Ask yourself this: Are you ok with your man having a side chick?
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Yea just go get a side dude n see how heās feeling ā¦. Make sure said side dude has way more to offer as well 
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Not to be crass, but are you dumb, stupid or both?? Cause no, babyā¦no to all of this 
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Pack your stuff and leave. If you ever find yourself asking if you should stayā¦ you should leave.
Not judging because only you know whatās best but no one is going to love you and respect you if they treat you like an option.
You are the entire mealā¦ not just a course 
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Say what?? You know your husband has a side piece and you donāt know if you should leave or not? Are you seriously okay with sharing him, and knowing heās going on trips and stuff with her? Girl do better and get that $$ and file those papers
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It really dependsā¦ If you have self respect the leave, if you enjoy being disrespected stay
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Or you could always get you a side manš
Do whatever you are comfortable with and your pride allows you to do. He is not going on stop, and may at some point decide he wants to replace you, so be prepared. AND he will always use the accusation that you created as an excuse.
have you seed maid on netflix? āplay your part?ā girl go look at yourself in the mirror. your a woman you got this you donāt need no man who cheats on you. if you choose to forgive him then u better lay down the law!! go through that phone donāt give him an ounce of freedom till u trust himā¦ he will do it again so donāt let him ā¦ honestly just stay till you can save up or do what u gotta do to leave and leave and depending on kids age Iād tell them the truth, if I saw him as my own as to why your leaving. if you choose to forgive just donāt forget but you need to keep him on a leash nd good luck with that. does he even seem remorseful? or is he blaming youā¦donāt take no shit. f it girl just throw the whole man away and stay with someone else. but empty his bank accounts 1st oooooh you can go on your own vacation and get over him with his money!! always remember if he donāt treat you right leave him someone else will!!
Honey, first of all your friends are NOT your friends. This has me wondering about them.
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Leaveā¦reavulate your life. He certainly doesnāt respect you to be doing this. The day you realise you deserve better things will change for you. I wish you all the best for a life full of love and happiness.
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If you can take the pain thatās on you. If not time to go.
- You have no kids together so you arenāt obligated to stay and 2.heās making a fool of you,he wants his cake and to eat it too
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Are you really asking? Not being rude but your saying it I. Your own words. Leave that boy you call a man. A really main will only need you.
Are you seriously asking? Kick him to the curb so hard, you leave boot prints on his ass!!
Is this a joke?!?! Yes, I know open relationships are a thing, but if she didnāt know then Iām going to say that isnāt the case hereā¦ so again, I am sincerely wondering if this is real! 
Hey if your ok with it long as you got a place to live and the finer things go for it mistresses do it all the time but you better be building a get out fund cause you could get your butt kicked to the curb anytime he finds a new chic B
Leave him you have nothing there is sounds like but babysitter and housekeeper to he decide to kick you to the curb and move her in
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Your āhomegirlsā are not really your āhomegirlsā
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He takes another woman on vacations while you home playing house with a kid thatās not even yours 
leave.
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I could never live this way. Maybe you could. Itās for you to decide. He isnt going to change.
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If your āhomegirls ā put up with this , get new homies! Iād rather live in my car than be a doormat for anyone who doesnāt respect me. His side piece can take care of his kids! Bounce before he gets physically abusive because once he knows youāll tolerate cheating, heāll just continue to control you. Know your self worth and respect yourself girl!
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Respect yourself and walk away!!
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Girl you need to know your worth!!!
Some people are ok with open relationships but if you are not then heās disrespecting you!!!
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Yes Keep ur mouth shut and watch and raise HIS kid, and let him take HER on vacationsā¦ because he knows where home isā¦
GIRLā¦ hes gunna replace u, he has no respect for you whatsoever, he doesnāt even respect the time he has with you he allows her to contact him that means SHE is more important than you are. He only told you so you could leave him.
What is so great about him that I donāt want to lose him? Clearly he doesnāt believe that you didnāt cheat,
I think the question should be how can you be with somebody thatās cheating on you??
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Make it a open marriage then.
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So basically you are just the babysitter you really need to respect yourself and leave him
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You can make it on your ownā
I think a woman should have enough dignity and self respect to understand when someone is cheating on you. It is because there is no repect for you. If that doesnt bother you then continue and just see it as it is. You are one more person in his life and not important enough to owe you the respect you desrve. If you think its ok for him to be cheating on you then let him continue But if there is a little doubt then move on. You will find someone that will think you are worth it and respect you.
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Well ask him if you could meet her and see if you all can become a family you all could probably have a great family dynamic going on there
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Itās pretty ridiculous you even have to ask yourself this questionā¦
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Iām about to say something alot of people arenāt going to agree with but Iām willing to agree to disagree; If youāre not going to leave himā¦ let him cheat in peace.
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Have u lost your mind
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if he wants to continue with the side chick, then tit for tat, find you a side dude. sounds like he wants an open marriage so just go for itā¦ maybe you will find a guy that treats you better and wants a closed relationship. get out and get a job, so you can support yourself if you ever decide to leave, just put all the money in a saving or checking account with only your name on it, and dont tell him about itā¦that way you can go on vacations and have fun tooā¦
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Oh hell no!!! First off 1. Get different home girls because those are NOT your friends!!! I would never allow my friends to be with a guy like that 2nd Throw his ass to the curb!!! Sorry I know itās easier said than done BUT girllllll you deserve better he should be taking YOU on vacays not some other bimbo!!! If your not first in his life now you never will be!!!Heās saying you cheated to justify his actions and either way itās not ok!!! Itās YOU or her he needs to decide!!! But Iād kick his ass to the curb real quick!
Jesus would you really sacrifice your self worth, dignity and mental well-being all because he looks after things āfinanciallyā
I would sooner sleep rough than live in a marriage like this. He does not deserve you. Pack your things and walk for the sake of yourself! Good luck
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If he loved you, he wouldnāt be w someone else. If you loved yourself you wouldnāt be with him. Know your worth and stand on your own two feet and take care of your own self because no one else will.
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You should find a new husband AND new friends! What terrible advice!
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Pfft Iād be gone. Leave him. You deserve better.
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For goodness sake have some respect for yourself!!! You are a babysitter, maid, cook, etc!!! Leave and get a life you deserve!!
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If u aint having a peice of that side peice then i would say pce lol
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Why do you hate yourself?
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Cheat and run away from there lol
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Um no, this isnāt it. K is your worth, girl. Get yourself a plan together and get out of there. Sounds like you need to reach out to your local womenās shelter for some support. Do you have family that could support you through tbis?
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Why the hell do women want to keep shitty ass men? Just because he pays the bills? F that. Iām glad I donāt rely on no mf but myself. If you want your man to be better, find a new one. Heās not changing.
Leave. Heās just projecting. Usually if someone is screaming cheating, they are the ones doing it. You deserve better. 
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You need 3 things stat.
- Out of this relationship
- New homegirls
3l To work on yourself
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Home girls probably sleeping with him tooā¦
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Kick him to the kerb, you deserve better x
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Heās a piece of shit, dump his ass.
What would you be losing really? Youāre taking care of a grown man and making sure HIS child is taken careā¦ you can still have a relationship with kid and get alimony so you wonāt be out financiallyā¦ youāre not a garbage can and should stop accepting trash
From a guy: leave
Heās dedicated to you or heās not. Half love aināt a relationship. Stick up for yourself or your emotions will suffer
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Do you have proof heās cheating? Use that against him in divorce court and heāll pay alimony 
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Youāre crazy if you stay and only asking for your heart to be repeatedly broken! Know your worth and get out! You deserve so much more! Why would you want to settle for anything less than you deserve!?!
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Nope. Leave, once a cheater always a cheater. Cut your ties and run.
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Everyone in your life has hurt you havenāt they love yourself and leave
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Just making sure I get this straight. He openly refers to you as a āBā? That in and of itself would be enough for me to walk away. Know your self worth and accept nothing less. There is no amount of money on this Earth that would make me want to stay with a man that not only disrespects me in private, but also in public. If he is open with you about his āside Bā, than heās most likely open with otherās about it. Find a man that deserves you as much as you deserve him. Relationships are partnerships. You have mutual respect for each other. You look out for each otherās best interests, and are there there to support each other in whatever either of you need. Cheating, and using a made up past indiscretion as license to do it, is disgusting.
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Lawyer up n get your bills paid & move on!
Him saying you cheated to justify his cheating is called āGaslightingā sweetie.
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Oh hell no 
. Iām violent as fuxk. I would be ripping heads off and moving on from there. But if you have any sense, you Take that hoe ass mfka to court take half of everything and theeeen move along from there . 
You need new friends first of all.
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Oh hunny you already lost him. Honestly sounds like you never had him. He doesnāt love or respect you so why would you stay?
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Leave because he wants his cake and eat it too 
if you into that then stay otherwise know your worth and leave
naw you can stay if you want! theyāll need a clown for their childs birthday one day 
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First, reject anyone who isnāt speaking to you with compassion and tough love. Your girlfriends may have served their time.
You need to see your worth - which is having a relationship with the dynamic you want and the faithfulness you deserve. As a Matchmaker I choose to reserve judgement because for some polyamorous relationships work. However you did not ask for, or give consent to this. You are well within your right, and moreover should require of yourself, of having a much higher bar for your relationship.
I was in a marriage with a cheater (4 months after we married no less). I stayed because I loved his kids, and because I didnāt have the confidence I needed to believe I could be on my own without his very little support. I was wrong.
Leaving that relationship showed me how much self growth I needed and how much I was under serving myself. NOBODY is worth that. He severed ties with his kids, which broke my heart and further showed his lack of emotional intelligence. But for my emotional well-being it was the best choice I have ever made.
You deserve better. Your future deserves better. You need to pick yourself up, find your own stability and leave him in the dust. Find a better support system!
Lean in if you need someone to talk to. You arenāt alone, and you CAN do this! 
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Sounds like he is using you to raise his son while he goes out and does what he wants.
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Girl of ur āhomegirlā says that she aināt ur friend 1st. N 2nd u deserve better an can do better. U dont need him . Tell that mf bye . Know ur self worth. Hes never gonna change LEAVE HIS BITCH ASS .
Leave immediately. Wtf.
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Respect yourself and leave.
YOU ARE THE SIDE BIT*H! Heās taking HER on vacations while youāre his FREE childcare 
you need new friends too cuz they are dumb af
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Girl say bye! Why would you not want to lose him? You be putting him first as he putting you second! You deserve so much more than this garbage! He justified his actions and blaming you but he is horrible to want to break up his family. There guys out there that can love just you without making you seem your at faultā¦ kick him to the curb! And ps get yourself a new home girl, sounds like she the one he dating because thatās horrible advice.
Leave that piece of trash loser. If you want any respect at all you wonāt get it from him cut your losses and move on
Leave. No money is worth piece of mind
See if you can have an open relationship if you want to stay. If not then itās time to go. Thatās crazy. He has no respect for you.
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Have more respect for yourself. If he loved you he wouldnāt have a side B.
Get tf out of there.
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Girl no. Leave him now. What a slob
No no no the fact ur not ok with it and choose to stay thats on u. Id cut my losses bc that is not ok
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Freaking leave. That little boy doesnāt need that kind of environment or example. Thereās no respect there, whatsoever.
I mean leave for the little boyās sake, he doesnāt need to grow up seeing his father have multiple women playing mommy. Some people donāt even care about their actions and how their children can be impacted by them. Sad situation for his son and her. I know itās not her bio child.
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The decision is yours!!! But personally I donāt like sharing, I want the whole candy bar, or none of it, sounds like he is using you!!!
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You donāt āloseā anything you win by walking away and valuing yourself more than he does! Do not settle for his bullshit!!! You deserve better. Let HER be the āmain Bā and remove yourself altogether.
If youāre not in an open relationship it is 100% cheating, so ask yourself, is that what you want? really want, do you really want to be cheated on almost everyday of your life for as long as youāre with him? Is Your goal to be constantly cheated on?
Your obviously not ready to leave. When you have really had enough you wonāt need to ask others opinions you will walk away. staying only reinforces to him that it is ok to do whatever he wants including cheating.my advice is to leave your self worth and self respect is more important than anything else
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Yikes 
I would of already suffocated my husband with a pillow in his sleep so donāt ask me
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Are u out of your mind! No heās married to you do not allow that. Take the steps to leave him and create a happy life not sharing your husband or staying with a man that thinks that is ok. You leave you are sad for a bit until u realize your better off. You stay you hurt for a lifetime.
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You dont have a bio kidā¦leave or make him leave and take his kid. Sorryā¦no fixing that. Get out before actually have a bio kid and can still get back on feet pretty easy without him.
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No chance,put him to the kerb
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Let him continue to pay for everything, be good to his son, put money back for you and play it smart! He deserves to be used!
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You DO want to lose him, you just donāt know it yet! Heās unfaithful- tell him to kick rocks!
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Thatās totally your decision. Lots of couples have open relationships, however if you chose to stay and do nothing, now that you know, thatās on you. He is narcissistic and is using what you may or may not have done against you. You have to ask if thatās worth staying home with your son or not. Eventually your son may find out as he gets older and think thatās okay. You should leave and be prepared to do what you have to in order to care for your child.
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Is this a actual question? leave. go find a man thats taking you on vacations instead of leaving you to watch his kid while he goes out with other women. You are the nanny and the maid in his eyes youāre just convenient to have around is that how you wanna spend your life? You deserve better and those so called friends are stupid for not telling you this.
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Hold on hold on hold on ā¦your HOMEGIRLS TELL YOU THAT??? maāam take yourself on a singles cruise and donāt even bring your homegirls
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Get a job and save(dont tell him you are saving) then leave.
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Thatās not love of he really loved you youād be his one and only it seems like he has you just to raise his child so sad know your worth 
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Heās using you bigtime, free sex, housekeeper, babysitter, than gets his kicks with a footloose freebie!!! Wake up and get rid of the jerk.
Well now is the time to decide which is more important, money or your self esteem and self worthā¦ No amount of money would EVER make me be ok with being so disrespected and dismissed.
Stuff that, id be long goneā¦please find some self-worth and realize u deserve so much better.
Why would you think you deserve that treatment? Get out and think of your worth. He thinks of you as invaluable. Please donāt let that happen.
I think he messing with your homegirls too with that advice they giving you 
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Do whatever you want but if I were you I would get me some side action Iām just saying
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How stupid are you
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Thatās not your child so why stick aroundā¦? You woild rather your husband bring you HIV or something and accept the cheating instead of divorcing him? Girl get your finances in order, file for a divorce and move on with your life. You deserve better.
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