open your own account
Gross. Leave. That man will never change.
What???-This is Totally Wrong on every level!!!
Marriage is a partnership between 2 people…not 3. Seriously, the only thing to do is divorce him and leave him to his mama
Really??? Get a job and leave him. You know u r being abused
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I’m a Man why did you Marry Him SEX THAT GOOD 
They ain’t enough love in this world to marry someone like tha.js
Get a job, if you love him stay with him. And tell him to kiss you butt.
Your money is yours.
What can you do beside leave ? Leave sis, time to draw the line in the sand its either hus momma or his marriage the bible says and a man shall leave his mother and cleave to his wife it’s clear ur hubby did not get that memo, you said you’ve spoken to him about it and i’m sure you’ve prayed till ur blue in the face i sure won’t say stop praying but thier comes a time when action must be joined with faith if we are to get real results so my dear leave mummy with her son you gather your dignity and your courage and walk ! If he truly values you abd his narriage he’ll come after you consider seeking help fom a relative or your communiity church who you can contact to assist you to help with respect to accomodations therapy& employment etc, the separation will jolt hubby into reality when he comes a begging set some ground rules don’t just run back encourage him for the both of your sake and for the sake of your child to seek marriage counselling where proper advice will help you both reshape your marriage and help you to be more assertive as a wife and mother i know you love your husband and family and taking a step like this can have you feeling filled with anxiety but fear notmy dear for God is with you repeat this scripture which give me strength i can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me Phillipians 4:13 also God has not given me a spirit of fear but one of power and of love and of a strong mind 2nd Timothy 1:7 i wish you all the best dear all the best.
That’s CONTROL!! My husband and I have separate bank accounts. He’s the one that works & I stay home and homeschool our daughter. He pays all the bills (& my Mother’s phone bill so I can talk to her daily) & the big things for the house out of his account. I use mine for grocery shopping, cleaning & the pets & whatever my daughter & I want to do. However anytime I ask for more he gives it to me. Yes he has more but I also know I can blow a lot of money so I don’t mind especially since we don’t do without. My Mother in law & I have had our ups & downs but we get along fine now. Your marriage & decisions should be between you two everyone should be able to have a little money of their own. You should definitely talk to your husband, if he can’t change his ways you should definitely think of changing your situation. Maybe see if you can work from home from the computer to make your own money. I hope things work out. No one can make the best choice for you but you. The car, we started out with just one car & as soon as he was able he got a second car so I had a ride (he works out of town during the week & is only home on the weekends). It takes a little while to get everything you need when you first get married. Being that you have only been married a year definitely talk to him now, don’t put it off because if he’s not willing to change now, he certainly won’t later.
Get a job,get your own bank account don’t give him access and most of all don’t have kids. Before a family is started your relationship needs fixed seek counseling. If he tries to stop you from getting a job get out of the relationship immediately.
Well first of all he sounds like a Controlling husband not good to start a marriage I think you need to file for divorce Or see a marriage counseling
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run away from this relationship before he uses his domination to cause you to lose your self esteem. Stand up for yourself now. Marriage is a partnership between the husband and wife…If he only shows respect for his mom, let him live with her.
Get out. This guy is a loser and his mom is a control freak. Run as fast as you can the hell out of there
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my ex was the same way near the end of marriage he hit me told hom to leave went on Welfare two days later
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If you don’t have trust in your marriage you don’t have a successful marriage, it is still early enough to realize that and get out. Go back home and regroup, get a job and a car of your own start your own bank account. Don’t let anyone deprive you of your right to a life
Your Husband should be encouraging you supporting you and trusting you enough to trust you with the Bank account a marriage is 50/50 we have a joint bank account and everything we have is owned jointly, and I never let my mother my father my sister or uncle or Aunt into our marriage or relationship,we live our own lives and make our own decisions.
It DOESNT get better, i lived in my marriage 7 yrs. and finally got up the courage to leave. I felt like I had no life. I had 4 kids and one day while my husband was at work I packed up as much as I could and my sister came and took us to her house .I stayed with her until I could get government help, food stamps and cash assistance.( I wasn’t proud to be getting help. ) I got a place of my own and believe me it was tough at first but I would do it again . I never felt to free and independent.
You guys should have a joint bank account and his mom should Butt out…you also need a car of your own…this honestly sounds like an abusive relationship…maybe u can try couples counseling. On the other hand you can always get a divorce and he will have to pay child support and alimony…
Get a new husband or a job and acct of your own.
Since you are bitching he wont let you access HIS acct, its probably because you are not responsible or he simply does want you in it.
Divorce him or get over yourself.
Here’s an idea get a job make your own money . Than you don’t have to ask him for anything.
When you’re married you’re supposed to leave your Father and Mother and make your own life together and make your decision together, not with your mother or Father, like a previous post His mother needs to Butt out He’s married now And she has no right making Decisions in your marriage, Most of all pray give Him and this whole situation to GOD He will guide you.
Quit relying on your husband for your financial needs. Go out get a job and get your own car. When you make your own money you’ll feel much better about yourself.
If you knew him for 5 years and still married the “mama’s boy” then you’re a fool for thinking you could change him.
And you married him huh? You have to decide if its a deal breaker. You should have a debit card with some money in an account for groceries and gas or I’d walk. This isn’t the 50s
There are “people” who handle these family “problems”!
Get your own bank account even if you can only put $5 in to open it, get a job, get a vehicle, get out!! It’s never going to work!!
And be smart start getting cash back and start saving money for an account lol 
Get a job or find a way to make money Dear…
I would be running for the hills as fast as I could. and he would have visitation rights only and nothing more with me ever again. Coward. He is nothing but a pansy!
Get a job working from home online.
Get a job and get rid of him!
Get a job and earn your own money 
It’s called GET a DIVORCE!
If you want money get a job
…and you still married the idiot? You’re a fool, I have no sympathy for you.
Knock him in the twins
My husband works and i stay home…I make sure to pay all of the bills and control all of the money and give HIM an allowance. Your husband is an ass and an abuser…THIS IS ABUSE.
Kick is Ass out are you Dumb😮
Thats bs. Id sat bye bye
That’s bull shit you have just as much right to the bank acct as him or get your own
Get out of there!!!
Okay devils advocate here, but is there a reason he might not want you to have his card, such as bad spending habits, a lot of acquired debt. He shouldn’t leave you with nothing, that’s bullshit On his part. he can at least leave you with cash, or a reloadable Visa card. And the mother needs to back the fuck off. I’d confront her, and he he starts a stink over you standing up for yourself. For the love of us please run.
Get the fuck outta there
Divorce him and get a job
Get away from the controlling inconsiderate mamas boy . And the only way this will end is he would have to tell her to but out. But guess what he won’t do it. Come on girl your better than this retrieve what’s left of your dignity and get the hell away from him . I would never date a pussy mamas boy. Hum I wonder does she still wipe his ass.
That’s all you can do is leave or wait until the bitch dies
Dump his sorry ass. Let him go home to Mommy Dearest!! Get out now…
Don’t have another kid with this asshole. Find a way to stash some money, you are going to need it. He is financially abusing you, mentally controlling, and if you rebel it’s going to get physical. Make some plans my girl, the writing is on the wall.
Shit… if he can’t trust you with the family’s finances, divorce him.
1.Get half of his 401k, maintenance and child support. Tell him to go on and live with his momma.
2. Get a job, start saving money, don’t give him access to your account.
3. Put up with it, like you have for 5 years.
I have had access to my boyfriends account, 1 week into our relationship. His exwife ruined him. Since we had known each other since we were kids, he trusted me. Hes never been better off financially in his life. He has savings, 401k, no credit card debt. (Yes, I worked and contributed as well) now we are in a position to where i dont have to work. But his ex is still a leech on us and society.
Let us know what you do.
Start your own account
Believe me I know it’s hard to only have one car we did it for years til I was like nope need my own shit
Girl get your own shit walk and get you a job that works with the kids school hours make rules tell him if you don’t start giveing me what I want then I’m out marriage is compermising not obeying that’s for sure
You need to get the fuck out plain n simple
Tell him good bye!!!
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Send him back to his momma if he cant trust you than you dont need him
Get a fuckin job then.
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Sorry leave, it will not get better. Smh
Get rid of the sorry bastard my wife had my account be fore we were even married
Wtf…um.no, that wouldn’t fly
Oh my gosh. You must of seen his behavior before you married. A marriage is 50-50. If it were me. I would get a job. Set up your own bank account and when you have enough funds let him.know how you feel about your and his finances. If he is unwilling to SHARE a bank acct. LEAVE. LEAVE. That is no.marriage. S mama’s boy. Go marry your mama EX HUSBAND. Don’t be stupid. Lead your own life. Meet kind understanding people. Good luck with you loser husband. So to be ex. Get your own debit card
×write him a list of what you need and have him get them
Get a job be independent
Abusive controlling behavior
Kick him in the balls …
Get a job and leave him.
Send him back to his mother✌
Domestic violence
Please visit the domestic violence website
Or call
1-800-799-7233
Send him back home to his mother.
That would be divorce worthy for me
BULLSHIT…GET OUT,Do you like living that way?Things won’t get better and as far as I’m concerned,there’s nothing to talk about.I don’t even know how his mother fits into the equation.HES A CONTROLLER.GET OUT BEFORE YOU BRING ANY KIDS INTO THIS MESS.
Run Forrest Run!!!
Don’t know if you have children if so get someone to watch them for two weeks until you can pay them out of your first pay check. Find a job you can walk to if possible. Let hubby get milk bread etc. do not tell him how much you make or how many hours you work. If physical abuse happens get out quickly. If you have children don’t have anymore, if you do not have children yet…don’t!!!
Leave. That is bs. Did you not know this man before you married him. Get out of that relationship asap.
Get out and get you’re own job… The working spouse will have to pay for child care while you start earning your own cash and then both split the bills… If you are choosing to not work however, then I can see another issue that you both need to deal with… Marriage is what both people put into it… It is extremely outdated if you expect a spouse / significant other to make all the money to support the family… Both people need to work together… The idea that one stays at home while the other makes all the financials happen is lunacy in my observation… I know this because my former spouse refused to work and insisted on the stay at home role… I was working TWO full time jobs during the week and putting in another 20 hours working a security job on the weekends… Within three months my mental and physical health were beginning to decline… I was literally working myself to death in short order… Divorce followed after I gave up one of my full time jobs and told my spouse to find their own employent…
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Get your own money. Then leave if you choose. If you choose to stay, that’s up to you. Be advised financial or verbal abuse can at some point lead to physical types of abuse. It may not happen right away, but at some point it might. You need your own nest egg & resources to take care of you & the kids, whether he chips in or not. And then you’ll have a support cushion if you decide to leave.
Do you have a work@home job?? There are plenty out there for stay@home moms!! Youtube & Facebook Watch have plenty of tutorials to see if you know what you like to do. Good luck dear!
There are things you control Grandma doesn’t need to be a toxic influence on the baby.
Why should he give you unristricted access to his cash? Get a job, earn your own money then this won’t be a problem, stop sponging off him like he’s supposed to provide everything for you., I wouldn’t give someone who isn’t working my bank card either
Honey it seems that you married his mother not him. You need to get a friend or a family member to help you get a job and move out. That isn’t a marriage that’s a prison. Or tell him to grow up and be a man get off his mom titty.
Why does his mother not trust you? What did you do before you were married? Only married a year with a kid already. How old is you kid? Did you have to get married? Does he love you? Do you love him? Does he pay all the bills? Do you have a roof over your head, food on the table? Does he take care of the kid when he is home? I been married for 33 years and I control all the money. I worked for it he was mr. mom. I gave him allowance and let him go out with his friends. If he wanted something I would get it if if was in the budget. If I left it up to him to have access to the account without permission I would be broke and not have money for bills. Talk to him. Communication is very important in a married. If you both love each other everything will work out. Ask why she doesn’t trust you there has to be something she think you did or there is something you do that gives her this feeling. Talk about it. If you don’t love him leave.
Leave his sorry ass, hire a good divorce attorney and take his for every penny you can get!
Make a list of things he needs, leave it for him with his morning coffee. Ask him for his debit card. He probably has a $100 limit. You don’t need his code for under $100. If he won’t, then tell him that from now on…he gets his own stuff. While he’s at work, move out! They will not change, especially if it is a cultural thing. You don’t need the stress.
Talk to a lawyer, child support and alimony is what he deserves for putting you in a situation where you have to ask for necessities. Not only is he controlling you but his mother is as well, ultimately there is no respect for you and no one deserves that.
Hey asshole, she is taking care of their child, she works 10x harder than your dumbass ever will.
Why do you assume she asked to stay home? Or how old their child is?
Get a job get your own money
You need to have a long serious talk with him and if he cant be a man about it and choose you over his mother then you need to take tour baby and things and leave because that is still abuse no matter how its taken he shouldnt choose his mother over you he forgets who birthed you child so either talk to him or leave otherwise your harming you and your child
Honey, I know the feeling, however my situation wasn’t as bad as yours. This is abuse, and fall within the lines of domestic abuse. Seek an Attorney for a free consultation. Start looking for a job ASAP, even if it’s part-time and start SAVING every penny you can. Get counseling for yourself, there are playing that are free. Goggle will help you locate this places. Good luck honey
Tell his mother to butt out of your marriage,she needs to get a life and tell your husband to grow a pair or you will have to leave their is two in a marriage not three.
So? She’s raising THEIR child.
Amazing how women expect a man to provide everything for them. Imagine if this was the other way round
“My husband refuses to work saying he should stay home all day looking after our baby because I earn a lot of money and he doesn’t need to work”
You’d all be telling her to leave. He should drop this sponge like the rock she is and find someone whos willing to work together at building a future
The women who fought for you to be able to go to work and have a vote would be turning in their graves knowing how entitled you’ve all become
My ex husband was controlling like this I did the best thing I left him. Now very happy with a new husband that trust me with evrything as much as I trust him not to be abusive. Go girl don’t wait until it is too late, the mother in-law was probably jealous of you.
His behavior is abusive and your response definitely reflects that you are a victim. He does not respect you and you know it. A simple step would be to get a job to develop your independence, even if its a part time job. You have to stir the pot, make a change, because he is not gonna change anything if you don’t challenge him. Be prepared for rough days ahead but hopefully it will improve your relation. Best of luck.
It sounds like there might be control issues on both sides and you’ve entered into covert contracts - you don’t work while he works, but he controls the money. Is he feeling out of control? Did he want the baby or was that more under your control? The covert contracts can only be remedied by bith partners feeling like they have equal control. I believe you should go back to work and pay for childcare. Make sure you both are in control of big decisions like children and major purchases. Share control.
This is financial abuse and a form of control. You need to gain access or leave, this is not ok. Talk to him and lay down your ultimatum.
If you divorced him you would be entitled to his money so why not when you’re together. He might be using his mother as an excuse to be financially controlling. Not good enough reason. If you’ve got somewhere you can go that’s safe for you then I would go until he’s willing share. If he isn’t then you’re always going to be controlled by him. It’s not his mother it’s HIM
Honey you need to get out of there asap. His mother has perfected sending him on guilt trips, and he will never cut her apron strings on him. She has zero business being so intimately involved with your marriage, and since your husband is too afraid to stand up to her, it’s time to move away from their toxic relationship.
There are many “helpers” for woman in your situation, may be more difficult to find these days, but help is out there for you and your young child. Certainly look into WAH jobs, but then, his mother could have him cancel internet so you cannot have any way to support yourself. This sounds cultural, in which case, your husband will never really be in the marriage as a partner with you. ou and your child will always come second place to his mother.
Get a job and take control of this passive child role u are in with hubby…ride bike …walk or take bus…plan yur work…work your plan
He is a mommy’s boy.This will never work.Divorce him and move on.Get a job and be happy.
You should have never married him. You must have known what he was like and how much influence his mother had/has on him. Leave before you have another child.