Once in a while things get out of hand and if your vary confident you can say dont do that again and it wont happen again but if it does then that’s abuse.
He sounds like a narcissist. I have been through this and it does not get better, only worse. It takes a lot of courage and strength, but I would ask him to leave.
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True colours shining thru. Move on , they get worse not better.
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Definitely started thinking this was about the pineapple meaning swingers 
yeah Definitely not alright but also why was he volunteered though
Sounds like a true definition of a narcissist. Soon enough it’ll turn to physical abuse. Please think long and hard about possibly leaving this man. I don’t get good feelings.
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It says so much about how someone treats you in front of others. It sounds like you both should have a talk about your boundaries.
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I wouldn’t put up with this without him hearing about it ot me turning the tables on him & making him look stupid! On another, did you know that a pineapple is a berry? That being said, if you cut off the top, all those little squares are berries! Just lift & pull them up & they’ll separate off of the pineapple…no need to cut it other than to start it off!
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If he does it again, say who the fuck you tslking to like that, carry on and you’ll have to sleep with one eye open, cause im going to… whatevever you feel to say, bust you up etc…
I mean did he cuss at you? Or was it just what is up with you? Are you crazy? F***. I feel like there’s a difference between him saying you’re a b**** or what the f*** are you thinking and just ending a sentence or thought with cuss word. However if you feel some type of way you need to speak with him about it communication is key.
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Sounds like asshole to you and friends.
Cut holes in his underwear, hide his phone chargers…that should teach him
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Believe me that’s just the start
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You set the tone for what you allow.
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Don’t suggest that someone else can do something. Let that person speak up if they want to.
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Red flag🚩Run girl run🤔and you should’ve put a stop to it right there told him were to get off
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I don’t like to be volunteered either.
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I would’ve cussed him right back. If he feels no way about embarrassing me then I won’t feel anyway about embarrassing him 
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Huge red flag especially the public humiliation
And belittling. Narcissistic behavior. Keep your eyes peeled. And BTW, the mirror effect doesn’t work with toxic and/or Narcissistic Individuals. Its exhausting so don’t even try tit for tat bc with a narcissist its always your fault
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Give it him back when he speaks to you and see how he reacts and sorry but who cares if the friend hadn’t prepared the pineapple!!! Can friends not have a last minute idea and ask a friend for help fgs!!!
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This is a joke right 
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Sounds like time to play Grit Ball
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Oh poor pet someone asked him to do something he didn’t want to do. Grow up little boy and become a man.
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That’s a huge NO! It can only get worse esp if he has no problem disrespecting you in front of other people over something so trivial
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Girl I wish my husband would cuss at me in front of friends/family!!! DONT IGNORE THE RED FLAGS!
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Nope, not acceptable. It’s just the beginning, you set the tone of what and how people will treat you. It will only get worse. I’d have another conversation stating that if he talks to you In that manner again that you will be leaving said environment. Get a cab, have your friend take you home whatever you need to do to get out of there. Bc that behavior is not tolerated. Explain that you will not be disrespected. If it’s happening over something as stupid as a pineapple already now, what’s going to happen over something that’s actually important… He could have privately said something to you later in a nicer tone abt not liking to do something so that you could be mindful of his preference of a certain thing, instead of disrespecting and embarrassing you in front of everyone over a stupid pineapple. Clear, calm communication is key to a healthy marriage. Good luck. Also, the response he gave you is bs, the point of the conversation you had was abt how he treated you, not abt he didn’t want to help out. That was obviously clear after the incident itself. That kind of response is a round abt way of not taking full responsibility for acting like a child…
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I find it disrespectful if he going to do that. why can’t he treat you like he does when your at home in front of people 
anyway if you all are friends then why is it that he can’t help I mean that’s what friends are for
Pineapples with friends can be a touchy subject 
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Did a pineapple in his past hurt him?? Maybe he’s afraid.
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Run. It will never get better.
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Don’t have kids with him.
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Run!! Run like you never ran before!! DO NOT LOOK BACK!!
He would only have one time…
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Run! Only gets worse
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Umm all you people would leave your partners if they swear at you…get over it and move on. Just because he knows how to do it, doesn’t mean he wants to.
People need to stop being snowflakes. Get on Google
One word DIVORCE sorry but there’s no respect there
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To me, he has no respect for you. My ex husband always did stuff like to me, and thats why he’s an ex. One time we were at toys r us Christmas shopping for our daughter, and he didn’t like something I said, he flipped me off with both birds and told me to F off in front of a crowded store with children there… I ran & called my mom because I was so upset & visibly shaking. That should of been my HUGE red flag, but I still thought he’d change. He didn’t. Good luck sweety!
Pay attention to the signs , often this is how bad situations start. Don’t let it slide, or you will pave the way down a long ugly road. It starts out with the little things then escalates. I know I lived it for 26 years before I got out. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, hoping it gets better for you:two_hearts:
Once and always once too much its a true attitude till you talk it back girl get your vocals together set him straight treat as you want to be treated treat him as he treats you
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Next time don’t wait until yall get home. Chew his ass up right there. Whether it’s in front of his friend or not. Let him know you didn’t appreciate the way he spoke to you. Especially in front of others. “Treat 'em how they treat you”
If you see a pattern… maybe you should rethink the relationship before its too late.
There are two kinds of people out there, those who will respect you and those who won’t. Choose someone who will respect you cherish and honor you. Someone who would never dream of ever talking to you like that. Tbh you don’t have to choose anyone, but choose love for yourself, self love, self care, because you are worthy of love and respect, don’t ever let anyone tell you different or any less. 
Why the fuk are you people telling her to leave her marriage over this??? That’s why the divorce rate is thru the roof because you idiots don’t know what working thru your personal issues are! You need to talk to your husband and tell him to never talk to you like that again. Set boundaries and stand by them. Period. Most of the people on this post are going to end up by yourselves if you don’t chill.
I would have started laughing hysterically and then not have said another word to him. Now he doesn’t know what to think. And when I did finally say something it would be if you ever disrespect me like that again your great grandkids will still be looking for your body parts. Where is my nail money?
In years to come his behavior will probably turn physical. You only have 1.5 years invested. Run now.
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Verbal abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse 
If you’re noticing a pattern now I would say it’s time to start thinking of your future in a diff way
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When a man starts to disrespect you just once and you don’t say anything he will continue to do it I’ve been with my husband for 12 years and not once has he ever spoken to me crazy girl say something or leave it only gets worse
Good luck with that crap. I would of said something to him right then and there when it first happened. Stand up for yourself. If you act like a doormat, people will walk all over you
Seeeee this mess right here … I would have addressed him infront his friends too since he wanted to act a fool and embarrass me … 2 can play that game … I’ve never been a woman who is meek and mild tho u come at me like a fool then I guess we are both actin like fools today … respect is earned and if he can disrespect you like that then he needs to stop or he needs to go … I wish my boyfriend would try some shit like that smh 
My husband has never even sworn at me before in anger. Let alone embarrass me in front of friends. My husband and I have a joke and he will tell people I’m the HBIC🤣 but that’s about it. There’s no need to be degraded.
You need to check that ass at the door. You should never allow anyone, husband or not to talk to you with disrespect. Honest to God I would have gotten up and knocked his ass out. Then I would have taken the keys and drove him and left his stupid ass there. Find your own place to sleep tonight bitch! Any man who feels they can disrespect a woman especially his wife is a BITCH! (Show this comment to your husband) I hope you don’t tolerate this any longer! Whoop that ass girl!
Yikes! That’s not only embarrassing but really not ok. He has his right to feeling under pressure to do something he may not want to do but to be verbally abusive to you. No, not ok. If you have to ask us. Then this is not the first or last time he will degrade you in private or public.
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Uh-oh, I’ve been there, then the physical abuse started, it’s called “controlling”. He’s starting to make you unsure of yourself and getting rid of your friends. Leave him now before it’s too late!!!
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I had to many years with my exes that did that . But necer again single now and thats where im staying .
Leave him sis… its just a matter of time before things start getting worse! 
I’ve gone through that already and it doesn’t end pretty!
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This is trauma bonding and it is terrible!
𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚞𝚖𝚊 𝚋𝚘𝚗𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐.
The beginning. A period of sweet, honeymoon like idealization. Narcissists will put you on a pedestal. They’ll make you feel a love you’ve never felt before. They’ll compliment you, flatter you, buy you gifts, and seem to give you the world. They’ll promise you forever.
𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚊 𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚖 𝚘𝚏 𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚘𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞.
But you won’t see it. You’ll be blind in love. They may leave clues and red flags but you’ll ignore them because you’ve never felt so good about anything. No ones ever treated you this good. You’ve never felt SO important. They’ll appear to be very interested and to want to know everything about you. They’ll want to know your fears, your insecurities, your deepest secrets. You’ll feel so close to them when they share these things with you and you exchange them back.
𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚘𝚗𝚍 𝚒𝚜 𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚖𝚎𝚍.
They’ll start to target your insecurities, in a way to slowly break you down and make you feel lesser than. They’ll find out what you’re most proud of and they’ll target those areas so that you have nothing. They want you to feel so little. They’ll make you feel like your positive qualities are what they hate about you - so that you’ll tuck those far away.
𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢’𝚕𝚕 𝚌𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞.
You’ll turn into a person you don’t even recognize in order to shape yourself to fit their needs. And why? Why not just walk away when it starts going south?
𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢’𝚕𝚕 𝚋𝚎 𝚒𝚗𝚌𝚛𝚎𝚍𝚒𝚋𝚕𝚢 𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚒𝚙𝚞𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎.
You see they don’t just turn bad one day. This is a slow process of devaluing you as a human. They’ll make you believe that the things they did to you were a direct result of what you did wrong. That if you only loved them more, if you only were a better partner, this wouldn’t happen.
𝚢𝚘𝚞’𝚕𝚕 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚍𝚎𝚛.
You’ll give it everything you have. You’ll invest every ounce of yourself into making them happy until you have absolutely nothing left for yourself. No love. No self respect. Nothing.
𝚑𝚘𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚘𝚘𝚍.
When you’re about ready to walk away, when you’ve had just enough to break, they will start hovering to regain control. They will pretend they have changed. They will promise to never hurt you again. They will spoil you with that love and attention they gave you in the beginning. They’ll start building you back up with compliments.
𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚜𝚘 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚊𝚍𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚜𝚘 𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚝𝚕𝚎.
Psychologically speaking, they’ve now created a trauma bond. This is a real, and very addictive cycle. Your brain will start to crave pleasing them because their love and approval of you becomes like a drug.
𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚠𝚊𝚒𝚝.
You’ll spend a lifetime waiting. Waiting for them to change. Waiting for the kindness to show. Waiting for the right time to end the relationship. It’s only when you stop waiting and start walking away that you begin to process and truly see how disgusting the cycle is.
𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚗𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛 𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚝𝚘𝚡𝚒𝚌 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚜 𝚞𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚕 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚋𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚝𝚑 𝚏𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚊𝚒𝚛.
I started taking videos at the end, when I knew I was ready to leave because I knew the hoovering stage would pull me back in. Your brain teaches you to forget the things you go through because it craves the praise and love so much. These videos help serve as a sick reminder of the amount of years I gave to someone who used and abused me. I watch them all the time. Anytime he sends me a nice text. Anytime he sends me flowers. Anytime I feel any empathy towards him.
𝚒𝚝’𝚜 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛
What some people forget is that after you leave this type of relationship, it’s still not over. It takes years before it’s really truly over. The cycle continues. They just use other forms. Social media put downs. Slander. Hateful text messages. Anything they can do to get back under your skin. To regain control. And then back to the hoovering stage to try to win you back.
And even with little to no contact, and zero physical interaction - it’s a constant battle everyday to remind myself that their words mean nothing. Their slander means nothing. And I am stronger, fiercer and braver than everything they ever did to me.
𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚞𝚖𝚊 𝚋𝚘𝚗𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐.
Definitely drop him, he doesn’t love you if he can do this in front of friends or anyone else, he is a dick
LEAVE! If the man is that unstable that he’s going to flip out and cuss at you for saying he can cut a damn pineapple then he’s got some serious issues he needs to work on. Next he will be cussing you out for breathing or something just as stupid. You deserve BETTER
My husband said, you should have slapped him right in front of the friends. lol. but no in all seriousness, I would be getting out cause your relationship is young and he is already showing bad signs and it will just get worse.
Over a pineapple??!!! And you’ve only been married less than 2 years?? Girl run! It’ll get worse!! Trust me!! When they do it in front of people, GIRL!!! Leave.
That’s a bad sign- why would he even feel comfortable speaking to you in such a mannor especially infront of your friends? My friends would have said something and not tolerated such ignorance! 
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You sound soft lol girl you was suppose to say WTF YOU TALKING TOO
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Ladies; stop this disrespectful behavior at the first time it happens. Show him with distance is not OK and if this happens again leave, that’s verbal abuse.
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Really???
Have any of you swore at your husbands??
I’m not trying to start anything—just a question???
Should have told him straight there and then in front of his friends don’t ever raise your voice to me again if you don’t want to cut the pineapple tell your friend so not verbally abuse me in front of your friends
His response didnt make sense? Maybe they were waiting for someone that new how to cut it. I don’t think your response was wrong.
I would leave no man will disrespect me in any matter especially in front of family or friends. Either he will treat me with respect like I do him or I will leave because if he does it once it will happen again.
It’s weird your husband got that upset by the thought of cutting up a pineapple. Hopefully he was just having an off night. But to answer your original question, your husband cussing at you is never ok, at a friend’s house or otherwise.
Believe me, it only gets worse. Leave before you are totally destroyed
Wish I had left 60 years ago before it was too late.
You dont lv to take any kind of abuse from anybody especially ur husband, maybe y’all need sum space so he can get sum kinda attitude adjustment on his attitude with you.
I would suggest the person to keep a journal and keep record. If your partner is constantly putting you down either in public or at home, that is emotional and mental abuse. We need to stop ignoring the signs!
Sounds like he’s having an affair, lashing out at you for his misbehavior. Divorce would be my reaction.
Sounds like he is short tempted and he only doing what you allow. You should have shut that shit down right then and there, and put him in his place like " Who TF you think you talken too?"Also sounds like he may be on drug’s. I would like into that!!! Don’t let him do that girl, seems like he’s making it a habit!
Research ‘narcissism.’
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Are u verbally abusive. This couldn’t of just started
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That’s not ok. You need to leave. That’s just wrong. He is verbally abusive and manipulative. And that’s not good. Soon it will become controlling. Cut your losses and run. No one deserves to be treated like that. My ex husband did the same thing to me, but in the middle of Vegas in front of our friends. It makes you feel worthless and humiliated. So I know how you feel. He needs to go.
Knowing me, well I do bc its me…I would have fired back and made him feel the same way you did. Then he’d be more aware of what comes out of his mouth from now on. Sometimes ppl need to be checked .
Was he like this before you guys got married??
Give him a taste of his own medicine and see if he likes it.
Girl leave. Verbal abuse now, physical abuse is not far behind.
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No sex for a month! Ground him!
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That’s abuse, get out of that relationship. It will get worse.
Red flag. You let one go, more will come. Expose him with a therapist , counselor that way he won’t get away with it. let him know in front of that 3er person there will consequences if he do that again.
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This isn’t something to leave a husband for. Marriage is work. So something happened for him to feel comfortable to act that way around your friends. Either one of the men he looks up to did it to his partner or some man he looks up to did it he’s coping it to look cool around the friends. I know this because he only does it around them. You have to stop this behavior. Next time he acts that way you say loud enough for people to hear " What The hell. Don’t talk to me that way you don’t talk that way to me at home. Stop trying to look cool in front of friends. " it will startle him and embrace him. He’ll probably get really mad and storm out. But don’t chase him it will reinforce his behavior. Instead you stay or find a way home. This will tell him you will not put up with that behavior ever. You sound very passive you need to find your voice to get what you want and need in life. Find your inner lioness.
He would never ever mention or say anything like that again at a friend’s home or wherever we would be,because I would have exploded with so many expletives he would be shaking in his shoes! In other words he would be cured of the habit!
They may have had cheap dull knives. Not worth losing a couple of fingers over.
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Verbal abuse is strong here. Question is are you willing to stay with someone that is now disrespecting you in front of friends? Next time it may not be words. Trust me I’ve been there and stupidly stayed. Maybe… Just leave. If he was truly sorry after the first time he wouldn’t continue to do it.
The next time he swears at you around people, call him out on it right then and there! 
I cant comment what i want to because fb will jail my acct lol but yeah this is no good. You need to leave him. Unless you’re ok with him being like that and clearly you aren’t. That’s toxic and just plain bad. As a guest in someone home you should offer help where it’s needed. Not act like an entitled lazy mess of a man. Lol
Im sure your friends were just as embarrassed for you.
Be the bigger person and let it go. Let him know u didn’t like it. Then if he keeps it up you let him go.
You stated " he’s gotten in the HABIT of swearing @ you". So this isn’t the first time but the last time should have been the last. BAD HABITS accepted/ tolerated continues. His excuse doesn’t mean anything for it’s become a HABIT. Clearly you haven’t demanded that he treat you with respect 24/7 home or otherwise so he continues with your permission. There’s some kind of division that you have to correct! 15 years?
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I wouldn’t go anywhere in public with him until he learns better. Or call him names in front of people and see how he likes it
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Run nothing will change
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Totally unfollowed this page lol. It used to post super awesome nail designs but now it’s just random questions that go from Santa to sex to death. Super weird 
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Growing up, watching my parents. My dad has always seem to really cuss my mother out at different times. But he loves her to death they have been married for 40 years. They argue , get upset , yell fuss all that. It really depends on what you can put up with. Have a talk with him tell what your not willing to put up with. Go to couples therapy, or just set boundaries
Well first of all your hubby needs to take whatever stick he has stuck up his ass out! He should be lucky he has you. You are still early in your marriage so he still has time to change his nasty ways. What kind of grown man baby gets pissy over a pineapple anyways 
Sorry I don’t know you but if your saying… He won’t do it again your bowing down cus he will again and again till you shoot the bastard don’t kill him just make him suffer x
Not only is this verbal abuse, There’s something else going on behind the scenes. My guess is an affair.
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Well first lie is he won’t do it again🤷🏾♀️ Stand up for yourself, either curse him back or stop him miss statement and just walk out the room. He seems to not give a damn about his friends so you probably in the same boat as them.
Your feelings are valid. Tell him that he doesn’t have a right to speak to you in that way.
Sounds like he has some kinda extreme social anxiety. I can relate, sometimes I’m so panicked that I don’t even remember some of the stuff I say.
I’m on the other end of all this. You told him and he said he wouldn’t do it again. We all have bad days and say stuff we don’t mean to sometimes. Half the time we don’t even realize it. Now if he does it again or his behavior continues yes that’s not ok.
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Yeah, my husband snapped at me once, no swearing, in front of people. I freaking snapped RIGHT BACK there and then, and made him look like an arse for doing that. You do NOT get to treat me like shit, and definitely not in front of people.
15 years later he’s never done it again.