirror so that my MIL got a bird’s eye view of my busting lady parts. Honestly, it brought us closer, but you do you. Keep her near your head if you’re uncomfortable.
your choice, your rules, easy as that
Hell no! I wouldn’t even want my own mother there. I’m also I very private person and uncomfortable with a doctor looking down there. That’s just me
I was told I’m only allowed one person in (in the UK :() baby’s daddy left soon after finding out so I have to choose one of my friends. I wish I could have at least 2 of them 
I agree 100 percent
Just do what makes you feel best.
WhenI had children, it was me &the Dr. The nurse took the baby after the birth and cleaned him/her in front of the nursery window for family to see. Then she brought the baby back for me to hold on the way to our room. And family could visit then as well. My kiddos were born in. '66, '69, '73.
Father of 2 here.
The only thing you should be concerned about is your health and that of your baby. You do what’s best for you and if they don’t like it, they can shove it. Good luck
I chose to have no one in the delivery room but my husband with our 2nd child. The hospital staff was on board with my choice. My husband was in board with my choice. Family on both sides were angry and uoset but eventually got over it. Make the decision you are comfortable with. Those that love you will understand and respect you in the end. Good luck and congratulations!
This is your time not hers. I am a mother in law, and I didn’t feel left out at all. Just have your husband with you not your sister or your mother, that will save the jealously. Be brave. You can do this
I didnt even expect to be in the room when my dsughters in law gave birth most women want there mom no way would i have even suggested it I went to the hospital after they were born
I’m a mil and there’s no way I ever wanted to be there at the birth of my grandchildren
Having a child is a very intimate moment, it should only consist of the one that was there with you when you created the child your mom/MIL was not in the room while your were naked in the bed passionately making the baby. They would be out side and if you decide to have your mom in there that is your choice your mom has already seen all you got
Hell no… he can stay at home with his mommy…
He better be lucky if he is in the room when u give birth. Bad enough its uncomfortable anyway n don’t want to more uncomfortable while his mom is there…
stand ur ground.
Talk to your doctor and nurse and explain to them that do not want your mother in law in the room. If your husband doesn’t like it he can sit out of the room with his mom. Childbirth is stressful enough. Having your mother in law in the room would make things even more stressful. You don’t need that.
One of my daughter in laws didn’t want anyone there for the birth but my son and her but she did let us all be there until it got close to the birth. We did get to see the baby shortly after birth and it worked out well for all of us.
For real. He can sit outside the door with his mother. It’s your call, not his.
Having a child is a wonderful experience. But think of it this way were your parents with you when you concieved? They will always be a part of thats child(s) life, explain that it is personal and you need the bounding experience then to be thinking about who has seen your most intimate part which is for you and your mate. You will be worked up enough than to have more people than you need in the room.
As a man, I would not even suggest that my mother be present at the birth. This is a very intimate and private moment in a mother’s life.
As a grandmother is an amazing,Miracle that God Let us see…
My mother inlaw and I didn’t have a close relationship so I didn’t feel comfortable having her in there.I have 4 children. And she wasn’t in there with any of them when they were born.
My first daughter it was my dad,mom and husband
2nd:my father inlaw …my mom and husband
3rd and 4th :just my husband and I
He already knew the relationship we had so he never said a word !
It’s up to you.its your body and memories and things that happen in the delivery room are sentimental !