You’re giving birth! You say who you want. End of story!
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I’m gonna be devil’s advocate here and maybe it’s just me. If he really wanted his mother there I would’ve let her be there. Think if it as you get one person and he gets one person. Yes we as woman go through so much during birth but it’s not like he has a choice to give birth himself lol it’s also his baby. Just do what’s best for you in the end, just wanted to share my thoughts. You are also very lucky you get to have 3 people with you! 
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I am shocked that you actually have the option to have other people other than the baby’s father in the delivery room. In the times of COVID, I would think most hospitals have limits on these sorts of things.
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Simply invite your mom to stare at his balls and butthole while you’re labor. If he is not comfortable with that; his mom waits at home.
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In laws do not belong in the delivery room. They need to know their place.
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But one support person with new Covid rules. I’m due soon
Don’t know where you are giving birth. Here in New Mexico it’s only one person beside the mother and if they leave they can’t come back.
Ask your husband if he wants to strip from the waist down and put his legs in stirrups and have you dad there to over see his colonoscopy
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um. when he delivers he can decide who is in the room. you need to have the people YOU look to for support in the room with you. period. he can disagree all he wants, MIL can be butt hurt… too bad.
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Have you asked I didn’t think they were allowing that many people in there since Covid ??? When I gave birth not to long ago they only allowed one person !!!
Tell him if he lays naked on a table and does a bowel movement in front of your mom, you will let his mom watch you 
I only had my partner at both of my births and it was great
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I personally would be super uncomfortable and I am comfortable with my mil, maybe just state that your mother n sister have seen u naked and have supported u through life and know what to do to support u maybe say it’s not so much that u don’t want her in there it’s your embarrassed to have yourself exposed to her in those ways you want her bond to be stronger then ever with bub and that will always be but she won’t be in the room…or mayb you and him could share the experience alone just u two if that seems to ease the situation…
If you aren’t comfortable don’t do it. I had to do this very thing and it was horrid and I cringe everytime I think about it and its been 13 yrs. So awkward and uncomfortable.
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Yall crackin me up…
Yall hollering “HER body, HER baby”…well, its HIS baby too…come on now.
If thats how yall feel, you shouldnt be screaming “HIS baby” when he aint got that child support up to date if he ever leaves you.
Regardless of your feelings for his mother…she is HIS mother, and that is her grandchild as much as it is your mothers grandchild.
Man!!..I am so thankful I have a wonderful, loving, kind daughter in law…
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Your body, your choice! My daughter had her bub last week. She was only allowed one other person besides her husband as a support person. I was lucky enough to be with them, until she had to be rushed off for an emergency c-section, so I missed out on seeing my granddaughter born. I waited anxiously outside but excited to be allowed to see them both a couple of hours later. Only one visitor allowed at a time in the room due to covid restrictions.
I went through the same sitiation with my 'now ex… At the end of the day, If he doesn’t understand how your feeling - You either need to give in or stand up!
I wasn’t comfortable around my ex mother in law, So I put my foot down! I flat out said NO and told him to leave if he can’t let it go. He couldn’t let it go and decided to get real mean in the process of trying to get everything HIS way. So I kicked him out!
Everything is a compromise - Except Labour! You need to be as comfortable and as level headed as possible while getting that baby out. Stick to your guns! x
Is she going and life with her mother-in-law or her husband this is y relationship never work for long life your own life lef your parent them they’ll get to look after the kids later
As a mother of sons I would HOPE my future DIL would feel comfortable BUT I will never even ASK
If offered I will run there , but as a WOMAN that is literally the most scary vulnerable time in your life it has to be 100% YOUR CHOICE
I get why she wants to , its her grandchild , but its not her coochie if she really wants to help she can meal prep or go to your house and do a light cleanup
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100% your choice, deliveryis no easy task! Before you make a decision though…peak into your future 
if your having a boy, you’ll be 
that your daughter in law includes in the birth. If you don’t feel comfortable with her presence while giving birth, choose others ways to include her. Imagine your husband refusing your Moms presence because he’s uncomfortable!?! It IS her grandchild after all 
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I only had my husband in my delivery. 
I would ask though. May end up just you and dad. Not many hospitals letting people in and out.
Hell no! You and dad only!!! You 2 were the only ones there when making the baby, you should be the only ones there when baby arrives. They can all wait in the waiting room.
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My husband did that. I told him no and he said he wouldnt be in there then and i told him that she could wait in the waiting room or id tell the hospital to not let her around at all…she waited in the waiting room and he was in there with me. I wouldnt have minded her being in there if i wasnt gunna be exsposed. Your body and if you dont want someone seeing it then thats YOUR choice and nobody elses. Idc if its her grandchild or not.
If he doesn’t want to respect the fact that you feel uncomfortable around his mom then I say fuck em both, just have your sister and mom with you 
men only think about shit one way, ask him if he’d be comfortable naked in front of your mother
These comments are hilarious
I had a bunch of people for my birth and it was the worst mistake of my life. Everyone was fighting and forgot about me and most importantly the child about to be born!!! I’d suggest just you and your husband. And if you really want your mom and sister there and not your MIL then be firm. You’re the one giving birth. It’s your body, your choice.
Stand your ground. It’s your vagina that she will be staring at.
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You came out of your moms lady bits, not his moms!! She can be first in line when baby’s out but no, WAY too personal, ESPECIALLY if the mom to be is already uncomfortable and is being hounded into this. I smell resentment brewing
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Say no and stick to that boundary.
Your choice.
Sure he wouldn’t feel comfortable being naked and possibly pooping and giving birth in front of your mom or dad.
These people saying he has a say too aren’t necessarily wrong but I definitely don’t think that you have MORE of a say than he does.
Wow I really am shocked how many women are saying its her birth. Its all their birth. I’m not trying to be mean but just because he doesn’t give birth doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have a say. If you can’t agree/compromise maybe it should just be you two. Ladies think about how you would feel if your son didn’t involve you. How hurt and left out would you be/feel? Your all family once you have a baby. It takes a village. Just think if you push her away to much, do you really think she should do anything or “be” there in the future?
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Maybe it will help you bond with your mother in law
With covid going on I don’t think you have to worry about this argument because I heard hospitals are not allowing more than 1 person in with delivering mom. Ask and find out then you will know if you need to tell him… when he pushed a watermelon sized little person out his penis he can decide who gets to see it. Until then you get to choose who sees your vagina. Seriously some people are so selfish yes it’s his baby too but did he even consider how uncomfortable you would be with his mom seeing all your lady parts!!! Would he be confortable with your mom seeing him is all his naked glory spread eagle with his knees to his chest??? My inlaws visited before the delivery but when it was time to get down to business they waited in the waiting room.
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You are giving birth…YOU decide who will be in the room. MIL should show some class and back off.
Its your choice… if you don’t feel comfortable with her in the room than she should not be in there…
Your body, your choice. PERIOD.
Its your body, not his and not hers, you need to feel comfortable during the experience, your mother in law can stay in the waiting room and visit once bub is born, though I think it is important that your comfortable as you are the ONLY person in the room giving birth and having every part of yourself exposed, you will be extremely vulnerable, so if you struggle with your mother in law without giving birth and being completely naked, then you will 100% be uncomfortable with her there whilst giving birth, your husband doesn’t get a say in this one, because its not his body!!! He has to accept the fact that this is you delivering yours and his child into the world, not a show for the world to see, you want your loved ones by your side
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And if he don’t like it he can leave too 
I’d say keep it up and you won’t be in there either
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Its your delivery hun, if you want 0 people in the room, that’s up to you. Tell him when HE is willing to lay on the bed next to you spread eagle, and take a massive shit in front of everyone, then he can weigh in.
I had only my husband in the room, no grandparents or aunts or uncles (to the newborn)
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Most hospitals are only allowing 1 visitor at a time??
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Tell him that when he gives birth he gets to choose, otherwise, butt out
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Sorry, but you need to be comfortable. Not sure why you need your sister there too though? Surely your husband and your mum are enough.
I have a great MIL but I wouldn’t have wanted her in the delivery room, but then my mum wasn’t there either, just my husband and that was perfect.
Where does she live that 3 people can be in the room with her? In Michigan they arent even letting the daddy in during delivery I believe.
I have never allowed my in laws in any of the delivery rooms, hell I didn’t even want them at the hospital, my 3rd and 4th I refused all visitors and no one could visit until we were settled at home
My daughter only wanted her husband but she started delivering while her MIL & I were both in the room still. We both ran toward the door behind the curtain and got trapped there due to personnel coming & going through doorway so rapidly. Daughter ended up being ok with us being in room just not bedside and as soon as dr said ‘grandma’s , come look at your new grandson’ , we left them for their bonding time. It turned out perfect. You & your husband need to agree - you’ll never get this time back. Best wishes❤️
It’s your baby. Your birth. Your decision.
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In Connecticut u couldn’t have anyone at your appts not even your partner and if u were in labor they made u go in alone first to confirm and then only your partner was allowed with u. My family missed it all but I did video chat them right after.
I was present with both of my daughter’s when they have birth. Even cut the cords. But I never expected to be in the room when my daughter-in-law gave birth. I was overjoyed when her Mother handed me those babies after she was in recovery. Your body, your delivery, your choice. Don’t let anyone bully you into having her there if you don’t want to.
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Definitely wouldn’t want my mother in law seeing my vagina
When your husband is about to give birth and have his vagina exposed to a bunch of people, he can choose who to have in the room.
Since this is your vagina we are talking about, and you that will be birthing a fully formed human being, you get to say.
Sorry, hubs. Thems the rules.
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Tell him that when he can lay on a table naked in front of your mother, and produce a bowel movement with multiple other strangers in the room, she can be in there. Until then. Your vagina your rules. tell him to suck it up or he doesn’t need to be there either if he isn’t going to be supportive.
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Your choice, and dont let any body pressure you into anything your not comfy with.
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Oh helllll no. You are the one pushing a baby out of your vagina therefore you get the final say. You being comfortable is the priority. Do what you are comfortable with and don’t feel bad for standing your ground.
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You could always nix the mom and sister being in there and let it be a special moment between you and the father only… then nobody gets their feelings hurt.
You have every right to feel uncomfortable or comfortable with anyone you choose or choose not to have in the room. Why does she need to be there when the child comes out? Why cant she just wait outside the room and give you privacy that YOU DESERVE…at first I was going to have just my fiance in there. My mom kind of expected she would be in there and I didnt really feel I wanted that. But then when it was happening I asked her to because she’s MY mom and I realized me and my fiance both needed her support which we were grateful to have. But his grandmother and father stayed home until we called and asked them to come as well as my father. The last thing you need is extra anxiety and an unwanted audience. I’m sorry your husband doesnt understand how it makes you feel. Another lady commented “tell your husband would you like it of my dad came to your colonoscopy?” That’s dead on. And he should be supportive about it because technically you dont even have to have him in there himself if hes going to make you uncomfortable.
Tell the midwife not to allow her in if none of them will listen. I had a 14 hour labour…told my hubby to go to our room and watch the cricket, until it was time. It’s your body, do what you think is comfortable.
Stick to what u want you need to be comfortable when he’s the one giving birth ha can decide who’s in the room !
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Honestly I get why he’s upset because you’re showing your mom an sister BUT it is ultimately your choice who u do and don’t feel comfortable 
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My ex MIL and FIL were so pissy that I didn’t want them in the room that they decided not to come at all. Lol. Screw them and him too tbh. Id go so far as to tell him if he doesn’t stop it, he wouldnt be in there either
I thank God my daughter-in-Law allowed me to be there. Imagine you giving birth to a little boy that’s madly in love with you. You have a great relationship with him and then you cannot be in the room when his child your grandchild is born? Do onto others as you’d have done to you.
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Um… just tell them no. Period. If they’re little feelings get hurt, then they have some seriously unhealthy boundary issues. It is NOT ok and so unhealthy to be like that. Stand up for yourself. YOU are the one giving birth.
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In my experience I wanted my sister (i had a feeling she would never get to experience giving birth) and my mom (because i felt it would mean a lot to her and my sister wouldn’t have that experience for my mom to be there) and my partner. It was a conflict between me and my partner, then he wanted his sister and mom there and then the comment that his family would feel a certain way about my decision haunted me my whole pregnancy and when it came time I felt I had no other choice but to have just my partner to not hurt anyone’s feelings. I will regret that decision for the rest of my life because my mom died 2 weeks after my daughter was born and I didn’t include her and now my sister will never be able to have children. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER GET THAT MOMENT BACK! 
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Tell him to take a shit naked in front of your mom it’s only fair
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Grandparents don’t have any rights. The only people who have rights are mom and dad, and in this case, you are the one with the say. I chose my husband, dad, and bestfriend, and my husband never complained about it- thankfully he just rolled with it. But I ended up having a c section anyways so only he could be in there in the end. But I’m honestly surprised they are allowing anyone besides your husband in the room due to covid.
If your not comfortable with it then absolutely not and he needs to respect that boundary. Plain and simple. Your the one in pain and going through and doing the work.
One bright side to covid. No one is aloud in the room except the parents. And it doesn’t look like covid will be gone in 2 months.
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I wouldn’t want anyone out of my in room during that. That’s YOUR body showing. She will be just fine outside the door. Having your own mother there is completely different than his mom.
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It’s covid . I doubt they will allow it
Your Mother in law should not be left out
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He isn’t the one giving birth so it isn’t his call
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I never have felt comfortable with my mother in law either. She wanted to be in the room when my son was born but I didn’t want her there. So she wasn’t in the room.
You make the rules mama!
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Compromise in a way, maybe not have your sister. So your momma is still there and she’s a grandparent (his terms). Sit down and talk with him about why you don’t want his mom there.
Your husband needs to understand this isn’t about who’s mum is in the room, this is about you having the best support around you when you go through one of the most challenging and life changing experiences of your life. Especially because this is your first child you need to be able to feel that everyone in there is in someway contributing to helping you bring your beautiful child into this world. And I know from first hand experience you really need some strong women (and I say women because it’s an experience only a woman can truly understand) with you who will still love you and maybe love you more after everything.
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I mean if it’s an uncomfortable situation around her don’t have her there. It could lead to a lot of stress that’s not needed. A lot of people saying oh he needs his support in there, have you ever thought maybe she and his mom don’t have a good relationship? I wouldn’t have my mil in there with me
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Yeah no do u really want her to see ur privates
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Oh hell no honey… I’m all about compromise but until it’s him spread eagle pushing another body out of his… You do what you’re comfortable with.
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He isn’t giving birth. I know that’s the unpopular opinion maybe. But you need your full support system
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With Covid this may be a non issue. They are only allowing one person with to soon to be mom. Usually their husband. So mom sister and mother in law probably aren’t going to be allowed in anyways. Situation solved!
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When he pushes a baby out he can have who ever he wants otherwise he has no say
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This is YOUR day! You do what is best for you! What is best for you will keep your stress down, which in turn is best for the baby.
Your body and your choice. And yours ALONE.
Although some seem to suggest he does have a right and a say. He actually doesnt. My hospital even told my partner this, and let him know that regardless of who he is to the baby. Baby and i were the patients not him so he had no say.
YOU are the patient not him.
He can help make joint parent choices for everything Except that. Birthing is not a joint choice, how you do it and who you have with you is 100% your decision alone, and he has to respect that. He isnt pregnant, he isnt going through a massive body change and he deffinately isnt pushing it out. He may be a parent. But hes not the PATIENT.
No, you are the one on display through that process. You are the one that needs to be comfortable. You are the one giving birth. You are the one that needs as little stress as possible. You are the one who decides what you need. Period.
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The way I explained it was would he want to be spread eagle for my mother?? His answer was no. So I said I wasn’t comfortable with anyone but him, and my mother.
He respected what I wanted when it came to that. My birth, my choice.
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Personally, I only have my husband in the delivery room with me. To me, it’s something for just the two of you to experience and come together/support one another. Grandparents can come a few hours later to visit. But even then, most hospitals aren’t allowing any visitors at all currently so I would double check their current regulations.
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3 seems like way too much in any case, let alone a pandemic. I am questioning that hospitals policies.
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You’re giving birth it’s your choice who you want there 
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Tell him you dont want to be so naked in front of his mother ask him if he would like to lay on his back and let your mother look at all his junk. Answer is probably no. Enough said. Your gunna be completely naked down there and Idk why he would think its ok for him to control who sees your vag!!! Nothing wrong with not wanting ur mil to see ur cooch all up close and personal.
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Gosh, some of these comments are so awful. He has a right to want his mother in the room just as she has a right to want her mother in the room. I would hate to have some of y’all selfish people as a daughter in law. I’m surprised with COVID you have the option to have more than 1-2 support people.
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Just gave birth 2 days ago. Was only allowed my spouse. Maybe you’ll get lucky and it’ll solve that problem. Lol wish my mom could’ve been there tho. Sending good vibes
Also…send your husband to therapy because he sounds like a manbaby
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Truthfully, stand your ground x
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Her vagina she can let whoever she wants in ,when he has to push a baby out of HIS vagina he can make the decision
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Absolutely not. It should be whoever you are comfortable with. Let him push a baby out, then he can choose who can be in the room.
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Should definitely only be you and your s/o… because THIS will arise…
I love my mother in law shes a great person and a great nana to my kids but i wouldnt want her to watch me push a baby out. I wouldnt want to be but naked in front of her. Just no😳
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Girl I had my MIL removed she didn’t like me for one kept talking about my husband’s ex wife so I had her removed by security because she was there for her first grandkid so she was qunna be there for the second but no thank you my body my choice end of story she ain’t seeing my vagina or butt or titties naked nope nope tell him men don’t get it
Boundaries are important!
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Best advice I’ve ever heard about this issue is to ask him to strip, lay spread eagle i think its called and ask him to poop like that in front of ur parent or mom…if he does that, then ur mother in law can be in the room
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You are pushing the baby out. Your body your decision. I wouldn’t want my Morjer in law looking at my vaginia.
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With Covid around the world you are only allowed one person in the room during delivery.
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