Do not let this go. You are not wrong
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Was he married when you meet him? If so you should have known better. JS
Well your first mistake was to not throw away all the naked pictures of his exesš¤
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I would be pissed hes keeping pictures thatās a deal breaker for me thatās so disrespectful.
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I would have took a hammer to those flashdrives
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Oh hell no!! That would not fly with me!
Heās cheating or hiding something. On top of that, heās gaslighting you. I wouldnāt have stayed with him.
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Hell no! Wtf else is he hiding. Makes me think of criminal minds with hiding things away from the house. I wouldnāt be with someone that feels they need to hide things from me.
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big time!
Time to investigate what he has in hiding.
If he can not be upfront and honest. Then itās time for you to rethink your marriage
Zero tolerance policy.
Ridiculous that heād actually have to hide stuff at a secret location away from the house. What could he possibly have? Iād need to know or it would be over for me.
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Bless you, its hurtful to you he shouldnāt be hiding stuff from you xx
Iāve been hurt enough that I donāt take a lot of nonsense. What youāre taking is above and beyond. Iād rethink the marriage.
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He may have a whole other āsecretā lifeš¤Æ
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I mean he has a right to his secrets, he doesnāt have the right to create harmful secrets though like a creepy stash of his exās nudes. It sounds like a predators trophy collection. Iām not calling him a predator, thatās just what it sounds like lmao. He really needs to let the exās go. Unless thereās kids he donāt need the pics, and even if thereās kids he definitely doesnāt need the nudes.
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Yeah right. As soon as he expressed wanting to keep them I wouldāve ran. Thatās a weirdo.
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and by hiding it isnāt that an admission that he knows what heās doing is wrong and harmful? I think so. He honestly sounds like a toxic ass. I canāt imagine any part of his personality or body being worth this.
Leave!!! Run away as fast and as far as you can!!!
This man does not respect you or your feelings which are legit. Give him an altermatum and be ready to act on it if he refuses. Life is way too short to live like that
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Awe hell no girl. 
Not ok
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Get some naked pics of men and see of he likes it!
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Me and my husband donāt hide things from each other and it should be like that. I want to be able to trust my husband and not think heās hiding something from me.
Leave. If he was a true blue man, there would be no secrets. Because he would be able to tell and show everything to you.
If he still has the pictures, they are in the present not the past.
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You are totally right to be upset! Wow! Marriage built on secrets is not a marriageā¦ Iām so sorry youāre going through this 
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The nudes are the problem. I never asked my wife to remove her ex husbandās photos from fb. It was a different time and Iām confident in out relationship.
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Girl I wouldāve thrown it away and acted as if I had no idea what pics he was talking about 
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Wow itās ridiculous obviously he needs to pick be married and be faithful or move alongā¦if I were u Iād sayā¦screw u byeā¦fuck all that secret shit
Huge red flag, if its in the past then he shouldnāt mind deleting the photoās, especially if itās hurtful to you
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The fact that he moved them onto a flash drive ā¦ā¦ sketchy and weird as fuck
Have you seen Euphoria? Man has a whole ass secret life heās living. Sis give him an ultimatum and if he canāt agree then get out. Life is too short to be anything but happy!
&reply yeah me too. Thatāll have his head spinning for a while. He doesnāt respect you. Youāre first mistake was allowing him to keep those flash drives; itās not okā¦so no, I wouldnāt be surprised if he was hiding other things from you.
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Absoutely wrong if him
I think itās creepy that he keeps naked pictures of his exās after they breakup- to me itās an obvious āduhā to delete those types of pictures. His comment was stupid, but maybe he was joking, yet he seems just like a giant . Itās not right to keep pictures like that, itās just weird to me.
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Wow my husband would be soooo single with his ex porn stash pinned to his head
Your hubby is a creepin weirdo. The fact he kept naked photos of women who absolutely do not want him to have those photos is beyond disgusting.
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Is his brothers like this or especially his father? Maybe he fell off he apple tree.
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Uhhhhh. Hell to the no, thatās some shady shit
Call me old school but thatās not ok at all. Marriage is built on trust. Sorry you are going through this.
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Itās giving Cal from Euphoria
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Keeping naked photos of women who do not want anything to do with him is absolutely sickening.
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Wow. That comment he made would have me heated to the extreme. Secrets are bad and only cause problems.
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Get a picture of your ex , nudity all stretched out and occasionally take a peek at it WHEN YOU KNOW HEāS LOOKING AT YOUā¦ SMILE A WICKED LITTLE SMILEā¦AND GO TO BATHROOM LOCK THE DOORā¦LOLā¦
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I would be total pist
I wouldve walked out 2 seconds after he said heās keeping the naked pictures of his exes. Heās a disrespectful peice of trash . He has no right to look at the naked bodies of his exes or keep photos he was not given consent to keep by his exes.
Get pictures of naked men, say they are your previous boyfriends. You just like to look at them sometimes, brings back great memories
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He would be coming clean or moving in with his hidden secrets
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I would tell his exes he still has them so they can start telling him to delete them
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The fact that he feels the need to hide it tells you he knows he shouldnāt have it.
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I took those picture and kept them. If he has the balls to ask where they are, he can have them and F off 
I was respectful in the thought of not throwing them in the trash
How do you know those are past photos? Could be getting them regularly. Id tell him to ditch them or he needs to go!
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If you can support yourself Iād tell him to get lost
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Nope.he would be gone or those pics would be gone. And after comments like he made, I would be supervising everything.
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Your instincts are always right. Leave his ass.
Uh first of all, thatās illegal in some states. He has zero right to those nude pictures once out of the relationship unless he literally had permission to take and keep them as an expressed copy write. If any were taken without their knowledge, or kept after they had previously sent and told to delete heās committing a crime by holding the images hostage. You might even find heās blackmailing them with them. Iād anonymously report him to the local police.
Nope he is in the wrong. Time for a new husband
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That would break all my trust and I would file for divorce. Why spend the only life I have to live unhappy and worrying or anxious instead of leaving, recovering, and finding someone who doesnāt hide stuff from me?
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I swear the posters on this page are ridiculously lacking self esteem or just like being beaten down. Especially when I read they knew these things long before marriage. Good lord!!
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I would of said then get out and thatās why I donāt trust you.
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I have pictures of my exs and wont delete them because they are memories but never ever naked ones.
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He sounds like a cheater and a liar, be careful with him
He can delete and get rid of them or he can loose you. Donāt settle. Know your worth. He will continue to do this if you let him because he knows he can get away with it. He has no respect for you or any disregard for your feelings. So tell him he can either respect you and yāallās marriage or he can go and lose you altogether.
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First of all, it was a big deal even if the photos of them werenāt naked. Thatās joe vibes from YOU 
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My boyfriend has pictures of his baby momma. Some of the pictures has his daughter in them when she was just a baby. Which baby pictures doesnāt bother me because it has his daughter and some with his son in. The only pictures that probably bother me is pictures of her by her selfā¦ I had pictures of me and my best friend/ex boyfriend but I gotten rid of them. The only pictures I have now are the ones with my best friend/ex boyfriend that has my biological daughter in it. Which kinda makes me sad because my ex boyfriend was my best friend (I knew my ex since I was 8 and he was 14 but we didnāt hook up until I came back from Ohio in 2017) and he had just passed away September 10, 2021 due to alcohol poisoning. My biological daughter thought of him as her stepdad. I got rid of the pictures out of respect for my current boyfriend.
Trust is huge in marriage sounds like you guys are toxicā¦ not a good situation 
if I were you Iād have filed the day I found those pictures.
Aww prayers and hugs
You are married now. You are one. The past is behind you, no photos are necessary. Why hang on , grow together or get someone who will. No bullshit. Do you have similar photos of people in your past! Itās 100% married or see ya
Get rid of them yourself he does not need them
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Oh god been through this only gets worse especially when its friends and family
Who cares. Everyone has a past. Get over it. Itās not like they are hanging on the wall. If they are put away somewhere whatās the big deal, really?!
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I would keep pictures but not naked onesā¦ Memories and past is not something to throw away but naked pictures of Exes is not something you need to be keeping ā¦ THe only person you need to be looking at naked is the wifey ā¦ I would not ever be with someone who could not part with naked photos of X and at the same time I would not be with someone who expected me to delete my past ( Aside from Naked photos)
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I wouldnāt trust him at all,He needs to go,you canāt trust him at all.Girl you deserve better from your husband,It will never change.
Oh hell no!!! Heās gotta go!!
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I have a great understanding of human frailty. It doesnāt matter if he has a flash drive, photos or whatever . He has a past he has memories, Just like everyone does. If you have enough confidence in yourself and enough trust and faith in your relationship, why let it bother you? If the case is, this situation is making your relationship unhappy and untrustworthy, Iām sure you both realize the door to new adventures is always open? Life is to short to be miserable. Itās your choice how you want to live it. Good luck.
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Me I would just hide the flash drive were he donāt find it in the house seal it very very good in a box tap it with other things to that room put that box in attic or store spot when or if he ask about it oopppssss you were cleaning that room out and it got thrown in this box if he doesnāt ask about it then in a year from now oopppsss things go missing if he ask about it then I would be definitely asking questions about that and your marriage to me itās throwing a test back into him
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About the pics there maybe a reson why and there is nothing wrong about the pics at all and its not weird ethere
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I personally got rid of my husbandās stash. He never mentioned it. For 30+ years
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I was expecting you to say, you found the naked ex thumb drives in your sonās room.
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Lolā¦your either secure in your love or your not. Its pictures. Hell I still have prom pictures of my old boyfriend from 20 years ago. Iām on my second marriage and so is he. Just because i have them doesnāt mean i want the man in the pictures. They are memories. Some of the pictures are happy memories, and some remind me of how far I have come. They are my past which is a part of who I am today. At the end of the day though he comes home to you and gets in your bed. As far of as the naked picture goesā¦he probably uses it for porn. Whatās the difference if he uses someone he knows to get off or a stranger in a magazine or on porn hubā¦
ā¦all men do it privately. As long as he is taking care of you seriously what is the problem with pictures. And I bet you would pissed if mementos from your past that mean something to you went āmissingā but didnāt mean anything to your husband. Shoot Iām happily married but when certain actors get on the TV I have no problems saying out loud to my husband damn he looks good. And when my kids want to watch aqua man for the second or third timeā¦I dont mind the eye candy in that eitherā¦
What the hell is wrong with people 
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No thatās weird, he should not have nudes from someone he dated 5+ years ago. Thatās his past and thatās where it stays. Heās married with a family he doesnāt need to reminisce on past relationships!??
And the fact that he thinks itās okay to hide things from you and has a place to hide things is red flag X10.
Ask literally any woman in your life. Or hell, even a man, and I guarantee they wonāt tell you itās okay because itās not!
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Not ok, if heās not willing to discuss it with you like a loving husband should, then you might want to think about why youāre still with him. If you guys can work it out then thatās wonderful, but if you canāt, then thatās on him. Besides who knows what else heās hiding??? I personally would have to reconsider my relationship with someone who was hiding things from me. About the weed, your son should be fine, just talk to him. Heās probably hiding it bc he thinks youāll be mad. The more you talk to your son the better! Hope this helps!
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I donāt know you or your husband but if he really loves you and cares about how they make you feel and he knows how they make you feel he should do the right thing and if he wonāt maybe you should rethink your position in the relationship because Iām almost sure if the shoe was on the other foot he would feel the same way.
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for one itās creepy asf that he would keep pictures of his exes, even more creepy ab the nudes. you shouldāve gotten rid of him THEN when you found that out. for two if heās still hiding things & going as far as hiding them outside of your home thatās a major red flag & i wouldnāt stick around for that, sorry not sorry.
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He would get them gone or Iād be gone thatās definitely not ok
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Hiding his other family outside the house. They canāt all fit in there together. Plus it would just be awkward. Imagine.
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Just him saying that would piss me right off make me feel like he is hiding somthing from me and make me feel like shit , you need to find out if he was joking or actually has some shit hiding from you and if soā¦why? ā¦
Way to make a girl paranoid
U need to open your eyes.
He gave it away when he asked the question about your sonās roome and told you he hides his secrets outside of the house. Bad news there.
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If itās in his past ,then tell him āOK since it is in your past and it doesnāt matter, Iāll throw them away, that way they will stay forever in the past, why hold on to them?ā
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No ok at all no matter how long i was with someone thats the first thing to go is stuff like that 
kinda creepy he still keeps and hides them knowing it hurts you 
my Papa use to always tell me a man that truly loves you and wants to build a life with you will never do something that might cause them to lose you and a man will only do to you what you allow! Tell him the pictures or you cause at the end of the day you deserve to be treated better then he is treating you just my opinion
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Ew wtf leave his gross ass
Heās being an a$$.
Were not talking regular old photos. Even regular old photos can still be painful for you. And it should be open for discussion on what to do with them since it affects you.
But naked ones? Noooooo. Out in the trash they go.
And then straight out saying heās hiding secrets outside of the house. Does he not want you to trust him? Because heās handing you reasons to be mad and not trust him.
when you find āthe oneā and decide this is the person you want to spend your life with, then all others should fade and are not memories you need to keep.
Thatās definitely weirdā¦ 
Looks like he has hidden all the sexy porn videos with his exās.
Fuck that guy. Your second life begins after divorce.
You are absolutely right to be upset. Time to lay down the law, either this bullshit stops immediately or itās over. Without trust a relationship canāt survive and heās already proved you cannot trust him, heās admitted to keeping secrets and hiding things from you. If he truly cares for you and the survival of your relationship he would get rid of those pictures and stop hiding things from you. Hate to tell you this Hon, but I have my doubts this marriage will survive because it really sounds like he has no desire or intentions of changing. Run while you can Sweety.
And have you seen the show, YOU?. Im sorry but that is not OK.
U shouldāve already divorced when u first found those photos thats a big sign that he doesnāt want to let go and ur just there to satisfy him on heās needs not really for love if it was he would have trashed those b4 u came along.
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I would not trust him as far as I could throw him.
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