Nice one blaming you for his affair. I think he’s telling you so that you kick him out. Again a coward not accepting responsibility for what he’s got into - hoping you’ll end it all for him!
1 Like
Nobody is playing you harder than yourself.
You’re raising his kid that’s not yours while he’s fucking other bitches. Girl. Come on.
Gross why would you share him:face_vomiting:
2 Likes
How dare he try to justify his shitty actions because of a few hiccups in a relationship . I would kick his ass out . That is not how a marriage works . Yet alone any relationship . I hope you have enough respect for yourself to leave that toxic marriage . I don’t think that can be fixed . He thinks it is okay . And the fact your thinking of staying because he takes care of everything . Find yourself . Trust me you will be way stronger after
OMG you know he is cheating and ( you love him) WTH!!! I cannot believe todays women have so little self-respect!!!
3 Likes
What the actual fuck…
1 Like
It saddens me that you think staying is an option. You can gain back possessions but you can never get back your time.
RUN and run far 
1 Like
Run as fast as you can, and then get yourself checked; he might’ve brought home more than a tan on vacation.
Leave … if not for you then do it for the child who is learning dad does what and whoever he wants, and that mum is supposed to be ok with that. There are people who can help you with financial abuse.
Girl your a live in nanny.
Either be happy with an open relationship (your allowed to date too)
Or move on x
7 Likes
Not even your child??
Surely you are kidding… Don’t stay with this loser
Walk away from him this is not a healthy relationship
If you even need to ask then I think you need to seriously take a look at yourself and your self worth. Give yourself credit and leave his ass. It may not be easy but don’t let him decide for you. You are worth so much more. People treat you how you allow them to threat you. I’ve been there. Never, ever again. It will take all you have but you can do it.
Omg 
bye Felicia. You deserve a man not a POS. Smh I would so be gone.
1 Like
So you get a side piece 
3 Likes
Girl figure out the financials yourself and get out of that! Especially if your son isn’t your bio and you’re still taking care of him while he goes and has a dandy time, fuck. That. Have some self respect and leave, you need to do better for yourself. Yes you love him but you gotta love yourself even more and staying in a situation like that for a boy who won’t even respect what you ask is just wrong for you, that’s incredibly unhealthy. Not to mention the fact that he’s doing exactly what he accused you of when it obviously upset him hence the hardships you two faced. This situation is all sorts of fucked and you just need to call it a wrap and find something better, I promise it won’t be that hard
Girl… that seams like a easy answer. Drop him and get on with your life. He’s trying to make him self seam like he’s doing the right thing and making it seam like you have cheated on him which as you said you never have. Even if you did at some point 2 wrongs don’t make a right!! I’d never share my man unless maybe just maybe we agreed to a 3 some.
3 Likes
Um. leave …what the actual fuck
Or get your own side piece
2 Likes
If yall gonna have a open relationship better do it right girl
1 Like
…why would you do that? Does it make you happy? Did you vows include “for better or worse and his side chick”? Pretty sure they didn’t. If you wouldn’t recommend your friends to stay in this situation, why, Dear God WHY, would you?
1 Like
If you’re down to share, go get you some side pieces too. I couldn’t do ot, but it seems like you don’t care.
2 Likes
Is she seriously asking this question?!
3 Likes
sweetheart kick that cheating baxtard to the kirb and find someone who wants you for you. dont put up with this bs.
1 Like
Kick his ass to the curb , no one should accept treatment like that.
get your own side piece too. If he thinks it’s ok for him to have one you get one too simple. If he doesn’t let you say bye bye 
6 Likes
He’s NOT going to stop cheating ! I’m sorry he’s doing this to u but u need to walk away. The child being his will be his concern even tho I’m sure u love this child too. Sounds as if he’s using u to take care of his child and all the chores and responsibilities while he’s out having fun ! Have self respect and walk away .
4 Likes
If you’re only worried about the financial side of things and not your own sanity or self worth, I think you will already know you aren’t going anywhere… BUT…
IF you value yourself and how much you truly deserve, then leave. The fact that he blatantly takes her on vacations clearly demonstrates he has ZERO respect for you, your union OR his family.
Or if you’re just meh about the whole thing… stay, and get you your own little side piece. That way you get serviced and your bills are paid.
Play him at his own game.
7 Likes
It’s your choice of course but I think he is using you as the live in babysitter. He probably has the child for the same reason. Told the ex if she’s going she can’t take the kid and now here you are playing mummy. Sorry but there is no future with him where you get to keep your dignity. You either stay for the money or leave for your future.
3 Likes
See an attorney to find out what you can expect for child support and spousal support. I think financially you would make out fine. Why would you want to share your husband ? You want love and respect from your husband and fir your child. Never your husband says he will give you unless a judge puts it on paper in a divorce agreement. Plus you will have future plans on paper to provide fir your child. He coukd bring disease to you and uncertainty of your financial future. You are worth more. You can meet e respectful man who values you and your child. Don’t settle for anything less. You can do this ! Sending prayers for you to survive and thrive…
1 Like
Are you enjoying your life now? knowing he is with her enjoying his life taking her on holidays while your at home raising the son… how does that make you really feel… why waste any more time on a boy who treats you as second class and a door mat… oh hopefully you’ve cut the sex off never know what they might… are you sure there’s only 1 or been 1 extra???
Don’t ever think kids don’t see what’s going on 
If it’s ok for him then it’s gotta ok for you to, just make sure he’s got a massive 
2 Likes
He isn’t showing you respect.
1 Like
Get out while you can now. He is a bully and emotional abuser. He has you at his mercy because he’s the “provider.” He is controlling and sure of himself. NOTHING is going to change, it’s only going to get worse. You also need to get a lawyer and don’t tell him ANYTHING about what you may plan to do. He’ll only throw up road blocks which will render you helpless. You may need to seek out a pro bono lawyer for those who don’t have $$. You are presently an indentured servant. Lastly, he, and also you, are playing Russian Roulette with YOUR health. You could easily catch a sexually transmitted disease and not even know it. I suggest you get tested and insist on a condom. Have some self respect because he clearly has no respect for you. Wishing you the best and hope things work out for you.
4 Likes
So let me get this straight, you’re taking care of a child that’s not yours yet you must allow him to do as he pleases because he’s paying the bills for HIS child? He knows damn well you haven’t cheated. He’s just saying that to excuse his own actions. Girl, your friends are fools if they’re telling you “as long as he comes home”. Suppose he comes home with AIDS or another STI? That’s cool? Trust that once this side thing is gone, there will be another because if you let it slide now, he’s already forcefully made you comfortable with this main and side bullshit. Next he will be boldface telling you he’s going to spend time with the next one and you gotta kiss him goodbye each time. Don’t settle for less hun. I know we get attached to kids, but it ain’t yours. Don’t lower your standards ESPECIALLY if you don’t have a child together
Giirrl get you that potahoe and gravy side piece too 
1 Like
Only you can decide what you’re okay with. Me on the otherhand…if it were my husband he’d be kicking rocks even though he supports me financially. I’d be damned. I’d have no problem figuring out finances to support my damn self.
You need a new husband and a new friend
2 Likes
Know your worth!! Walk. You have nothing there. I’m sure you built a relationship with the child but as you asked “are you playing the part?” … yes! Yes you are! If it’s not her he’s side piecing with, it will be someone else. Be true to yourself. Value yourself.
2 Likes
There is so much wrong with this.
Honey, decide what YOU want out of life, and what works for you. If this works for you and him, well alright then.
I think you’re not happy about it, but you’re afraid to leave because you’ll have to rely on yourself to take care of yourself. It sounds like you’re a slave. You take care of the house and the kid, and he pays all the bills. He makes sure you & the kid have what you need, but he is living like he’s a single man.
Let’s don’t even get into the std possibilities.
Or the self respect issues.
Or the trust issues.
If you’re happy, stay. If you’re not, leave. It’s obvious that this is not one of those situations where you’re going to take him to counseling or therapy & change him … he has ZERO respect for you. Counseling & therapy might help you, though.
Good luck, my friend.
5 Likes
Get yourself a main and make him your side.
2 Likes
Wake up sis! If you want to be treated like that …u stoopid
1 Like
You’ve already lost him babe.
Peace out from that bs
“Risk losing everything”?? So financial support is worth your dignity and self esteem? Stand on your own two feet and ditch this A$$hole, if a guy is screwing around on you, he doesn’t love or respect you. Get rid of him, learn to take care of yourself, work on your self esteem and self worth. Understand this, YOU DESERVE BETTER!!.
I see a few options here: A- you could speak with him about how you’re feeling and give him an ultimatum. B- you could just leave without so much as a farewell. C- you could decide to have your own person on the side since it seems he thinks he’s justified and what’s okay for him is okay for you. Or D- “play your part” and continue dealing with this however you’re dealing. Personally, I would go with A or B.
Go get your own side piece & ask him for gas $ 
1 Like
I wouldn’t put up with that shit!!
Husband don’t have a right to have a girlfriend when he has a wife.
Stand up on a chair and slap his jaws good and hard then walk out the door of.no return
1 Like
This is the dumbest thing I read all day. Girl get ur shit and half of his and leave.
If you didn’t cheat - then you don’t deserve to be cheated on. You’re worth more than a cheating husband!
Know your worth babe leave him
I was in this exact situation. I only stayed so long because of our son(not biologically mine). I raised him since he was 2 and finally left when our son was 11. Is the son one of the main reasons you don’t want to leave? Please feel free to message me.
Girl if you don’t leave him and get your money up. Let me be the one to tell you, you can do it. On your own! You don’t need to play any role if you aren’t being paid by a producer. Idk wtf they are feeding you but you not only need a new husband but new friends. Get yourself a career and start taking care of you so you can leave this mess
1 Like
Leave! You can do this on your own! Been there in your shoes and karma is a bitch. It will catch up to him. Hard work never hurt anyone, and o boy the things you will accomplish will
make you proud.
And ure asking for advice? Lorddddd help us all . You know what u have to do for God sake
Keep raising his child I take it as you said not your Bio child. And let him have his fun.
Why are you even upset.
my sarcasm voice …
1 Like
Haha. Ohh another BS post. They are getting lame 
1 Like
Are you for real? Is this some kind of April Fools? Cuz there is no way any self respecting woman would even consider tolerating this let alone staying.
4 Likes
He’s a narcissist. Be done. No thank you.
Throw the whole man in the trash and start again™
Have some self respect Holy eff. Leave leave leave
2 Likes
He is an adulterous, narsasistic creep. Show him the door.
Stuff that. Dump him and those ‘homegirls’. You deserve to be respected and his not respecting you at all. RUN 
1 Like
Why would you stay? He’s just using you for free childcare. Tell your “home girls” to take a hike, too. They don’t have your best interest at heart. You need to totally change environments and gain confidence in yourself and in your self worth.
3 Likes
Uhhhh yeah no. There should be absolutely no second thoughts, unless he was super remorseful & wanted to do what it took to make it right & fix your marriage… which doesn’t sound like the case. So bye! 
Get rid of him, he has no respect for you… and if you stay you have no respect for yourself…
1 Like
Sounds like you are someone that is taking care of the house and his kid while he goes and has fun with his girlfriend.
2 Likes
Where is yourself respect,what do his actions teach his son, you get your all bills paid sure but at what cost to you truly, you deserve a life make ita new one all the best xx
You’re not the wife you’re the live in nanny.
6 Likes
Say bye bye . He’ll get another side chick on her too .
2 Likes
Respect and love yourself first. He don’t deserve you. You can make it without him, he’s showing you are not his priority. Let him go.
Depends what you want. If you want to share your spouse with another woman, stay. If you want a totally committed relationship, leave. What are thst chances of her turning up pregnant and him leaving you for her???
1 Like
If he can’t be faithful then you don’t need him.
Shew! Get better friends and let the side chick raise his kid. Now, if this man provides well, you need to start socking away “he don’t” money. Secure your future. He’s taking all kinds of advantage of you so find a way to benefit before you leave him.
3 Likes
Seriously!?!?! Respect yourself girl! I can’t believe this is even a question!!!
2 Likes
Bounce. Plain and simple. He has less than no respect for you or your relationship. So sorry that happened but it’s time to leave. She can have him
1 Like
Umm are you seriously wanting to stay with him knowing he is cheating on you ? Have some self respect and realise that he is no good for you and that you deserve better along with being respected. You deserve to be someone’s whole world not someone’s side piece
4 Likes
Are you serious
Letting him treat your marriage like this
Let him get away with this
Next there will be more than
one
on the side
Brave up
And be self caring
1 Like
Y’all see the problem is, when she does leave him she will no longer have that kid in her life.
2 Likes
I think get your ducks in a row. Start saving money. Go see a lawyer on what you’re entitled to, keep a record of what he’s doing. Even if you don’t leave: just a plan B. So that you don’t leave financially devastated. And have a place to go.
8 Likes
What in the Jerry Springer is this
8 Likes
I see a poisonous scorpion in the future 
maybe you and the bio mom can work something out
4 Likes
why would you even want to live this way?
4 Likes
Get a boyfriend on the side and let him know
12 Likes
You need to see a therapist and get new friends! You lose nothing but a disrespectful ungrateful unworthy sad excuse of a person! Get yourself in therapy, get a job, move out, stop caring for his child (not the child’s fault but not a reason to sit by and condone his behaviors), and get your self worth and respect back FOR YOU!!!
12 Likes
Do you really have to ask this question? I would hope you would respect yourself more than that and learn to be independent
2 Likes
It’s crazy to me that this is even a question. You are worth more than that. Seems like he’s got you right where he wants you. Improve your self worth, gain some self-esteem, and start that by leaving his gross ass.
Your raising his son. Sounds like he needs you more tbh. Your a free agent if you leave lol. Live your best life without him & his side
He can’t take her away if he’s gotta take care of his son
He knows you didn’t cheat…he’s using that as an excuse to treat you like shit!!! Do what you want but he won’t ever change…
Why are you asking? You already know the ethical thing to do. This sounds like you prioritise comfort and lifestyle. If you are willing to get a job and have your own money, the recommendation is obviously to leave him. Even if you still love him, you need to respect yourself first. And also get a lawyer to find out what you are entitled to.
1 Like
Please respect yourself and leave girl… you deserve way better than this
1 Like
That’s a hard question to answer
Yes he clearly doesn’t care how you feel
Otherwise he wouldn’t be cheating on you and stringing his girlfriend along (he could be telling her what he he thinks , she wants to hear
As for him saying because he takes care of the finances
He can do what he wants , as long as he comes home
It’s not on
Hunni just because you don’t work outside of the home
You have a 24 hour, 7 days a week
Job
Of taking care of the family, doing chores, errands and household issues
I would say give him a taste of his own medicine and get yourself a bf (c)
But sadly that won’t help you
So instead my advice is to take your child(unless he is the father) and leave
Let the girlfriend have the sloppy seconds
Can’t believe you have to ask what you should do!
1 Like
Your just his house keeper. Get rid of him if your with him your Sad if your not with him your sad. No difference kick him to the kerb. You still deserve your self respect he does not love you get rid
1 Like
Sounds like you do not mind being treated like garbage.
1 Like
Those aren’t your homegirls… and he’s trying to justify what he’s doing to make it seem alright. And you’re raising his son while he does this?? Leave him. Straight up, you’re better than that.
2 Likes
So you take care of his son while he has a side piece. Girl you have a golden heart . He don’t respect you at all. . I can’t tell you how to run your life but girl respect yourself . He living a good life . he has you and a side piece. Time for you to move on get a lawyer. .
6 Likes