No one deserves this. I went thru this. Get out.
Sounds like he needs to be tossed
wtf am i reading hereā¦you are married to someone who takes his gf on vacations and treats like gold, while you stay st home to cook, clean, and look after his child ā¦you arenot a wife you are the nanny that looks after his child while he has the freedom to go off and has fun with his gf and he doesnt see her occasionally its all the timeā¦he is laughing because he considers you a big time suckerā¦you lost him already when he started with his gfā¦he would have left you by now but he needs a babysitterrā¦and that is actually what you are a glorified bsbysitterā¦go on his phone and take screenshots of his pics of them and their conversations so you can prove infidelityā¦first of all start taking money to put aside for at least 2 months rentā¦then get divorce papers filled out , they can be ready to go and be delivered the day after you leave, you will get half the house if you are not renting, you will also get spousal support, if you have family then start packing things and leave them at their placeā¦if not start preparingā¦when you leave you leave him a letter on his pillow because that is all he deserves, tell him to stay with his son because you have to go to store and leave and you have to leave without his child bedause he isnt yours and you have no rights to take himā¦and clean out almost all the money in the account and move far enough away so he doesnt know where to find youā¦
Its never too late to find someone who reciprocates the love and affection that you give them on a daily basisā¦and remember its never too late to find someone who appreciates and values you for who you truly are as a person inside and out, you eventually will meet someone whos loyalty will match yoursā¦he has no empathy for ( you ) his wife and no sense of commitmentā¦he has no respect for you and isnt asking for forgiveness and that is not love its controlā¦So respect and love yourself and stop letting him play around with your feelingsā¦
If you dont care that he is using you then by all means stay with him if that what makes you happy and find yourself a bfā¦good luck
Two words= self respect. Fuk him!! You deserve better!
Oh umm sorry I couldnāt change but I had those thoughts once and I said itās not me and left and now Iām with someone and happy as ever for the last two years !!! Your worth more and tell him to have her raise the child and thatās why he keeps you !!! For all that take the child and to hell with him !!! Itās not the childās fault I was just showing a point that they are vacationing while your babysitting ?? Like wth
Hes using u as a au-pair. Live in maid. While he chooses to swan off with homewrecker on luxurious holidays. When in reality he should be doing that for you and his child. Not some bitch on the side
Question should be should I leave him first or wait til he leaves me homeless with no means to provide for myself.The reality is heās cheating heās been cheating on you and heās not going to stopā¦Do you want to be in a relationship where the man your with is having intamate conversations with different woman and who knows who else and also having sex with and is he wearing condoms or just not caring at all if he brings you aids or herpes and any other sexual transmitted deseases.Do you really not love yourself enough to expect better from your partner?All the girls heās talking to is probably saying the same thing.Hes paying their bills and he finds his way back to them.So really your treating yourself like one of those other girls.Just because he admitted to 1 you really donāt know itās been just 1 just like you donāt know what he tells her.Does he say I love you like he does to you?Does he do things with her and talks to her like he does to you?This isnāt a marriage itās a partnership at best that you are allowing him to be with other woman and I can bet itās not occasionally if heās not caring at all about spending time and money with a girl further away why wouldnāt he do it there if heās doing it anywayā¦A narcissist makes excuses for their behavior and they always blame the spouse and will turn it on you and will get you to believe you did something wrong even if you didnāt.I get your a step mom so am I so I get you wouldnāt want to not be around the child but how is it going to effect him seeing you unhappy and he will figure out why and heās going to be hurting along with you.My advice is take yourself to a place you can relax without him or anyone else to think about what you really want and if you do stay can you handle things being the way they are or if it get worse?.If you choose to stay start saving money in place like a box at the bank but make sure only you can get into it.DONT TELL ANYONE NOT FAMILY OR EVEN A BEST FRIEND.Save as much money as you can in secret plus keep a secret log on an app that only you can get on so donāt leave it open on your phone.Keep notes of everything that happens everyday.Write your personal feelings about whatever you right dates and times.If itās something bad like fighting or cheating calling you names anything tell at least 1 good friend or family that wonāt let it get back to him.Never sign anything that says your ok with him cheating or anything.Never say to anyone your ok with it.If he does leave you for another person you will have money to use and get a good attorneyā¦
have some more respect for yourself gd, this is sad asf for your āhomegirlsā to tell you to āplay your partā like?? nah, go find someone who respects you and who wonāt think to have someone else waiting on the side. why would you ever be okay with your man running around possibly exposing you to disease? the morals you have are pathetic miss girl. leave the man and find yourself.
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If itās not the kind of relationship you want and he canāt respect that. Sounds like a fresh start is what you need. As scary as it seems to be, you can do it, and you can do better. It takes a lot, but itās not impossible. Iād rather be alone than be disrespected like that. Good luck with whatever you decide! 
Have some self respect and leave.
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Why would you want to touch him again after heās been inside someone else! Thatās a no from me!
Kick him out! Heās having cake and eating it she isnāt the bees knees as would have left you cut the tie your stronger better hence why he hasnāt let go! Get test and get better
Keep as much information on him as possible. Write down all his banking info. Ask yourself are you better with him or without him. You can have a friendship. You have biblical reasons for a divorce . Make sure you include the child in your plans. Is the child old enough to choose 
. Pay the hourly rate for a good attorney to find out your state laws
This may be to simplistic, but Iād be gone and heād be paying
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are you serious? why do you allow yourself to have the bare minimum?! youāre raising his son while he runs around on you all bc he thinks you cheated? have some respect for yourself & roll tf on out to a real man before you really get yourself trapped in something!
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Leave him. Heās trash. He accuses you so he can justify his behavior. Thatās typical narc behavior. Are you cool with him giving you STDs? If not, leave him.
You deserve better and your son needs to know how to treat a women correctly. His father canāt be that role model cuz look how heās treating you hunny. You should leave and have your own life instead of feeling like your sharing your husband. He sounds like a total scum bag. Choose you.
Say what??? Sorryā¦Iām nobodyās side chic or the one home while hes out with the otherā¦tell him to go to hell and divorce his selfish a$$ and you walk away with half of what you guys own. Find a manā¦not a boy. Screw thatā¦
You need new homegirlsā¦ and a new man.
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Get the F*** out. You are worth more than that!! He is throwing you cheating out there to defer his disgusting behavior. He is trying to keep you on the defensive.
Or risk getting an std or eventually what happens if you allow it , they leave you for someone else.
My advice is be smart.
Start saving on the side and getting the most out of this relationship, if you donāt leave be ready for when he does
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Youāre a door mat ā¦ you need to get up and go from this or youāll waste your life
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Get rid of him he is not worth it
How would he feel if you went out and got a side man. Wow I would say you need to stand your ground an just be done. Go out get yourself your own place get a job an just be done bc he aināt gonna change. Iām sure your a strong women an Iām sure you and child will be just fine without him
I mean this with the utmost respect possible. Donāt be naive. Do not ever stay with a man or in a relationship that makes you unhappy simply because he financially supports you or you donāt want to be alone. You owe yourself and your child WAY more than that.
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So you take care of his child, the house, clean, cook all so he can go sleep around??? Why? What would you tell you friend, sister or better yet what would you tell your daughter if she came home and told you that story?
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Wait what??? Did I read that right? Your Home raising his kid, not your bio kid while he takes another girl on vacations?
Why is this a question? Leave!
It may hurt for 6 months but you may die inside if you stay .
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Your husband does not love or respect you. If youāre okay with that then stay and put up with the side chick/s, maybe get yourself a side piece too. If you want an authentic monogamous relationship, then leave.
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Divorce his ass and take him for all heās got! Fuck that! The audacity of him!
Uh, noā¦ Iām all for sharing, but my HUSBAND is off limits. I would definitely not be taking a backseat and allowing it to happen. Iāve told mine that if he wants out of the relationship or another woman, lmk immediately because weāre getting a divorce. This is the 21st century and weāre not expected to be anyoneās serving choice if weāre married. Thank you for the alimony and see you later.
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Honestlyā¦ the fact that you even made this post is crazy. If youāre gonna put up with it than you canāt complain. I would have left his ass the second āside chickā came out his mouth
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Thatās not his side that is his girlfriend too
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You sound like his glorified nanny! Iād dance out that door 
whilst waving his ass a long goodbye
Sounds like you just want someone to pay your way. You can do betterā¦ why would you want to keep him around when he chooses someone else?
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Stop playing built in babysetter for him and find a real man that will take you places and take care of youā¦if hes taking her on vacation than let her babyset his kid tooā¦hes useing you for a free sitterā¦
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You know what people who ask questions like this are just looking for answers knowingly there stupid rise out of it and donāt be playing on media minds you know yourself where to go To the hill ,
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I think you have lost him already, so you better prepare yourself financially and emotionally.
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- Get you some new friends and ASAPā:unamused:
- LEAVE THAT DAMN MAN ALONE, CHANGE YOUR NUMBER, BLOCK HIM ON ALL PLATFORMS, LITERALLY MAKE IT SEEM AS THOUGH YOUāVE BEEN ABDUCTED BY EXTRATERRESTRIALS
- GET SOME PERSONAL THERAPY ASAP BECAUSE YOU HAVE SELF ESTEEM ISSUES, ATTACHMENT ISSUES, UNABLE TO SET AND MAINTAIN HEALTHY BOUNDARIES, AND ISSUES WITH KNOWING YOUR WORTH AND REQUIRING THE MEN YOU DATE TO RESPECT THAT AND APPRECIATE YOU.
- Get you a support system, group of ladies you trust who genuinely care about you, and go on a vacation, enjoy yourself, and so not date for awhile until you finished this self discovery and self loving journey!
Prayers go out to you baby, you deserve nothing but the best of the best including from yourself to yourself, donāt stop pushing and keep your
foot on these mfkas necks and DONāT LET TF UPā:100:
I would run him off so fast he would think he dreamed he was in my life . Let his other chick raise his son.
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Pack ur shit & live a life with someone who loves & RESPECTS YOU.
U waiting for a disease Iād get evidence to take him to court at my convenience meanwhile storing money for unforseen circumstances and Iād stop having sex with him.
Thatās hardā¦because of covid and other diseases that he might bring in your home. I went through it myself. It didnāt last even I still stayed 3yrs.after I found out. No more trust.
Move the hell on! If you are in the relationship just because he supports you then you need to get your priorities straight. Get a job, make him take care of his obligations. And get someone you really deserve.
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Damn, Iād be getting my life together to prepare for the day you are officially replaced. I mean since your still trying to stay. Its pretty safe to say that if a man confirms he has a side piece that he takes in vacationsā¦that he doesnāt really want to keep you. Thatās his outā¦ telling you, is supposed create a reaction that ultimately leads to you being gone.
Leave him or get your own āside pieceā.
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Let him play his games, put yourself through school and then dip out. Unless you have no dignity.
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Not in my life time would this be ok with meā¦
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Get a job and move on with your little boy. He think he has the power because he work and you donāt. Deserve better!
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He told you to your face he "has a side chick"and youāre still with him??? Youāre giving him permission to do whatever he want and disrespect you and the vowels you both said. Nope gotta go.
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These are not real. Seriously you have to ask what to do in this situation. Stupid shit!
I would tell him you are looking at getting a side piece too because he canāt have all the fun. If this doesnāt make him mad then start planning your exit!!
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As bad as it Hurts You need to leave Him!!!
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Go get urself ur own side fellaā¦
make a life for urself outside the relationship like he hasā¦
If he accusing u of doing itā¦ u may as well get in trouble for something u have actually done
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Know your worth and drop his ass like a bad habit.
Is there a prenup? If not leave his ass and take half. He will never change. If youāre ok with this life, keep doing what youāre doing, if not heās cheating and you have proof. Make him pay
You are not teaching your son on how a woman is to be treated
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Losing him would not be a loss
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Girl just get a boyfriend, BAM! Keep things the way they are with the other dude as long as heās paying for everything.
Tell him "whatās good for the goose is good for the gander " see how he likes that. If he dosenāt care ditch him
Go get your own money and your own life. This is so sad to read. āAs long as he knows where home isā
youāre not his home youāre his baby sitter and empty out
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You deserve someone who wants and loves only you
He it a scum bag trying to say your having an affair when itās him his doing that to make it about you not him first you throw his clothes out the front door with him right behind selfish liar Cheater he wonāt stop if he is doing it when your next to him obviously doesnāt care for you
You canāt run fast enough. I know
Leave him you have no real ties to this man because things will only get worse the more disrespect you allow get out while you can heās a POS honestly
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Iād be walking!!! Once a cheater always a cheater.
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Ask yourself, am I only worth the financial expense of running a household? Are you worth the cost of a baby sitter or day care expense? Are you worth the cost of a maid, cook, teacher pediatrician and Even the cost of a general Dr so wen your husband gets sick? If you put a dollar amount on what you are really worth; then stay and continue to be the door matā¦As you stay protected yourself from any stdā¦it would be sad that a STD OR AIDES would cost your life with all the education and at this time of your lifeā¦Good Luck and hope you make the right decision for your healthā¦maybe some counseling can help keep the marriage together while building trust all over agsinā¦hope that this time around if a second chance is your choice that you both find each others imperfections and love them perfectlyā¦if not may the right man come into your life and spend the rest of your life living life to its fullestā¦is easier said than done. One foot in front of the other and let God take the wheelā¦Good luck!!
Leave. Thatās so narcissistic of him. Thatās so toxic and heāll keep hurting you.
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You sound very dumbā¦ why would you stay with him just because he pays for everything? Then youāre watching your bonus kid? Girl get a job and leave himā¦
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Is this even a question??? Girl pull your big girl pants on and walk!!! Youāve got this. It sounds like it was over forever agoā¦.
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Hell no, I would drop him like a bad habit.
So you donāt have any biological children with him or someone in the past??? If not it should be easier for you to leave.
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Iād pack his stuff for him and drop it at the sidechicks house and wash your hands of that toxic mess. No one wants sloppy seconds.
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If heās gonna be a dog, be a dog too. If heās already accusing you give him a reason to. Marriage used to be a business deal anyway so enjoy the business and grab a side hustle 
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What would you be losing, besides your self-respect?
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How could you continue to lay in the same bed as him when he is also laying in bed with another. Big nope from me. You and your son deserve alot better.
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Risk it , cause this is the stupidest shit Iāve heard . Let yourself keep getting played , or , live a happy life ??? Idk sis , you tell me 
you canāt be that clueless ??
Erhical non-manogamy. Whatās good for the goose is good for the gander. 
Yes girl let that man give you std because he āprovidesā 
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Lady ! !! How can you love someone that doesnāt love you . You need to respect yourself , so he could respect you.
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Nope. Know your worth woman!
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Run, you will find someone else to take care of you and really love you if thatās what you really want
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Give him a taste of his own medicine and get yourself a side dude and rub it in his face. Oh my side guy got my hair done for me oh my side guy took me to the best restaurant the other day. Be like oh I thought this is what we were doing. We are having an open relationship if u got a girl. He wonāt like it. Tell him just to sign papers then bc itās not a double standard relationship.
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Girlā¦I donāt understand why youre asking us to make the decision for you. Thats for you to make. What are you willing to put up with because some women dont care. But if you know youre not cool with it then find u a job and get out of there.
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Screw that if he really loved you he would not be with anyone else. You need to have a long talk and let him know you are not ok with this and if he continues then leave. You donāt deserve to be treated like this. He should think of you as a priority not an option.you come first, you are the one and only and if he doesnāt see you that way then you need to leave because your feeling arenāt being taken into consideration. He pledged an oath dish death due you part. He needs to honor that. I would tell him he can either honor that or honor my fist down his throat and hers.
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Discuss with him the possibility of you having a side boy and when he flips the table and goes ape say well until Iām allowed one you arenāt either and walk your ass out because you deserve better
This can not be real.
If you really think that this is right in some kind of way, You need to leave him and find yourself. You have clearly lost yourself in dealing with him. It is sad to me that women actually let their significant others do crap like this.
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Thatās a strong, hard, absolute NO. Take your things and yourself and WALK AWAY. Donāt say anything, donāt make a scene, donāt tell him nothing. You walk away and DO NOT EVER LOOK BACK.
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He is not worth it. Run!
Itās far from seeing her on an āoccasionā if heās taking her on fucken vacations girlā:raised_hands:t2: youāre married and he cheated, file divorce and get what he owes you so you donāt have to āplay your partā and can still take care of your child! Donāt be dumb. It sounds like youāve made your decision tho if you think leaving him is loosing everything.
Why are you still with him.
Divorce him!!! Get a good lawyer!!!
Madison Miller this page is wild lol
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Holy crap!!! What Jesus values are we teaching our kids? Baby girl: stay in a relationship but let your āmanā stick it wherever he wants and be ok with that!!! Baby boys: no need to show respect to your significant other!! Letās cheat, lie, have no respect for anything or anyone!!
Honeyā¦donāt play that game. But hey what the hell do I know
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This has to be a joke
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First off donāt stay with a man just because he takes care of everything straighten that crown and put on ur big girl panties and go out and get everything you need yourself itās just material things you can replace it all! Donāt ever let any man keep u around just because he makes sure you are set with what you need! Leave and build back up even better and stronger than you are now! Also it sounds to me like you donāt love him either because if you did you wouldnāt be asking if you should stay because he keeps you stable! Neither of you love each other your just comfortable with being set with what you need and want and that is not healthy at all! No one can give you the answer to this besides yourself and no one can fix it if itās fixable besides yourself and him so asking random people on Facebook will not help you in any way and as for your āFRIENDSā who are giving you this one ridiculous advice leave their gold digging asses behind as well I guarantee you will come out even stronger and more successful after you throw out the trashā¦. Good luck with this mess
You are showing your children how little you and him think you are worth. You are modeling bad choices for your children . Get away from him and work on your self esteem
Let him have a chickā¦. And get yourself a side love ā¦ plain and simple. You canāt settle for disrespect unless is evenā¦. Let it be ā¦
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Wellllll Iām just sayingā¦ heās cheating rnā¦ unless yāall agree to be in an open relationshipā¦ and if he can do it, SO CAN YOU. See how he feels about that as the scenario? Might have him rethink things. & if heās constantly calling you a cheater, but he is THE CHEATER; then girl, run out and get you a side dude too. He sounds like a d!ck tbh.
Play your part??? What would that be? Getting cheated on and letting it slide?!!! Your friends are clearly not your friends if thatās what theyāre telling you!!! LEAVE THAT MAN.
He is gaslighting you! (Pretty typical of narcissist). The way you are feeling is all do to the way he is making you feel. Which is that you need to stay. Get a good counselor ! Itās time to pick yourself up.