Is this a serious question …so do you think you are worth no more than sitting around waiting for a man to come home to you when he chooses because he takes care of everything else:thinking:
…you have to love yourself more than this…while he is taking her on trips and doing all these things does he make the same effort to make you feel special in any way other than paying bill(which you can do yourself) I mean if it works for you then stay I guess…but at some point this will get ugly he already told you he is cheating so some part of him wants to be with her…this could be his way of letting you know
Girlllll get you a side dude too and tell him tell them both about each other and dare him to give a fuck!!!
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Leave! I wouldn’t be ok with that at all….
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That’s your pimp hunny not your husband🤦🏼♀️
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Take steps every day towards independence until you are in a place to leave. Have him explain all the finances to you. Look for a job or get schooling/training for one. Look into Medicaid and Obamacare if you would lose medical coverage in a divorce. Alimony is rare and often only lasts a few months.
Talk to a lawyer, a social worker and a women’s center for advice (consult w lawyer should be free or low cost, rest should be free). How long have you been together? You only get half the assets from the years you’ve been married. If you and his son love each other, put in the separation/divorce decree that you get visitation with him.
Women need to understand they should never be completely dependent on a man because it can trap them in a bad relationship and set them up for abuse. Parents of girls need to teach their girls this too. You can be a SAHM but be sure you have your own money and job skills and know how to live independently.
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Dump him that’s outrageous u shouldn’t have to take that good luck 
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The fact that you’re asking tells me you’re not ready to leave bc you should know what everyone in their right mind will suggest you do. Are you looking for the comments that tell you to stay & that you’re in a great situation??? I get it you’re in love & it’s not easy to leave him bc of the finance thing but it’s harder to stay & see that & deal with that crap!
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When you say husband are you legally married to this person? Because you sure are taking this light
I’m confused on where you’re stuck. You either are ok with him cheating, which would be you just agreeing to an open relationship, or you aren’t and you remove yourself from the situation. Seems pretty clear cut to me. Leave if you don’t want to share or stay and tolerate him sleeping around.
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That last part has me rolling. Girl you better wake up. Your part is to leave lol tf??
“I don’t want my husband to cheat” but should you “play your part”
He clearly DOESNT know where home is, he is actively with someone else! That logic only applies to men/women who have friends when in a relationship. Not when the person is CHEATING.
But honestly, you will deal with whatever you think you deserve or want to until you decide to leave. Take it from experience, nothing anyone says will make the decision for you. You will one day wake up and decide enough is enough and that’s when you’ll leave. Until then just protect yourself
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I won’t have second hand dick lady
Are YOU ok with this open relationship? If not, move on. Money isn’t everything. You’re obviously not ok with an open relationship, so to save yourself from a major let down, I’d probably leave the relationship.
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Get a job, take care of your damn self, love your self enough to understand you don’t need to be there and let him continue to care for his son on his own. Move on… that relationship has been over, you just need to understand that.
Time to kick him to the curb
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Oh boy… you know what? I’m not even touching this one lol
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Is this a serious question? You are ok with being called a B AND him cheating? You must be ok with it, if you even have to ask. Love yourself more!!
You said not your bio, you mean not your bio kid?
His kid, his side chick, his problem.
Pack your stuff and leave.
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I think you already know the answer to that question.
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You need new friends and a new man…
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So you’re taking care of his kid while she is out doing whatever she wants and you think you should stay just because he pays for the things that he should pay for because he is his father. You need to leave. Or do whatever your heart feels best but this should answer itself
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If you have family or friends that can assist you and you are not ok with it. Leave.
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I think I’ve heard it all now and my relationship is just fine. 
Just when I think mine is f***ed, all I gotta do is come on here and read some other people’s problems and suddenly mine is just fffn FANTASTIC!
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Leave him. That is not a husband 
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Lose him like a bad smell.
I agree with Pamela. With my ex husband I was a stay at home mom because he wanted me to be. He paid for everything while I did all of the housework and raised his daughter and our baby. When I found out he was talking to someone else and gone “for work”, I finally decided to get a job so I could start saving my own money. He was upset about me getting a job, saying we wouldn’t be able to go on vacations because I would be working. It’s a rough road, but I was SO happy when I left. You got this!
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No. Just no. I’d walk away in a heartbeat, it’s not worth it.
Girl… why. Why are you even asking this?! Value yourself! Tell him to eat a dick and leave.
Are you kidding me lady
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Morals do you have any???
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You’ll lose everything if you stay including your self respect.
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Dump the bum ! Mine never changed.
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I’m only going to say this once, YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS!
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I mean, if he’s OK with getting a side piece for himself, he should be ok with you getting a side piece for you, right?!?
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Just start collecting his money and then walk away
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No no no, he’s not respecting his “home” leave, RUN. That is not a man that is a child. And the fact he came out and told u about her just shows how much he can see that u do not respect YOURSELF! Don’t stay QUEEN get u a guy who falls head over heals everytime he sees u
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Please get a good attorney and document everything! clean his clock in divorce court…do not be a doormat.
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Leave whatever that doesn’t make u happy
That’s really terrible. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but you deserve better. Get a job, put money to the side, and make an exit plan. Even if it takes you 2 years.
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You need to throw away your husband AND your homegirls!
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well you set your own character and standards for yourself….
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Nah. Time to go. Respect yourself FIRST.
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Only you can decide just how much you can deal with. If your life is good ? Realize this is more common than you know but usually they are sneaky and wives don’t know. If he is flaunting her, that would be hard to take.
Not my bio? Is that a typo? Should that be not his bio? Cause if you raising a man’s child who ain’t yours and he’s cheating on you 
…you just the caretaker
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SUGARLAND SAID IT BEST BABY WHY DONT YOU GO ALBY DAMNED IF A MAN WILL DISRESPECT ME LIKE THUS THE NEXT TIME HE WANTS TO LEAVE YOUR BED FOR HERS TELL HIM TO TAKE HIS CHIKD AND HIS BAGS WITH HIM AND DONT LOOK BACK BECAUSE YOU SURE UN THE HELL WONT BE HE WILL DO WHAT YOU WILL ALLOW OBVIOUSLY HE HAS NO FEAR OF YOU LEAVING BECAUSE HE HAS OBVIOUSLY DONE THIS TYPE THING BEFFORE AND YOU ALLOWED IT SO WHAT MAN OR WOMAN ISNT GOING TO TAKE THAT OFFER OF YOU GO DO AND BE WITH WHOMEVER YOU WANT BECAUSE ILL STILL BE HERE PLAYING HOUSE HE HASNT HAD ANY CONSEQUENCES FOR HIS ACTIONS SO WHY WOULDNT HE HAVE A WIFE AT HOME AND A CHIC ON THE SIDE ITS HAVING HIS CAKE AND ICE CREAM SO UNTIL YOU SAY ENOUGH IS ENOUGH AND TELL HIM HE HAS A CHOICE ITS YOU YOUR SON AND HIS FAMILY OR HE CAN HAVE THE SINGLE LIFE BUT HE DAMN SURE CANT HAVE BOTH UNLESS YOUR DOWN FOR AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP AND THEN I WOULD LET HIM NO THAT WHILE HE IS OUT ON THE MAKE THAT YOU WILL NOT BE SITTING AT HOME CRYING IN YOUR MERLOT THAT YOU ALSO WILL BE LOOKING ELSEWHERE RO HAVE YOUR NEEDS MET BUT I SURE IN THE HELL WOULDNT PUT UP WITH THIS LEVEL OF DISRESPECT PERUOD AND WHAT KIND OF AN EXAMPLE IS BEING SET FOR THIS CHIKD HE IS GOING TO GROW UP TO BE A WOMANIZER BECAUSE THATS WHAT HE IS LEARNING FROM HIS FATHER AND HE IS LEARNING FROM YOU THAT ITS OK AND THAT THIS IS ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR AND THAT THE WOMAN SHOULD BOW DOWN AND TAKE WHATEVER HE THRIWS AT HER THINK LIKE THIS IS THIS WAS YOUR DAUGHTER ASKING THIS QUESTION WHAT WOULD YOU TELL HER I KNOW WHAT I WOULD TELL MINE IF YOU WOULDNT WANT YOUR DAUGHTER TREATED LIKE THIS THEN WHY WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO TAKE IT BECAUSE HE HAS FINACIAL CONTROL BASICLY IS THE ONLY REASON I SEE THAT YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITH THIS QUESTION SO I WOULD GO GET ME A JOB THEY ARE A DIME A DOZEN THIS DAY AND AGE AND GOOD PAYING JOBS ATT THAT AND I WOULD THEN TELL HIM HE IS GOING TO HAVE TO FIGURE OUT CHILDCARE FOR HIS CHILD AND YOU NEED TO GET YOUR INDEPENDENCE BACK FIRST THING THEN YOU TO TELL HIM HE CAN ALSO FIGURE OUT HIS LAUNDRY AND HIS MEALS AS YOU WILL ONLY BE DOING FOR YOURSELF AT THIS POINT AND HE HAS SOME SERIOUS SOUL SEARCHING TO BE DONE AND THAT HE NEEDS TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS BECAUSE HE CANT HAVE BOTH HUNNY YOU HAVE LIST YOURSELF AND YOURSELF RESPECT YOU NEED TO STAND UP AND SHIW HIM HE DOESN’T HAVE THIS TYPE OF CONTROL O ER YOU OR YOUR HAPPINESS ANYMORE YOI NEVER GIVE SOMEONE THAT MUCH POWER YOU CONTROL YOUR HAPPINESS NOT HIM I HOPE YOU CAN FIND THE STRENGTH YOU NEED TO GET IN YOUR RIGHT MINDSET AND MAKE SOME SERIOUS LIFE CHANGING DECISIONS BECAUSE YOU ARE OF CONVENIENCE FOR HIM YOU KEEP HOYSE COOK CLEAN TAKE CARE OF KID ALL WHILE HE HAS HIS FUN SO PLEASE IF YOU NEED A PEP TALK OR YOU NEED TO LAUGH OR CRY IT OUT WHATEVER IT MAYBE IF YOU NEED HELP FINDING RESOURCES IN YOUR AREA PLEASE MESSAGE ME I WILL BE GLAD TO HELP YOU NAVIGATE THROUGH THIS IF YOU WANT AN OUT YOU WILL LEAVE OR LAY IT DOWN FLAT OUT THAT THIS ISNT GOING TO CONTIBUE BECAUSE IF IT DOES YOU WILL NOT STICK AROUND ANYMORE TO BE HIS MAID AND NANNY BECAUSE SWEETIE THAT IS ALL YOU ARE AND AS FAR AS THE OTHER WOMAN WELL SHE OBVIOUSLY ISNT ANY KIND OF REAL WOMAN or she wouldn’t be putting up with this either seems to me neither of you have any self respect and letting him play you both
He is gaslighting you. Leave him
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Get ahold of the messages between them and any bank statements showing the trips, go to court for custody.
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WHERE IS YOUR PRIDE!?!? Seriously you are going to let him treat you like this?!? Get a job and kick him to the curb!!!
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Know your worth! You deserve better…he has it made
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What is “self worth”
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It’s honestly up to you. If you think you can handle a more open relationship like that, then go for it. If you can’t, then it’s probably best to leave. Don’t put yourself through that if you know you can’t handle it.
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taking care of HIS child while he cheats??? No ma’am time to go.
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If you can live like that stay, I would have a friend tho! But personally I’m not SHARING MY HUSBAND
It might be with one of your “homegirls”…
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No. Don’t put up that crap … if ur not happy. Figure out a plan to get out it may hurt for a little bit but once see things r better without him u will fine
Woooow you need some love and a big ass hug and a reality check I’m so sorry
It you choice but if he does it with one he do it again if you choice to stay you get what you ask for if it was me I cut my lose because I’m better than that again you choice
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You deserve and can do better
You need to get a job and leave
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Girl, I know you probably have emotional ties to him making this hard to see. How ever he isn’t the only guy out there, no your self worth. Unless you’re open to an open relationship, it’s never gonna change!
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Praying will help you.
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I mean maybe you should have a discussion about polyamory and get yourself a partner.
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You seem to be a glorified babysitter. Is that what you want out of your life?
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Totally sounds like it’s your home girl.
I mean 
if you are both okay with an open marriage and you can do the same and you guys are happy that way, then go for it. If you’re staying in an unhappy marriage and you’ll be miserable just because it’s scary to leave, just remember you only have one life to live and you don’t want to live it unhappy.
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You need better friends 
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So basically you can start over. The child isn’t yours biologically and your husband cared about you, he wouldn’t be cheating. Walk away, but not before you take a hefty amount from the bank as a parting gift 
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Walk away and start fresh. Not your child and apparently not your man.
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So because he pays the bills you’re willing to be with a man that cheats while you raise his child? Are you ok?
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I’d tell him it’s time he takes his child with him and or find a sitter while he’s out CHEATING…and damn straight I’d start cheating my damn self with his own money at that n maybe find someone who will treat u with respect…wtf" like TODAY🤷
I would just maybe discuss with him about poly lifestyle and get yourself a boyfriend. If he’s taken care of the bills and you can live like that then I would try that. It would not surprise me though if he didn’t want you to have someone else
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Not only would I get rid of the cheating husband, I would also get rid of those so called friends that are telling you to just take whatever he does to you. That’s some toxic nonsense.
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Honey if he is cheating you have already lost him!
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He doesn’t respect you at all why would you even consider staying known he’s getting on with another woman get out now while you still have a chance have you even considered why he told you are you the type to forgive an forget because if so he knows your a soft touch an he’ll hurt you over an over to a point you don’t even recognize yourself anymore you have an choice here choose wisely know your worth take your dignity an go live your best life 
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I guess it depends how much you value your dignity
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I agree with others that maybe discuss a poly relationship or other such thing. You meet his side chick. You get yourself a side guy or chicken or whatever. If thats what you want. Decide to do what makes you happy. If you are happy with him making the money, raising his kid and him having a side chick, hey great. Its your life.
Those aren’t your homegirls.
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What !!! Never… he’s not a King…who gets more then one woman to bed each night…get out of that relationship…
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NO MA’AM THAT MAN IS 100% HAPPY, WHY CANT YOU BE HAPPY.
For now I’d play my part as a happy wife save some money then dip when he go on “vacation”
Get in yo own bag and prepare yourself for when the side B convinces him to be the main B. He already feeling himself he told you everything. He sound like he almost ready to let you go.
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You don’t know what to do? Girl. You leave.
I don’t understand why you are even questioning this. I don’t know why you’re confused. This is super toxic and messed up. Surely you know that. Grounds for divorce and spousal support. Those “friends” aren’t friends, either.
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I agree I’d probably leave but I wanted to put it out there that she wouldn’t be the first woman to stay in a very comfortable lifestyle and just ignore his infidelity.
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Sounds like that JLo movie Enough.
Throw the whole man away, and ya friends cause they dumb af.
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I’m starting to wonder if these posts are for real or to build up followers . 
If this is real you need to go, find someone who deserves you and only has eyes for you and get rid of those friends of yours .
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Are you allowed to have a side dick too?
so he is paying you for his happiness…don’t you think that you deserve better? believe me you do.
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Sounds like you the side b, you’re sitting home taking care of his baby while he’s on vacation with another girl ? What da hell
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Get you a side too then🤷🏻♀️ or leave!
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Easy answer: If this was your daughter… how would you answer???
You’re welcome 
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Girl what??? This cannot be real? Like are we in high school with the he knows where home is bull shit girl he can bring something back to you that uncurable or worse she can be a crazy stalker like your watching his child while he vacations with the other girl so who is the main and who is the side?
Well if you wanna stay tell him since he has a side B your gonna have a main D (him) and a side D (since you kinda seem okay with open marriage) what’s okay for him should be okay for you to do too. 
……but doesn’t seem like your truly okay with him having a side B if that’s the case don’t stay just because he pays everything cause you will still be miserable and it could end up being a very bad ending. If your truly not okay with it get your ducks in a row and find a exit plan.
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Wow, I truly recommend getting new friends first. Since you don’t know what to do, but a real friend would tell you to know your worth.
It’s so sad to me that your even considering staying. Girl RUNNNNN!! NO WOMAN deserves to be “main”. Idc what he pays. And if you need to ask all of us what to do tbh, I say you need to work on yourself! Get rid of the man, get rid of the homegirls and be your own financer. Make yourself happy.
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Are these questions real?
Girl, leave. He’s trash
Throw him away!
I mean ask him if he’s ok being your main peice while you get a side peice, I promise you if u do it it’s gona be a deal breaker for him, Nd there’s your answer… if he can do it and you can’t, he’s never gona stop … what you allow, is what is gona continue
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Girl, lose what? You’ve lost THE most important thing he could give you….RESPECT. There’s nothing more you need to see. You’ve seen what you’ve needed to see, however the call is yours to make.
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No amount of money would make this relationship ok for me. Your taking care of his kid while he’s vacationing with the side chick ? You need to get self respect ! Get a job. Leave him and find someone that will take you on vacation.
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So the question here is do I respect and love myself enough to know I deserve more and demand it or keep being treated like crap and stay and continue raising his child while he screws others girls and he financially provides.
Girl I don’t get how this is even a debate for you. Do you not see how much better you deserve? Why are you settling for bring a treated like trash? Ditch this cheating fool and recognize your self earth and find soneone who will cherish and respect you not treat you as a child care provider.
You are worth way more than this. Sounds like he has mentally manipulated you and allowed you to devalue yourself. You deserve way more. Leave! 
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