Divorce him. Why raise another child. Your basically a single parent already
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Kick him to the curb
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It looks like itâs time to think about you and your kids only!!! Get out you will be fine on your own with your kids⌠your doing it now so you donât need him!!! Donât waste anymore of your life with him take all your time for you and your kids at this point thatâs all that matters!!! Best of luck keep your head up youâll be fine!!!
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No judgment at all but the fact that you have to write this you already know what to do.
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If your doing it all on your own already, drop him and that is one less person to care for.
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Just leave I mean you are doing it on ur own basically his useless anyways.
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Divorce his worthless assđ
Kick his arse to the curb!!! You have 3 kids to take care of on top of everything else you are doing. He dosenât support you or the kids, you probably wait hand and foot on him,wonât keep a job, wonât take the kids cuz heâd rather let you deal with them. He helped make them He can take care of them, so you can work, grocery shop, clean, do your schooling ect. You are doing it by yourself might as well go all the way. I say leave and go your own way. Donât be stupid and stay, get out while you can. You and the kids deserve better!!!
Communication is key. I would talk to him & if he doesnât change then you know what the next steps are. Being a single mom isnât easy but you already are one u just donât realize it.
Also think about your kids what example is he providing to your children. You donât want your kids growing up thinking the way things are right now is the right way.
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Make him leave âŚhe is a selfish narcissistic ass ⌠file for divorceâŚHave him move out
Youâve probably answered your own question! What DOES he do? ?? If you canât come up with at least 3 good answers then GET RID! !! Youâve already admitted you do it all yourself. âŚhe gets drunk. âŚhas no time for the kids. .doesnât help round the house etc. âŚyouâll have less laundry and one less mouth to feed! !! And most important you wonât lie awake wondering where/who heâs with and what heâs spending his money on he should be giving you! !!! And when he has to pay you maintenance. âŚ
Sounds like a roommate not a husband!
Sounds like he needs to go. Girlie if ur doing it by yourself now make him leave and continue doing it by yourself and u will lose the stress of him not helping
Time to pack ya bags girl⌠It ainât rocket science to figure that out
You HAVE to take care of him? Sounds like you got this all by yourself and heâs pretty much useless. Have you thought about not doing stuff or disappear a couple days and threaten to leave when he trips out? You have the control in this one, you just donât know it
Iâd leave him, divorce him. File for custody and ask for child support and alimony! Kick him to the curb and mean it!
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Mama obviously you donât need him your doing everything on your own and then some loose the deadweight and whatâs dragging you down let those kiddos see what a happy healthy badass mamma looks like your already giving them the badass part!!!
stay strong youâll get through this keep your head held high
If you choose to leave PLAN IN SILENCE, create an eradication plan (he leaves the house, not YOU), daycare, work schedule, budget. Speak w/a a lawyer, gather all of the financials (bank statements, paychecks, etc.), become a snoop - youâll be surprised/sad with what you find - stay focused. Once you know what youâre working with, then and only then have him served. At that point, DO NOT BE SWAYED by the lies and promises. Go forward, and live your best life - finish your studies and become the person you are destined to be.
Leave him. From experience, heâs showing you who he is. Believe him. He will not improve. You canât love him through this. He wonât âwake up one day and realize what heâs gotâ. He is totally comfortable with disappointing you. He is totally comfortable with hanging you out to dry. He will never see you, your pain, or your sacrifices. Cut your losses. Youâve been doing it alone this whole time anyway. Good luck.
Kick him out. Fuck him.
Time for a New Husband!
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Get rid of That DEAD weightâŚ
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leave him. get a divorce. if youâre that unhappy donât think twice about it. if he was going to change then he would.
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Youâre already an independent woman, you donât need him.
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You sound like a single parent. Sounds like you need a vacation and maybe a new husband
Leave him you going to do bad do it by yourself. Is not going to be any different you already having to do it by yourself with no financial support from him.
Leave⌠I mean your doing it on your own anyways, what would be the difference.
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And youâre with him why? If heâs not doing anything with you then you wonât miss Him when he is gone
Ok he didnât all of a sudden become this man heâs always been this way and because you allowed it he did. Take back your power and your crown. If you have to do it alone then do it without him and let the courts make him take care of his kids. Trust me heâll be like why, it time for you.
What the heck ⌠get rid of him⌠you can struggle aloneâŚ
Tbh leave. Youâre already doing it all by yourself.
And your still with him why? No judgement i went thru the same thing but had to realize. ThaT i was doing it all myself anyways so why put up with someone who does not want to be a partner lots happier now
So basically youâre saying youâre making it on your ownâŚand still taking care of him?? Oh no, I suggest you find your worth and leave if nothing is going to change. I can tell you that heâs NOT working day and night⌠heâs just not going home to youâŚsomething is up
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Youâre on your own anyway so u can do it without him.
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You are already a single parent get rid of him. Youâve been doing this on your own, you got this.
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If youâre already doing everything by yourself then wtf do you need him for? And if my husband came home drunk and said he was at âworkâ he can get the f*ck out.
If ur going to do it by urself regardless then ditch his ass u been doing it so far let him fend for himself
Throw that one out! Itâs broken
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Better to be a single mom than be in an unhappy marriage.
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I think you need to check yourself. You are one smart and strong women yet you let yourself get dragged down by a selfish guy. You donât need him in your life and do not excuse him because of your kids. They obviously arenât one of his priorities. He needs to go.
You shouldnât have to leave
Tell him to pack his bags and leave
If he looks confused tell him to read your letter or email explaining how much of a self entitled privileged fuka he is.
If he doesnt leave tell him if he doesnt you will call the police.
If he doesnât repect your decision and starts to be a prick, take a protection order out.
Youâre doing it all anywayâŚyou donât need him! It wonât change unless you make it change!!
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Yep
Something fishy there
Be gone with him !
This is an easy one. Heâs not doing anything for you. You donât need him. Heâs making you unhappy so kick him out.
No let him go good look whatâs the point in being with him let him go stay in his parents and good bye
Why are some men like this?? Its ridiculous and beyond selfish. I definitely understand ya situation, Iâm in one and it infuriates me. We are supposed to be a team, 5050. But nope, itâs all us and they get to live the life basically. 
Its like dealing with another child frfr.
Girl youâre already doing this yourself âŚkick him out! All he does is live there ⌠Like a kid at home. Uh uh. You already got kids u donât need him as a third
He wouldnât be my husband no more, like i tell mine i didnât sleep with myself to make these kids. He donât wanna help he shouldnât have made any kids
And how many of these people have taken their own advice before giving it
Get rid of fuckboy husband. Youâre already alone just with added âslap in the faceâ of having him there taking up space
Thatâs not a husband
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Run away while you can find someone decent who appreciates you do it soon
Seems like you already know what you need to doâŚwhatâs the point of doing all this extra stuff to improve your life & family situation just for your kids to see you exhausted & unhappy?
You donât need him he is worthless, you got this. Tell him he is no longer wanted in your home. Which you are already paying for and doing well as a single wife! Tell him to find another sucker to live with your done taking care of him!!
U mase well get rid of him hun and have one less worry. Since heâs doing jack shit ur not going to be at a loss if that makes sense dnt mean that harsh⌠u an kids deserve something/someone better hun and if ur feeling like this the kids will be able to feel it and isnât fair on them either xxx us women are strong enough to be single parents cos ur already half way there hun doing everything urself anyway
Take it from me, LEAVE! I wasted 12 years trying to keep my family together with a man that was similar to yours. I look back and feel so stupid for staying so long but since Iâve left him my life has been so great! I actually am with someone new and we have a baby together, just bought a house and he is amazing with my kids. Donât settle for that shit, pack up and find something amazing because trust me it IS out there. Good luck to you!
Um u tell him he either starts sharing the responsibility 50/50 or leave cause what ur doing is just taking care of a man baby
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You are a single mom, divorce him and get child support. You will have some days of your own time when kids go to visit him.
Start doing just for you and the kids. Cook? Just for you and the kids. If he asks about himself, tell him if heâs going to be so self-centered then he can take care of himself as well. Wash? Just do your clothes and the kids. Say the same thing if he asks.
Did you not know who you was marrying? There is a reason for the courting/dating process, itâs like a trial run to see if youâre compatible⌠Now if you skipped the entire testing phase and just jumped into the bed and marriage because of a short term hormonal issue and lack of observation then itâs all on you⌠Whining about your choices doesnât change anything, only action doesâŚ
Baby girl, you already know what to do.
Been there my self.
Itâs going to be hard @ the beginning, but it will be worth the sacrifice.
Your kids will appreciate it soon enough, my did.
God bless you.
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Are you sure he is at work for that long ⌠Iâd be putting on my detective hat sweetie and checking out that story ⌠then apply for maintenance and kicking his butt out ⌠you donât deserve that ⌠one day youâll find what real love is ⌠I was once in your shoes 
I know it easier said then done. I will pray to give you courage and find peace
Sounds like youâre a single parentâŚno point in keeping the extra baggage.
Dump that weight. He has shown you that you donât need him. When a men does that, show him the door. I did it because he showed me I didnât need him anymore.
Tell him to GET OUT!!!
Leave him and collect that child support honey
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Sit down and talk to him and give him an alternative to let him no what you said to all of usâ let him not har how you feel and you are getting pushed away quick⌠nothing changes âŚLeave. If your are already supporting yourself then u no you can do it by yourself you already are⌠why be miserable with someone you donât eve see and doesnât even help when you could cut that negative out your life and just focus on your self health and your children
Not to be rude but heâs either lazy or cheating or both. I wouldnât stay with him. You donât need to be taking care of a man child.
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You and your children deserve. Start over! Be free!
If you are doing it all without help, you can do all without him! Nah sisâŚthats not a husband. Thats a drunk with secrets and probably side hoes. Divorce time. You have 3 kidsâŚhim included. Ditch the pacifier sponge bob.
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Help yourself, if you are doing it all now kick his ass out and get a room mate who will pay half the bills.
Thatâs a straight up asshole!! Get rid of him
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Seems like you are already doing it all on your own. You might as well get a divorce.
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Honestly, you answered all your questions. You already know the answer but mentally seeking someone to tell you to keep trying. Iâm not that person, Iâm here to validate that you already know your answer and you are strong enough to move forward. Look for resources to help you out and find your tribe. Do better for yourself and the kids and lose the dead weight.
So u support a man that donât support or help uâŚhmmm
You already doing it all on your own so why are you with him?
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Sheesh are we dating the same person 
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Sounds like you are taking care of him and your kids. Why? It should be him helping.
Leave him right now. No discussion.
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I will counsel you on how to leave him
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Lady time to call it quits
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Iâm not judging you or your family but if your depressed and not happy maybe you guys should Separate for a short period of time may you guys can find yourselves agin and Iâm truly sorry you going through this I did and itâs very emotional but you canât take care of your baby or self unless your Physically And mentally healthy itâs for the best
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Time to go⌠heâs not helping anyway so what makes you think you canât live without him?
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Sounds like you have three kidsâŚNo adult needs to be carried. Get rid of him. Youâll have a massive weight lifted. And since youâre already doing everything you know you can. Emotionally youâre better off with him gone from your home. He will either sink or swim but he definitely needs a wake up call. Best of luck much love to you! 
Leave, youâre doing it on your own already.
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Youâre already a single parent by the sounds of it. Surviving without his help or money. Tell him how you feel. Suggest counselling. If he doesnât listen then Move him out. Maybe heâll realise what he is doing to you and change.
Kick him out , I understand loving someone but you gotta love yourself and your babies more!
Iâve been in your shoes. I wish I could tell you what to do, but is a personal thing. I will say I lost 20+ years of MY life while he was having a gay old time.
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Already doing it all on your own, time to get him out of your life. You donât need him around! Youâve already proved that in your post. Whatâs he there for a free ride.
You are putting in a lot of effort into a man you will never get anything back from.
Respect yourself & get out. He never will.
Honestly,do you really need him? You and the kids would probably have more without him. The law would make him contribute finely!
And you deserve better than that. Good luck girl
Throw the whole man away! You are already doing it all alone so why is he even there? Let him go. You will be happier eventually.
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What is he there for if your doing it alone. Make him hear you or make him leave life is to short for all that
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I want to know whats the purpose of having him there your better of with a floor mat
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He serves no purpose in your life. Youâre already doing it at all on your own, trust me Iâve been in your shoes and life was way better to me after I shoved my ex to the curb. Donât stay because of custom or for your kids! Trust me they wonât miss him. I promise you life without someone who is just dragging you down and not appreciating you and everything you bring to the table will be much better. If youâre worried of being alone, donât be because the right man will come along, someone who really truly appreciates you and all you put out.
Common sense says you are alone so be alone with the kids. Get rid of the weight of the âhusbandâ and you will feel better
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Take your kids and move on he obviously isnât a man
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Sounds like he needs to quit drinking âŚ