Sounds like he is having an affair or another life since he’s always gone.
I would get a divorce and leave, your already doing it all yourself.
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I’ve done exactly what your doing, eventually you’ll be force to let that toxic relationship alone. Make the right decision now and prevent yourself from continuing this madness, send prayers 
I had a similar situation but worked full time, which gives a sense of pride and accomplishment, plus provides a sense of personal income too.
Is he working? Does he pay the other bills in the house? So he is contributing in that sense if he is. BUT Even all of the other issues that you talk about is grounds for separation. Stop doing things for him. Don’t cook for him, don’t do his laundry, don’t clean up his messes. Tell him you have enough to do with yourself in the kids that you don’t have time for his stuff. You’re not his mother.
Also, if he is always gone. He is obviously not happy being at home with his family. So tell him to go be free.
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What’s he there for ? Your doing it yourself. Throw the trash out
You’re already handling everything yourself. Divorce him and let the courts demand he give u child support.
Seems to me like you’re already doing just fine al by yourself and he’s just dead weight at this point. I’d get rid of him but it’s ultimately up to you what to do in your marriage.
Leave …u practically on your own as it is .or let him leave.
Sounds like you need to get your ducks in a row which you already know but let reality sink in hurts more fake it until you make it 
No dick is that good sweetie or worth that much money or heartbreak. Start to make an exit plan ASAP. You know things aren’t going to change. Keep moving foward and don’t make waves about it, and start making quietly making a plan and gathering info and records of everything for your divorce and set yourself and kids up for sucess. You need to be out of this situation but do it in a smart and efficient manner, to ensure the best life possible for you and your kiddos
The first part of your sentence is all you need to know. Leave. Start getting your money up or go get out now (go to parents/friends) and start getting up your money to divorce this loser.
People who haven’t been in your situation don’t understand, but I do. It’s hard to break out of a relationship like that but you can do it. Start putting a little money aside every week for yourself (and your attorney you’ll need). When you get a little lump sum go see an attorney. The state will make him pay alimony and child support. Then you can have a life. You’ll still work hard but you’ll be doing it for just you and your children. You will find happiness, you just have to take the first step, even tho it’s scary. 
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If he is coming home drunk he aint working…
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Might as well be alone if your partner isn’t being a partner to you. If you have to do everything alone you might as well drop the baggage you don’t need, which is him. I usually don’t advocate for leaving, I feel like most marital issues can be resolved with communication and even therapy but this right here is you being taken advantage of and emotionally neglected, so leave. He won’t help you, he won’t help you provide, he’s never home, and he lies to you, so what’s he there for? Looks? No reason to keep someone around if they can’t even be bothered to pretend to want to be there for you, you deserve better.
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You deserve so much better. We have one life on this earth, do not waste it. He doesn’t contribute, doesn’t show love or concern, he’s probably cheating too. Leave. Go find someone who deserves you.
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Get rid of the looser sounds like your going on your own with a
Don’t keep punishing yourself, you deserve happiness. Take your kids and go. You’ve already proved you can do it on your own.
Keep being that exceptional role model for your children and ditch the garbage dragging you down!
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I’m sorry but it’s time to move on you don’t need another dependent you need a partner
As long as you enable him… stop tolerating his behavior!!!
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I lived this for a long time. Except he didn’t work. He would sleep all day and then play video games all night. I worked full time, went to school full time, took care of myself, four kids, the house and paid all the bills. I finally realized… if I was doing it all on my own, I should be on my own. I left him. I was still working full time, going to school full time, taking care of myself, 4 kids, the house, and paying all the bills… but I was happier because I didn’t have his bullshit to deal with.
Money coming into the house is communal imo.
Everything goes into and out of one pot
Is he paying what he earns into a joint account for the general running of the home…or is he keeping all his income ?
If hes working long hours so are you…you should both be helping around the house
If you’re doing and paying everything by yourself…youre better off alone imo…send him packing
Look up narcissistic personality and decide for yourself if you want to stay in that life. Run girl, run!
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What you have there, is a boy, not a man. You can’t train a grown man to take care of his responsibilities like that. Even if you have children together
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He sounds like a cheater and very immature I’d be done
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That’s a divorce. Yea, he’s working, but you need help in all the ways thinkable. Save up some money to get your own place, since you basically already do it as a single parent. Just one less person to care for. Your babies need you happy and your obviously not momma. Get out and put him on child support, that way he has to help money wise for the kids he helped create.
Or give him the ultimate choice of actually helping you or you and the kids are gone, if you want to try to save the marriage, but he’ll have to stop drinking all the time. But maybe a separation from you and the kids will open his eyes that you will not be taken for granted and will not take care of a man child.
But if my husband was that way, I’d divorce him and definitely request child support and no visitations until the drinking problem was under control.
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Literally, what is the point in having a husband. You’d be better off alone and without the stress of dealing with him since you’re doing and paying for everything anyway.
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He’s cheating. As long as he isn’t a participant I would not wash his clothes or cook for him.
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If ur planning on leaving make sure u get proof of all he’s doing for when u leave Like for court and stuff
You’re already a single mom. Might as well kick him to the curb because this guy is trash.
You’re already doing everything without him, make it official and get rid of him. You’ve got this.
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Get out girl you are already doing it alone. Do what is best for you and your kids
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Sounds like you know how to handle everything! You are already rocking it! You know what to do (:
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Leave! It won’t be any harder than it is now! Except 1 less to take care of! Good luck!!!
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So, what you are saying is that you are essentially a single mom… so GO be one in relationship status, as well 
You are with him why?? Sorry but sounds like you would be better off on your own. The added stress is not good for you. Choose you n the kids. Move forward. Without him. You won’t regret it!
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Leave him he just wants you to be his second mommy.
Omg never heard of this, he wants you to pay for everything and do everything, he should have never got married, he’s living like a single man, really send him back to his mums, and let her keep him, I run from him hun, your doing everything anyways, leave him, you be much happier, marriage is a two way street, best of luck to you hun 
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You know what you Need to do. It’s just hard to do it. Been there. And let me just say. Parents don’t “watch/babysit” their Own children… It’s called PARENTING 
Relationships are 100/100 or Nothing. Bye, bye little Boy!
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Then why do you stay?! Have you talked to him about it?
Darling you are a single mom of 3. Get rid of the man child and look after your little ones coz you doing it all on your own anyway🤷🏽♀️
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The fact that you think he works day and night shows how over this relationship is. No where let’s people work that dam much he’s just straight out lying and by stay your just telling him that it is okey and that you’ll just keep staying cause you don’t care about yourself or your kids to give them a happy mother.
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send him packin to his mommys
If you’re doing all that and paying bills, he’s just a room mate that needs evicted. He’s behaving like he has no family. Stop cooking for him, doing his laundry, etc. If he’s working that much and not contributing, he can afford his own place.
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he would of been a single mf a long time ago sheesh
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You need to just take care of yourself and those kids. Male him take care of himself. Honestly it doesn’t really even sound like you’re in a relationship with him. Sounds like another kid you have to watch out for. You need to be happy for your kids. I would give him an ultimatum. Start helping out or you leave. Sorry you have to go through that.
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File for divorce n put yourself n kids first.
If u stay with him don’t have anymore kids u already have 3
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I’d file for divorce. He can continue doing god knows what. But make sure he is put on child support, so then he can see how much it costs to actually financially support a family.
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Kick him out and move on…
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Why haven’t you left him yet? Sounds like a dirt bag. You’re pretty much already a single mother so honestly I would straight up look at him and say since I am basically a single mother because I do everything myself, I might as well BE a single mother. I would never put up with that, and neither should you.
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You’re doing everything by yourself. Why do you need him?
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U have a over grown man child you need to release put into the world and focus on I and babies since you are capable though its hard to raise babies on your own just ditch him. He will do whatever he can fo stay but just ignore him and move on
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What you allow will continue, you also have 3 children
You are better off without him
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I would have words with him about it and tell him step up to the plate because you’re going to be a single mom then you might as well be
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Please Leave him. He’s cheating. I went through this for 20 years. He was cheating and staying out coming home drunk. It’s not worth it. Then go after him for child support and just be there for your kids. They need you more now then ever. I stay with my husband until my kids left home
My kids tell me today they wish I left there dad sooner
You have to do what is best for you and your kids. I wish you the best.
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Leave him! You can do bad all by yourself!!!
You’re doing it all anyway!
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Cut off all the wife services cooking cleaning etc. Do for you and the kids dont give him any of ur money dont pay his expenses at all not for his car not for him. Start the eviction process hes a. Shitty roommate with the benefits of a husband cut him off at the balls my momma would say
No judgement, explain your feelings to him and give him time to process the information. Step two is to give a time limit to change his ways and become the father and husband you want and need him to be. Encourage counseling. Until his time is up start charging him rent so he knows your serious. When the time is up readdress the situation and make a final decision on weather you want to live with this person for the rest of your life or be a single mom.
Sounds like you are already doing it all on your own anyway, lighten the load and get rid of him.
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You can get child support plus if he is cheating you can get a hell of a lot more. My niece and I have a friend got it all. Go after him.
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Why is he still there???
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Time for him to shape up or sail away. Get professional help soon
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You’re already doing it by yourself. Practice selfcare, form a escape plan, build a support system implement when ready. You’re STRONGER than you think. GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK
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You clearly don’t need him so what’s the point of keeping him around? Just another person to take care of
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Been there literally down to the full time job/6 online classes… all the same minus mine didn’t drink and didn’t stay out late all the time… was video games.
Darling lady, I’m pretty sure everybody reading this just wants to give you a huge hug. I feel your pain, but this is NOT meant to be your life! You and your kids deserve love, safety, joy. Is there anyone you and the kids can stay with while you figure out your next move. Please don’t settle for this less than half a life. I live in the UK but I would love to support you with friendship if you would like that. Please take back what has been stolen from you…your life! Love and a huge hug to you and your kids. 
Wait you have 3 kids, so…
…why are you still with him? Get rid of him and watch your stress levels drop dramatically
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you need to take time out to get yourself a good lawyer and get out of this relationship . it is going no where you dont have a life with him you are an indentured serveant
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Get rid waste if space!! You do it all anyway so your not missing out on much!! Sounds like the kids wont miss him either if he is never home
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Kick him to the curb. You don’t need a adult kid to raise.
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If you’re doing it all alone anyway you may as well be on your own in my opinion. One less man child to take care of.
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Plan your escape he had checked out already stop wasting your time and energy , lean on your family for help
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Why is he still your husband then. You can do it on your own just fine. Release the emotional baggage because tigers don’t change their stripes love.
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You got to leave him it will never get any better you have to do what is right for you and your life they always come first
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you’re already a single parent. why put yourself thru the stress of putting up with him anymore? sometimes it’s better to be a single mom than a married single mom
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Answer me this one question… If your providing financially, taking care of the home and kids, working, and going to school all on your own now… Why are you even with him if he does nothing for you but upset you:thinking:
I’d drop his ass and just handle me and mine without the extra stress and drama
The B…. would be gone!
If you’re gonna do it by yourself you might as well be by yourself. At this rate, he’s hindering you Instead of helping you
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Leave. He’s pathetic and selfish.
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That’s not a husband that’s another child!
He’s already over the relationship, he just likes the free ride you give him
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Make sure you have separate bank accounts ,one he has no assistance to first of all. Make sure house,bills n vehicle r in ur name. Then kick his ass to the curb. Sounds to me he has his cake n eating it to while u take care of his world n not urs. Secure a lawyer n make ur life better.
You’re obviously able to care for you and your kids without him. So, go on without him. He doesn’t appreciate or respect you. He doesn’t want to be better for you. You can leave… You’ll be happier. Your kids will be happier. Of course it’ll be hard… But no harder than it’s already been. At least you’ll be a single mom, not a single mom with a husband. Good luck.
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Baby if you doing ALL THAT & PAYING THE BILLS…tf is he there for? Taking up space? Im not judging u at all. BUT LEAVE HIS ASS!!! HE’S USELESS. you can do all that by yourself
Sounds like you are living life as a single parent. Well then, be one. Dump him. He’s not contributing to the marriage at all, so why stay married ? There are programs out there for single parents that may offer some help, so why not take advantage of them. Plus you may find a partner out there that is truly willing to be a partner and help pitch in at home and help out. That is just my opinion, take it for what its worth. At least he wouldn’t be an anchor your dragging around. Good luck !!!
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Hun your seeing that you do not need him. He is there taking up precious air that someone else could use. Get out you and those babies and get your own place. If you have been doing this the whole entire time then you are fine
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Get rid of the whole man and your stress will reduce drastically
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Get out. You’re already living like a single parent, might as well be one legally.
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The situation is not going to change - if thats ok with you - then stay. If that is not the life you want - LEAVE - LEAVE FAST - the years are passing by!!
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WHY have you stayed???
Everyone on this post is going to tell you to leave him because you should, be on your own until you find a real man! He’s not a good husband or a good dad and that won’t change if you stay, let him go he doesn’t love you he just loves the perks of being with you.
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Honestly I’d be concerned on him coming home drunk saying he’s at “work”. I don’t know any job that let’s anyone get drunk on the clock. Even bartenders can’t unless it’s a wet bar but that’s obviously not what he does. He isn’t going to change so you need to really think long and hard about what it is YOU WANT! If you want to continue this routine then stick with it but if you are truly fed up babe you know what you need to do. Emotionally it’ll be hard but trust me when I say it’ll be a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. And it’ll force him to grow up.
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Leave! Or tell him to kick the curb! There are good men and dads out there and you will find one that will be there to help you
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You don’t need his dead weight.
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Leave him! You’re doing everything on your own now so you know you can do it without him!
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If your not happy leave you obviously do it on your own so divorce his childish ass.
That’s alot coming from a momma who also did all this and my partner Helped financially its was still hard I can imagine how your coping , put your foot down now your single already basically so fuck him out on his ear he be soon enough to run back with his tail between his legs he knows were his bread is buttered you deserve better!
I wouldn’t be hanging around that nasty child. I’d be long gone. He is being abusive towards you and the kids. It’s time you started thinking about you and your family. If you think he’s working both day and night you’re only fooling yourself. He’s a very selfish person not contributing to anything. You are better off just you and the kids. Then let him pay child support. At least you would have peace of mind. That’s not love.
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Girl you’re doing it by yourself already leave that man!
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