QUESTION:
"Needing advice on how to handle this situation with my mother-in-law. My husband has ALWAYS been a mama’s boy. I have known him for five years, and we have been married for one.
I am a SAHM, and he is the one who has a job. He will NOT give me access to the bank account. His mother says he shouldn’t trust me and should give me an ‘allowance.’
I am honestly at my wit’s end. I have to ask him to even go to the store and buy milk because he doesn’t give me his debit card. We also only have one car, so I am stuck at home all day going without things because I can’t even walk to the store to buy anything.
I have tried talking to him, but ultimately, his mother always wins. What can I even do besides leave?"
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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):
“Leave. That’s financial abuse.”
“I’m sorry but you need to move on.”
“If you are married, he should trust you with the bank account. You shouldn’t have to ask for money. If he can’t trust you with that you shouldn’t be with him.”
“Counseling could help. You could also get a job and tell him it’s up to him to pay for and arrange childcare or else he can treat you fairly. How much would it cost him to pay someone to stay at home and do all that you so? Private chef, housekeeper, nanny, etc.”
“That’s controlling behaviour. Huge red flags!”
“Oh boy. That’s a problem! I would have a talk with him. His mother should not have any involvement in your family’s finances… This is something you guys will need to work out. I was once in a situation like that and I told myself never again. I have always had my own job and my own money. I never wanted to be in a situation where I had nothing in my name and no money of my own. It’s a tough situation to be in.”
“I think you answered your own question. If he is unwilling to keep your marriage between the two of you, he’s not the one for you. You’re always going to have problems with his mother because he allows her to have a bigger role in his life than she should. He is a grown, married man with a small child. Us mothers are supposed to raise our kids and let them go when they’re ready. Why is she even dictating what goes on in your home or even y’all’s account(s)?”
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if you have family that will take you in while you get back on your feet I would reccomend that that’s financial abuse and he seems kind of narcissistic .
jokes. that’s a shame. maybe get a job and have your own independence? he seems to like a power trip in my opinion. tell him your looking for a job and I’m sure his attitude will change. 
My suggestion would be to leave. 
