Stock to your gins !
Sounds like you just want your family there. Why donāt you let mother in law there and not have your sister in there. Why is your mother there but your husband mother isnāt
Sorry but I can understand why hubby is upset. I saw 5 of my grandchildren being born
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I was only allowed 1 person he should be grateful he is even in there bc I almost had to do it alone!
If heās like this now heās gonna be a nightmare when the baby comes. Put your foot down and tell him this is yours and his baby and that he needs to start respecting your wishes now. You donāt have to have anyone there you donāt want. Itās his baby too but itās your labor x
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Why not just have you and your husband there.no one else and problem solved.its not an entertainment show,your husband should be enough support
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Sheesh were do you live that they are allowing 3 people doing this pandemic. If this is creating a problem then it should only be the 2 of you problem solved.
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I wouldnāt want anyones mother but my own in a room where i will be exposed. Donāt feel bad, that time you will uncomfortable enough! You donāt need anything else putting you in anymore of a mood than your already gonna be in .
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Crikeyā¦ itās up to mum who is in the room when she gives birth! Why is that even a question?! Would dad want to get his kit out in front of his mother in law?! Wait outside and see baby when mum is ready for Peteās sake!
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Itās not a time for grandparents period it is a time to have those around you that make you feel safest and secure. X
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Heās not the one with his business out! Plain and simple 
. Your business is out in the open so your choice who gets to be around for that. I couldnāt imagine thinking about how uncomfortable I am with my mother in law in the room while I was giving birth. Noooo thank you!
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Ew. No way. They are usually self righteous bitches anyways!
Give him the option to have it be his mother instead of him and see what he says (just a scare tactic) if he wants her there that bad. End of the day your body your choice you donāt see him pushing a baby out in the same room as your dad.
Itās his baby too ā¦ I think ur 100 percent wrong and both grandmothers should be there or none. This could actually change ur relationship with her.
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Tell the doctor or the hospital when your hubby is not around that you do not want anyone else in the room. Tell the nurses to tell them itās due to covid protocols
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Your body, your moment, your choice. Giving birth is not only a very special, but itās not easy either, you will feel nervous, vulnerable and more. Absolutely would not have anyone there that wasnāt your choice. Hubby is not the one going through the pain barrier and bearing all.
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Not have anyone in the room other then your husband.
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Say you canāt choose and you want this to be intimately between you and him
They can wait in the waiting room until you are done. This way you will be more relaxed.
Leave them all at home I would
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With this pandemic how are you allowed three people in the delivery room? Even without the pandemic itās who you feel comfortable with while youāre at your most vulnerable. Try explaining it to him,like heās a child, that youāre going to be laying there with your legs spread open, in pain, and completely uncomfortable that you donāt want anyone seeing you like that except those you completely trust.
Thatās a private moment when you are at your most vulnerableā¦ that is not his choice. You are the one giving birth, not him. Ask him if he would like to lay in the hospital bed for hours at his most vulnerable time with his legs open wide and his junk out and if he would feel comfortableā¦ 
Also being in a hospital room ISNT a rightā¦ itās a privilege.
I didnāt want anyone with me. In your case I would say you and husband only. Not having his Mom but you have yours will cause issues.
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I had my mum and hubby. There was never a time that I thought about having my mother in law there and hubby respected it was my choice.
Itās YOUR body, YOUR birth plan and if someone has a problem with please speak up!
Good luck Mumma 
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Just have it as yourself and your husband. Donāt play favourites with the grandparents
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Do what you want itās your birth. Iād rather have a caring doula then people who supposedly love me arguing over who should and shouldnāt be there !!!
I am always fascinated by this as in my country, only one birth partner is allowed and that is commonly the father. Of course in same sex relationships, it would be the partner. People opt for their sisters, mothers or friends but i cannot understand why there needs to be more than one person thereā¦itās not an insult. I am just curious why three are allowed.
Youāre the one giving birth itās your body, your choice. Tell him to get over it and support you or he can stay out of the delivery room too! You donāt need to be stressed right now. Stand up for yourself
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Itās your body being exposed. Your decision who sees it.
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If she canāt respect your decisions, then sheās a trash mother in law. 
It was only me and my husband in the room by choice; I wanted to be that vulnerable for only my husband and thatās it. And my mom is close to me. She and my MIL understood.
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Iāve seen it said before and think itās brilliant- when your Husband is comfortable with your Mom watching him get a prostate exam, then maybe you guys can talk about MIL watching you deliver a baby 
It may be his baby and her grandbaby, but itās your mind that has to make it through hours of labor and your body on display, doing alllllllll of the work. This isnāt a spectator sport and anyone who views it that way clearly needs a reality check.
I was young with my first 2 and that was a discussion my Husband and I had. My family lived across the country, so I said my stepMIL could be there because she was a calm, quiet presence, but no way was my MIL welcome. Sheās a flake and wouldāve made it all about her. I ended up with a csection with both, so it didnāt end up mattering.
Had my younger 2 at home with a midwife in a completely different state from either family, just my Husband and older children present. Birth is a biological function, not a medical one and things like unwelcome visitors can inhibit Mom from progressing, which can actually lead to issues with birth. Itās all about you and baby. No one else 
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Only 3ā¦ Weāre allowed one and Iām glad for that, no need for a full audience to see my vag shredded like that 
Your decision he needs to respect that
Show him this thread, he needs to see it from a womanās point of view, you need to feel as mentally comfortable as possible. Itās not really about anyone else but yours and the babyās wellbeing. Good luck and love to you xxxx
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I donāt know where you are, but here because of Covid you canāt have anyone but your husband with you. If youāre unsure, check with your doctor. Thereās no sense fighting about something that may not even be possible.
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Tbh this is why my husband and I decided it was just the 2 of us and honestly it was the best decision ever! Sharing that moment with just him was the best. We got to spend the time with our child before any one else, so maybe reconsider having the extra people?
Can the motherās and sister wait outside the room and just be you and your husbandā¦? Here you only allowed one person with youā¦then that way thereās no favoritismā¦just be happy itās just you and hubbyā¦
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Donāt make a big deal out of itā¦just enjoy giving birth with just you and hubbyā¦others can wait outsideā¦if you both argue over motherās and sisters itās not going to be special for you and probably put you off next time you have another babyā¦just enjoy your time with baby and hubby ā¦special time for you bothā¦others can wait til after birthā¦
Hon this is your big day you have who you want in that room that makes you feel good .she will see the baby soon after its all good
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I had my ex mother sister my mother and bf. His mother and sister were ask to leave but never listened I was in the middle of pushing. I was pissed off
My husband was the only one allowed in the room. I can see where heās coming from with the grandparent thing but at the same time Iād choose my husband to be there over anyone else including my own mother. Me personally they get to bond a spoil baby later, that type of experience is something I feel you and your husband should go through alone but together. Plus itās YOUR LABOR not thereās. If youāre not comfortable then itās just going to make things harder on you then it already will be.
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Honesty itās your body your choice. In 2019 I gave birth to our first child and I only wanted my husband and my mother with me. They were both great support people and when my husband or mom needed rest they both took turns helping me.I never regretted my decision . My husband understood my decision and was happy that I had my mom with us in the delivery room.
Tell him to get over it, itās not happening. Period. You do not need any distractions while your bringing a life into this world.
Youāre body, your choice chick! I only had my hubby in the room with me, my mother and mother in law waited in the waiting room!
With Covid still around your husband is all thatās aloud in the room. 1 person only.
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Be stubborn about your choice, she can wait in the waiting room or come afterwards.
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Be completely honest and confident with your answer. Say she can be in the waiting room and meet the little one when they arrive. But you want your mom because A. She gave birth to you and is your mom. Your sister because of whichever reason and him because well obvious reasons.
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Itās your body, maybe you should.only have your mom.and sister
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Itās for your comfort and only yours not his!
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You get to choose who sees your vagina. End of story lol.
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I mean if your mom is going to be in the room I feel like itās only fair if his mom gets to be in the room to. But of course itās your choice itās just only fair.
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Thatās YOUR decision sheāll get over it! Itās not his vagina itās yours. Thatās not your mother big difference. He will get over it too! He should respect your privacy and decisions
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Stand your ground!!! Hell no would I have wanted mine in. Ask him would he be comfortable squeezing a baby out the end of his bits infront of your mother. X
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I would be honest and explain that you need to feel totally comfortable at birth and all chance of modesty is out the window not to offend but your lady family is what you need.
Despite the fact itās your body and your comfort level. I can see why heās mad. You have two of your personal family members in there. Itās his moms grandkid too. This is a special day for her just as much as your mom. And he probably feels like he has no say or his own support. He may not be the one pushing that baby out but he is the father and has plenty of stress of his own. He needs support too. You could just have your sister in there and both moms wait outside until baby is born.
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I guess sheāll see the baby when itās born, no need to stare at your holes. You are a human being and they need to show respect and privacy.
P. S Was she present in room while the baby was made? just asking
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This isnāt about her, itās about you and your baby and if youāre uncomfortable having her there then donāt. Ask your husband how he would feel if your father came to his prostate check?
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I only let my hubby in the room 
And itās your decision anywaysānot his.
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Since when can you have 3 people I just had a baby and could only have one person they had to get a bracelet and wasnāt allowed any other visitors so I had to do it alone?? What state is this in ?
Tell your husband to go F himself. Labor is no easy task, it should be your way.
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The same situation happened to meā¦ I just told everyone that I only wanted my husband there, and if I was going to have anyone else in the room, it would be my own mom.
I let mine in for my first born and it was so freaking stressful it ruined it for anyone to come in other then my husband now.
Not his vagina not his choice.
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You are the patient. Your comfort is what matters.
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I had my mom and husband in the room thats all I wanted. I didnāt need his mom in there. I had who I needed/wanted in there with me.
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I didnāt allow anyone except the babyās father
Its YOUR choice
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Considering hospital rules are different now due to covid youāll probably only be allowed to have your husband in there anyways. Should probably look into that first before getting into a fight that is irrelevant anyways at the moment.
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Tell him as soon as he lays on a table naked and presents his junk to your family, then he can make a decision! But in all honesty, I completely understand your side and you need to do whatās best for you and the child in that moment. Your emotions reflect on the child and you want to be comfortable.
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Your vagina, your choice
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Have the nurse be the bad guy. Thatās what I did. Speak to your nurse separately and tell her who you want and donāt want in the room and she will make it happen
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Tell the nurses when you get there you donāt want her. They can make up some kind of excuse to have her leave, and stay out.
Are they letting more than one person in?
They hospital probably wonāt allow anyone in but your husband, but to be on the safe side, speak in confidence with your doctor. Iām certain he or she will take care of the problem. Also tell the doctor to not let even your husband know that youāve spoken to him/her about this. It will then happen your way. Good luck with your new baby!
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You are supposed to be calm and relaxed as possible not tense and awkward. Tell him you donāt want that day to be remembered like that and if he forces this on you that is probably all you will remember!
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Omg no. I would not be comfortable with that either. My mom was in there but not my mother in law. My in-laws were really good and waited til we got home cause they knew weād be overwhelmed with visitors already. I was kind of pissed about it at first but after baby was born I was so glad to not have more people showing up
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Tell him that she would have to take his place and see what he says. You deserve a family member for support as you are giving birth.
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Do what makes you the most comfortable!! The day you give birth to your baby you want nothing but support, love, and good vibes!
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Tell him when heās the one giving birth he can decide who gets to be in the room. With covid itās unlikely anyway.
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Stand firm. Unless heās the one giving birth you decide your support team.
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Youāre the one in labor you decide. You need to be as comfortable as possible If youre not comfortable then tell the nurses.
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That might change by the time you deliver, many places only allow 1 person and it has to be the same person
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Ask him if he would be comfortable with you father & mother watch him piss out kidneys stone, & then timesxx it by 100ā:joy: he will get over it.
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You might not have to do anything. Covid might take care of that for you
It is absolutely your decision!
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Tell him the only people allowed in that room have already seen your birthday suit
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You might wanna double check my daughter just gave birth and bc if Covid she was allowed only one and that person couldnāt leave the whole stay
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Do what is comfortable for you!!! You are going to be the one in pain and have to deliver this baby! And trust me, your L&D nurse will be more then happy to be the bad guy for you and kick out any uninvited people (my nurse made sure to tell me she was more then willing to do that)! Also just be prepared that things could change in 2 months time with Covid and you could only be allowed to have one support with you
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Tell him to shut up and sit down. Its your choice, your support team. Who is gonna be there making you comfortable and relaxed. Tell him when he is the one pushing a human out his privates then he can decide who is in there until then shut the fuck up or tell him he aint gonna be in the room either. Bet that will shut his ass up real quick
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I had a similar situation and almost decided not to have my mom in the room because of it but at the last second told my boyfriend to get my mom, itās your choice I donāt have a good relationship with my boyfriends mom so why put yourself through that? At the end of the day itās about you and you feeling comfortable bringing a new life into the world!
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Tell him that. Dont bullshit it. I agree itās your decision but Imma be honest with you once you start pushing youre not gonna care whos there youre just going to want the baby out.
Iām due in 3 weeks and you canāt even have her in the room in most places anyway so
Wouldnāt even give it a second thought. You can only have 1 support person in the room.
Why not just have your husband only? Thatās what I would do. 
it should be a special time for the two of you, not everyone else. Just my opinion.
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Itās up to you! Or you could always have her there and tell her to stand at the head if the bed only lol. Had a party in my room during birth and all the guys stood at the head is the bed so they didnāt see anything going on lol
I say if you having your mother there why cant he? Isnāt it his child too? Or is your family only the important people? Why canāt he have someone as important to him there in this special moment? I think if 3 people are allowed its more intended to not have this issue of having to choose which grandma is allowed so it could be equally fair. I donāt think they came up with that number for sisters and aunts to be in there unless thats all you have.
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only have your husband in there during delivery are they really letting someone other than your husband in with COVID? Here one 1 person is allowed at the hospital at all, no waiting unless you are in the parking lot.
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Blame it on the virus.
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Tell your hubby to get over it!
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Your choice. You have to be comfortable.
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Its COVID TAKING OVER YOUR ONLY ALOUD 1 PERSON IN THE DELIVERY ROOM AN THAT 1 PERSON HAS TO STAY WITH YOU WHILE YOUR IN THE HOSPITAL IF THEY LEAVE THEY CAN NOT COME BACK
Why have anyone but your husband. It is a very intimate special moment. Solve the problem , donāt ask anyone in.
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