Never allow someone to be your priority while you are just their option. Fuck his best friend.
It sounds like because he takes care of everything, you might be looking for someone to tell you to stayā¦ I hope you leave. Youāre worth more than that.
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Your raising his son while he takes another chick on holidays?? Oh hell nah. And what girl in their right mind is telling you to stay?? Unless you get yourself a side peice too Iād be leaving.
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So are you left at home watching his son while heās taking this other chick on vacations?!
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You already lost your husband. You make the choice on staying because he is your finance or bounce. But you no longer can claim him as āyoursā because clearly he belongs to whoever else. Your āhomegirlsā must be on some spread their legs as a means. Because mine would of asked when should we run up on him.
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Sorry but me personally could never be ok with this. Itās pretty clear he really doesnāt care so why stay just for financial stability on things. You shouldnāt be settling for this kind of treatment. Itās appalling and heās trying to justify something because heās assuming. Ew. Heās not worth it let his side piece have him sheāll soon realise he aināt worth what she thought. You need to move on and find someone better who actually cares about your feelings.
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Girl you sound real silly right now. Like your either gonna continue to get cheated on and look foolish or leave him. Thatās it thatās all
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Your friends suck and your husband sucks even moreā¦ the only hard part I see in this is not having that child in your life. Iām assuming youāve been raising him for a long time and you love that child.
Other than that being hard it ahould be easy to ditch the loser hubby and loser friends.
Itās all in your handsā¦ whatās more important to you? The man with the finances or you being set free, moving on and becoming independent?
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You need new homegirlsā¦ if weāre being honest
Eerrā¦you sound like youre staying just for the financial stability, being a nanny and someone to fill in his loneliness. Only for his convenience. IāD LEAVE ALREADY. Know your worth.
Love - there are so many options out there these days to help people who truly need it. It sounds like youāre not working to raise a young child, which a lot of mamas still do. Iām so sorry to hear youāre going through this tough time. First, find your resources and get in touch. Once you have a bit of stability, you can think about leaving. The whole situation isnāt right.
By taking care of everything, he controls you
You need good lawyer, how to find that ask a cop, they know all the Pitt bulls out there
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SERIOUSLYā¦Send him to your homegirls, they deserve one another.
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Goshhh I hope this is a sh!t post and not true AT ALL!
Youāre be I by foolish. 2nd fiddle is not an option at my house. If Iām not his all in all Iām nothing at all. You should have more respect for yourself.
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You lost your "Husband " already
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Your house or his. If his pack your bags asap. if yours pack his bags put them ouit of your home and change the locks on the doors. .Easy solution. Once a runner always a runner.
You lost me at āI donāt want to lose himāā¦
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Girl, he already made that choice for you. Heās moved on.
He doesnāt want you.
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Get tested. Who knows who the side girl sleeps with
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Your relationship has been over for awhileā¦ Get out, get a job and regain your self respect! Then when you least expect itā¦ THELOVE OF YOUR LIFE IS OUT THERE WAITING ON YOU. <3
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What are you doing still staying there ā¦ Give your head a shake your worth more than this I could never be able to share my man and be okay with it ā¦ Plus you take care of his child which must be harder reason for you to leave because youāve grown attached ā¦ donāt just stay for the money I believe you are more than capable to do better 
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Itās pitiful that this question even exists.
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Leave. He is the a asshole
Are you for real??? You might as well run down to the local tattoo parlour and get āWalk All Over Meā tattooed on your forehead. Holy sh&# what is wrong with you 
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āAs long as he knows where home isā is absolutely degrading as a women to even entertain that whole situation , leave and move onā¦ heāll continue with plenty more women if you allow that!
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The fact that this is even a question blows my mindā¦ 
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I am deadā¦ Screw it ask to join in. He will never leave then. All man want to touch and feel the buffet just not look at it. So go enjoy it with himā¦
Fuck that! Ditch him and the home girls! Why is this even a question in your mind?? You are acting codependent And need to get out of this relationship ASAP He does not respect you and you are allowing it.
Lmao girl you really gonna regret staying when he gives you aids from all his little side chicks
You need to drain the whole bank account so you will have some money take whatever valuables there are pack ur stuff and roll out u donāt deserve that shit and letās say u did cheat not saying you did two wrongs donāt make a right and if so u wasnāt taking dude on vacation or none of that shit so no donāt play āyour partā he can raise his child without you and you can do better it may be hard to leave the child behind but u need to get out of that toxic situation
Why would you stay with someone like that? 
Walk away once a cheater always a cheater . Know youāre worth because he doesnāt he wonāt even realize what he lost. Let him go honey move on to bigger and better things. Iām praying for you God bless
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One of the side chicks will get feelings for him and take yr place you better have a plan 
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Sounds like you already lost him
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If youāre only ājobā is to take care of the kid then just play your part. You obviously need him. Where u gunna go?
Girl thatās why men continue to do as they pleaseā¦because you wanna be forgiving and hold onā¦let that man goā¦
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Heās gotta go ,no way in hell
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So your basically his live in nanny he pays by taking care of everything financially while dating another chick an taking her on vacations etc this sounds fucked in so many ways smh leave
Sweetie, you have already lost your marriage!! Dont let anyone treat you as second best!! Your man has it all, someone to raise his child while he plays with his friend. I hope you come to see your own worth and have the strength to walk away, honestly I donāt think he deserves your love. Praying for you
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Ask if you can have a side dude.
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Im getting to believe your the ā¦side ā¦chic now
I mean, are you allowed to see someone else?
Know your self worth.
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What did I just read
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So, Iāve been in this scenario. Itās all about what you can emotionally. If you can take knowing what heās doing without it taking a toll on you mentally, then you do it. I did it for a long time, heād come home to me, weād still have a love life and we had a beautiful child together. Unfortunately he ended up being a drug addict at the same time and thatās what ended it.
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2 can play that gameā¦let him pay the bills and whateverā¦Get yourself a side man.
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It really boils down to you. Are you happy? Do you want to share your husband? If not then get out of that relationship.
know your worth get you a side guy or 3 
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If you want to stay get a side dude too
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You already lost him. You are there to take care of the kid, the house, and to the picture perfect family nice and neat looking.
He has his cake and eating it too. Youāre getting the crappy end of the stick.
Walk out and away from everything you already lost but dont want to let go of. He dont care if you leave. Only you care.
You deserve better, Youāre worth more than what youāre getting
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Make it fair and get a side dude. See how he likes that. Maybe you can go on double dates? 
or you can tell him to man up and be there for you as a real partner (being a partner is not just financial support!!) or go he can go have his side chick full time and let you move on with your life. Kick him to the curb if you want to actually be happy. Itāll suck for a while to not be with him, but youāll be much happier when you find someone who loves you and treats you like youāre their whole world. Alsoā¦ your friends saying āas long as he knows where home isā¦ā donāt sound like real friends. How do you know theyāre also not having extra fun with your man since they have such a shitty attitude?? If heās your man, then you should be his one and only. PERIOD.
Sorry but you are in denial,
Call it what you want but he is cheating and he needs to realise that he is married and has responsibilities.
You need to give him an alternative you or her.
Leave his ass and dont look back
Why do the woman in this group have such low self esteem? You all know the answer. Stop being dumb!
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Girl, if he cheatedā¦ there WILL be another girl when heās done with her or maybe while! Are you going to wait till he gives you a sexually transmitted disease? Drop his ass like a bad habit! 
Kick his sorry ass to the curb. You can do way better than that loser
If you think that little of yourself then play the part. If you have self worth get rid of him
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Omg this sounds so stupid like you need Facebook confirmation ā¦ stupid is as stupid doesā¦sounds like you like being stuck on stupid!! Girl I wouldāve said bye when he first told me he cheatingā¦
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You donāt want to lose him??? You already did sounds like YOUR the side chick. You get 50% of everything and since he cheated he will pay spousal support if you arenāt working . Wtheck would you accept being in that relationship? Iād sue him for everything I could get and then see how many āvacationsā he would get to afford This is just pathetic , have some self respect!!!
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If you value yourself that little, stay. If he valued you, he wouldnāt cheat. You can do everything on your own. No one on this earth is worth this
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Itās your decision what you decide to live with
This is a very hard truthā¦
if he has to second guess whether he should be with you, then he doesnāt love youā¦
YOU are sacrificing your time and freedom for what Iām assuming is HIS SON.
You deserve better
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Giiiiirl you needa let that
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One of two thingsā¦ Get a job, support yourself. I do. Anyone can. Orrrrrrā¦ Let him pay the bills and get yourself a fun time half time too!
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Heres what you need to do go clear out the bank account on monday morning pick up a uhaul on your way back home and clear the house out too. Theres not a chance in hell i would put up with that. Nor should you or anyone else for that matter. You will find someone else that will love you and treat you rt. Does she no about you? If not id make sure she does so she can leave him to. Hes not a real man and not worth your time. This is only the beginning of what he will put you through if you dont leave.
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So youāre effectively a live in nanny to his kid while his taking this other woman on holidays?
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Did you marriage vows say anything about allowing a side chick? There is your answer. Your valuing your " stuff" more than yourself. Stop being his door mat. Your allowing him to be in an open marriage. While u know itās wrong.
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Young one - the trust is gone - so there isnāt a true loving relationship. You are playing āsecondā not her - he has no respect for you - nor does he love you- you are his live in housemate and babysitter.Donāt you think it time you put your foot down ? You deserve better - you are worth far more than you think. Get your ducks in a row and get out. Right now - youāve lost āyouā - go find her and be happy the way you deserve - young one. 
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Find some self respect and then leave.
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I feel like thatās a you decision. What one person would do will differ from another. Me personally - Iād leave. Fuck that. But some people live that life every day. Some are polyamorous. Thereās no judgement on what you decide - but just know that you can also change your mind if you decide to stay and try to do as your homegirls say.
seriously?! tell him to get the hlll on! you are absolutely worth more than this. he thinks you cheated so thats his āpermissionā??? you didnt cheat hes a sociopath get out while you can!
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Whats good for the goose girl, let him be loose, give you and that babe the BEST stable home and make sure You and the wee one are getting vacations too. Fuck him. Live high, donāt let him spend $$$ on the whore, your the Queen you get $$$ she get piss change.
Donāt be stupid , leave!,
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OK thanks for telling us!
You donāt seem too mad,
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So youāre staying so you can play mommy to his son. Wow!! Your nothing but a doormat.
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Iām surprised heās still alive divorce his arse
Girl you got a sister wife I donāt know how you can even look in the mirror if you consider staying.
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Youāre worth SO much more!
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Depending on your state, 50 percent of everything is yours. If you have been married over 10 years you get life time alimony. Any retirement accounts are half yours too. Equity in house, etc. the son is biologically his so I donāt know if you have any parental rights and can ask for child support. Half of all the funds in all the accounts are yours. You can open up a new account that he doesnāt have access to and move half of everything to it. A lawyer will be needed and expect to pay 5000 upfront and refresh payments every month of about 2000 until the divorce is settled. Itās very expensive but you need one.
That would be the day i watched some guys kid while he runs the roads. Tell him to take his kid with him when heās not going to be home
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Run. You deserve so much better than that.
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I would leave. Youāre basically just there for his convenience to raise his son while he runs around and does whatever he wants. Unless you are ok with sharing your husband and playing mommyā¦ then stay. 
Look at yourself in this situation 30 years down the road. Think of how that will work.
You are either scared or was raised by a very submissive woman. AINāT no way in hell I would spend my days taking care of his child while he cheats and does whatever else he wants to do. Vengeance is yours and your vengeance should be packing up making sure the child is at a safe daycare and get out and donāt ever tell those so-called girlfriends where or what youāre doing. Get a job go to school and kick ass and take names while you become a successful independent woman. And regardless who you meet NEVER allow yourself to be put in a situation like this again.
Why do I feel like Iām angrier at this situation than you are?
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Ur husband has no respect for u at all and thatās not love tell him to go to her move on u deserve better he using u for a fool kick him to the curb divorce him get him for child support and move on withouthim
You deserve so much better
You need new homegirls.
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Do you really want to be with a man who is walking all over you? And youāre raising his son? It isnt your duty,he isnāt your sonā¦ This man isnāt taking you out or getting you stuff. Go get someone who will treat you right
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Youāre a glorified baby sitter sis. You can do better.
First off, you should know that you deserve better and walk away. There is nothing in this world a man can give you that you canāt go get yourselfā¦ thatās absolutely disrespectful unless it is something you both went into the relationship agreeing to. Sounds like that isnāt the case, and there are many people out there that understand boundaries and respect better than your spouse so I say walk out and donāt look back. The right person will find their way to you when the time is right. Although that canāt happen of u are allowing the wrong one to stay in the way. At the end of the day your dignity and self respect should ne most important 
you owe that much to yourselfā¦!
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Sounds like your just the live in baby sitter for his child. No oneās deserves to be treated like that.
Never be someone who is 2nt choice
Risk what? You are free. That kid isnāt yours and he isnāt committing to being yours. Itās sad to get attached to kids and leave but you gotta give yourself a chance to be respected in a relationship or youāre always going to feel bad about yourself.
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You had to put it on facebook for an answer?
leave his cheating ass in the dust. Anyone who whould disrespect you like that is not worth your time. there are men out there who will respect you and your relationship.
I think you already know the answer to that. 
Play the same game and find yourself a boytoy
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