All we are hearing from you is " I don’t, I don’t…" Well now it’s time for you to get a plan… for you… don’t be like me waiting for 20 years… then he kidnapped the daughter and ran back to momma… took me 2 years to find and get daughter back… no dear even if the " milk cost " 3.00 and he gives you 4.00 save something for you… Start working on a resume… where are the nearest bus stops… and where do they go too? Think about " what ifs " and keep a secret agenda on paper… put, down 3 " goals and how you can achive them if those don’t work , then write 3 more… something is always better then nothing…0+0= 0… always remember that formula… don’t let your mother in law get in your way… you also didn’t say about how many children you may have … ? Good luck…
It’s your money too if married…He has to or you need a divorce.
My first never gave me any money . My now husband gives me control of everything no restrictions.
Can’t believe after all these years of domestic abuse issues, this is still going on. Get your own job, your own money, and give him a piece of his own medicine.
I loved my my mil. You unfortunately have a controlling mil and husband. Get out. You did not marry his mother
Did u know this about him before u legally married him?? If in fact u did, then who is at fault? I mean at some point we have to take responsibility for the choices we make as adults.
Get a job and move out that child doesn’t need to grow up like that
Get a work from home job, save your money and get out. You deserve better.
Wow, this is a control issue. He wants to control your every move. I don’t know what to tell you. You knew all this before you married him.
He won’t change as long as he is winning
It’s not about money
It’s all about control
Divorce. This is financial abuse, from both of them, and the fact he put his mother’s opinions first is a huge red flag as well. Get out NOW
So what happens if you run out of formula and have no way to get more all day?? This is called financial abuse and you need to leave him. My ex would monitor our bank account and I’d get random texts asking “what did you spend $50 at HyVee on???” He didn’t work but somehow it was all his money, his way. Go stay with someone so you can get back on your feet. My hubby and I have separate accounts and we both pay part of the bills and after that what’s left is ours to do with as we see fit. If either of us is broke the other gives money to help out until payday. Marriage is a partnership not one person controlling everything m
The only option you have is to leave. This will never change.
Get out before you have children…, he doesn’t respect you now he never will…
LEAVE! His mother will always “win”
You knew this before you married him… and if you didn’t, you didn’t really know him
He is cheating on you and doesn’t want to tell you about it. First sign of a cover up. Its time to up and leave before he starts hitting you
You were a fool to marry him in the first place. Don’t tell me you didn’t know he was this way. I would get out as fast as I possibly can. It will only get worse for you.
How can you be married to someone that doesn’t trust you? Lol that makes no sense…
Daycare for the kids at his expense… and go to work.
Of yeah tell mom in law to butt out now before she gains control.Honey, put your foot down and demand your name on that account and any other accounts he has plus make sure your name is on the mortgage too. After 22 years of hearing this is mine, that’s mine etc…I walked…because by that point I wanted nothing that he had. You legally own half of everything your husband owns…
No way id ever live like that ,if talking to him about it doesn’t change anything, id be out …
Wow!!! This is abuse, you are not a toddler you are his wife. You need to go to therapy and get this changed asap
if he picks his mommy over you, things will never change.
There is only one option with this guy! LEAVE! RUN NOW!
Is there a way you can get control of your own money like you may have done before marriage?
Might as well leave and chalk it up to bad experience…if leaving doesnt cure the problem then you’ve made the right choice
Force one or the other. Debit card or house hold allowance. I don’t like being dependant on anyone. But I’m also hard headed. Don’t throw in the towel just yet. Work on it.
Why can’t you just have your own credit card or start a business from home 
My ex was the same, you noticed I said ex!
Maybe your MIL can babysit while you work. If she wants to be involved at least she can help you out.
Was he like this before you married ? If the answer is yes then it’s your fault. You shouldn’t have married him.
It is a 50 50 thing and his mother to stay out of your business
Just leave. There is more fish in the sea. You don’t need the on going stress. Sometimes LOVE is not enough!
Get a job and make your own money and see if the relationship gets better if you’re on more even playing ground.
Let him go because his momma is always going to win. He’s a boy not a man.
I wouldn’t have married him in the first place. You need to leave and start from scratch.
Get a divorce! I was married to a man like this. I was not on our bank account . I did not take his last name though and I am so glad I didn’t. I did work and we had 2 cars but I had to turn my money over to him and he gave me a allowance. He bought me anything I wanted except clothes. He choose them and I would have to try on everything he brought to me in the dressing room and then come out to show him but it was his decision what to buy. Once in a while I would be able to choose something. So if I were you I would leave him. Married 2 years. That was enough.
tell him your not his mamma and you want to be treated as a equal. And tell her to butt the hell out
things that should have been talked about before getting married for 500
Tell him to change his ways or kick him to the curb. It’s not going to get better if you don’t put your foot down.
Get a job, find rides or ride the bus or walk. Start saving money. In your own account.
sounds like my life in the 70’s. things are not like that anymore, tell him you want a portion of the income deposited in your own account. Enough to cover groceries and personal needs each week. At school shopping time, Christmas and other special occasions, you will need more than normal. Or, buck up buddy and share what it takes to be in a marriage!
When I married my current husband, we moved to his home which was a hop skip and jump from his mom. I found out very soon what a big mama’s boy he was . Mama ruled the roost. Even down to paying the bills. I did not work, as I had a 15 year old, a nine year old and a 6 month old. I did however bring money in the household as I got child support and social security on the baby because his dad passed away. I wasn’t on the bank account either. He didn’t want to give me money either. I got smart really fast. I saved money in a sock, till I had enough saved to leave. I left, stayed with my brother for a bit, got a good job, bought a new trailer and a piece of land and had my own place. My husband finally came around, he stayed with me. I did however, lay some rules on him. Your mom is not to interfere in any of our business, I am working, my money is mine, but I help pay the bills as you will. My car is mine, and we share the responsibilities. Otherwise were done. We are still together today. I have been at my job now for 20 years. You just have to take a stand and make your thoughts demands known. No If’s ands or buts. Stand up for yourself.
I would gave know that from word go and got rid straight away but that’s just me
Divorce!!! Who’s car is it? How did you get around before? How did you pay your Bill’s before??
This is something you should have known before you ever said I do
If he won’t to eat let’s go to the store , than let’s cook it
Get a job and make your own money and save up and then kick him and his Momma to the curb. Life is too short to live that way!
If his mom is over you… you leave. No one should ever be over you
Why did you even get married? That’s financial abuse
Leave! Life is too short to put up with that BS!
Ummmmm why aren’t you doing something about it? Get your own job ie wah and keep your own money and separate bank account he’s only doing what you allow
Why would you want to be with someone like that
Sounds like you have two choices…stay or leave. The end.
Why would you want to be with someone like that?
Wow! You didn’t know this about him before you married?
Leave. It’s you and him that are married, not heim and his mom.
Do you actually think this will ever change? Time to leave. Now!
Why would you want to do anything other than leave is the better question?
Get out before you get stuck with a kid from those control freaks.
Manipulation, get out now. Should only be 2 people in a marriage
Tell his mother to butt out and give him back his balls.
Did you work before this? Is there a savings? Did you combine accounts?
And exactly why are you married to this man again?
Why did you marry him in the first place?
Did you discuss this before you got married?
What the hellis a SAHM?? no one can spell anymore??
Wow my husband has always given me total access to money I even used to pick up his check and sign and cash it
Do you have family or friends you could stay with until you get on your feet?
Why did you marry him?
Why would you get married to a mamas boy , they are not good husbands and you are living with a child
When my husband died he left his insurance money to his mother.
I was married to a man that did the same thing with me. We went to the store together for groceries. I was allowed to spend a certain amount for groceries I go over and it would mean him yelling at me in the store.
He would give me 10.00 I would have to account for every single penny I spent, where did I spend it and why did I spend it. This went on for 2 years. He then became unemployed. I got a job and was earning all the money coming into the house. I decided that it was time for him to find out what it felt like to be treated the same way. This went on for a couple of months. Needless to say he didn’t like it. I told him, so now you know how I feel. After that everything was out in the open. We set down paid bills together, food budget, gas allowances and what was leftover was split even between us. No question about what it was spent on. I generally saved most of my share. Built up a pretty good Rainey day amount.
His bank account!? It’s your bank account. You’re married. That is a toxic relationship he has with his mother. A marriage is 50/50 regardless if you work or not Th at money is yours. That’s how it works.
Ask him who he wants to be married to, you or his mother? Then if he chooses you, move far far away. If he chooses her, then it’s bye Felicia!
Get out of a extremely controlling relationship!!!
You should divorce him . . . Any man who allows his mother to control him and allows his mother into his marriage is not worth having . . . Get an attorney and sue for your share of everything plus alimony . . . Find someone who actually loves you . . . Not his mother
This is not a healthy situation for anyone.
You’re a pretty smart woman you’ll figure out what’s best for you I’m pretty sure of that
I would get a job and he can pay for the things you are doing for him now
File for divorce, get child support. Stay with family til your back on your feet. Get a job, any kinda job apply for assistance. Chin up and keep moving forward, help is there. Dont give up, godspeed:+1:
Divorce him, collect child support, & alimony then he will share his bank account!
Sounds more like a slave situation not a marriage. Get out, and Get out Now!!! He is not worth your time.
Get a stay at home job… A secret bank account… A car… Be independent and stop looking to him for money. Save ALL your money in your account and spend the “allowance”… He thinks he controls you butbsecretly build an empire. Whwn he thinks he has everything in your life under his fist, won’t listen to you, and refuses to give you access to any finances, then leave.
Move out now . Once a mummas boy always a mummas boy. Shouldn’t have anything to do with his mother anyway . Best of luck 
This is not a marriage. This is a hostage situation. You just got to do it you got to go!
Leave! That’s classic manipulation by a narcissist; get your kids and GET OUT NOW HONEY!
My husband and I have separate accounts but I have my own debit card for his account
I strongly agree it only gets worse!
Control is the problem my advice is to get out
Don’t do anything for him. Get a job he can pay for child care. Save as much as you can then leave
You need to leave. This situation will not change.
Oh hell no! Girl, you’ve got some serious thinking to do. It won’t get any better.
RUN, this is not a marriage this is an ownership
This is basically an abusive relationship you need to get out of there
This is the ACTUAL definition of abuse. Get out…NOW!!
Be independent,get a job and don’t depend on him .
Run as fast as you can it will never change
Get out while you can this is not a marriage let him go live with mom