Run and NEVER look back!!! Bye Felicia and make his ass pay alimony to the ummppppffff degree!
Iām an all or nothing girl, wouldnt be no sides for him, because he would be picking his shit up at the driveway on fireā¦then I would find her place, make sure his car is there, call his cell and make him come out and get his kidā¦then take him to the cleaners
Girl your his nanny that aināt your kid why are you allowing him to disrespect you that way he should be taking YOU out and being thankful you care for his child
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donāt even know how to respond to this. Iām embarrassed to be a women sometimes. Get it together and do better for YOU!!
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Your homegirls sound dumb as the question youāre asking hereā¦ should you stick around and be cheated on because youāre taken care of??? Um, thatās already what youāre doing. Ask yourself if thats what you want to CONTINUE doing & do that.
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The things you are not changing you are choosing
The choice can only e yours. Take advice and think long and hard.
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You better learn your worth, fix your crown and move on!
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Girl. Heās not worth one moment of worry or consideration. Get yourself together and get gone. Walk away. Work on your self esteem because you ARE worth more and deserve more than this a**hole.
Red flags, leave move on create a better life for yourself
Get a job and get out.
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He doesnāt really believe you cheated, itās called projection and heās just saying that to excuse/justify all his cheating. So your choice here isā¦ stay and while heās doing him ā you do you -or- leave him, live in peace and find an actual good man.
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Real question is do you want to catch a disease. Smh
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You donāt want to lose him? You already did! Sounds like youāre the side chick now and a standby
Love and do better for yourself!
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Honey you owe him nothing! You have become his doormat. Please seek professional help in getting away from him. He is not worth the air you breath! Praying for youā:pray:
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Any friend telling me to āplay my partā wouldnāt be my friend lol. What 
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This relationship sounds exhausting
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Once you dont loose āyourselfā thats what matters!! Keep your self-respect, know your worth & leave!!
Girl leave! He is disrespecting you in all kinds of ways. Unless you like poly relationships
What in the world did I just read!!!?!?!?! Did you proof read this before submitting?? My mind is blown
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Is this for real?
Have you zero self respect? 
If you want a Poly relationship, cool.
If you donāt, guess what, thatās ok too.
People will treat you how you allow.
As long as you stay, you allow disrespect. If you had a daughter asks you this, would you tell her to stay??
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Andā¦
Get better friends.
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Open the relationship
I mean, are you both open to a non conventional relationship? Tell him you are going to/or have someone already. Is the same ārightā open and available for you?
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Wow. You need to appreciate yourself more. This sounds like an abusive relationship if he has you even remotely thinking about letting this go ājust so you donāt lose him.ā Donāt just stay for the money. Donāt stay because you are afraid. This isnāt healthy. You donāt deserve to live in this situation. Find someone who wants you. Let him go, divorce him.
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Your homegirls tell you to let him do whatever as long as he knows where home is? They aināt no homegirls, kick them and him to the curb and live alone if it means to live in peace and harmony and std free.
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Until he kicks you out and stays with the second chixk. Love yourself better. I understand you think you love him. But loves needs to go both ways
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Girl, get you a side piece too! When he go see his side, you go see your side! PeriodT
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Girl you better tell him BYE!
Get yourself a side dude:)
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If it was me i would leave!!
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We all have extenuating circumstances and reasons why we delay leaving someone like thisā¦. BUT Iām gonna need you to increase that self esteem, cause from what you describe this is a one sided relationship that is quite beneficial to HIM! Keep us posted on your final decisions
Uh, walk away. You say that child isnāt your biological child. As a step parent youāve played a major part in that childās life and if the mother isnāt around then go get rights. Make it happen. My husband passed away so itās not the same but I took it to a judge. Got visitation court ordered because thatās what is in the best interest of all of my kids biological or not.
What are you going to lose? Income? Thatās about it. Not worth it
Either leave or get yourself a side piece. An eye for an eye and see how he likes it
Girl you are a live in nanny. Respect yourself enough to get out.
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What?? Hell no would I ever allow such a disrespectful behavior! This person has no integrity! Take yourself off the sale rack!
Hope he doesnāt bring home any STDās. Iād walk
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Oh darlin 
sigh this is hardā¦ This is where you really need to be honest with yourself on what you want and needā¦ You will figure out the financial part, living etcā¦ Is he REALLY worth breaking your heart over? He has no respect, love or loyalty to you or your childā¦ Is this really what you want to show your child what love looks like? Remember what you deserve sweetieā¦ This cheating thing, no one deserves thisā¦ Not ever
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Either do the same or go find someone who will be faithful.
You already lost him & you are losing yourself. Answer this, if the table was changed & you were the one with a side guy, would he stay??.?? Hell no he wouldnāt
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Leave and get some new homegirls while youāre at it. Or get yourself a side piece as well.
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Leave as soon as you can.
LEAVE NOW. Why do you think your self worth is so low? Make yourself happy first!
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You have to commitments or reason to stay. He isnāt taking you on vacation. You are a babysitter and I say FK that. Say goodbye and let her take care of his.
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Have some self respect! Nobodyās worth demeaning yourself for,Nobody!
Iām so confused by 90% of these questionsā¦ā¦ do you guys have an open relationship???
If not why are you okay with him cheating on you while you both are aware of it and just letting it happenā¦ā¦.
Know your fucking worth, heās trash 
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If you donāt care and are fine with an open relationship, go get yourself a side piece too. 
Just to let you know though, I can guarantee you heāll have a problem with you the second you start seeing someone else lol. Guys like that are okay if THEY do it. But if YOU do it to them, they get pissed.
Youāve already lost him. He will continue to do what heās doing. Maybe even with other women. Cut your losses and leave him before you lose yourself
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You already lostā¦ unless you want to be a sister wife. He is gaslighting you. Please wake up
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You should just leave. He doesnāt care about you or having a family clearly
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Dump him and find someone who knows your worth
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Swinger life!!! If he can have a side piece so can you!! Get it girl!
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Youāve alreasy lost him & youāre just disrespecting yourself by trying to justify a cheaters actions. Itās unfortunate that a situation like this has a child involved. Thatās whoās gonna be the most affected by this. And it also sounds like youāre a glorified babysitter. Wishing you the best of luck.
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You need new homegirls
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Wowā¦so in theory get yourself a side guy and have a great time. He should be fine with it.
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I dont know you but I do know that nobody deserves this. This is not good for you nor is it good for your son to learn from. Pack your bags and get out asap. If you are worried financially there are churches or charity places that can help you. Please dont stand for this ridiculous and extremely disrespectful behaviour.
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It only gets worse now that you know. Walk away while you can
How is this even a question? DIVORCE DUH!
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You already lost him, let go and move on to something bigger and better. Been where you are and it didnāt take long for my eyes to open, I turned my back and didnāt look back, you deserve better!
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Go get tested for std
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Itās going to be quite hard Iām sure for you to understand this because you donāt want to lose your husband but from my own personal experience going through exactly what youāre talking about the best thing you can do is divorce him because you will never ever be able to trust him therefore what kind of meaningful relationship do you have and I would say the answer to that is none. I donāt consider your husband a decent human being in any way shape or form because hes unfaithful to you. 
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I think side b needs to become main b.
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Get a side dude girl younger hotter bigger dick. Then re evaluate whatās going on as the dynamic will change
The fact that he blaming you for his cheating says it all. Run girl
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Wellā¦ Treat him how he treats youā¦ Go get you a side D
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Wow hun your āhomegirlsā need to stop and shut their mouths. There shouldnāt be an A and B, i would leave.
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Is this even serious? And youāre raising his kid?
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Do you really have to ask? Iām sure you know the answer. Rip the band aid off FAST!
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Absolutely not, you shouldnāt be treated this way noone deserves that, if he doesnāt want lose his side chick then obviously doesnāt love you as much as you though and you need to off you go with your little one, lifeās too short you need to be happy and find someone who wants all of you and only you, good luck xx
You are allowing him to walk all over you.
How is this a question? YOU LEAVE
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Wow heās just treating you like a live in nanny at this point.
First off if your girls are telling you to stick it out. You need new friends!!!
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You lost me at vacation. You can f*&k that bitch all you want but you take her to Jamaica and weāre through!
ā¦ This canāt be a question. Leave him. You deserve better. Heās cheating
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Sounds like sheās the main and your the side B. Leave girlā¦ just leave
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aT tHe EnD oF tHe DaY , hE cOmEs HoMe tO mE
Hell nah. Iām that B and the only B ya feel me? Let his side chic come play mommy for him and go find you a decent man sis 
Sound like u dont wanna leave him.
Is this a joke?? Did I just go back in time?? I am super shocked at how some women do not care how they are being treated by their āmanā.
You do know thereās millions of other men out there, and a lot of them have money too with no side chicks. He clearly dint care about you at all and thatās evident with the disrespect that youāre letting happen as you havenāt left him already after finding this out??
Thatās a tough one. Will you be happy knowing heās sleeping with someone else? I mean, itās not unheard of for wives to stay with a husbands who are not faithful. If you stay do you think youād be able to be friends with her? What does your husband want, does he want you to stay? Those are some questions youād have to ask yourself. Side note *go get checked for STDās and be sure to use protection with him if you decide to stay.
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Youāre raising a child thatās not yoursā¦heās cheating on you and youāre OK staying???
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Sounds like you are the person raising his child while he has the freedom to do as he pleases. It appears that you have accepted this role in exchange for the expenses and pocket money he is paying. Only you can renegotiate this arrangement or end it.
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Go girl go far away quickly
If you like your arrangements thatās on you. And you allowing him to continue it. Itās your decision to stay or leave
Leave! Your pain is not worth his gain your literally letting him have his cake and eat it too! Get on, let go and find someone who makes you a full priority not part-time or second fiddle
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1st, get new friends. Anyone who tells you to stay and look the other way is not a smart person and is definitely not a good friend. 2nd, leave unless you want to worry about taking care of the babies heās probably gonna have with her or any other girl he decides to add in.
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Narcissist will say you cheated to justify their desires and decisions. Run.
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Oh hell no, I would be gone
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Well Iād be long gone " do not like cheatsā & you are just being used " move on you donāt have a life there "
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You teach people how to treat you. Youāve taught him his behavior is ok with you. Heāll continue as long as you let him. Only you can decide if you can put up with it.
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Runnnnn gurl. The disrespect will cost u personally
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GTFO! Once a cheater always a cheater. Leave his sorry ass.
Its up to you what you feel you are worth and you can or cannot accept. Be blessed
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If men have nothing else they have the audacity
If youāre a gold digger play your part. Or be like most of us- get a job and be self sufficient.
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If you are with a Man to be financial, You already fucked up. No wonder he does as he likes.
Either walkaway or move the side chick in.
No man should keep a women financial, sort your shit out and get financial
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Time to leave an find yourself. Not exceptable in anyway. I know youāll miss your son. However now is the time to exit, the younger the child the better. That will probably hurt the worse.
Go be on ur own girl u donāt deserve that
Sounds like gaslighting. Trying to justify his actions. As if they can be justified
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What you allow will continue. Some people are perfectly ok with this type of arrangement. He canāt give you 100% or even the side chick. Youāre the only one who can decide if having less of him is ok. You deserve 100%.