I want my husband to tell me things like that. Straight forward and blunt… If mine doesn’t I begin to worry lol.
Mine says “more of you to love” and then shortly afterwards “but not anymore” 
We are sensitive because we want to be attractive and men put their size ten’s in without thinking! Use this as motivation “I’ll show him!” But above all do it for you xx
It does suck but I also take consideration to how I met my husband and that physical attraction is in fact a thing for both of us. (I prefer my men fat and my husband has abs now so I have hurt him by saying I liked him fatter)
I am the odd ball cause I want my husband to tell me if I look weird in something, or if it’s unflattering.
He didn’t call you names so honestly I don’t see it as a big deal. But that’s me, and I can understand both sides)
He could have Said it a nicer way especially knowing that it’s something that you’re aware of and trying to fix. That was a low blow on his part.
You literally gave birth too his children. Either he accepts your body will never go back to the way it was before that, or he can get lost.
Even if you go back to the weight you were before kids, you aren’t going to look the exact same.
You made two humans and that’s pretty fucking worth some extra weight. If he doesn’t think it does, he can fuck all the way off 
Eww. So he insults you and then doubles down and says you’re overreacting instead of being sensitive to how you’re feeling. Is he always such an a**hole to you? Because this speaks volumes how much he disrespects you. And then can’t just admit he stuffed up and apologise. And you’re saying he knows you’re sensitive around your weight… don’t put up with that, and don’t let a man like that hurt your self esteem.
BTW I’m assuming if he makes comments like this he has a six pack and abs of steel, yeah?
Listen, I was a 125 lb marathon runner when I got pregnant with our first child. I had 4 pregnancies in 4 years, and I ballooned over 200 lbs every pregnancy. Our youngest is 13 months and I’m currently 175lbs. I feel self conscious, I feel unattractive, I feel gross, now with a HUGE flap of a fupa made of crinkly skin that replaced the smooth flat tummy I used to have. My once perky breasts and plump butt hang down to my ankles, covered in cellulite and stretch marks. And every time my husband sees me in shorts or a t-shirt he tells me I look like a snack. He constantly encourages me to dress up, even revealing, even when I tell him I have fat rolls sticking out all over the place, he tells me he loves my body and that I look hot.
Is he lying to make me feel better? Yes. 100% I KNOW that. But it feels good to have him try to make me feel better when I know I don’t look good. You couldn’t get him to say otherwise even if his life depended on it. I will ALWAYS be grateful for that.
If your husband says something that blunt, but apologizes in an attempt to rectify his “it came out wrong” comment, it would be forgivable. But to completely dismiss it and pretend your feelings aren’t valid is unacceptable. He needs to be put in his place or thrown in the trash. We sacrifice our figures for motherhood and we do so gladly, because our children are worth it. We struggle enough knowing our bodies have changed, while trying to juggle children and life, no one needs to remind us unless our health is in danger and even then it should be done with tact.
A man who cannot appreciate that, let alone take your feelings into consideration isn’t worthy.
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This makes me sad. If he didn’t like the shirt he could have found a better way to express it. And honestly he shouldn’t comment on your weight at all in my opinion. Unless it’s a health concern and clearly that statement about the shirt wasn’t made in regards to him being concerned about you.
That being said, i had an experience with my husband’s neices who was my wake up call. After having my first child (3.5 now) i was the biggest i had ever been. I weighed 220 when i got pregnant, the most i ever had weighed. I gained 47 lbs, which put me at 267 when i delivered him. I’m 5’10. Anyway, when my son was about 8/9 months old we went to a baby shower for a family member who was pretty far along in her pregnancy. They played that game where you try to guess the size of the mom to be belly by cutting measuring tape to show what you guess her size is. (Terrible game imo) anyway, 2 of my husband’s neices came to wrap the tape around me stomach, bc they said i was as big as the pregnant lady. Wow! I was devastated. The girls were like 9/10 years old. Anyway, i started a diet the next month and realized how out of control i really had gotten.
My whole point is, try to take it as a learning experience and maybe it’s time to change things up.
(Not saying he was right to say that) 
You just go ahead and throw that whole ass man away. He gave him life to children that you grew. I don’t see his ass over here growing a human or all their organs and shit. Secondly, wait happens. I have five young kiddos. I had gone on my diet after baby number four, was down to 170’s from almost 200 and got pregnant again unexpectedly. With her, I was almost up to 230. Following birth I naturally dropped all that baby weight but I’ve been stress eating and went from 180/190’s right on back up to 211/214 and my husband doesn’t say shit. Mostly bc he isn’t that stupid and knows he’ll catch these damn hands if he ever thinks of it. If he has an issue with my weight then he did what his mama taught him, “you ain’t got nothing nice to say then don’t say nothing at all.” Sit down with him ONE time and ONE TIME ONLY and explain to him how his comments make you feel, let him know you aren’t feeling like your love language is being heard. If he can’t work on that then you bye Felicia his ass on out that door for a man who will worship every inch and curve of you.P.s …you’re a queen and I’m sure you’re gorgeous so embrace that body that gave you two of the greatest treasures
Tell him his fat rolls aren’t appealing either. That’s not right. He participated in getting you pregnant. Same thing happened to my late wife and I regretted ever saying anything, but I did and it was wrong she elected to have bypass surgery and that is what ended her life ultimately due to complications. Oh the guilt!!! I told her I didn’t want her to have it.
Coming from a man who would never make a comment like that ever because a woman is beautiful in so many ways and weight doesn’t change that. It was very disrespectful for him to say anything like that to you. I’m sorry.
Screw him but also try optavia. It is great and best of all it works!
You are not wrong for feeling hurt. Not at all .what your husband said was just plain rude and mean. He certainly could have and should have been more tactful with he comments/or better yet not said anything about it at all. I would imagine that he has most certainly put on some weight since the two of you got together. I think men just sometimes put their foot in their mouths without even thinking about it. (Not saying that excuses what was said) because it doesn’t. The long and short of it is he owes you an apology.
No, you are not overreacting. Your husband shouldn’t have said that to you.
I would expect my man to tell me if something I was wearing wasn’t flattering but that’s something I speak about with people I’ve been with. I’d be really upset too if the opinion wasn’t asked for
Hugs 
men are so tackless…I was watching my hubby the other day pick up an old pair of his jeans and he struggled to get them on, he scooped up his beer gut and love handles and managed to button them up…never mind the over hang…it must be so awesome being a man 
mine literally ignored me for an entire year after having our baby and hung out with out me because I was over weight…
Could it be something that just fell out of his mouth and sounds all wrong. Gotta look at intent. Sounds like he loves ya entry and was maybe trying to look out for ya. Hugs gurl
That’s just mean. I get if you two were having a conversation about health concerns. But this wasn’t that. He was just being cruel for the sake of being cruel.
Well there’s 175+ pounds of dead weight you can kick out the door and be healthier without In literally seconds, you can even eat cake afterwards too, guilt free! No diet involved just a swift kick to the ass
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My husband would never say some shit to me like that, for 1 because he loves me…for 2 because I’d cut his balls off and feed them to him! Your husband is an ass!
Wow who the eff says shit like that and shames someone… let alone someone you gave 2 children. Screw him. If he doesn’t value you or your feelings at 230, he won’t at 150 either. There is a major issue there and it needs addressed…and that issue is on him, not you! He should also appreciate you going out of your way to get yourself healthier!
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Not gonna lie I’d rather not be married to a liar. Was it a dick move? Yes, clearly. But I don’t like friends who lie and I’m not blind, I don’t need my husband to lie to me either. But definitely not how nor when he should’ve said it.
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You pulled of a couple miracles, birthing HIS children into the world. And while you could probably talk to a doctor about the weight and your general health, you husband was an insensitive you-know-what in how he broached the subject
I read mine your post he sat up from his chair said Whattttttttt??? I knew then he still remembers to watch what tf comes out his mouth!! I love some of these posts, esp the smaller dick comment lmffao
I want to congratulate you on losing weight. That being said what he said is unacceptable and he needs to stick it where the sun don’t shine. If he thinks you’re being to emotional about it, I say whatever he weighs you could lose with one phrase, “I am done”. Hugs
I just had an incident similar to this very recently! I’ve never been so hurt! I’m 7.5 months pregnant, so I feel even worse
Not cool to.say that joke or not. Glad you.are.working out i let him know that comment hurt your feelings. Keep up the good work.thou. I would let him no about his self n how u don’t appreciate those. Comment
He knew it’s a subject that upsets you, he said it anyway. Pretty sure you’re not overreacting and he just doesn’t want to admit he’s wrong
My husband told me this a few years ago because he’s so used to seeing me super tiny. It hurt my feelings A LOT with him telling me he wasn’t sexually attracted to me. A lot of things factored into me gaining weight. I gained 60 pounds in six months. One of those things was getting off of ADHD meds which helped my weight a lot. But you’re trying to lose the weight. You’re going through changes. Not everyone’s body stays the same. My husband finally learned to love my body the way it was and sees me trying to loo I se the weight. I also had a baby two months ago too. Some of that weight went off. I don’t blame you for being hurt. It’s ok to be hurt. Just keep doing what your doing since you’re trying to lose weight.
That was so mean. The fact that he doesn’t even realize how mean it was shows that he’s the problem and not you.
What he doesn’t like another man will… at one point he was loving those “fat rolls” i woulda cussed his ass out & kept it moving
My husband and I have our share of problems but he would NEVER say anything even remotely close to that to me.
My husband knows better than to comment on my weight 
im pregnant with baby #5, due here in a few weeks, however I haven’t been the one gaining weight, I haven’t gained a single pound this entire pregnancy(possibly an early delivery because I can’t keep food in my gut) he has been the one to gain during this pregnancy, he now weighs more than I do, I don’t comment on his weight either because we are both big people lol I was 294 before I got pregnant and he was 268, I’m 257 and he’s 285. We are just fat and happy together😅 your husband should have no business commenting on your weight after having babies, he’s not the one that had to go through all that and lord knows for most of us it’s hard to lose the baby weight🤷♀️ there are so many factors that go into it. I had a hormone imbalance issue before becoming pregnant that caused me to gain soooo much over such a small time frame while I breastfed my last baby, so being pregnant I guess balanced my hormones and caused me to lose weight for this pregnancy which has never happened before. I gained 87lbs with my first, 6lbs with my 2nd, 8 lbs with my 3rd, & 8 lbs for my 4th. It adds up over time, being so busy with the kiddos, I just figure when they’re older ill push my body to lose some weight, they need me right now so losing weight is the last thing on my mind (aside from worrying about baby that’s about due) I hope things get better for you mama
That’s terrible. I’ve gained weight due to my hysterectomy and I’m 5’2 and it shows. My guy has never said anything to me about my weight.
Tell him to watch his damn mouth. Stay strong, Queen.
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Ask him to push out two babies and try and look exactly like he did before 
I hope he realizes you can’t just say these things
Girl, I feel your pain. My last marriage was like this. She CONTSTANTLY made me feel like a whore or just completely unattractive bc of what I chose to wear. Tell him that his attitude is bs. I finally have someone that loves me and all of my fat rolls.
Talk to him. Its obvious that you really love him or the comment wouldnt have affected you so much, have a sit down with him.
I would rather be told by him than go out & have strangers looking at me & talking
You are entitled to feel any feelings you have and be validated for them. Always.
You’re not wrong, that’s super hurtful for him to say. And it’s not cool he also said you’re being sensitive. He’s just brushing off your feelings. He definitely owes you an apology
You have every right to feel how you feel. His comment was rude and not necessary.
Oh honey I’m
Sorry! Most men are so insensitive to this! My fiancé doesn’t understand that confidence and feeling comfortable with yourself isn’t something you can get with a snap of a finger. maybe try talking to him about how the comment hurt you? It never hurts to try to get your s/o to understand how you feel about things. Ask him for his support in your weight loss journey. His positive attitude and support can do wonders for you!
Ask if he is perfect weight like he was when you first met.
Sounds like you know you gained weight and you are actively taking action to lose it. For him to say something is one thing, but for him to say it on your special occasion is another.
I think first he should apologize because I’ve had 4 kids and I went from 128 to 175 since then and my husband loves me with my rolls and all I’m 5’0 and he tells me every day in beautiful and he loves my body cause I gave him his kids and he loves me even if I hadnt given him children I get some guys don’t feel this way but if someone is with you due to looks then it aint love its lust of course I have issues with my body and my weight but his support and love keeps and makes me wanna lose weight not cause he dont want me cause I dont like myself and he gets that he told me if I wanted to lose weight ok if not ok he will support me either way he… All I’m saying is looks arent everything and he needs to realize that and if your someone who needs ypur husband to say yay or nay to a outfit ok too not trying to dis
Ditch him, there’s some unwanted weight just gone.
Babe… don’t let anyone criticise your weight or the way you look. We are all beautiful in our skins.
Yeah I don’t think I’ll be laying in bed with him anymore if he was my husband. There goes the sex life. The trust. The everything.
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He was deadass wrong for that. And his opinion or anybody’s opinion about how it made you feel is irrelevant. Nobody gets to decide how their actions make you feel.
At least he was honest
Some are just indirect
It was not nice but he seems direct
Maybe counseling is now in order
That is a comment that my husband and I would feel comfortable making to eachother, but for most that is so callous and hurtful. Talk to him, I wonder if he really just like didn’t think it would hurt your feelings??
My ex used to say crap like that to me & it would get worse no matter how subtle when he felt like he had an audience. His Mom & sisters, cousins, whoever would laugh & giggle everytime he made any comments like that. Just one of the many reasons he’s an ex
I feel he should have known better than to say it like that, if he has comments or concerns he should think real hard about a nicer way to talk to the woman he loves, that takes care of him & the kids that YOUR BODY made!! I have had to tell my man plenty of times he needs to think before he speaks, think of how it would make me feel. Dont feel bad or that you’ve overreacted. ((Hugs!!))
You are not over reacting at all. And he doesn’t get to decide he didn’t hurt you!!
That was a very distasteful and hateful thing for him to say. Yeah, you gained weight bringing his children into the world. I would have taken myself on my own date without his ass and rocked the shirt.
Especially if you’re not an emotional person he should be more understanding men’s can be so insensitive but in this in this case it shocks me that he reacted in such a manner
Curious. How many of ya’ll aren’t gonna tell YOUR MAN when he is getting too big for the comfort zone ??
Lose the 180 pounds by dumbing his arse and leaving 
you’ve given life to beautiful kids and are a whole goddess!!
If he KNOWS you’re sensitive about your weight and still said that to you, that’s borderline mentally abusive. I can’t say fully because I don’t know the rest of your relationship but this is bullshit and intentionally hurtful at that point.
Buy you some clothes that big enough until you loose the weight
Your husband is an asshat.
He was rather insensitive about it. He could of worded it differently.
Maybe he just put his foot in his mouth.
I’m sure he’s gained weight himself. So next time he chooses to be an asshat tell him his belly ate his dickie-doo and it’s hiding
I want my husband to tell me when something in wearing isn’t flattering.
Being concerned about health is one thing but the way he did it was completely uncalled for & very insensitive. I believe in being upfront about things, but not rude. And he was completely rude!! You have every right to be hurt over that. He’s your husband. He’s supposed to love you no matter what & never say or do anything to hurt you. If you would’ve said something about his d*ck being too small, would he get upset? Of course he would! We all know that. I’d tell him exactly how I feel & if he continues to be insensitive to your feelings then you don’t need to stay with him. A real man would never do anything like that to the person he loves. Emotional abuse is wrong!!
If a Man is truly In Love with a Woman…weight shouldn’t matter
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This is exactly the reason I left my previous relationship. He had an ideal in his mind that he wanted me to look like & if I faltered from that I was ridiculed with comments like that. “I don’t want you to get as fat as my ex” should have been the sign for me to run. But, it wasn’t. I felt worthless with my ex. Never perfect enough. Couldn’t lose enough weight, couldn’t wear enough makeup to look pretty…
& then I met my husband now. Who accepts me for how I am always. & loves me for it. He’s told me I’m beautiful on days I feel absolutely hideous. Messy birds nest hair, gained weight, no makeup, tears down my face & he grabbed my face & told me I look absolutely beautiful. He constantly comments about how good I look even though I also gained a lot of weight after having our kid. He would NEVER make a comment like that. He’s even told me I could stand to GAIN some weight 
this man is incredibly good for my self esteem.
& my previous relationship?
Turns out he was gay 
& the issue was with him not being able to accept himself the whole time rather than not being able to accept me. So If a man is making comments like that, the issue is with himself not you.
Just saying.
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You should have asked him was you overreacting when his ass got out of the hospital with that big lump on his head.
I’m 230 now. I was 190 when we got together. Lol. Been married 3 years next week. He says I’m very comfortable and cozy now.
From my emotionally stunted husband,”he probably knows she is self conscious and was trying to protect her feelings from others because “judgement eye face” (apparently I make quick sad face when I see people judging me) and he doesn’t want that”.
You aren’t wrong to feel this way - his comment was very uncaring and rude. Why would you talk to your partner like that?
I’d be furious. There’s nicer ways to bring up an outdoor not fitting too well or someones weight (like if you were worried) . He’s supposed to be your partner. Not your body critic.
If he thought it didn’t look okay he could have gone so many different ways of going about it. Men do not think before they speak what so ever
So does he expect you to bounce back to your pre-mom body instantly??? 
You must be that insecure to take the mental abuse from a spouse or whom ever cause a strong female wouldn’t tolerate that and walk away
Tell him to shush and know his FKN Roll. His job is to be supportive of you. You can handle your rolls. He need to go back to How to be a Husband/ Partner Supporter 101 Class and re learn his. Learn how to make sense vs baby BS he talking. When he learn his , THEN he can on your issue. Husband suppose to bring value to his wife not act like a unappreciative POS to her.
YOUR FEELINGS ARE ALWAYS VALID. Don’t ever let someone make you feel like they aren’t. It’s never ok to talk to someone you love that way.
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I’m petty & mean & don’t know when to shut up, so if my man told me that, I’d have probably thrown a controller or something at his head. (Im not saying do that, its just what i would have done & yes, i know thats toxic, me & mine are fine with it)so i dont think ur overreacting. But. . . .i wouldn’t leave my man.honestly, most of the time, weight gain comes from being unhappy. Either with yourself, your relationship, home, work, ect. If it hurt you that bad, & you want to do better (which you sound like you do) then use his words to motivate you. Get up each morning, do your hair & makeup, then go for a walk. If u got kids, take them, its good for them too. Or do workouts in your living room. Me & my kids dance around to youtube workouts every day. It helps… also, fasting is a great way to lose weight. Best of luck hun!
Your feelings are yours and warranted. His comments were very insensitive.
That was uncalled for. Would you say something like that to him if he gained weight? A friend? No!
How much does your husband weigh? Drop his unneeded weight!!
No. You are not overreacting and it’s a thoughtless and horrible thing for him to say. He needs to learn manners or how to keep stuff to himself or both.
Ask your husband how much he weighs and when he replies simply tell him you can lose that much weight quickly! If he is smart and understands what you are insinuating with the question he will shut up
I am stupid but not that stupid. Why would he do that to you especially on date night?
I’d nail him with something he’s insecure about and see how he feels about that…
My ex used to do the same thing. He would always say something negative about my weight, after 14 years together yeah I gained weight but it was maybe 2 or 3 pounds a month when you averaged it out. He himself had gained over 200 pounds in the course of our 14 year marriage…but was always on my case about being skinnier. I got to the point where I just rebelled against him & did what made me happy…including self acceptance & love. Now, divorced… I happy to say that I have lost 45 lbs & feel great. I’m still working on more, but I’m doing it for me.
Your body made babies mama! I’m sorry that happened to you and that that was said to you!
His comment was rude and insensitive. I’m sorry he said this to you and is dismissing your feelings when you confronted him about it. He sounds like a dick!
This is soooo sad. It was absolutely horrible that your husband said that to you.
Do you need help hiding his body? 
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If he is truly trying to be helpful there are more tactful and loving ways to say something. He’s an ass for talking to you that way
That’s where you come back with a “Wow, those jeans make your dick look smaller than it already is? Sure you wanna wear them?”
No. Your feelings are valid. It was rude and disrespectful. He could have said it nicer or just kept his mouth shut
What kind of husband says this shit? Not okay. I dont think youre overreacting at all.
Did you tell him how it made you feel?
Just say damn it’s lucky you’re not my size as we’d never see your little Willy again huh?
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Ouch 
so sorry
Just try to avoid all and any dairy products and you’ll see a difference I also went through this, I felt like I didn’t love myself anymore
Love yourself hon and you will be so powerful
I definitely feel like he coulda worded it better, my boyfriend knows I can’t dress to save my life so if I come out in somethin a little dumb looking or something that doesn’t fit me he’ll just be like “that’s a no” 
he’s also a solution man so if my clothes are getting tight he’ll just be like “babe your shirts have been a little tight lately would you like to go shopping this weekend and I’ll get you some.” And I am an emotional person so I take offense to all he says but at least he tries and isn’t an *ss bout it.
Also the few times my boyfriend has called me fat, more playfully I call myself fat I just point at our son and go “well you got that out of it so leave my fat alone.”
Hopefully he was just in a bad mood and it was just a bad day for the both y’all, hopefully you guys can talk and work past it
Girl leave NOW. Do not waste your time with someone who would say something like that. Evvvverrrr.
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Does your husband weigh the same as when you met him, I bet not?
Next time you see him nakey you should say ‘ wow it’s small than I thought ‘ 
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Tbh hun you already know he wasn’t lying. Don’t get angry at him- that’s just projecting. You’re hurt that you’re where you’re at in your journey and that’s ok. You can just say “ahhhh shit- ok imma change again 
”
I’ve been in this position and I used the discomfort to motivate me to cheat less with my food.
When you lose more you can put that top on again and he’ll see how much progress you’ve made 
xx
Tell him ‘your shorts show your 
print. The. Be like just kidding it ain’t big enough’