Did he know he was on speaker with a child in the car?
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Maybe this guy thought 
you guys were on a certain level of sarcasm that you clearly weren’t on. Or maybe that the “guys” are on and not you 
Your fault he was on speaker and your kid heard it. Sorry not sorry. If you don’t start the convo with “hey you’re on speaker” typically is code for kids in the room keep it G rated. Single men don’t think about inappropriate sayings and how little ears can hear things. Your husband shouldn’t need to end a friendship because you got offended. Boohoo where are your big girl panties? Pull the stick out and have a good laugh 
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I think you’ve blown it out of proportion, Yes it was inappropriate, But get over it, He thought he was being funny (he wasn’t) but it’s done and gone, And you’re making it a long lasting issue, No he doesn’t have to give up a friend for you over one flippant remark, So stop starting arguments and move on unless you plan to ruin your marriage over something so trivial 🤷 This whole me or him bit your doing won’t end well for you, Even if you manage to nag him into cutting contact, He’ll resent you’ll for it and your relationship will worsen and end, Is it worth it? Don’t get me wrong, The guys an asshat for saying it, He clearly didn’t think it through, But there was no harm meant by it, No malicious intent, Just a dick move.
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Some people just joke around like that but mean nothing about it. Take control. Tell him if he ever makes a comment like that about you again you will kick him in his junk. Tell your husband you don’t find it funny and it it happens again he can sleep on the couch for months. Then move on already
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I find that really gross and woman saying it’s just banter is gross.
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Sorry but I have to say that’s hilarious 
I dare say he probably didn’t realise he was on speaker or that your child was listening I do genuinely think the comment was just man banter they have dumb banter at times and tbh half the time they don’t even think about what they are about to hit out with I guess it’s all down to your sense of humour and the fact your oh didn’t react just kinda proves it wasn’t meant seriously but have a chat with your oh let him know that you don’t feel comfortable with that sort of banter and ask him maybe to have a word with his friend
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The friend wanting marriage or kids has no correlation to his comment so I don’t know why you mentioned that.
This person was a friend of your husbands before you married, so it’s odd that you see his behavior as so shocking.
Your husband was “shocked” because you were there, most men joke like that.
But something tells me that if it’s bothering you so much as to tell your husband to end the friendship that there was already an underlying issue and this just tipped it off.
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That’s disgusting. My husband and he wouldn’t remain friends. My husband wouldn’t stand for someone speaking about me like that though.
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If he didn’t know he was on speaker, I would let it go.
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I would have told him to fuck himself.
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We definitely have friends that would respond the same way. That’s just how our friendship is with them. Other friends however would probably end up with a boot in the ass.
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I think you’re over reacting. That’s his friend. We don’t always find it funny, but that is how a lot of men joke around together. Clearly your husband knew he was kidding. Just move on with it, or keep arguing with your husband for no reason.
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My husband would never stand for another man to make those comments about me. It’s a mutual respect thing. If you don’t appreciate it HE needs to address it.
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I feel like if one of my hubs friends made that type of comment about me, he would’ve shut that shit the fuck down right then. Even if he didn’t, my big mouth would’ve been opened to both of them! (I just realized how that last sentence looks… 
) Seriously though, if you are the one offended, you are the one who needs to speak up.
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My husband would knock his “friends” teeth out
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Confront the trash talker, wow. Then say what you need to to your husband.
I don’t care how he meant it. He picked the wrong one to say that shit about. Never disrespect me at all. I don’t care if we are all close. No man is going to say shit like that. You demand respect or people will treat you however.
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You guys have gave him enough comfort for him to be able to say something like this. Clearly your husband brushed it off and took it as a joke. You need to make it clear to the friend since the beginning that comments like that are not ok with you. Were you more bothered because your kid was in the car? As cool as I am with my husband’s friends I’ve drawn a line and they know not to cross it. Like I said y’all both have given him enough comfort zone in order for him to say something like that.
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I joke around like that all the time so if I heard my husband’s friend say that about me, I’d tell him my husband would give him a better one and then we’d all laugh
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My ex would joke and say shit like that with his best friend all the time about me. They both did. Just their personalities. Never took it seriously.
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If someone ever said that to my fiancee he would probably hit them in some way. I know some men can be that disgusting and if it makes you uncomfortable then let it be known
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My husband probably just would never talk to them ever again BUT maybe your husband jokes like that too with other mutual friends of theirs or even about other stuff with that friend so thats why he kind of felt he had no place to get angry about it. If he still did get mad he could have always said “hey man I know I joke alot but I didnt like that comment lets not joke like that anymore now I know how it feels. “ etc. since it has been so long you should let it go unless that person actually tries anything directly with you or it becomes a regular thing.
Get over it, it was a joke and he didn’t know. MOVE ON. Why are you still worried about it 6 months later? Your kid has long forgotten about it. Sounds to me you just want to drag it on for something to fight about.
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My man jokes but he wouldn’t take that.
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My bf would have punched him in the mouth for saying that
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I’m not married but my MAN would NEVER allow another man to make such a disrespectful comment. Friend or Family would of got smooth cussed out!
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My husband would have caught a felony for something like this. It’s disrespectful to you and your husband still hanging out with him without an apology is disrespectful too.
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Don’t depend on a man to fight for you fight for your damn self if you feel disrespected/embarrassed/humiliated or anything else adress that shit like a boss
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I can’t believe all the “it’s no big deal” and “let it go” comments I’m seeing. Especially from other women… You absolutely have the right to address someone disrespecting you no matter who it is. And maybe your husband has a very loose sense of humor but that “friend” would not be welcomed back into my space. I would ask my spouse why they even want to be around someone who speaks that way about you.
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Maybe you should bring this up with your husband and have a talk about what you feel is appropriate talk and what is not
If your husband does not want to confront the situation for whatever the reason. Then by all means protect your own feelings an convey to the " friend" how his behavior affects you and its inappropriateness especially in your child’s presence. If it continues be a bitch and chew his ass publicly
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It is a bad joke. You are making waaaaaay to big a deal about it.
If it has been me, I would simply have responded, “This is why you are single, Kyle!”
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Maybe she thought it was weird because your husband is supposed to be the one you confide in, not the one who you’re unsure about if he’s making weird jokes about you with his friend. This doesn’t make her uptight or grouchy, it makes her a normal woman.
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I’m sorry but the fact that y’all are brushing this off and saying it was a joke is seriously disturbing and disgusting.
That’s sexual harassment, her kid was in the car and heard it, the husband brushed it off instead of hanging up or saying something when his wife is clearly upset about it, and he is still friends with this lowlife.
If my husband had a friend who said this to me Not only in front of my kid but at any time that friend would be in the hospital,I’d be bailing my man out of jail, he’d make him apologize but they’d never speak again after, and if it was in front of our kid he’d have hung up and messaged him about it later ending all contact.
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Your husband is going to have to learn to man up and tell his “buddy” that he owes you an apology and he’s going to need to remind his “buddy” that he has a wife and children and that the inappropriate comment got made on speaker phone and that he doesn’t appreciate it (joke or not) ! Sounds like his buddy was just “playing” but was very ignorant to blurt something like that out. It’s just disrespectful. His friend needs to learn to be respectful or your husband needs to find a new buddy. It’s that simple. Things change once you are married with kids ! The college crap talk should end … if that’s what that was. 
Either way, your husband needs to have the conversation with his friends and let him know his disrespectful jokes aren’t welcomed around him, you, and y’all’s family !
Just my opinion ! Good luck
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Find out if they joke like that first before getting pissy. Some ppl joke like that and dont mean harm but if it made u uncomfortable you should let hubby know you would refer u not be talk to like that.
I dont see it as a big deal tho
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Clearly he’d be down for play, but I wouldn’t take it as disrespectful or inappropriate. Take it as a compliment but clearly state that you both would not be open to inviting anyone else into your relationship. “Thanks, but not interested”
No need to take it so negatively or seriously
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My boyfriend would of kicked someone’s ass for talking like that about me lmao
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No man is going to to bluntly say “your wife can give me a blow job” there had to be relationship built up funny, dirty jokes and you were fine with it and now your playing the dumbfounded women because your on your period.
Now, let’s say you didn’t have that relationship nor did your husband, why are you with your husband? He apparently wasn’t that shocked because he continues to be friends with the prick and doesn’t mind offering your mouth up to his friend.
If anything, you should be mad at your husband and reconsidering your marriage cause he doesn’t care about the remark.
Good luck, y’all sound crazy already!
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I think I would gave jumped him before my husband could. Regardless I would not being business with him.
I think since it happened 6 months ago you gotta let it goooo
Yes he’s a dirtbag but you needed to confront him right then, right there or the next time you saw him in person. Next time he says something you don’t like, put him in his place right away & solve it then.
Bringing it up to your husband again & again for 6 months is doing nothing but putting strain on your marriage. Not worth it girl, like i said let it go.
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That’s hilarious lol but like it was probably a joke so don’t take it so hard ya prude also not his fault your kid heard
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My boyfriend gets jealous when one of his friends even talks to me for to long
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Emily Seddon these comments tho
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Im pretty sure your 5 year old doesnt know what a blow job is first and foremost. Secondly if its been 6 months and nothing more has been said I would let it go. There’s no sense in destroying marriage because of something his friend said 6 months ago. I woulf just make sure my husband knows I thought it was inappropriate, and that he knows I’m not comfortable around his friend because of what he said being nasty, and move on. Your husband can’t control what his friends say.
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people joke like this
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Whoa… that’s next level. And weird. And I’d be totally creeped out. And totally angry that my 5 year old heard that kind of talk.
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Making a mountain out of a molehill.
6 months is WAY too long to dwell on being offended.
Shake it off.
Start finding out how to burn the dude next time he says something that offends you, and your husband too for that matter.
Its man banter that you accidentally overheard.
This is what men mean when they talk about how women are drama 
6 months over 1 statement… jeez.
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Find something else to worry about.
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The fact you asked this guy for help with court stuff makes me believe he must be a good friend of your husbands. Meaning hr has built up quite a relationship with your husband. He probably meant it as a joke, didnt realise he was on loud speaker so didn’t no your 5yr old would hear.
If you had mearly said, “i dont think so mate, keep dreaming” at the time he would have known you’d heard and apologised for being crude.
But the fact it was over 6months ago now you need to get over it and stop bringing it up to your husband now.
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Keep your children away from this ‘friend’ of your husband’s. He has a problem with boundaries, and appearently, your husband has no problem letting this guy push those boundaries. Also try not to be alone with this so called friend. Protect yourself, protect your kids.
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Lol. I would of told dude off myself. Or laughed snd told him he was on speaker. To me its not that big of a deal
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So, did she give the guy a beej?
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How was he to.know the call was on Bluetooth or that their 5 year old was in the car. My brother in law is a big joker who once made a remark about leaving his pants on my bed( I had been doing some mending for him and my sewing machine was in the bedroom He was not wearing the pants at the time) His wife was not happy because he made the remark in action full of 8 year old boys,but it never caused any trouble that lasted 6 months. knowing my brother in law we just all laughed it off
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It’s a joke. Fuckin chill out and stop taking it so serious.
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If this is the first time he said something rude and crude, I would have told him,keep making remarks like that and you will probably stay single, and that kind of talk is not appropriate in front of kids, and say that in front of me again I will knock you into next week,then if he does it again he would be out of my life.
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Thats a normal nasty man thing to say. There is a reason he is single. Just avoid the man. My husband has friends like that. Im nice but have as minimal contact as possible
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Consider it a compliment and keep it pushing. Its not that serious.
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It’s obviously a joke, but a disgusting one? People are so disrespectful. My boyfriend would never let that slide. EVER. especially if it’s happened multiple times and you’ve told you SO you don’t like it? HE should tell his friend to knock it off, that it makes you uncomfortable. To all the people saying “don’t be a prude, and take a joke” y’all are gross lol. Yea, sure, it’s a joke, but who says that about their friends wife period? 
y’all are WEIRD lol
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Ummmm he was joking with you all… that wasn’t serious! Learn to get some tougher skin
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i think you should let it go… it was a joke your husband obviously isnt concerned
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I agree please let go , maybe you can come up with something to say to him in front of your husand that would blow both there minds.then laugh and walk away.
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My husband ended several friendships in fights over those comments…
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Why didnt you correct him?
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Totally inappropriate but I would chalk it up to buddies saying stupid guy stuff.
If he had called you a stupid bitch or something to that effect I would understand you being mad.
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Unless he said it to you directly or to you behind ur husbands back I’d let it go
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My husband would’ve flipped shit over that because you don’t do that to your friends woman. Period. I don’t know one guy that would be okay with someone suggesting their woman give another man a blow job but that’s just me. 
if he wants to continue to talk to him, fine, but be clear that you don’t wanna be around him or speak to him.
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My hubby’s good friend said once in front of both when we were gonna have a baby…And he said if my hubby didn’t soon then he would make me a baby! I just froze and was like WTF?? He was a bit drunk but idk why the heck he said that.at first I was super pissed but then I’m just like F that it’s not worth arguing about…my hubby did tell him never to say anything stupid like that again but they still friends…
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If you heard it on bluetooth you should have said something and not have waited for your husband to say something and if it bothers you so much say something to him
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Watch forensic files, kill and bury his dumbass 
My husband who is now passed would lose his mind if anyone said anything about me. He was jealous. Someone once said “I’d hit it” he ended up in jail for aggravated assault
Red flag! I wouldn’t take it lightly. You can tell you have a lot of self respect. Be proud of that! One comment can lead to many more. I’d wait and see if he makes more and if he does then I’d raise hell if I were you.
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So the real questions are; Did he know he was on speaker with you or the child in earshot? And is this the first/only time a comment has been made in such manner? If he didn’t know anything about being on speaker with you and or the child, then he probably was just having guy talk or adult talk. Now if it’s the only time he’s done such a thing he might have realized that it was an inappropriate thing by now and doesn’t do it.
On another note personally I would say if you are that uncomfortable with him avoid him. Your husband is a grown adult who will just have to except you aren’t comfortable with the guy and get over it. I’m sure by now you have at least one person he doesn’t like that you hang around
YALL RIDICULOUS!!! talking about a joke and she should get over it!!! Anyone would of flipped. Let ya female friend say some shit like she want some head from your husband. Behind jokes are mostly what people meant.
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Get over it! I hate this sensitive generation I’m apart of.
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Your husband don’t love or respect you Because he should of handle his ass on the phone and in person after saying some shit like that. Definitely no friendship after that.
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That’s disrespectful not only to you … to your husband too . Shut it down .
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Point blank my husband would’ve rectified that real quick, joke or not. That’s just not something that would’ve come out of any of his friends mouth to or about me… Some might take it as a joke and hey that’s fine too but no female I know would’ve just laughed it off… And no husband I know would’ve let it slide… I’m with you it’s not ok that your husband let’s that slide.
Did your husband say OK?? It was obviously a joke get over it!!!
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That is DISGUSTING
My fiancé would’ve murdered the man
Yea my husband would have whooped his ass!!!
If it was on bluetooth then why didn’t YOU say something? If your husband didn’t lose his shyt then this must be the type of joking around they do with each other & maybe the friend wouldn’t have said it if he knew he had an audience. You should have addressed it right then & there. I don’t think your husband should have to ditch his friend over it. Had he actually propositioned you personally that would be an entirely different story
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I mean yeah its gross and disrespectful asf best way to stop it is to embarrass him back…I once had a co-worker say this in front of a crowd, I had let a couple little comments slide (working in a make dominated industry) but that one crossed the line so without batting an eyelid I looked him straight in the eye and said “well in order to do that I’d need a magnifying glass and a pair of tweezers, so no thanks” everyone laughed so hard and he went bright red. None of them ever pulled scummy lines of me again
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Ehhhh it’s kind of funny. Depends on how well u know the guy I guess.
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I would have lost my shit on him (edited version because of the kids) but I wouldn’t have waited for my husband to say anything. Even if it wasn’t on Bluetooth, that comment was inappropriate
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Tell both of them off tf?
I’ll be dammed if a creep says some shit like that to me and doesn’t get told off. Husband laughs it off? Tell his ass off too, that shits not funny.
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My ex would have got him straight right there and then… and still would. Its disrespectful to the both you.
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What makes him think you would do something like that to start with.
I mean, I see the line being crossed but my husbands friends are also my friends (almost all went to high school together) so, we all joke like that…
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It’s clearly a joke between mates, you’d probably be horrified to hear what gets said at “boys night” with most guys.
Yes the timing was wrong, and yes, your husband probably should have said something, but You’re a big girl, aren’t you? You were obviously in the car to hear it: so why didn’t you say something? If not that it made you uncomfortable, then at least that a child was in earshot.
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Would not be a friend after that comment!!! Would be a ass whomping and a it was nice to know ya!!!
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Okay, so my husband would probably not be friends with a man who would say that he wanted me to give him a blowjob. Let alone have him around me.
Humor or not, it’s really inappropriate - yes, there’s a line to this sort of thing, big shocker for some of you apparently - and would make me uncomfortable if that guy was still around and can make those uncomfortable remarks again and again.
My husband would respect the fact that I was really uncomfortable by the statement and I would be just as respectful if a woman said the same kind of stuff.
“Locker room talk” is not an excuse to say nasty things about a man’s wife. Vulgar jokes are great and all but there’s a line for people - it’s not being a prude or a stick in the mud.
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My husband would have went off on his “friend”
A lot of these comments sound like they grew up being told “men will be men” ugh how tragic
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Seems like every one needs to lighten up, it was a joke.
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Thats the day my husband would have caught his next assault charge. That’s one thing I’ve learned will set my husband the fuck off is me being disrespected by anyone let alone another man
Fuck that, I would have lost it on him
I’d tell his friend eh you’re dick couldn’t handle it but for him to say that to you with you’re daughter in the vehicle isn’t right. I’m sure he didn’t know but still. This isn’t something that people should laugh at because it’s really immature and disrespectful to a woman on his part. My husband (without me saying anything) would have cussed the guy out and slap him over the head. Yeah he’d still talk to the guy but they guy better have more respect. I wouldn’t try to end a friendship, but I’d talk it over with his friend and tell him it made you uncomfortable and that you’re 5 yr old at the time heard it. It’s not respectful for you nor you’re child. But again I don’t think he knew you’re child was in the care nor that he was on speaker.
My husband would have flipped his lid. Literally and then told him not to be in contact with us again.
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men will be men. is your marriage worth it?
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