Well, he may not be PHYSICALLY cheating on you, however he is cheating EMOTIONALLY on you. The fact that he admitted he was flirting with other women on line is a red flag, to me anyway. I would cut bait…
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… you don’t think there’s anything going on??
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My mom always told me and my sisters “we live the life we choose to live”!!
He’s a narcissist, they never change . Love yourself , know your enough and never beg for attention. Been where you are , it’s awful. Hugs to you , finally you need to leave him because he’ll never change and you deserve better 
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1st off ,you should be his best friend, 2nd he’s more than friends with the girl, no doubt, dont be a fool
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I am all for making marriages work but both parities have to be putting the work in to make it work. Counseling could help.
But my honest opinion is there is at least an emotional affair but not physical going on. Both are not right. If he gets that mad at you asking for similar attention. There’s a bigger problem. Also a much bigger problem if he doesn’t see a problem with giving another woman so much attention. There are some deep issues that need to be worked out before you guys can make it work.
get some self respect and leave
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This isn’t gonna stop until you leave and STAY GONE.
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I honestly didn’t even read all of this! I 1000% believe you deserve better and should give yourself better! The transition might hurt and it might take time to heal but you definitely need to step away from that situation. The first 2 sentences was a red flag for me. Narcissistic at it’s finest.
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He’s proven he has the desire. If he hasn’t cheated yet it’s only because he hasn’t had the opportunity.
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He sounds like a narcissist…RUN
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You should find you a male best friend and treat your husband the way he treats you!!! WHAT’S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER!!!
BTW…your husband is EMOTIONALLY CHEATING ON YOU!!!
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Love yourself thatd be a start. I love my ex too. You shouldn’t fight for that love. It should just be there. Run!
He’s your husband and he made you feel this way? girl think twice!
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Love yourself do your thing . Treat yourself the way you want to be treated . Self love is powerful . Don’t chase a mans love .
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Dump him. Get a dog 
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Why is a married man even on a dating app to flirt? That’s enough right there. I see the married ones on the apps all the time and it disgusts me. I know marriage can be complicated but get counseling or get out. He sounds like a narcissist blaming you. If he’s so unhappy and you so horrible why doesn’t he leave? Makes no sense. He clearly has no respect for the relationship or for you.
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He’s not in love with you!!! What man will put a friend in front of his wife… Don’t play his games, LOVE yourself enough to follow your gut & intuitions!!!
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Find a good attorney. It’s pretty much over. Hopefully you don’t have children.
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I wouldn’t stand for it. Kick him out. He can earn his way back.
Or not.
Either way, you win!
You deserve more respect kick to the curb
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I would bet money I don’t have they are having an affair. Its not that men and women cant be friends, its the actions on his part that make it probable. Note his super defensive blowout over simply bring up the difference in treatment. Is he your husband or hers? Then lobe bombs you prior to resuming behavior that violates your marital construct. If marital counseling is off the table file those papers. He was on dating apps? If they were paid get copies of those banking statements. Bam evidence. If you want to stay then you will need to clearly establish the terms of staying and regaining trust. If he cant accept them then he isn’t worth keeping. Sometimes the best thing you can do for those you love is libe yourself more. Sometimes that is walking away. Sometimes its working together… Emphasis on together. It cant be one sided. So if he isn’t willing to do the work run baby run
If gaslighting was a person sounds like it’d be him.
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Adios!!! Hon, you deserve a real man. Lose that fool & your man will come!! 
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Once a damn cheater always a cheater!! Leave his sorry ass
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I was told the same thing and then found out I was being cheated on. If he is making you feel like the bad guy and blowing up at you for expressing your feeling then he is obviously hiding something and feels guilty about it. The person who cheated on me did the exact same thing for months before I got tired of it and went straight to the female involved and asked her. She sent me the proof I needed to blow his stories and excuses out of the water
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Get out of that relationship, you know you deserve better. You shouldn’t have to beg for his attention if he can treat her that way, there’s no reason he can’t be doing the same and more for you. Seems like he’s putting distance between you, get rid of him. He’s obviously up to something 
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Get out! Flirting is how it starts. If he felt like he got away with it, even though he eventually told you, is is gonna keep pushing to see how much he can get away with. For your own self respect and piece of mind, leave him. If he is telling his best friend horrible untrue things about you, he will tell other women worse for sympathy. Speaking from experience, don’t let him do that to you.
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Sounds exhausting. Do you really want to keep living this way? You deserve be happy
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Girl you better tell that boy bye and go find you a real man cuz this ain’t it sis
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Start doing things you like to do, find a hobby. Get some friends, girls especially guys so he can see how he likes it when you befriend guys. Evil laugh And if he don’t like it, well tough shit. Dump his ass and make him pay for the divorce (and for the emotional trauma he’s put you through)
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Sweetie it’s a hard lesson but you really need to move forward without him.
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No husband should ever treat a so, called bf better than his wife. Need to sit down and have a heart to heart with hubby. Get on the same page.
Sometimes what hurts the most is that you know you deserve better but don’t want the time invested to be a waste.
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I was in the same exact situation as you a couple of years ago. I confronted my husband’s friend and him. They both denied anything was going on. Only to admit to me 2 years later he had cheated on me. We are still together but he can’t understand that I can not love or trust him the way I did before
I could have written this myself! 17 years of marriage and it ended in divorce. You need to love yourself more. Trust your gut. I did and was the best decision ever.
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Find a good divorce attorney and get it going
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Bye bye honey don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. What’s good for him is good for you as well.
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Obviously he’s already cheated on you and nothing is going to change. He’s just gaslighting you to make you feel crazy like everything is your fault when it really isn’t. He doesn’t love you or respect you and your marriage is over. No need to keep hanging on.
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Not sure why you don’t want to lose him, he’s a giant ass.
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Give as good as he does… get urself a male bf and let him see how it feels to know u are talking about him to another guy… don’t let him make u beg for his love… as his wife u should be his priority… it’s obvious u allowed him to get away with this behavior so either u live in fear he’s leaving or u step up and show him u can live without his crap… show him u will not take it anymore and if that’s how he’s going to continue to treat u push him out the front door and lock it… value urself again and maybe he will start to value u again.
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He’s blaming you to have a reason to pick a fight so he can leave! Sorry but he is cheating and if he’s treating his “best friend” better than you, you already lost him.
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He’s mad he’s been friend zoned. Be like Elsa and let it go.
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Start waving By By!!!
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You are worth more. I no you live him but you can get through this , you can’t live like this and hd won’t change
Pack his bags! You should not have to beg him to spend time with you!!! Cheaters NEVER change. And you do not have to have sex to “mentally” disconnect!
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I’ve been there done that. Get some evidence. Dont even talk to him about it, just get proof then take him to the cleaners in court in a divorce when u find out the truth w proof. That boy is doing more than flirting.
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I’m sorry, but this is 100% classic affair behavior. This is how my husband (now ex) behaved when his affair started with his coworker. The only regret I had is that the very fist moment he defended her over me, I didn’t kick him out immediately on the spot. Instead, I played the humiliating pick me dance. Don’t do it. You’ll regret it. Let him have her.
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Stop being stupid let his ass go
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Well the one making the complaint about their husband says they are still the bad " GUY " LOL
Leave him!!! If I am correct you are the wife???
He’s cheating, or trying too with that h03. Tell him to go to hell and jump off a bridge w/her. Move on
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He doesn’t love you. Its harsh, it hurts but men don’t treat friends better than their woman if they are in love. Add the dating apps…hes there for convenience and will leave when the next woman shows interest. Best thing you can do is end it.
It’s not easy to hear, but they are messing around. There’s no way a man should be treating any lady better than you and on top of it, tell her all of your business. Weak men like him are trying to find a way in with her to see if she will entertain him by making you out to be the bad guy. He sounds immature and narcissistic. If someone really loves you, they will reassure you showing you are the only one for them. If he’s blowing up at you just inquiring, he’s gaslighting and being manipulative. Men like him won’t play fair and if he knows you won’t leave, he’ll walk all over you
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I am a female best friend to a guy. He never treats me better than his wife. She is is his first and foremost. I would never accept less than that. Don’t let him treat you less than what you deserve.
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It’s awesome his best friend is a female, and you say you are okay with that. However, you are his wife. He is obviously not good enough for you. Leave. Find yourself. Learn to love yourself. If he matures and figures out who he is, what he wants, and it’s a marriage with you- you want that too. Great. If not, you love you and that’s all that matters. Keep in mind, you shouldn’t make the decision to stay with him for some time. Maybe even a year. Don’t rush to be with him. He is incredibly immature. What does his best friend say about this? Is she not supporting you at all? She is okay with him cheating on you. Yes, he is cheating.
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Kick him to the curb, don’t buy this she’s only my best friend, he’s playing you both put it to him before he puts it too you.
Throw away the whole man, Sis. Start fresh.
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I see a huge RED FLAG 
I’d be doing more than just questioning him and it’s obvious he doesn’t love you like you love him otherwise he wouldn’t be treating you like he is especially flirting with women online that’s cheating in itself, if he is doing it online then unfortunately I think he is cheating on you and I think deep down you know that and know what you need to do but your heart is telling you to hold on BUT unfortunately I think this situation in inevitable it’s either now or it’s going to happen later down the track. I think it’s better for you to move on now than waste more of your time & love on someone that doesn’t deserve it, why would you even question yourself you deserve so much better GOODLUCK!!
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At this point, he seems to have lost respect for you. See if he’s down for counseling. If not, move on sis. You shouldn’t have to feel this way.
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Been there done that… Baby girl u’re fighting for u’re spot in his heart & u shouldn’t b doing that
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My ex was the same. Everyone got treated better than me. If I called him out on it, I got a speech about how worse he could be, and I should be glad he’s not that bad. I was young, stupid and had two little ones. I took it for 13 long years. Every year more of my heart died. Finally, during one of his tirades, I said I want a divorce. Once I said it, it was liberating. Since it was early December, he asked me to give him a month. First because we didn’t want the kids to associate our divorce with the holidays, and two, he said he was determined to change to keep me. At first he was trying really hard, then he started to slip. I realized, at a family party, that if he walked out the door and never came back, I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it. I left in early January. Don’t do what I did. Don’t stay and feel yourself die slowly. You will literally watch yourself wither. We tried date nights, romantic getaways and counseling, but it was too little, too late. After, I had no confidence in my own ability to pick a good partner for myself, and fell into another failed relationship. I again found myself making excuses for someone’s crappy treatment of me. Finally, at 51, I met my current man. He treats me so well. Due to my past, I had a hard time accepting being treated well. Thank God my man has the patience of a saint, and does not hesitate to reassure me. Honey, you need to leave and find yourself someone who thinks the sun rises and sets on you. You deserve so much better. You are worth so much more than your settling for.
Run…. Run as fast as you can the other way. Don’t settle for scraps of him. If he doesn’t want to treat you like you as his wife should be treated than he doesn’t deserve you. If you continue to allow the behaviors he is going to continue to behave like this. Food for thought…. You only accept the love you think you deserve!!!
Leave, I’m sure you probably deserve better… He’s clearly not interested in working things out if he’s being an a$$
If you have to be longing for your husband to treat you like he does his best friend something is wrong.
Don’t hope to always find clues in messages on the phone. He might be crafty.
He needs to communicate with you not her.
Many people hide things behind this best friend story. Don’t buy it for one minute.
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He sounds toxic to me, you deserve better.
A real man that wants to be with you will always make u feel as such. He gaslighting you and your letting him
It’s only going to get worse. He wants to fuck his best friend if he had the chance he would. That’s why he treats her better. Leave his ass seriously know your worth!!!
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Leave! He’s a gaslighting, narcissistic asshole!
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He’s a player. She’s just a friend, blah blah blah change the locks. Done
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Maybe he doesn’t respect you , but you need to have respect for yourself . Put your big girl panties on and get out of there. He’s gaslighting.
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You should leave .
NEVER beg for attention. Believe me , you will lose. Mostly, you will lose yourself. And it takes more than most of us have to get yourself back , if it ever happens. And you’ll never be the same.
Go now, while you still have self respect and dignity.
I’ll pray for you.
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Byeeeee… he’s not right
Girl Fuck him go get you a bf too respectfully
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I believe he’s complaining about you to her because he’s trying to gain sympathy from her and maybe get something sneaky started. I know you love him, but you probably love him more than you love yourself and that might be the problem. When you learn to love yourself first, you won’t be worrying about his friends, female, male or animal. You will only notice you, you will be so into you that you won’t worry about what he does. He will notice this about you and will want to love you too and be your best friend.
Learn to love yourself first.
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Give yourself the respect you long for. Love yourself enough to say you don’t deserve to be fighting for any person’s attention
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Leave him because he’s obviously gonna continue to make you look like the bad guy. He wants to play victim to her and that is suspect as it is, he may not be flirting with other women…but his best friend seems to be the one he likes to run to to share his “grievances”.
As hard as it is, go.
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If your man doesn’t put you before all others he just biding time till he finds someone, it’s all in our its a no go, a relationship is 100/100 respect yourself enough to not be second fiddle to anyone.
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It’s time too leave girl… Stop makin excuses, stop thinking that you love him out of habit, he’s straight up disrespecting you and the relationship.
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Wake up!!! Best friend my ass! Heard that before!
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Girl, he is slagging you off to his female best friend, he treats her BETTER. Than you!!
He’s got u on a string !!! U get that string and cut it with a giant fcuk you!!! He is disrespecting you at the highest level and u are letting him and he knows it!!! Nah kick his ass to the kerb!! No decent man treats his wife that way!!! You deserve 10000000 better!!! And there is men out there that will treat u with respect. As hard as it is, time to get back in the driving seat and take control YOU deserve better!! Stop letting him walk all over you!! He’s flipping out on you cos he’s guilty as hell!!! As hard as it is to admit he’s a liar a player a complete spoon by the sounds of it!!! Time to change things for the better!! Don’t leave it as before u know it another 10yr will have passed!! Never to late to start again. You can do it!!
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Move on!! It will NEVER change.
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Been there. Trust me the longer you stay the more hurt you are going to feel. If he truly loves you he will continue to pursue you and change, if he doesn’t then he’s been lying to you.
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I would go pay a body builder to be my best frjend. I would go out just when he is coming in. Two can play.
Honestly why would he discusses you with his woman. He is giving her ammunition to nail you in the ground. Get smart walk away while you are strong. As it is he is eroding your self esteem. You better be like a lion in Zion and soars like an eagle out of that entanglement.
unbridled anger …usually means guilt.
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Start loving urself & watch how things unfold to where they should b
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Run…it won’t get any better…it’s over!
Realize he is a better friend than a boyfriend duh. You love a man that was on dating apps, and treats other women like gold, but not the woman who has sex with him 
. You may love him, but does he love you enough, is he good enough… I don’t think so. This is why women are always soooo convinced their guy friend is the best boyfriend material. It’s easy to be a friend, the obligations are minimum, you don’t need to be on 24/7. Knew 100 guys who were great friends, the best… But how they treated their girls, how most cheated on them women, nope:woman_shrugging:t4:. And I wouldn’t throw out the thought that they maybe the only reason they aren’t a thing, is because SHE doesn’t want that… Yet
Know your worth let it go . He doesn’t want you.
Love yourself over anything else!
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Learn to love yourself more than then the ridiculous shit bag you think is in your corner. Real partners that love you will never make you question their or your circumstances!
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Kick this loser to the kerb. Once a Cheater always one
You had me at "his best friend is a woman " I stopped reading.
RUN DON’T WALK
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Get yourself out of the way and watch him and his “bestfriend “ become lovers .
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What’s wrong with you girl ?
Do you really think so little of yourself?
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Run faster then forest gump
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First of all there are no female best friends to me you are his wife you are his best friend for life and he should treat you as such 
but that’s just my opinion.
Never play second fiddle, it’s called value and respect.
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Divorce him, life’s too short!
Actions speak louder than words and he may care about you, but he definitely doesn’t love you, move on, somebody will love you right.
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