Maam, move on with your life and leave him and his son right there. You are not married to him so you have no obligation to care for his child ESPECIALLY if he is cheating. What are YOU spexifically getting out of this deal?.. NOTHING! Please begin to SEE YOUR WORTH! You should not be knowingly sharing a man!
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if he has a side dish you already have do not settle be with someone who treasures you
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What exactly are you losing if you leave? I can tell you what you will gain if you leave, independence, empowerment and self-respect. Ditch the pig and take care of yourself. He will NEVER be worth it. 
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Tell him if he can do it you can too .if he donāt want too change his ways tell him your off your worth more than that even if you do love him
This cannot be a real question lol
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Oh HELL noā¦girl you gonna take that?
Get a Lawyerā¦Take him for everythingā¦Document everythingā¦You Married him You are number 1 Prof is everything He threw you away when he cheated. let his new woman deal with himā¦
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Does she know about you?
You already know this isnāt okay. He is using you for sex and childcare.Is this really the life u want? Only you can decide.
He will never not have a side chick, it is up to you to be ok with it or leaveā¦You choose thatā¦
What you think yourba fuckin door mat girl get up leave he needs you he provides for his son not even urs you take care of his kid ofcourse he provides and take care of everything he has to uts his kid and he is saying you cheated cuz thatās what men do so women can accept that shit but donāt get up you DESERVE better you are better than that cmon know ur worth. He needs you you dnt need him you have no kids you help him think abt it if you leave you think side b honna take care of his kid he takes her on vacations what abt you who holds down the house hold. Leave now he needs you and he will walk allover u go run you will find better
Hey if youāre really thinking like this and think itās ok and want to stay then why donāt you make it a polyamorous relationship if you all down with it if not and youāre literally staying because heās the bread winner then youāll always be treat like that and that aināt no way to live it sounds more an open relationship on his part that youāre just putting up with 
Respect yourself get rid of the rubbish
Have some self respect . See ya
Only you know what you can live with, but that would a HARD NO from me. I respect myself too much to be anyoneās 2nd choice.
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hate to tell you, but you already lost him, Now you must decide, if this is what you are willing to deal with, or leave & divorce him.
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Dumb him AND your homegirls. They are probably saying that because they are getting a piece of him as well
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At this point I feel like you are looking for validation to stay. And honey we are to tell you NOO! itās not okay to stay. There is nothing that we can do to make you not feel guilty for staying because like it or not you will continuously think about this side chick.
Why are you even asking? Leave and find a man who will love you and respect you.
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If you are not comfotable with an open relationship then you need to go. Do not let him cheat on you.
Ask him, āso weāre in an open marriage cuz I got a few guys that would like to be my side D!ā
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My answer to this is if your friend came to you and told you this was her life use your advice to her for yourselfā¦ sounds like heās having his cake and eating it though. Wow he financially helps! You can do that on your own too
No way I will want to be near him
Your husband CHOOSES to see her. She may not even know about you. Why does everyone blame the āother personā when the one in the relationship knows exactly what they are doing?
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Respect yourself and see your way out!! Aināt NO MAN worth thatā¦Iād be living in a shelter before I let someone disrespect me like that, especially my hubby!!!
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Were you dropped on your head as a baby because this is a no brainerā¦ LEAVE!
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Really? Hes gonna continue to cheat youāre better off leaving.
This has to be a
Joke
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I think you both need to agree on the partnership rules or the partnerships over
Once my husband and I opened our marriageā¦ things got better for us
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Have more respect for yourself ā¦. Who the hell wants to be an option ? Take care of your own financial stuff , focus on a career ā¦. Move on ā¦.
Leave. Iāll be damned if my husband told me he had a side chick and Iām to āplay my partā. I am a stay at home mama to two kids, my husband is the ābread winnerā, but not even for a second would I ever stick around and be disrespected because he does āwhat needs to be doneā. Respect yourself. Choose yourself. If you donāt want to share your man, tell himā¦ If heās good with you leaving because he doesnāt wanna give up his side piece, the love wasnāt there to begin with.
Is this question real?
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What!? Youāve already lost him sisā¦ and honestly, doesnāt sound like ya lost much.
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You need some new homegirls cause the ones you have now give terrible adviceš„“
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Ummm leave! Thatās horrible youād consider keeping him around
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HELL TO THE NO! Play your part and leave.
GASLIGHT.
And Your Friends Donāt Give A Fuck About U If They Think U Should Sit There & Take It, Theyāre Either Dumb Or Like To See You Struggle. KNOW YOUR WORTH
Why is this even up for discussion and I canāt even believe you contemplating this ! Like why would you be ok with it ā¦ Your crazy and you deserve so much more then this ā¦ Please know your worthā¦
They would both mysteriously disappear while on their next vacation 
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Manā¦ put yo big girl panties onā¦ teach your son how to be independentā¦ and move onā¦
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Lose him. End of the story.
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Is this a real question? Respect yourself and LEAVE.
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Allow whatever? Play your part? Really consider this if you wouldnāt do it someone else why are you accepting it done to you? You are married with that should have come a choice of seeing no one else but each other. It is a commitment. If he is choosing other girls then he is telling you he doesnāt want to be with you. As for your homegirls are they really your homegirls if they are going to let you swallow this? Whatever you decide to do best of luck.
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What in the hell did I just read 
youāre basically a nanny with benefits. You do all the household chores, take care of his child and he has the audacity to have a girl on the side that he does all the fun stuff with. He doesnāt love you,he just loves what you do for him.
You have no ties to him, meaning you can split up now and never have to see or speak to him again because you have nothing keeping you together. Get out now and go live your life and find someone thatās going to really love you and only you. And get rid of those friends because Iāve never heard of a real friend saying to stick with a man thatās not being faithful.
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Polygamy is not that bad. Maybe you can find you a side piece too. And come to a mutual agreement if thatās an option. If not you can leave and move on or you can stay and deal with it.
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Listen thereās two things you can do play the same Mother F***ing Game while he takes care of everything! But do it better and see how he likes it!
Or you can send him to hell on a speed boat and find your happiness else where. Go live your best life B******
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Have an open relationship if thatās what yāall gonna do
Not your kidā¦ cheating husbandā¦ what advice would you give???
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Youāre not obligated too be his lady in waiting leave he did
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Leave thatās all you can do
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Girl if you donāt leave his bum ass and his child wtf is wrong with you? Fuck all of them.
This canāt possibly be real. Only option I see here is to leave his lying ass and start a new chapter in your life.plain and simplešµāš«
Sooo now you just a friend right!? So live there take care of son, ask for a wage, and get yourself a boyfriend that you can see and chat to 
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First of all, you are NOT a doormat. Second, donāt you think you deserve more than to be an option to your own husband? Third, let him have his side pieceā¦take your pride and walk out the door. You deserve better than this and never ever ever let yourself be an option. Pack your things and let him come home to an empty home and start over. I understand it will be hard, but you need to do what is best for you. As for the child, your husband can figure out how to take care of his child by himself. Itās about time he manned up.
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Say Divorce? 
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I feel like weāre being trolled. She canāt be serious?
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Ummm no. I wouldnāt willing be sharing my spouse. Life is short, leave him.
Are you kidding donāt want to lose him!! He would be gone!! Walk away! X he isnāt worth keeping just because he does everything financially x
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Are you serious??? I canāt believe this is even a question! The moment you found out, you should have been packing your stuff. He is Your Husband and my mind is blown that you would even consider sharing him with another woman.
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You deserve better. Leave him
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Not a chance,
So he says you cheated to make what he is doing ok while u stay home and look after his son for him.
Your with more than that. Iād rather be alone and broke than put up with that. (Sorry)
But you do what you think is right for you. X
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You sound very weak minded. That MD doesnāt love you, clearly. The kid isnāt yours so you have no REAL attachments to him. Stop acting like you depend on him and get your ass away from him. You already know this so why come on here asking??
Girlā¦ him accusing you of cheating is what is called a āguilty conscienceāā¦ if you donāt mind being cheated on by your husband while youāre being loyal and solid in return then by all means, stayā¦ if youāre not okay with being cheated on by your husband with no justifiable cause, you should get divorced and never look backā¦ we can give you all the advice and opinions on the world, but ultimately itās your life and you have to decide what to do for youā¦ this situation super sucks, wishing you all the luck in the world
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Hunny have some dignity and self respect. Get a job and leave that man before he brings you something you canāt get rid of !
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I guess If money is more important than your happiness and health then you already have your answer. If you value yourself then find the better you deserve
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Your āpartā is to be a happy, loved wife with a husband that respects you. It sounds like heās using you and doing whatever he feel like, and that is not fair to you. Things will only get worse from here and if you donāt leave yourself, heāll end up doing it if things progress with his āgirlfriendā. Get out now, you deserve more.
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Leave girl, save up some money when you can, get a job and leave !! If you donāt want to live like that then donāt !
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Iām questioning my own sanity - bothering to read the obvious. Try therapy for yourself.
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Are you joking? Is this a joke? My brains about to explode.
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This has to be spamā:woman_facepalming:t3:
are u really a woman?? I wld be dne snap,crackle and popped him in da mouth then packed his stuff and took it side B.
Never lose your self worth. If you leave and refuse contact for awhile he will come running back.
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Depends what you want. I think a decent amount of people are going to lie and cheat in a relationship. If you left this one, is the next guy going to do a similar thing? More than likely (I know not everyone is like that still, but those loyal people still seem hard to find like that) - you can choose to leave and take care of yourself mentally by leaving this situation or you can choose to stay and at least be taken care of every other way except emotionally (can always get a side man too) or until you can get on your feet on your own
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Youāve already lost him
Yes just be the perfect housewife and turn a blind eye. Are you stupid? How is this even a question? Why tf would you stay?
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Just aināt no loyalty on this planet
Like no girl
You DONT have to put up with that shit
Fuck that
Better to be solo stand on your own find your power and have a wonderful rest of your life
What has this world come to 
Sounds like you might need to do some soulsearching, take a minute as obviously your life, as you know it, is now changing ,
It can be daunting to process what this means to him, to you, to your relationship,
You might want to seek counselling if you find you feel stuck & unable to make decisions or move forward,
You will move forward either together or apart, but be prepared & plan your exit strategy should you want or need to leave, finances, place to stay,etc,
I would leave but leave when I am ready to make smooth transition if possible, if not create exit plan,
A path will become lit !!!
I have to quit reading these. I donāt know what is wrong with people. Have you lost your mind. Leave.
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Iām sorry but how is this even a question?
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That is NEVER ok whatever world you live in. Wake up and GTFOOT. You are worth more than thatā£ļø
Two words. Self worth.
I pray that you find it
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This is unacceptable
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If he can have a side chick then you can have a side man. Heck you may like your side man more and he may become the main man. But Iām serious!
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Unfortunately itās probably not the first time or the first woman heās cheated on u with. I donāt understand woman who stay with men that cheat on them 
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Ask him how heād feel if you had a side piece and see how fast his attitude changes. It could go one of two ways. 1. He will get upset and say hell no 2. You guys could be open to having an open relationship. Itās up to you and what you want. Personally I wouldnāt be able to share my man.
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My question to youā¦
How much do you value yourself?
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Is this seriously a question? Honey there is no such thing as a main chick. You are also the side chick.
Get you toy boy to see when heās galavanting
Itās your choice, do you want to have a relation with him or not?you decide if you can deal with this or you wanna leave, you decide what your relation should be, youāre not obliged to do anything.
Only accept it if youāre OK with that kind of situation. Because it probably wonāt change
You already know what to do! Your just going to stay there and keep getting hurt. He knows you wonāt do anything so he will keep cheating. Iād pack my stuff and be long gone!
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Ouchā¦ find your worth, and value what you have to offer another person.
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Is this a Real post?
The answer is so clear, I cannot believe its a question.
You donāt have any children
Heās not faithful
You want to be monogamous
Really?
Leave. NOW.
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You arenāt serious, right!? Why question this? This is NOT ok no matter how you look at it. I understand there is a child (not yours) that will be affected BUT you cannot think for one second that this is ok. Get your stuff and move out ASAP. If he wants a side girl, let him find someone thatās ok with an open relationship.
You have no idea what kind of funk he could bring home. If thereās one girl, there will need more. Get yourself an appt to get tested for STDs and get out of there!!
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2 can Play that game honey but I wouldnāt put up with it life is to damn short
So wrong. If ur not enough for him get out and get a life.
Girl. Your not serious. U take care of his kid while he is out messing around!!!
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Girl flip that mess around on him and be like alright cool so if you gonna have a side B then imma get me some side D 
and watch how quick that tune changes. I mean turn about is fair play and whatās good for the goose is good for the gander 
donāt take my advice Iām toxic af but this is exactly what Iād do. Ijs.
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RUN!!! And never look backā¦ Heās the one whoās losing out on a good woman! His loss your gain! You will find someone who will be faithful to you
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Let me get this straight u take care of his son while hes off going on vacatipns with someone else u aint his main or side u the babysitter
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