Hubby an i have done it…1st time not great. She sucked at satisfying. 2nd time was great!!!different women. Set boundaries. Thats all
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This is his fantasy not yours, it will end up badly
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If you have ANY doubts, which it sounds like you do, then DO NOT do it. You will regret it, you will always have it in the back of your mind, and it could very possibly ruin your marriage. If you wanted to as much as him I would say go for it. But in your situation, it sounds like a potentially devastating idea.
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I mean, you miss 100% of the chances you dont take, right? I’m sure he was thinking he had nothing to lose asking you. If you said “yes” he’d be happy but if you said “no” , he’s still happy!
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Bad idea. It’s never just one time. It’ll make you insecure and probs ruin your relationship. Every couple is different but personally I wouldnt risk it. 3somes should only happen if both man and wife are willing from the start, not one having to convince another ya know?
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It’s up to both of you to be comfortable and move forward with this together. If you’re even remotely unsure then it’ll never sit right with you. Ignore the people in this comment section telling you to leave 
he has all his rights to have fantasies and communicate that with you.
Him asking if you’d want to do it is NOT him wanting you to be bisexual. But like I said, if you even remotely don’t want to do it then you’ll never get over it once it happened. You’ll always be thinking of it.
Not everyone has the mental ability to push the jealousy and insecurity out if the way.
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Pick a man. He said he would be fine with it. Haha.
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Honestly 3sums are meh… Its not nearly as exciting as he thinks it’s going to be.
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One of my cousins was in a relationship for 10 years when they decided to bring other people in. It was suppose to stop and not happen anymore. Then he started cheating and after 17 years the relationship was no more. Is it worth the chance?. Are you going to be able to move on with the relationship after if you don’t like it?. These are only questions you can answer. You have to be 100 comfortable to do that. If not I would not. Me as a person know it wouldn’t work for me. Fantasy are just that fantasy.
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Me and my ex did because he insisted and our marriage ended less than a year later. I felt the same way you do. Dont do it just because hes pressuring you to
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Hell to the fuck naw. That’s how more doors open up to hellville.
That’s playing with fire. I wouldn’t
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Slap the taste out of his mouth and tell him he shouldn’t have gotten married if he’s trying to bring other people into the bedroom. Idk I honestly wouldn’t feel the same about sex or my spouse if we were sharing our intimate relationship with other people. I love knowing I’m the only one and vice versa.
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It is still cheating. You are giving your body to someone else. Hell no.
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Ruined every relationship i ever saw when someone did it. Do not do it if u dont want drama!!!
Also my girlfriend and he husband of 5 years pressured her into a 3 sum with another women…she ended up pregnant by him!!! Marriage ended and they had 2 kids together. Poor kids
It only works if there are boundaries, and if you are comfortable with it. Sounds like you’re not so dont do it
Don’t do it if u r in doubt u will regret it
Tell him to have them . bet he’d change his mind
Dont do it .Youll be opening a can of worms and things will never be the same. Change things up ,everyother week one of you is responsible for comming up with something new .go to adult book store together ,buy a toy . Wear nothing one day when he comes home. Use your mind .good luck.
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My God .just say hell no .
There is something wronge but sounds like he is being pressured by his guys friends which is not cool at all but it is ok if you don’t want to do it one hand then bring it up again you need to seriously think about your future with this guy all together before you go down the path of the devil
This whole idea that if you marry young your missing out on sex with other people is really toxic. Do you know that the heterosexual couples that get married and stay married are the ones that report the happiest sex lives over heterosexuals that aren’t. (Not gonna comment on non-heterosexual couples because that’s not this convo not being exclusionary).
You’ve just had a baby so things probably haven’t been very steamy at home. That may have something to do with what’s going on in your man’s head. He needs to be patient. I know that’s hard for a young man but you just had a baby and you need some time to rest without him pestering the hell out of you and bothering your mind with this stress. He chose to marry and settle down. He can stick to his vows and chill. He can be a generous lover who gives his wife time to heal.
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Say NO if you aren’t comfortable doing that! Why be married if you need someone else during sex?! I think it’s gross and disrespectful to even ask.
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I’d walk away if my man asked me for a threesome. I’m way to territorial and jealous lol. If you aren’t comfortable with it, don’t do it.
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I did it. Dont do it.
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Don’t do it it won’t stop
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Don’t do it, it’s damaging to your very core as a woman. It’s something you will never forgive or forget.
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He sounds a bit misinformed by his friends…who probably secretly wish they could be in a loving situation like your husband. Misery loves company, they say.
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He sounds like a douchecanoe. Tell him no and if he cheats get you a man that actually values you. I told my man I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of it like sure sometimes I miss girls, girls are amazing but I love the man I’m with so I don’t need anyone else and he agreed he was stupid for asking because if anyone has a reason to ask it’s the bisexual (me) especially since I’m already insecure from past relationships with dudes 
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The fact that he asked you to bring another person into your bed is disrespectful af. Man or woman.
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Don’t do it! I did this in one of my relationships and first of all the threesome was boring af (such a boring and dull fantasy, seriously) and after it happened my then partner kept getting really paranoid that I was cheating. I wouldn’t recommend it. There’s a reason swingers and poly couples have such a high divorce rate compared to monogamous couples.
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Where does he think you’re baby will be during this? You just had a baby! I’d tell him to GTFO
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Well then you choose a man as a 3 some girl and you make him fuck your mans brains out so he never wants to do it again 
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If you decide to do it Pick a dude i def. Would just to show him how it feels.
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Wtf lol “he’s fine if it’s just me” haha FINE? Messed up. It should just BE YOU.
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There is a site
Porn kills love.
Folks tend to forget lol it is movie magic.
Life lmao is far different.
With that said, if having sex with a woman is a turn on; gets your juices flowing 
Do not do the the deed.
If having sex with two men is not a turn on; do not do the deed.
Basically if your not into it, do not do it. Will only cause grief, before, during, and after.
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Tell him yes and it will be a surprise for him and when he comes home have the kids in bed with you. Don’t give in girl.
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I’ve done it. I couldn’t be more blunt with you…
“Don’t do it”
Sounds tome that if you do it he will cause a bug childish riff raff and up it with a this and that tantrum or just go and cheat.
He sounds exactly like my ex and yes i gave in and it ruined my relationship just like i knew it would. He left me for the girl who joined us.
You stick to your gut feels and say “no”.
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First it’s adulterous second if your not his one and only then I’d give him the boot. You’ll hate that you did it afterwards and will destroy your marriage
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I have never seen this go well…years of doing hair and nails, I have heard it all. You are and should be his only thought about a woman. You are his. It’s wrong and it will wreck your marriage.
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1st you both have too want it 2nd if you too agree tell him fine you want a 3 some with another guy and you
Any doubt in your mind and it’s not worth it!!! Experience!!
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That’s never happening here. Lol
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No dont do it you should be more then enough just say no its not happening and if he brings it up again tell him you will not allow someone else in your bed it will only bring lots problems into your marriage
Just bring a dude and a chick … fairs fair
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Not a good idea. I know someone who did this and they are no longer married. Things got out of control it lead to cheating without the other partner there and they went through a bitter divorce. If people want to live a life of multiple partners and role playing best to stay single . Last thing someone with a newborn should want is that.
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- The fact that he wants to bring someone else into your bed is a Huge red flag 2. The fact he is OK with another man is even a bigger red flag.
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Shouldn’t even be an option… It’s a sin and a triple whammy… sexual perversion…
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Oh yes dear a 3 some is wonder full! ME YOU AND ANOTHER MANYou can pick him!!
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Coming from someone who has had 2 threesomes (both with husband but one with guy and one with girl) don’t do it. if you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable do. not. do. it. I regret it more than anything and it has taken a toll on our marriage. explain to him how you feel about everything, I hope he will be understanding.
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Don’t do it trust me . It don’t stop with just one time
I almost passed this post up because the negative connotation to it it’s something that I wouldn’t want to pass on to somebody so young that is recently married.
I felt sorry for you. It’s not a good sign. if you guys have been together for six years and you’re only 22, he has not had the chance to go out and experience the things that young guys experience in a sexual way, and it’s very likely that he doesn’t understand that there are things that you do with girls that you don’t keep and there are things that you would only do with girls you want to keep around forever.
Because stuff like that does stay in your head. And it will in his too.
So instead of saying no outright, because it is very obvious this isn’t something you want to do, instead take back your self-esteem and control of the situation.
Give him conditions.
The first being that if you have a threesome, the first one you will have will be with another man. And that man is not allowed to touch you. So your husband has to be in the middle. Meaning either you get to strap on and peg him or the other guy gets to peg him.
If he can’t meet your conditions for a threesome first, with him being required to pleasure the other guy. Then you are not going to be obligated to pull another female into the situation and watch either him pleasure her or be forced to pleasure yourself.
Don’t kink shame him because it’s possible he might be into it, but it if he is down for it, hunny, might as well have some fun or reconsider where your marriage really is and if his sexual drive and kink is going to be something you can get into. Being only 22, this isn’t going to be your first surprise. He’s still growing up.
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umm 6 years together and 8 months of marriage?
so you were teenagers together.
most poeple.spend college years getting this out of their systems.
seems rushed.
but if your not comfortable then dont do it.
your both young yet.
dont overthink it.
I’d agree then place a blowup doll in bed. Maybe one of each gender and say there we can test drive both…and the plus side…they dont talk… I’m sure it’ll piss him off. He deserves it. Dont ever do ANYTHING to please someone else, especially someone that is supposed to love you unconditionally. If he truly loves you, he would respect your wishes and youd be enough. The issue is with him and not you. Dont give in. 
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You clearly don’t share the same values. Let me save you a lot of time and heartache from experience. He will only hurt you. Save your time, sanity and MUCH more. Create an exit plan and account on the side and do what you need to do, you will regret it if you don’t.
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Honestly I would say dont do it. It tends to ruin relationships.
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Do NOT compromise your morals or values for anyone.
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Grow up and wake up this guy plays games you better realize before he makes you lose all your balls and yourself that this is not for you let him go off and do his own thing walk away from him and keep your kids away from him cuz God only knows what he’s going to tell them Twisted personality that he has
Thats sick, he needs to grow up.
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Just watch porn together explore that way. If ain’t ready dont do it simple.
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If it makes feel uncomfortable DONT DO IT
Definitely not a good idea, if your already having self-esteem issues this will only make things worse and by you agreeing to a three some is giving him the ok to be with another woman. This can turn into a big mess and possibly adultery or even divorce. You need to sit down and explain to him that your not very comfortable with seeing him with another and if your love is strong enough he will see where your coming from. It’s time to have a sit-down and really talk about what’s missing in your relationship and what you can do to make things better without involving another person. There are alot of different things you can get into that will make your marriage more exciting without adding fuel to the fire. Three somes are not the way, getting more into each other will benefit both of u without hitting your self-esteem issues. And trust me there will be issues. Good luck !!
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I dont think he is your husband, rather an opportunist. You will get it sooner or later, sorry this is your reality. I would leave asap
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I’m sorry but my two sense is that this is NOT love and he isn’t committed to you. This isn’t acceptable unless u want to be one of those couples. I could never share my husband or myself . Especially not with them in the room. Nooooo that a hell no . I’d be packing his shit
I can’t even fathom my husband being stupid enough to come ask me some shit like this! Wait u want what? Oh sit here while I find my bat! funny not funny. In short that would strike a nerve in me .
I think it’s normal for a lot of people to question this as I’ve met quite a few but I’ll tell you this, it has only ended every persons relationship I’ve spoken to, so is it really worth exploring?
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Is he on meth? Found out my ex was tried to kill me because i wouldn’t have one with him so I told him to move out and he went off on me. He was already cheating on me anyway while I was a new mom with his child. He’s being released from prison early so I’m getting my restraining order renewed every year… hopefully you’re situation isn’t like that but I’d get a divorce.
No way bringing another person in to your marriage is a good idea!!!
That’s something you do before you’re married if you’re gonna do it. You are not ok with it so it’s a NO. Plenty of couples out there do it and are fine but their not on your mindset. I wouldn’t recommend it.
Tell him its ok as long as its with 2 males not 2 females, lol
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If you are uncomfortable doing it then don’t. But it can have a positive affect on your relationship. But giving him something he wants sexually it can build trust and respect for each other. It can also damage the relationship so you just gotta sit down have a long conversation and figure out if you feel comfortable with it.
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Every bit of what you posted at the end is what you need to tell him. It sounds like you already know the answer!
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my ex boyfriend wanted this and like you, i almost put who i am to the side and agreed. I was definitely where you are. I say no. You have these morals and these second guesses for a reason. That isnt who you are, thats who he is and if your okay with that fine but I wont give up my dignity to please a pig. Normal people dont want that.
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Honestly I wouldn’t do this. Your marriage is also fairly new. It might put a huge toll on it. And you just had a baby which sometimes after your still feeling not yourself. It was okay to think about it … but I think your going in the right direction by not wanting to do this and share your husband. Nothing is ever a “one time” thing. And right now you already have so much stuff running through your head about this situation. I would express how you feel towards it …everything. And if he says it would never happen. Just tell him it would always be on your mind. Be honest do not hold back. Just because his single friends are doing this and that! He is not single anymore. Even if his friends wife is open to it doesn’t mean you guys need to be.
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If you’re not comfortable with it say NO! If it’s already causing issues then you already know there will be more issues after, especially if he asks to do it again. In the end it’ll destroy your marriage.
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No, marriage is for 2, if u allow it once he will want it all the time
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Don’t do it, that’s really sick n you both need to grow up for sure
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A childhood friend of mine was married for 10 years, her husband wanted a threesome, so they did. They got a divorce and she and her ended up getting married. 
Some people can do it. But you have to a “built” for it. Unsurity, insecurity, questioning = Do. Not. Do. It.
No. Every one I’ve ever known that has done this, it started out fun and ended very poorly.
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I know a couple that the Did this and it only made them stronger still together to this day, But you could be nothing like these people soooo
I would say no. But honestly do what you think is good for you.
Yea… Uh no. I’m the same way. I’m not for it.
No dont do it. Your sex life will never be the same.
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Yea thats a HARD pass for me…in my opinion anyone that wants a 3 some just wants the excuse to be able to screw someone else.
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Men have a weird way of reassuring their ladies… dont take my advice to heart because I dont know your situation first hand but if he loves you, then the threesome won’t make a difference in your relationship… no need to feel guilty about not wanting to do it… 22 might be too early anyway… you have your whole marriage and life ahead of you two… no need to rush or simply no need to do it at all! Your body your choice.
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Not marriage material…
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Your marriage vows didn’t include a third person.
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Yeah no. That wouldn’t fly with me. It’s your decision though.
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Buy a blow up doll for him and say here’s the three some. If he wants more I think it’s time to move on. Very disturbing that he would allow another man to be with you and that turns him on, and it’s ok if you choose the other female I mean come on. Signs all there .Be careful he might already be fulling around and you could get HIV or other diseases.
I wouldn’t do it it will destory your self confidence
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He needs to keep it as a fantasy. In his head, not in his wife’s bedroom!
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From my personal experience, when my husband asked for one before we married and ended up leaving me for her. We ended up getting married but it STILL bothers me. I wouldn’t do it unless I was 100% comfortable with it and tell him your feelings!
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I wouldn’t do it. It’s just a easier way for him to bring other people home to have sex with if your not enough move on, I’ve heard this happen to multiple people and there relation ship went out the door, so unless your ready to lose that dont waste ur time
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If you don’t feel comfortable then don’t that only works if both are confident and willing if only one of you is then this is not for your marriage it won’t last if you are not ok with it …it will end up creating more issues
That’s a tuff spot to be in. I mean what if he starts to like the other woman more and then starts to cheat regular with her? And if you don’t do it then he may cheat on you any way like you said. I feel like this marriage is not gonna last because he wants to be with another woman and you have only been married 8months. I am sorry this is happening to you. Good luck.
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I have a question. Why do people get married if they want to fuck other people? Just asking for… well, myself, really…
Tell hubby u will do a threesome IF it’s another guy NOT girl!!! Usually shuts down the 3some fantasy real quick!!
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Buys some toys and maybe try that to spice things up, but the threesome would be a hard no
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True love for each other does not need other people in their relationship it would a positive NO for me.
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