Idk… id rather my husband be honest… but with it being an insecurity I can see where it upset you… maybe next time tell him to be a little more sensitive when it comes to weight comments.
Marriage is for better or worse! You think any of us want our bodies to be destroyed for children?! We don’t. I always say they don’t have to carry and birth children so if anyone has the right to be chubby it is us! If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it at all! There is being honest then their is being cruel. You didn’t choose this body your chose to have and raise his children. So he better love you at every stage! Young and tight, pregnancy and post pregnancy body, and old saggy and wrinkly when you are older that is love, it is more than your physical looks! He better appreciate you at every weight because you have given him legacy, his children. We need to normalize women’s bodies and what we have to go through too bring life into this world! Stop shaming and support!
It’s. Not. His. Place. To. Tell. You. How. You. Should. Feel.
He hurt your feeling and he needs to acknowledge it. Not tell you that you’re overreacting.
What he said is horrible! Your body gave him his children and he should love it. If you want to lose the baby weight then be should support you not put you down. I’m sure he is not perfect. He is hurting your mental health. If it continues then you will be living in a toxic house hold and that is not right for your kids.
No you’re not overreacting. He definitely could have said it nicer, like bae I don’t really like that shirt, and picked out a shirt that he thinks would have been nicer looking on u
While honesty is always appreciated in my opinion, there are gentler ways to say such things. He could’ve been a little more sensitive about it.
I understand your tears. His comments were hurtful and abusive. Those of us who are overweight, know it without having it pointed out. He needs to support and encourage your efforts toward weight loss, and if he doesn’t, find a friend or a group, who can be your cheerleader. You got this sister!!!
I am pretty sure he’s not the same either. I would be hurt if my man told me this. But he should be supportive and helpful and understand u just had two babies back to back. I would’ve told him something back to make him feel like shit too.
When I tell you I would have cried too then went completly off on his rude ass!!! Thats so mean for anyone to say let alone the man thats suppose to love you threw all of lifes journeys. If your weight bothered him he could have went about it the right way and not being a pure dick. Your beautiful and he should have told you just that. After having my twins Ive never managed to get back down to where I was and it kills me. My husband has never said anything like that to me. Even when I put on a skin tight roll sqeezing shirt, he says I’m beautiful and thats that. He needs to apoligize and stop making you feel like its no big deal you had the right to feel how you did and get emotional over it.
Hey Ladies there is a right way and a wrong way to tell someone something like that . Honesty is one thing . Being hurtful is another . Having babies is hard on the body you gain weight and you loose weight . Not everyone can loose the weight easy or the same . I never did loose all my weight after my second baby. . Men should try having a baby .then try and loose the weight and some men are very heartless .Don’t care what they say . They say they are only joking or you take it to serious or you are over reacting. But say something to him about his weight or something they did . They pout and pout some more
No you are not overreacting. He was being a dick. You’re trying to lose weight and he should be supportive and encouraging. Fat shaming is neither of those.
I’m sorry but the way I feel if your happy with how you look don’t change for anybody if not do it for you not because somebody says it let alone your husband cause at the end of the day married or not you need to take care of you and what ever makes you happy
Wait until he get ED , or maybe he has early stages now thinking you are why he can’t preform the way he use to. Honey it’s not your weight , he has other problems. Address them with him.
Honestly I appreciate when my hubby tells me i look fat in something or that my outfit is unflattering
Cry about it …
Then Use it as motivation!!
Repeat his voice in your head when your exercising and GO HARD ! Have the “I’ll show him who’s fat” attitude lol
Sometimes men are very blunt about things they can’t help themselves …
It hurts to hear that type of stuff but Try not to take it to the heart especially if your working on it 
Just hopefully he doesn’t talk to you like that on a regular basis
It clearly hurt your feelings. I wouldnt get mad at my man but id tell him hey the way you said it made me fell hurt and insecure. Maybe i misunderstood your intention when you said “insert statement” were you intending to be cruel and insensitive? No? Okay im glad we had this clarifying conversation. Next time could you tell me that but in nicer words? Lol
I don’t believe you are overreacting to your feelings to the comment. His tact needs to be addressed as this affects your feelings and ultimately the quality of the marriage. On the weight front, you loose the weight for you. It feels better that way.
Yes it hurt,but they just want whats the best for us dear, of course he only wants you to look much better. We are the same my husband is as honest to me as much that sometimes i told him his so insensitive but he answers back, do you want me to tell you your ok even if you’re not?? And he makes a point. He is my best friend not just romantically so he saves me from a lot of embarrassment publicly. So i just told him to be nice when saying things instead. With proper communication everything can be fixed.
He should have just said, “Hon, I don’t like that top. Let’s go shopping tomorrow and I’ll help you pick out something I do like.” No need to be so insulting.
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Same boat mama exact same (135 pre preggo, pre KETO 242 and I’m 5’3 current weight 201) however my husband has never spoken to me that way… what I did find out though through my struggles… I have hypothyroidism, hashimotos, and I am insulin resistant (meaning pre,diabetic) KETO works!! I’m 40lbs down in 3 months feel so much better. It is HARD but it works. For me with my health coniditons… KETO is the best diet I can be on with the most effective results I’ve seen yet. I’ve got 4 kids and NEVER been able to be a couch potato… lots of water no sugar no more than 30 carbs a day weight is melting away.
YOU ARE NOT WRONG FOR FEELING THIS WAY! You should definitely tell him how you feel. & if he isn’t sorry you need a new husband. I am the same way after having my son. I am soooo self conscious & often get very depressed with how I look. & I have had those same comments made to me. While I am trying to lose the weight I also try so hard to be body positive. I wear the shorts. I wear the tank tops… Never let somebody else control how you feel about your own body.
That was shitty. And its not up to him to decide how you should feel about what he said so he needs to adult up and apologize. Not that it will help. You’ll never forget that and I’m sorry.
You’re not wrong, but some men don’t understand the bluntness of how they speak being hurtful. But if you know you gained that much weight 2-3 years ago, try to lose the weight for yourself so you feel better . I’m sure he didn’t mean to be hurtful
That was such an insensitive comment to make 
especially as your about to go out !! (How t spoil your evening) he should be more encouraging hope you told him how it made you feel xx
This is a tricky one… on one hand I’d want my husband to point out if an outfit wasn’t flattering. On the other hand, I’d only really want that pointed out if I asked.
By your own admission you’re uncomfortable in your “new” body, so comments that affirm that are especially hard to hear.
Discuss it with him, I’m sure he didn’t mean it in a hurtful way. He might not even be aware how much it’s affecting you
You are absolutely not over reacting. If he already knows that your weight is a sensitive subject and spouted off with that ish anyway, it was very callous and inconsiderate of him to say.
If its not someone close to you its always a stranger saying something. You can either say something back or ignore and its up to you if you feel comfortable or if you wanna work on losing weight. You’re not alone a lot of mothers gain extra weight.
That’s definitely not ok for him to say!! I’m sorry you’re hurt. He should be your safe space and be encouraging not belittling you! Well done on losing the 20lb, keep going and do it for your health, your kids and yourself… not because he made you feel bad. Tell him how much he has hurt you and that he doesn’t get to judge your feelings and say you’re overreacting… they’re your feelings!!
He shouldn’t speak to you that way. He helped make you a mother and babies are so hard on our bodies. Sweetie if he can’t love you now then he doesn’t deserve you at all.
Staying in an unhealthy relationship won’t be good for your children either.
Ok. Coming from someone who used to be anorexic, has body dysmorphia, I am at the heaviest I have ever been. And my amazing hubby thinks I am the most beautiful woman ever. Whenever I feel bad about something I’m wearing, he convinces me otherwise. A partner would be able to see past the weight gain and love all of you, even when there is more to love.
That was hateful mean cruel do not stand for it. That is not right of him and your not overreacting. Don’t lose weight to make him happy only lose it for yourself and love yourself and onow your self worth. If he can only love u when your skinny then girl i think u deserve better amd like the saying goes if he can’t love you at your worst he sure can’t at your best. Don’t let him make u cry he not worth it.
Hurtful words, especially from a loved one, can be very painful and damaging. Ask him to please stop and be encouraging
My husband knows better!!! You need to tell him how much it hurt you , and support from him with the kiddos. It wasn’t that long since you had babies. My two daughters are going through the same exact thing with weight issues. Hang in Hon . Be easy on your self 
Your worth is not dependent on your weight. That would hurt anyone’s feelings and you’re in the process of becoming healthier. It was a very insensitive comment and you have every right to feel how you do, however pls remember to be kind to yourself…you gained this weight by bringing two beautiful children into this world.
After giving him children, it was insensitive. I believe in time you will loose the weight, but if looks is everything to him and not love and good relationship, I forsee problems.
I got a dress last summer and I have worn it mayb 2 times got it out this summer and my boyfriend of 3 and half years said " You sure you wanna wear that it doesn’t fit you very well. And it looks tight" … I instantly took it off and put it in the top of my closet and get sad everytime I see it.
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So, tell him really and in court you will explain why i’m this ,so called fat. Then you will pay,for such stupidity. Based on your statement you’ll be working for this fat ,forever! Now , do you have a reason to be in my house or shall your moms home be more comfortable, alcoholic. Then smile!
Very insensitive. An overweight person already knows themselves that they are overweight. How would he feel if you pointed out his less attractive qualities?
I’m sorry, but regardless of what you weighed vs what you weigh now, that was RUDE!!! I’ve gained a lot of weight in the last 2 years, and my husband knows I’m trying, but he also knows that I have a short temper, so he’d probably get punched in the mouth for saying some dumb shit like that. Sorry, not sorry. I’m all about being honest, but there’s definitely a better way he could’ve worded that.
I have always been skinny. Still am. But now with extra skin after two kids 20 years apart. Think about it as a reward for a battle for creating your kids. It’s awesome.
There is literally no excuse to say anything that hurtful to anyone - let alone your wife. That gave birth to your children. Literally I don’t think I could ever forgive that comment.
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He could have said it nicer, but I personally appreciate honesty. Good job oh how much you have lost. Don’t be discouraged its so hard I had two babies back to back as well and understand the struggle.
It would hurt…but you know what fuckem and be you…always take love and pride in who you are everyday if you want better do better but keep your head up and carry on. You are loved no matter your size my dear
Harden up, I’d love my man to tell me if what i was wearing didn’t look nice, I have to ask my son for that one and u think your man’s judgement is bad try being judged by a 9 year old and see where you self esteem is!!!
Tell him too bad his fat rolls didn’t look at good as the ones on the dinner table!
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I think his wording wasn’t necessary. The fact that he told you the shirt didn’t look nice is ok…I would want my husband telling me the truth before I go out in public. But he didn’t need to word it so hurtfully. He could have said the top doesn’t look nice, or fit properly. Just my two cents.
I just hate that overreacting word there should be no such thing as overreacting it’s how you feel. So take acknowledge it and on it and do something about it as your partner he should care in your overall health and emotional mental everything everything
He was absolutely outta line. You’ve given up your body to give him the most precious gift(s).
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This thread shows women banding together and being incredibly emotional rather than objective. A comforting lie is more harmful in the long run. Granted there was probably a more diplomatic way he could have voiced his opinions, but a husband should be there to tell it as it is. This mentality leads to a stock response of "you look beautiful"no matter what you wear and how much weight gets gained. It solves nothing. Where does the line get drawn? Gain another 100 lbs? 200? Pretending like nothing has changed in appearance leads to a dishonest relationship, when it should be built on trust, love and understanding. It’s not about point scoring.
I do want to know when I don’t look my best. However I had the ex say “that’s not the most flattering thing on you”. I knew I needed to change but it wasn’t so hurtful
I would be thankful he was honest but maybe discuss that he could have said it in a more gentle way maybe? Good luck!
Im in the same boat. I was around 150 at 5’7 and i felt good. After i had my first i bounced right back. Same with my second. BUT, after the birth of my second i gradually went up on the scale, a good amount. And my bf/their father never has mentioned to this day, my weight. Currently i am losing weight but that is aside the point. He and i love eachother no matter what. He also gained alot of weight. But my point is, if he loves you and wants to be with you. He will NOT comment on your weight. ESPECIALLY after you give birth.
How you feel relating this is absolutely justified, however he isn’t responsible for your feelings. He should be more considerate of you as his partner, and his children’s mother. If he doesn’t respect you enough to keep hurtful, inappropriate comments to himself TO PROTECT your feelings, he doesn’t deserve your time.
It’s sad that men feel obligated to address flaws, or point out imperfections. I used to live that life…and then I realized despite my weight, my frizzy hair, my cellulite, my rolls & my personal hatred for my flaws I DESERVED MORE from my partner, and so DO YOU 
YOU housed babies, gave them life, carried them for months on end & shared every ounce of yourself. You EARNED those “rolls”, and you most certainly earned the ability to love yourself, even WITH all those changes 
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this
I’d rather hear it from my partner when I ask how I look than from a stranger when I don’t. Had a lady tell me “God you’ve gotten fat” after having gained a lot of weight after a birth, move, death, and divorce all happen within 6 months. It was a lot and I gained a lot and no one really ever said anything to me. Looking at pictures now I am surprised and annoyed no one said anything. My body deserves better treatment from me and my partner needs to tell me if I am squeezing into something.
He shouldn’t have said that to you. I’m so sorry. Men do not get the struggles us moms go through with weight gain and all those crazy hormones.
Jesus. He sounds like an A hole. I had my daughter in 2017, and my son exactly 1 year later in 2018, in total I gained 6 stone. I’m still battling with it due to a heart condition, so losing weight is slow and steady. My kids dad never once made a comment about my weight, not once! You just gave him two beautiful children, he should be thanking you not criticising you! 
That is horrible of him to do to you when he clearly knows how you fee! About it. Don’t let him do it anymore. Stop him in his tracks and tell him don’t even say it! Stay strong and keep your head up!! You are still beautiful just the way you are! You got this lady!!
I think it’s time to buy some of those two piece outfits with the little crop top and start with wearing around the house. Don’t focus on husband… Focus on confidence
Clap back at him and tell him he has a small penis but you dont complain about that. The heck with that nonsense you wear whatever you wanna wear and you look beautiful wearing it too.
Not cool, however now he knows not to cross that line on how much it bothers you and hopefully will offer more support. If we talk about our weight frustrations with our loved ones, it gives them a sense of comfort for feedback to us and sometimes crosses a line depending where we are at with our emotional/mental state. We’ve all had this done with friends and coworkers too. Stay focused on your health goals and talk nice about yourself, which reflects onto him. Making sure to let him know how you’re feeling.
You have absolutely every right to feel the way you do! That is so horrible for someone who supposed to love you for better or worse! You had his children & your body went through incredible changes & It is so hard to lose the weight after having children!
It bothers you. That’s all that should matter. He doesn’t get to tell you how to feel, and should respect you when you tell him it hurts your feelings.
That would of been the end of date night for me and I would of gone out by myself!
Im about the same size as you. Couple inches shorter.
First of all stop beating yourself up over weight… Give yourself credit for trying. Secondly that’s just a flat out rude thing to say. He could have said he just didn’t like the shirt… Instead he chose to be an asshole. He obviously knows your self conscious so he should should have treaded a little lighter Soo you could still enjoy your evening. Honestly I’d be upset too. My husband also thinks I’m beautiful even though I weigh more since having kids and he has never once said a negative thing about it to me. Seems like there are deeper issues here. Good luck!
It was an extremely insensitive thing to say to you, but most alarming is that you’ve cried multiple times and he continues to say you’re over reacting rather than apologising for hurting your feelings, whether he thinks it’s justifies or not. That’s my concern with this.
You have given the man two children, and with that comes changes.
You focus on your health journey and confidence for yourself, and keep a firm boundary on what you will and won’t accept from him - do not allow him to get comfortable disrespecting you!
Best weight to lose would be your husband.
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I think he went about in the wrong way, but I also had two kids back to back, both born in 2012 back to back! It took my hubs telling me I was fat until I was finally ready to do something about it. After the year it took me to get back to 135 at 5’6 I felt so much bettet about it. However 9 years after having my two kids I had a birth control failure baby who is now a year and I am still trying to lose the baby weight. Do it for you and not NO one else! Of you want it go get it mama! You got this! I know it hurt to hear but use that as your fight! You way to crush him!
Wow? I would’ve been petty and told him where to go and how to get there? I’m sorry sir you wanna comment on fat rolls after I birthed your babies. Let’s talk about you than. Look at your dad bod. 
sorry this makes me so mad! That is not okay. Idc if it is your husband or family member. This is flat out not okay.
I’m a big girl, and thankfully I’m blessed with an amazing husband who has never made me feel insecure about it. But if this was me , the next time he wants freaky time, I would look him dead in the face and tell him to get “palmla handerson” ready. Cause until he can respect my body like it is, and be sincere in apologizing for being an asshat to the woman who gained this weight giving him not 1 but 2 babies. He can have fun with his hand. I’m sorry I know that’s blunt, but I cannot stand when a guy is like this to the mother of his kids, but when he in the mood don’t have nothing to say, and is all about getting it. Nah man if you can’t be proud of me the way I am in public, then the hell if you gettin any when no one is looking. Nope not happening!
And how much weight has he gained …I bet Alot …don’t take that from him.
He should not be commenting on your weight but ESPECIALLY if he sees you are already making an effort to be more healthy. I’m sure he wouldn’t like if you commented on what you didn’t like about him 
He could have had more tact about it, but I’d rather someone be straight up with me…but I understand how you feel
Wow, 2 kids back to back with no time to get the baby weight off from the first child. He’s wrong for how he said it, but you definitely need to lose some weight. I was 191 after having my 2nd child and at 4’11, I definitely looked overweight. I started to snore, my breathing changed, and I was always tired. My husband never told me I was fat and joined a gym with me and supported me. I hope he finds a way to be less of an ass and more supportive.
No you are not wrong at all. I would have broke down just like you. And he’s sorry for being inconsiderate. First off you’ve birthed his children!
You had 2 children. You are a full time mom. And if you work that is also a full time job. Be proud of who you are now. You are still a beautiful women inside and out. Why is he being so judgmental?? In a few years when he is balding, with a budda belly, and has hair growing out of his ears and nose you are still going to love him…be proud of who you are now!!! You have earned it Momma!!!
I’m sorry. There is nothing anyone can say to make the hurt go away. You are not over reacting. He is being insensitive, and he wouldn’t like it in your position. You sound like a good person. Remember that above all else. It doesn’t matter if you lose weight if you are otherwise healthy. Your appearance is not who you are.
This would hurt me too, you’re not overreacting. If you feel confident in clothes wear them. I’m 260 lbs and I am learning to wear my crop tops, and fitted clothing and love myself for the first time ever. I am working on losing weight but this body I have now is what I have and I’ll be damned if I’m gonna let anybody tell me not to show it off. Sorry you’re sad
Sweetheart, I’m so sorry you’re feeling down. You’re not overreacting, do not let anyone invalidate your feelings ever!! Let him know, if he has no encouraging words to say, then keep his mouth shut! There’s a way to do and say things, and that’s not it!
Yea, fk that. Throw him in the garbage. You deserve to be loved no matter what size
Been with my man for 23 years, he’s seen me at my fittest(170) and my largest(320) and he says I always look the same to him.
Tell that man to stop projecting and appreciate what he’s got before it’s gone.
I’m a few months postpartum with my 4th and if my partner ever did this to me it would destroy me - if I ever complain about my PP body my partner tells me I’m beautiful and my body brought us our baby 
wtf kind of partner and father would say this to the woman who brought his children into existence, I’m sorry he is like that and your body is amazing, you didn’t deserve that
if youre asking for his opinion then be ready for an answer you may not like. if you werent asking for an opinion, let him know that. but he can and should be more sensitive, hes not a child with no filter and if it has upset you this much and he wont validate your feelings hes 
Tell him he’s insensitive and you don’t appreciate it the moment he says something like that. People hate to be called out on their bullshit and feel as bad or worse when you point out how absolutely fucking rude they’re being.
Listen, I too was 200lbs at 5’1 after having 2 babys that are 1yr & 2wks apart it didn’t look great on me either!! However when words was thrown at me to hurt my feelings I used all that negative energy and stopped sitting and crying I got up and I worked out and when I was at work I found a way to work out into my job…yes it’s hard yes its exhausting yes its tiring …yes I also had 2 other kids at that time (a 6, 3, 1 and new born) but after my long motivating hours it all paid off I lost the 70lbs in about 4 months breastfeeding my kids was a big help in my process and not over eating as well as watching what I ate! I’ve since then been pregnant 5 more times which I’m currently pregnant now making it 5 more however choose your cravings just cuz you want something you dont make a meal out of it have fun take the days to have healthy snacks and meals and then have your days where your snacks are fun and meals are just amazing…oh and clothes dont define who you are wear what you want if hes embarrassed by it then maybe he needs to be the 1 who needs the work done he should encourage you to work out and tell you how great you are after all you carried his 2 kids in your body!! You’ll get there girl and then when you do he’ll probably be no where around cuz anyone that actually loves you doesn’t make you feel worthless…I use to shame my body and my husband made me embrace all my scars and weight and pudge because it all put out such wonderful souls and he made my take it as my body and I now go around proudly looking like I do!! I cant wait to see a post soon of your journey of how much you’ve lost in 1 month!!!
You’re not overreacting. Your feelings are valid and if he respects you, he wouldn’t comment on your weight since he knows you are sensitive about it.
Him telling you that you’re overreacting is gaslighting so he doesn’t have to feel like a dick.
If he truly love you he wouldn’t make you you feel like that I go to aqua zumba 3 times a week and it help I was 200 now I’m 270 so I gained also but my husband’ never say thing to hurt my feelung I apologize for that pain
An easy way to lose weight, get rid of the husband, you’ll have lost 150+ lbs in a matter of minutes!!!
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It’s never okay to be insensitive to your partner. Whether he would be offended by it or not if it was said to him, isn’t the problem. The problem is that he knowingly hurt your feelings and is aware of that, but continues to dismiss them.
That is not okay. Your husband should accept you and be sensitive to your insecurities. Make sure you talk to him about it- if he doesn’t apologize, I would really sit down and consider how happy you are overall and in your relationship… I was 170 and went to 225 after having my daughter- my husband knew I was uncomfortable about it but let me know that when he saw the difference, it just reminded him of me carrying our baby and bringing her into the world… you should never settle- it really matters how u feel about urself more than anything
No you are not wrong to feel this way. My husband yes used to say sht about my weight. So I went on a diet and lost 50lbs and everyone but him said I looked great . It wasn’t enough and when I pointed it out and said I lost 50 lbs he said where you don’t look any different. I have over 4 yrs now gained some weight back and now more than ever I want to loose it again . It has become so hard to do again
This is where communication and comprehension comes into play. So many people are so quick to give up their relationships because their feelings got hurt. If it’s an ongoing issue and he deliberately puts you down constantly, he’ll yeah you should leave him, that’s abuse.
But a dumb Comment he made one time? And it is dumb, because sometimes people don’t think before they say something, they just blurt it out, and I’m sure now he’s on the defensive because he knows it hurt you and he doesn’t want to face that. It happens all the time. But you have to sit down with him and tell him you feel that he needs to be more thoughtful with his words because what he said really hurt your feelings and self esteem.
It might not have been only the comment, but sounds like you’re insecure about yourself as well.
That was a mean thing he said. You were right to feel hurt.
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Oh, honey. Stab him, then roll him up in your carpet, and use it as an excuse to get nice, new flooring! 
Of course, Im kidding. Sort of. But seriously, no, nothing about that is ok. Well done on losing the weight you have already lost, it is SO hard to do! SHAME on him for saying something so idiotic and thoughtless.
That’s horrible!! How dare he? Obviously he got his own insecurities!!! I would’ve whooped that ass! Straighten you crown ma! Don’t take no shit! He should be really ashamed of himself
My EX literally did the same thing to me. Before our son I was 170 and after I was 230. I know I needed to lose the weight and I did for ME, but his comments mentally destroyed me.
Shit. I still haven’t lost my baby weight and my baby will be 30 in November…lol. I’m married to my 2nd husband for 26 years now, I weigh more now than I ever have and he thinks I’m the most gorgeous creature to ever exist. My first husband loved to insult me, that’s why he’s my EX. Never let your self worth be determined by anyone else. It’s taken me 60 years to love myself.
To start with how do you feel about you weigh gain ? If you don’t mind it then I’d ignore what he said. If it bothers you find a good diet and exercise program and tell him you need to depend on him with help with the kids while you find time for yourself. Then do it for yourself not for him.
Unless you often ask him “does this show off my fat rolls?” That was very uncalled for esp since you are in the process of losing weight. I got to 254 with my second pregnancy and I’m just now to 177 over three years, one hernia surgery later and a shit ton of hiking and diet change. I still have so far to go, It doesn’t happen over night just like he didn’t get a family over night. Our bodies take time to form and change good or bad. I would have hurt his feelings in that case lol but I’m one of the ones who ask how the clothes look etc bc i like his opinion. Take progress pictures and make a collage to keep you motivated and shove it in his face when you see that big difference you’ve been waiting for 
What he said was wrong and an A-hole move. But don’t let that get you down. Use that as your motivation to exercise. Each time you think you’ve done enough or you think you can’t do more, use his words to motivate you to do more. Once you get to your goal weight/figure thank him for showing you his true colors and leave his bum! Boy bye!
My ex husband told me I wasn’t woman enough to have children (at the time I was told I would never be able to have kids) well, we have been divorced for 8 years now….I think? Hell who cares, we are divorced and I have two biological children. He use to comment on my weight too. I’ve lost over 150lbs. He stalks my page and sees the weight I lost. He can keep stalking all he wants. I do good and bad by myself. (My sweetest revenge is to better my life and keep it moving)
You can do this, use his comment as your motivation.