You need to lose weight. The weight of a husband. That is absolutely insane to say to someone you love and I don’t even know you, but know you deserve better. What a jerk!
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Many men do not think before speaking such things. I would remind him you had children and what that does to the body. I’m sure he isn’t rocking a 6 pack so remind him of his own rolls! You have every right to feel upset! I would have slapped him but that is just me.
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He is an idiot! Sorry not sorry! Would he like
It if you pointed out an
Obvious that you knew he was sensitive about?! Tell him he needs to reevaluate what he thinks is appropriate to say and what would hurt. And I was brought up to know not to hurt a persons feelings…. Words once said cannot be taken back and they stay forever in the mind! I am sorry he is not sensitive to your feelings
He’s a dxck. Idc rather it’s baby weight medication weight or burger weight no one should ever make their partner feel less than.
Maybe just maybe you don’t look good in it and he wanted to tell you it didn’t do you justice yes he should have used better words but find out the intent , then kick his ass
Well I’m sure he wouldn’t like it if he thought he was getting all dressed up for you and you gave him such a gross negative comment like that. I’d say that exactly to him! Unfortunately people don’t seem to realise what they say to others, and how they’d feel if it were said to him!
Ouch. that does hurt. Been there myself.
He needs to find other ways to speak to you, fat rolls!?
I couldnt even get naked with him again
Its diff if you asked how you looked, but if he said that out of nowhere,not Okay.
What an insensitive douche.
You love him, I get it, but if he doesn’t recognize that you’ve been taking care of yourself then I’d have to tell him to look in the mirror before judging anyone, specially you, his devoted wife.
His asshole is showing. He was extremely rude to say that. If you allow that kind of comment to be made once, he will say it again and again. Adding to it each time. Don’t tolerate that.
He had no right to say that to you and if he loved you he shouldn’t have said it like that. Some men are assholes.
You could have a medical issue. I was 35 and in peri menopause and full blown menopause at 40! I went from 180 to 265 in a year. Not my fault. Hormone replacement therapy has helped. IF my WIFE made any such remarks as your husband…I’d feel the same way as you. Men do not have the same ailments due to aging as us women. Either he understands that and watches his freaking mouth or you act like HE doesn’t exist until he asks why you are doing that to him. If he never changes……change men. Good luck, Beautiful! 
Do not get back at your husband by saying something nasty to him. That just creates more hurt. Instead think about why it hurt your feelings. Sounds to me your husband was being honest. Honesty is love. Love is not love. Love is not a feeling. Love is the action of always being honest and truthful even when it hurts. It hurt bc you knew it was true. So instead of getting upset and letting it control your emotions try letting it control your actions. Let it empower you not destroy you. Start taking your health seriously. Make life changing nutritional and physical changes for you and your family. Set the example for your little ones without destroying your family or tearing down your husband as these other ladies have been suggesting. I can promise you that isn’t going to make the weight go away or you feel any better. I’ll pray you handle this with love and respect for husband and family. I’ll also pray for your strength to lose the weight so you feel better and your husband likes what he sees. 
Unpopular option… ur husband has a right to be honest with u when it comes to ur weight. It upsets u bc YOU are insecure about it. But as long as he’s not disrespectful with it then why not let him speak about it?? Ur issue is with urself, not ur husband. You can do this, girl!!! Diet and exercise is a real bitch but u can do it. Lose the weight u wanna lose and get ur self confidence back.
Is he truly a mean spirited person who has made ugly comments before or is he a complete dumb ass with zero tact. You are a 100% right to be upset but the context is important as to how and how long you are upset.
WTF! Send me pics and I’ll do my part helping boost you up love. He is a dick and I’m not sorry for saying it. No one with common decency and intelligence would think that was the appropriate response he gave. He knows exactly what he said and is now trying to make you feel worse for what he said. Don’t fall for it. I know how hard it is, been there and done that with my ex husband. He once told me I couldn’t go to a “friend’s” house because the wife didn’t like fat people. 
is all there is to say about that. Try not to let it get you down so much. I know much easier said than done.
It is not ok. Not from a spouse, not from a stranger, not from anyone. I’m so sorry.
That is bang out of order im sorry i would feel the exact same. I too had 2 more kids back to back 2018/2019 an i too have gained weight especially through the lock downs 
your emotions are all over the place as your feeling low already & a comment like that from him is not needed in the slightest 
has he even apologised?
Throw the whole man away
No! how would he feel if you told him his pecker was whittle bittle??? Bet he’d get emotional
Ohhhhhh my gosh!!! Oh hell no.
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Husbands are assholes, I’m sorry.
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Your husband is an asshole.
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Completely tactless and downright cruel.
Commenting on anyone’s weight is just gross.
I’m sorry his words hurt you. It’s terribly painful feeling less than in the eyes of the one you love.
I totally understand. You are NOT over reacting. You have feelings too. You are allowed to have them. Men are assholes
Stick with your diet.lose the weight for you not for him.men are stupid…
Your husband is an uncaring a$$hole.
Next time you see him naked, point at his d!@k and laugh.
Wow. Shocked. That’s horrible. I’m sorry.
Have you tried throwing the whole man away?
It was hurtful…. The end. You are beautiful
Any man who can disrespect the woman that birthed his children like that is a pos
That breaks my heart. What a dick.
Horrible for him to say !!
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Yeah, he is an asshole, that’s an insensitive thing to say, maybe you should tell him his dick is small. I wouldnt be with anyone that makes me feel that way. You birthed his children. What an asshat.
Eileen Cochran kinda shocked at some of these women
fuckkkkkk him! nobody should ever comment on your weight and especially not your husband. drop the dead weight and by that I mean drop your husband, he’s a piece of shit.
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Id be mad fr but if you like coffee pm me i have a product for you 
Your husband is a douche. Best of luck on your weight loss!
GIRL 
THROW A
MICROWAVE AT HIS A$$
He’ll learn real quick not to do that again!
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Your husband is a douche canoe
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Totally wrong of him
I suppose he’s perfect.
You may need your thyroid checked and your sugar levels
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Herbal life … try it
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I’m going to play devil’s advocate for just a minute:
There’s a few things here…
First. Im going to assume (because you didn’t say differently) that this is the first time he’s made a comment about your weight.
I know it hurt your feelings but with that in mind…take a breath and take a step back for a minute.
It sounds as though the clothes you picked out didn’t work for your current body type.
He knows your self-conscious about your weight…so he told you before you went in public where you’d be even more self-conscious
Id hazard a guess he wasn’t trying to hurt your feeling but rather be honest about the clothes that you had chosen.
I totally get it. It’s hard from being one size and able to wear one type of clothing to gaining weight and trying to find flattering things. I’ve been there. Still there.
Even loosing weight it’s almost worse because of loose skin.
Next time…take him or an honest friend with you.
Find things that fit your body type. I’d recommend high waisted jeans and flowy tops. Things that accentuate your waist and boobs.
Yes. It was a hurtful observation… Ask yourself, why this comment hurt you? Answer this and then keep asking why to dig deeper until you find the root.
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No, you are not overreacting. NOONE can tell you how to feel. Tell him to Fuck off.
your husband is an ASSHOLE
Does he look the same, or has he also gained weight…without having had kids?
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I always like honest opinions but he didn’t have to be so rude about it to you especially if he knows you are having insecurities about your weight. You deserve an apology
Of course you are hurt I would be too, but men are tools he definitely didn’t think before he made that comment and it just come out they not the best with words at time lol, but don’t let this bring you down girl! You lost weight already so well done hunni because it’s bloody hard!!! So brush his comment off as a idiotic comment and try not let it bring you down!
that is not just making a comment about your weight. your husband bullied you. I’d be upset too don’t let a man invalidate how you feel.
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Fats where it’s at honey men love chubby women well mine anyways 
you are perfect …
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Just tell him his pants show how big is dick isnt and settle down
Don’t feel worthless you just had two babies! Your hubby sounds how me and mine are together. Probably too honest (comfortable with eachother), like oooh no your belly pooches out in that shirt…lol then he or I will change. Who else we got to bounce real honest opinion off of? If it really bothers you just tell him from here on out keep your opinion to yourself, I’m doing things my way.
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When a woman grows a human being her body changes its natural when a man doesn’t have the common knowledge of such a great miracle he is an ass ! Keep on track with your goals n maybe one day a man will enjoy ur curves and love u for u and not appearances !
Absolutely not ok! No excuse for hurtful comments especially from a your husband
Upsetting yes, just get on with your reboot. If you can survive having 2 kids so close together I’m sure you can get healthier. Try ‘The Virgin Diet’ it’s a really good book basically cutting out sugar, flour, etc that cause inflammation & weight gain. Men don’t go thru what women do with childbearing & body image so tell him that in a calm way. Do this for Yourself!
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I don’t understand some of these comments… Yes honesty is best but d**n if she felt good in it to begin with that alone should have been beautiful enough. Wear what the heck you want! We only have one life! Love the skin you’re in. Especially when you have been a vessel for life. You have given your body to give him children, weight is such a hard thing to get rid of even with all the hard work. Especially after having kids. So many things factor into why someone struggles to lose weight, and losing it takes so much longer than it does putting it on. I know. Back in 2013-14 I lost almost 100lbs, in 2015, I was the smallest I had been in years! Looked and felt fantastic. Then at the end of 15 I had a miscarriage, it’s now 2021, 3 miscarriages, 2 babies and an emergency hysterectomy latter, I was struggling with all the weight I had put back on between depression, and hormones. I’m still struggling. But I’m trying and if my husband ever tried to make me feel bad about my choice in clothes, especially if I was comfortable he’d have a rude awakening.
The sheer amount internalized misogyny and fatphobia in these comments, wow…
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Girl that’s nor ok if anything it will spiral you in the opposite direction if your not getting the support you need.
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You have two children that are watching him think it is ok to shame your GODESS OF A BODY that carried and brought those two children to life for him. That BASTARD needs a reality check. Your body is BEAUTIFUL no matter what it looks like. Good for you for working on yourself if that is what YOU want to do. Tell him if he cannot respect the AMAZING body you have, then he can kick rocks. LOVE YOURSELF!
Make a rude comment about his junk, and when he gets offended, tell him he’s overreacting. Then explain to him that’s exactly how you feel when he said what he said to you. To be mean about something so intimately personal, it’s just unkind.
A lot of men just don’t think. What comes into their heads comes out if their mouths. If he isn’t habitually cruel to you, he probably had no idea how much this would hurt you. Hopefully, be has learned his lesson.
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So, when’s the divorce? Because there’s was a nicer way to go about that and he chose to be a jerk.
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You are beautiful!!! Beauty comes in ALL shapes and sizes!!! Just know that you are perfect in someone’s eyes!!! Fuck him with all HIS imperfections!!!
Definitely an asshole thing to say. Men don’t always think before they speak.
Sounds like a narcissist!! 
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Ditch the mf. Know your worth!
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Didja’ know that heavier women carry more hormones than our slender sisters? Therefore, we have a tendency to be, um, “hungrier”. I’d tell him to watch his mean mouth or risk being denied his good fortune. That oughta’ hit’em where he lives. 🛇:couplekiss_man_woman: 
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Keep working on your self you only have to please you 
for you
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You’re entitled to your feelings, but to cry over what you know is true…
Hubby wasn’t wrong. Neither are you. Keep working on your self esteem and weight. Talk to him about tact.
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I would literally be super confident and take pictures and upload them and let me love on it. Men are so ungrateful and dumb. I’m like 30 pound heavier since I had my kids and my husband got mad at me once for wanting to where a dress that shows too much boobs when I pulled up his likes on Instagram it shut him up real quick don’t let them dumb fucks get to you.
If someone is over weight they know they are overweight. they defiantly don’t need a reminder or a shitty thoughtless comment about their weight. You are 100% allowed to feel upset. He isn’t allowed to tell YOU how YOU should feel about something he said. I am in the same boat and gained weight since being in new BC. and if my man said anything i would punch him in the dick.
He was an asshole to say something so hurtful to you… Sit his dumb ass down and tell him if he EVER says anything like that again you will eviscerate him while he sleeps and make sure you keep a carpet cutter in sight.
Give him a good smack and let him know it’s not okay, some men just don’t think and can say dumb things. Unfortunately, majority. But don’t ever feel worthless because of your weight or what others say. You had two kids, that’s rough on a body but so worth it!
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All these women on here saying “men are dumb and say stupid things.” Stop. You DO NOT say that to your wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/husband… ANYONE! All bodies are beautiful, and for someone who is suppose to love you the way you are come out and blatantly call you fat, needs a serious talking to. There is absolutely no excuse to body shame anyone let alone your spouse.
There is a difference between someone being worried about your health, and calling you out for your body type.
I said what I said.
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I mean this with all the disrespect - FUCK THAT GUY. Because he’s an asshole, plain and simple. You blessed him w TWO children, and he wants to come at you like that? Nope. He can get fucked, stay fucked.
Listen, mama. Your body did amazing things and it’s okay not to immediately “bounce back” if you want to diet and exercise FOR YOU - you absolutely should! But do not let his ignorance shame you for one second!!
I had 3 kids back to back
2018, 2019 & 2021 I use to weight around 140 to 160 now I’m 220 but never had my hubby make fun of my weight and I don’t like the weight he always tell me I’m beautiful that my body carry our handsome sons and I shouldn’t be afraid that I still got the baby weight. Remember your body carry your both kids and don’t be ashamed of that. You got this girl. I been dieting and going to the gym and just watching wat I ate and how much
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I mean I’ve always told my husband to tell me the truth whether it hurts my feelings or not. And yes I’ve cried over some of the comments, but at the end of the day I get over it. If my husband came out with jeans way too tight that split his balls in half, I’d comment on it. I look at it as my motivation to become a better me. It’s not healthy for me to weight more than 140 at 5’5. So I thrive that negative energy into my workouts.
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I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so low. Having a husband that doesn’t lift you up in ALL stages of life is hard. It’s harder when you don’t feel secure yourself about where you are in life. Know that you are worthy and you ARE trying.
He was insensitive. And him not recognizing it or acknowledging it is even more hurtful.
Sending you strength and love
I would have been really hurt and upset. I would start saying “That shirt shows your man boobs” and see how he likes it!
Girl, I had this with my exhusband for 16 years. Don’t let them tear you down. Stick up for yourself and demand the respect you deserve for being his wife and mother of his kids. My current husband would rather compliment me and elevate me as his wife. Nobody deserves to feel like crap by their spouse who is supposed to walk beside you through life. Best of luck dear.
Honestly, he only said the truth - the truth that you know - its just not nice to hear. It sounds like he merely said what he thought regarding the particular top you wore. It bares no correlation to his love, your being a utter sex goddess, nor your worth. Some clothes will always look better than others regardless of our builds.
I get that you’re hurt, im 200 now after being 120 my whole life, & i dont like mirrors or bathing. Im not dismissing your feelings, merely wondering why him commenting on how you look in a too upset you so much. I regularly ask if my outfit flatters me or if I should change my clothes before I go out. Its because I care how I present myself (on occasion), but other times I dont care & dont ask because their answer doesn’t matter anyway. On a date night out, id want the input
It’s not about the weight… Weight is an end result of something else… take a step back… find your happy for you and everything will fall back into place… If he said something regardless on how he feels about it… A real man that loves you will make it right… You cried and he disregarded your feelings… That’s concerning!!!
Sorry. Nobody really understands what it takes to raise lìttle ones. You carry on doing your best . Make time for yourself and get him to babysit. You need time and energy .
What a prick
Mu husband is just as thick and blunt
I’ve put on baby weight. When I met him I was a 6/8 now I’m 14/16/18 depending what you buy and where from as sizing is shit here
He has also put on lockdown and relationship weight
Even he had the tact to say we both needed to lose weight and we’d do it together
If you want to lose weight fast, lose the man, husbands are to lift you up not bring you down
I know how you can lose lots of weight really quickly, dump the rude fool, you’ve lost a massive amount then! I hope you sort something out but he is totally out of order saying that. 
If he wants to be honest, I say let him. You have to set those boundaries with him if you don’t appreciate it. HOWEVER. Anyone telling you you’re overreacting is trying to invalidate your feelings, and I am NOT okay with that. “I’m sorry my comment hurt your feelings, I didn’t mean to upset you” BOOM POW. That’s all he would’ve had to say. Want to take it further and be a supportive MAN? “I love you and your body in every season of our journey together”. BOOM. Human decency and awareness of each others feelings goes A LONG WAY.
It was very insensitive… you don’t say something like that to a person who is already insecure about their weight/body. Yea a few people are saying they rather their partner be honest or tell you how your outfit looks but it’s different when you are comfortable with how your body looks, this is not the case for her.
Somehow I get the feeling he’s not exactly Jason Mamoa himself. You’ve given him 2 children which changes a woman’s body from that of a girl to that of a woman. Never let anyone, no matter who, make you feel ashamed of your body or who you are. Wear what you want proudly and remember, some where there’s someone looking at you thinking how good you look. Shine on with your light
Next time he says anything, tell him he needs to get a new personality. I’d totally rip him a new one. And be cold as ice-no date night, nothing. If he said why, id have some very sarcastic answers.
I would say really bad choice of words. Sorry you had to hear that. Chin up mamma and know that 2 lives came out of inside you… it’s no joke.
No your not wrong. It takes a year to heal after each birth. Now you have a demanding new role in life as “mom”. Every new mom goes through an identity crisis.
Go to the dr have CBC bloodwork done with TSH, and free T3 & T4. Along with Oestrogen and progesterone. It could be hormonal, Thyroid, or vitamin deficiency.
If you are on BC might need one that doesn’t aid in weight gain. Antidepressants for the leveling out.
Low-carb can be beneficial for you. Many of low carb groups on FB for encouragement, venting, recipes, and support.
I’m aware I didn’t address anything about him. Everything you feel is valid. It’s about helping mommy feel encouraged. A mentally healthy person is a healthy mommy.
You are NOT worthless.
You are a new mommy with changed hormones, body, lifestyle, and it takes time to adjust.
What a horrible mean thing to say especially since he’s probably seen your journey so far to getting back into shape and on date night!! How dare he! Don’t let his nastiness get you down. Your body did an amazing thing growing two humans, so what if it didn’t snap back you’ll get there in time. You’re not over reacting at all. If it was my partner he would have had to face my wrath after a comment like that. Sending hugs 
I mean me and my husband always tell each other if we look like shit. Why would you not want him to tell you? He didn’t call you names or anything he simply said he can see your rolls… I think you’re overreacting due to your own emotional issues
Throw the whole husband away!
Nah, but in all seriousness, while he may just not have a filter and just says what’s on his mind… the sensitivity factor needs to be addressed. The delivery of the message needs work. I’m in the exact same boat as you after having my kids and weight doesn’t melt off like it did before.
Do some research, speak with a dietitian if you like and work on it.
Your husband needs to be more kind and sensitive about things that clearly mean something to you.
Maybe just sit down with him and say something along the lines of “while I know you weren’t meaning to sound like an asshat, you did and it really hurts my feelings when you say insensitive and hurtful comments. It’s not the message but the manner in which you said it. I was trying to look nice for you and for our date night but you made me feel disgusting and undesirable. How would you feel if I made you feel that way, especially when you were making an effort to look nice?”
Hopefully he wakes up and realizes that the words that are used are sometimes more important than he may think.
Violence isn’t the answer……sometimes. But I’m this instance a swift and powerful throat punch is in order.
While I don’t agree with his bluntness. I also can’t understand how one could carry 100 pounds extra after two kids. I’m also b2b and we as moms have to take care of ourselves from a mental physical and spiritual as well as emotional standpoint. I’m not shaming- I’m just saying that we need to take responsibility for what goes into our mouths and our children’s. Unless you have a health issue I feel we as a country and as a whole have allowed ourselves to “let go” of that prospective of responsibility and then later want to have our hand held when we’re upset with our own outcomes. I stand by what I say. I’m not going to cower to any negative thoughts and if you take this as fat shaming you’re using a cop out of responsibility of our own health and peace of mind.