You’re literally so dumb
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You don’t want to lose someone… Who obviously doesn’t care? Who disrespects you? Treats you like nothing.
Girl… Get on outta there
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U crazy if he continues w her he will leave u
It’s either invite her into y’all marriage or leave!
Wow, Do you really have to ask?!? Have some respect for yourself and dont let a man treat you like garbage.
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Even if it’s just a side dick… move on!!!
The side chick is the main girlfriend. You’re the babysitter. Why don’t you see that?
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Get yourself a real man!!!
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Are these actual real problems or just someone taking the piss???
Is this a serious question??
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You even have to ask!!! 
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The fact that you are even asking is a problem!!!
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This can’t be real. If it is, leave now!
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Girl, know your worth. Get out while you can.
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How bout find a man who pays all the bills and is faithful to you(one woman)!Seriously? Have some respect for yourself… Don’t ever let anyone make you a second option.
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What’s good for the goose is go for the gander. Start going on dates and vacations too with another male friend. Maybe the grass is greener on the other side.
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Call it what it is- an open relationship. Can you have your cake too? Or just him?
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Are you going to do something about it?
If not leave him to cheat on peace.
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Run for the hills, ain’t nobody got time for that!
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At least if you stay get you a side dude. Lmao
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Sounds like you need a side B yourself! I’d leave that mess, it’s better to be alone than be disrespected. He is a cheater.
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Sounds to me that you want a sugar daddy and to play house while simultaneously knowingly getting played to stay not having to work to take care of yourself. Lol at that point, you deserve the outcome you choose 
Its literally in your face.
Sound like ya homegirl might be his side chick, tf?! Shit advice. Leave. 
Girl, if I find out that I’m sharing the 
that I married to, I ain’t wasting my time asking around if I’m good enough or questioning my worth. I’ll be out in a heart beat. Never let anyone question what you bring on the table. If you know that you are doing right by him, and he’s doing you wrong,girl that’s a boy. I’m just happy that if I was in your shoes I would’ve been in jail 
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He will continue to do what you allow. Leave.
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I don’t have words because really …you should have more selfworth …use that money he gives you , do a course , start thinking of being independent of him …
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Excellent. Remind him it goes both ways though 
How are you even still with him???
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If you’re married and he’s cheating you get alimony plus half of whatever y’all accumulated during the marriage.
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Get proof. File for divorse and spousal support
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You say you will lose everything if you leave, but you’re not losing anything if you stay! Girl you will lose yourself if you stay!!You will lose your trust, your self esteem, etc and then possibly wake up one day with him leaving…then you’ve lost your child, your finances….don’t leave now, but set yourself up to be able to make it on your own …start making plans and changes to help yourself make it without his help. First thing you need to do is put the child in daycare and find yourself a job!
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This depends on how much respect you have FOR YOURSELF. You cool with not being someone’s one and only? You cool with having someone basically shit on you every time you’re apart-knowing he’s doing some other chick? You cool with staying home playing mom/housewife while you are not the top of his mind? If you answered no to any of those things, there’s your answer. If you are fine with it, then hey get your own side piece!
Ladies, you NEED to learn and KNOW your WORTH!!! Accept nothing less.
Get yourself a bit on the side or leave him. Your choice
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Ha ha ha… you don’t want a CHEATER ??? WTF ?? question: are you happy ?? Is this something you can live with?? Then OK. if not… he pays your divorce lawyer, alimony & child support ( if applicable). Time to GO find your happiness.
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Throw the whole man out. Go get therapy, and build your own life with out that toxic crap.
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Baby leave a man will live 2.3.4 lives if you let him.
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U need better friends lmao n u gone stay cause it’s familiarity. Just play yo part cause u not leaving no time soon !
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He’s got a side B, get you a side D!
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Either you leave or you find a side man
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Why is this a question?
YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!
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Leave! She isn’t just a side piece, he is in two relationships.
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Leave his ass and his child fuck that
You don’t deserve it.
Are you really that desperate for a man?? That you sit home and raise his kid while hes out cheating on you and spending money on this other chick?? Where the fuck is your self worth girl? He does not love you, like not even a little. So he pays your bills while you stay home lol you know how many other men would do that as well with out cheating?? MANY. It also sounds like your “homegirls” are ignorant trash and its time you find some new supportive friends who would tell you to get gone and leave the loser alone. And if he accuses you of cheating so that’s why he’s cheating then take your ass out there and actually get some good dick since he isn’t giving a fuck about you, why should you give a shit about him??
You don’t want to lose him? I think you’re the one who needs to get into therapy and get your self worth and dignity back!
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Lol what exactly would you be losing??? Having to get a job and maintain yourself??
I lived your life for 15 years and raised his sons for him… None of them speak to me anymore… it was my biggest regret in life wasting my life on people who never loved me.
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Sucks u have to stick around just because he takes care of things …u probably won’t have anything without him …smh …do better ladies
You need to have some respect for yourself. Leave him and take everything!
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Ummmm no no no no no no no why is this even a question 
Leave his a** ain’t no way is that ok or even healthy… unless previously discussed about like I know some people that have a side piece but they always know where home is and it works for them but secrets were never kept and they told their spouses immediately…
Those are NOT your friends. For 1.
For 2, he’s a shitty husband and you deserve better. You shouldn’t ever settle to make yourself happy. Know your worth. He don’t respect you girl. Not y’all’s relationship. Move on and file for divorce. Keep and Show the proof to the courts. Like pics and text messages and recorded phone and in person conversations. Keep the house. File for alimony. He will have to pay out to you until you can financially support yourself (possibly the kid). They might give you custody. Not saying it will happen but it has happened. It’s ridiculous. And you don’t deserve this. Divorce and make yourself happy girl. And one day the right man will come along and you will be happy. Good luck queen!
Are we still asking what to do in situations like this? 
It’s 2022; just leave
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You clearly already lost him if he is with someone else. you need to focus on yourself and do better for yourself and your kid.
I would leave him hes cheating
He’s cheating on you, He doesn’t respect you… he’s using you to raise his son. what happens when he gets this side chick knocked up, and decides to turn her into his main girl!? If you don’t respect yourself, then stay. But really, you should leave him.
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Is no one going to mention that she needs new friends? Girl leave that boy and your friends!!! Real friends would help you out not tell you to play your part. 
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Did you know there is a man out there that would never make you feel this way, step outside his marriage, you deserve the best. Its better to loose him than to loose yourself! Let him go he is a disrespectful human and by his actions doesn’t care how he is ultimately going to make you feel snatch your power and give him a foot in the a$$
Leave girl. Don’t waste your life with someone who doesn’t value you when you could be living your best life with someone else.
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Girl, if you don’t fill out a job application and leave that man.
The audacity this man has while you raise his kid?! WHAT
I agree with so many above, what would you even be losing? You’ll need to get a job and take care of yourself but at least you’ll know you’re worth it.
He’s been taking her on vacation, while you’re raising HIS child? It sounds like SHE is his MAIN B and you’re the side chick. Are you sure that it’s not the financial security that you don’t want to lose and not him? Your friends are giving you HORRIBLE advice. You’re gonna wake up one day and he’s going to tell you that he wants to be with that other woman. I think you should divorce him but if you decide to stay, at least get some on the side. 
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What kind of “homegirls” are telling you to play your part?? Those are not your friends. Get out of that relationship.
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Pffft. Not a chance in hell that I’d be staying in a relationship taking care of his child while he does what he wants and cheats. He also pretended that he thinks you cheated on him so he could keep you around.
Hes not ever going to stop cheating on you. Now you know and what you do will give him the confirmation he needs to continue doing what hes doing or to stop.
Honestly, your girlfriends are idiots. Yea- he does come home to you. But damn- you’re opening yourself up to possible STIs AND COVID! so- if you’re ok with that then I guess stay? Because dude has ZERO respect for you and your well being. But hey- at least he gets a free babysitter and housemaid for life! I’m more than sure that’s how he sees it.
Honestly- you should leave, divorce him and fight for what you can. Since he makes all the money, hopefully you’re entitled to spousal support. Maybe that’ll help keep you afloat until you’re able to stand on your own two feet.
Run away far far away !!!
Wow… your decision will be based on your worth.
Respect yourself don’t put up with this BS leave that and go find a man that want’s to be with only you.
Fuck that guy and fuck your friends. No offense.
I hate the phrase “as long as he knows where home is” or “at least he comes home to me”… no no no… that is not okay… he should be faithful to you and you to him… if he needs a side chick I’m out… we all deserve better than that.
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If you stay and are okay with this situation, make it known that you too will see other people. Then y’all will just have an open relationship. If that’s not something you’d do, then I’d leave. To each it’s own. People only do what you allow!!!
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So get yourself a side dude and see how he likes it🤷🏽♀️
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They will continue to do what you allow. If you want to be with someone that cheats on you and treats you like that the rest of your life then stay. If you want to have self respect and be treated the way you deserve to be treated (by some else down the road) then leave. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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Leave you are not a mug,you are worth more.
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Stuck on what to do?!?! Do you not have an ounce of self respect? Leave!! Tomorrow!! No one is worth that nonsense!
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Just going to share this
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Sounds like ur a babysitter for him and his gf you are worth so much more it hurts but you will get past this and find someone worthy to 
love
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You’re not his Nanny!
You said he takes care of everything but he doesn’t take care of you leave so not worth being cheated on you deserve better
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I jus went through the same situation …me being the main…I didn’t know until he ended it…now I’m fukd homeless and not knowing wtf to do…dont wait till he tires of what he is doing ,take action before you are hurt beyond repair
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Girl, please. Get out
You know he is cheating and it doesn’t bother him that you know since he already confirmed it, are you afraid of leaving him because of financial reasons?
Know your self worth
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Leave!!! YESTERDAY!!! Please!
Are you serious? Ok put aside all the surrounding stuff like friends and him providing for you. Break that all aside and look at what he is doing? Every single one of those is replaceable!!! You on the other hand is not! Why can’t you get a new boo
with some new friends and a new everything. Girl not even your kid? This man has zero respect. If you think you will lose everything. Think again honey. You will gain and triple once you get the courage to leave. He is blockage honey Get up and
LEAVE!
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Life is about choices. You can continue right there with your comfortable life and pretend he doesn’t have a mistress or you can leave him, get a job and live your life. No complicated. Just make a choice 
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Every relationship is unique, there are tons of people out there who are in open relationships. Open relationships are discussed and most importantly agreed upon by the people in the relationship. That’s not what happened here. What happened is he wanted to be with someone else, so he did, regardless of how it would make you feel, then he blamed you. Please keep in mind “home is where the heart is” so if you are all for “as long as he knows where home is” understand you are not his home. What he’s done to you is not love. You are his maid and babysitter.
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Leave he’s just using you to raise his child if he loved you he wouldn’t cheat on you
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Are you stupid? Leave?
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Schedule a free consultation with a divorce atty.
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You already lost him.
I’d reevaluate your life fr.
If he’s taking HER on vacations and not you? Are you really the main b
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It’s called adultery. No marriage should have a side chick. You are being USED.
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Stack that money privately and later leave or be “that girl”… but whatever you choose make sure it’s your choice
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Tell him ur gonna leave. See how much he appreciates u then
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From a hygiene perspective gross. From an emotional perspective gross. From a perspective of respect he’s got none. You gotta get away from this person. What happens when she gets pregnant, what happens when he wants to move her in? You’re worth so much more, please love yourself more. This is your only shot at life, you have to have standards and boundaries or you will absolutely lose yourself. It may be cliché to say but don’t just walk…run! There’s not a single material possession worth your mental health and own value.
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Nobody can tell you how to feel about the situation. Maybe consider a poly or open relationship? But it’s not up to your friends or whoever if you’re not okay with it then he should respect that
Love is to be multiplied not divided .
Maybe. Y’all can co exist .
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I kinda had the same experience with my ex husband. He was caught a week after we got married. He’d been since I met him. I left him once I gained enough savings to leave. As well as my child and everything I brought to the household. I went back home. I stayed there 6 months to establish residence. Then I filed for divorce. He signed rights away to avoid child support. Here I am living my best life while he’s probably cheating on someone else.
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If he has others you are just part of his happy deceitful world. Not the main anything if you are allowing your husband to cheat. You may have already lost your self in this situation. Been there done that. Lessen learned. It never gets better. Self love goes a long way. Takes prayer and meditation to really get the big picture. God bless
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Looks like you have 3 options to your problem…
A) settle and live with the toxic crap and mental toll it will take on you and the bitterness and resentment you’ll always have and harbor for him and any woman he’s with, and hope and pray he never leaves you for her or another woman, or has any children you and he will have to help raise or support the rest of your lives, or that he doesn’t give you both a “gift” that keeps on giving if it doesn’t kill you, and also hope that one day he’s kind enough to leave you something in the will too for being so tolerant and accepting of being disrespected and unloved.
b) go get you a man on the side and both of you have your side pieces and stay married and tolerate the disrespect and toxicity, and maybe even get a contract drawn up and notarized so neither of y’all can use it against each other later on.
C) leave, get yourself some therapy, heal, and then one day you will learn that nobody and nothing is worth the mental, emotional, and physical toll it will take on you if you don’t have boundaries, self respect, dignity, and love for yourself, that you deserve better and won’t accept or tolerant anything less.
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Get out of this relationship!