That’s just rediculous. He should be making YOUR plate if you are the on taking care if the twins eating
I do our kids first then my husband’s when we are at home. When we are at functions he helps me get the kids then we got ours. We have a 10, 4, 2.5, 1 so I get it. I hope she was just being a smart ass
None of your mother-in-law’s business what you do or do not do for your husband you are not his mother you’re his wife
I love serving my family but there’s boundaries. Mothers on either side do not get to tell you how to do things in your marriage. Your husband needs to have that conversation with his mom…
When my husband’s family started talking behind my back, he set a boundary that he wouldn’t tolerate them talking about the mother of his children. He still talks to his family, who live well over 10 hours away, but he doesn’t discuss me with them at all.
Now, my husband is a grown ass man and he can make his own plate, based on how hungry he is. My 12 year old also makes her own plate, so that she can decide how hungry she is as well. We don’t waste food. I make my younger kids plates, tell my oldest to go make hers, then hubby, and them I make my plate.
I make my husband’s plate, drink and whatever else. Our kids are grown and gone so I do it because I want to
Husband needs to step up and defend his wife and the mother of his children. And by the way, this is NOT 1950
Your husband’s mother needs to sit down, shut up, and take her medication. He’s a big boy, he can do it himself and it isn’t 1940.
i believe in making his plate as much as i can & take it to him. sometimes, with 6 kids (we have twins age 3 as well as a 11, 9, 6, & a 9 month old) it doesn’t happen like that.
we also take turns making all the kids plates. he also brings me my plate, sometimes. it’s called balance & taking turns! we both get tired & just ‘over it’. its life.
if his family feels so strongly about it, tell them to make his plate or feed the kids, then!
that’s what i get pissed about nobody sees behind closed doors. i made his lunch for months until he left all of my bowls to mold in the work fridge… i put all the laundry away as well until … anyhow, you get my point. 
i am a mother & a wife, not a maid and/or slave. empty your bowls so i can wash them. put your clothes in the hamper so i can wash them and return them. show some respect is my motto.
id have a conversation with your husband. he needs to tell his mom to mind her business. it’s probably more conversation going on about you when you are not around & your husband isn’t defending you. That’s why she’s comfortable enough to keep minding your marital business. If it was my husband, ill ask him to check your mother about the disrespect or I will. some have good intentions and just come off misunderstood but, once you bring it to his attention once maybe twice, its time for you to stand up for your self.
I’d personally laugh in his face and move on. That’s pure BS. He’s a grown ass man, tell him if he’s hungry then he has to make a plate to eat.
He’d be shell shocked at my house, my husband will even cook for himself 
It’s a nice gesture that should be appreciated by both 
Talk to him. (and between you and him secretly )Next time have him make yours .his and the kids and freak all inlaws out.
Yea ok she makes your son’s plate. But do they have kids. If so then she better be making the kids plate FIRST THEN MAYBE HIS… its the KIDS FIRST THEN HIM OR HERSELF…
Some families are just like that. I make my husbands plate. I would talk to your husband about it
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Unless he is disabled…and physically unable to…yea…he can make his own plate!
i make my husband a plate…honestly its completely up to you. He is a grown ass man and has working fingers lol every one has their own thing going on.
I’ve been there, I actually got told once to make my husband a plate because I need to “earn that ring” 
but yet I’m the breadwinner in the family, tend to all 4 kids, the house & bills…can never win
This: mammone
He is what Italians call a mammone, which translates to “mummy’s boy”. The term describes adult Italians who still live with their parents and they’re far from uncommon. In fact, 66 percent of Italians under 35 – two in three – were yet to leave the parental nest in 2016, according to EU statistics office Eurostat.Jun 19, 2018
Maybe she should’ve done a “her job as a Mother” & taught her son to make his own plate! Sheesh! He’s a grown a$$ man. What is this - 1950???
No disrespect to y’all who do make your husband’s plates!
My husband and I do it together. I make his plate then we make the kids plates together, that way we both have time to eat a hot meal. But it’s none of her business, it’s yall family
Tell Momma to get his plate. Maybe you should here looked into his family a little more before you wed.
Some days I make everyone a plate and some days he does. For us its not expected but a small appreciation for each other. He works just as hard as I do. Food is my love language so you bet your ass if I cook a from scratch meal, I plate it for everyone.
My 300 lb hubby would be thin as a rail if he waited for me to make his plate, ANY DAY , 38 YRS MARRIED , id say ive made his plate 10 times ( and im pushing it saying 10 lol)
Tell mommy to mind her own business…
Alot of marriages fail cause when you marry him you got his mommy too…
This is insane! I have 4 kids and my husband and I make their plates together (after I just cooked the entire meal) and then he gets his plate, I get mine. Tell her to kiss it
Tell her to mind her own business. He should have learned years ago to fix his own plate. How ridiculous.
Theirs got to be more than this than not making a plate.
That’s not grounds for divorce.
Wtf that’s so dumb. If he listens to this shit then he shouldn’t ever get married again there are so few women that do this anymore when it comes to have kids.
I hate seriously hate when somebody makes my plate. I’ve re wrote so many things to say back to this but everyone already has you covered. I praise God I love my mil
For the most part, your husband is grown and can make his own plate unless it was some special occasion where you wanted to do something nice for him.
Is he a mommas boy or is that just how his mom is? A pain in the ass lol. Your husband should be defending you as well. You are not his mother n have twins to care for. Id tell her right where to go.
He can make your plate and his atleast after you do all that. Insanity
If I cook , usually i get the kiddos plates ready and then mine and my husbands , but my husband cooks 3-4 nights a week sometime even more because I work nights and he works days . This means I am up with the kiddos all day and have a nap/ sleep when he gets home. So he actually makes the kiddos plates and then makes mine and his own! 
that being said my kiddos are old enough to keep themselves busy while I am doing that, or even he is. I would say something , but I seem to be passive aggressive a lot of the time - as I would say “well if he would watch the children while I do it , it would happen now wouldn’t it . “ but then again I suppose that could be rude.
They’d hate me! I keep the kids corralled while my husband makes everyone’s plates LoL
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Honestly it doesn’t matter how they feel about ir… does it bother him? Or you? I do this for my bf but because I like doing it for him, but he would not get mad if I didn’t… I always get my kids food then his then mine… but I don’t expect anybody else to do it… like I said I do it because I want too. And it’s mostly because I’m the one cooking and want none of them in my kitchen in my way 
Get on that wifey thing and make his plate. I make all the plates and bring to everyone. My hubby knows he is king and loved.
Because I’m that petty ass…its 2021 not 1950…he can put in a helping hand…
Go ahead and say something to mama… you better make that man his plate before he starts listening to them
I would personally serve her a list of local therapists she could get into contact with bc the woman clearly needs help.
Take his plate? Bye. That lady should be happy anyone took her son.
Are you serious? Grown men can fix their own plates. He can fix his own after he helps you fix the kids’ plates. 
I would make him the most ridiculous plate possible at the next one . Just throw random stuff on there while your at it. Or just a heaping plate of potatoes or something:
There’s nothing wrong with doing it if you want but this isn’t 1950 anymore, it shouldn’t be expected & MIL needs to mind her own business.
I wouldnt really be concerned about what anybody else saying but my husbands. How did your husband respond to all these?
She’s rude and should stay the heck out of your marriage. But your excuse for not getting your husband a plate is lame. Serve the man. Don’t you love him?
If your husband didn’t defend you tell him to go live with his mother.
That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. Sometimes it’s nice to serve your spouse, but, this isn’t 1950s. Marriage is about serving each other, in everything. That mother in law is a joke.
Maybe you should divorce him since he’s too lazy to get his own food. 
And with a mother in law like that I wouldn’t stick around.
First we need a few back ground things like how long where you together before you got married? Did you live together prior to the marriage?
These questions are needed to be answered because if you did this stuff before you were married then you kinnda set yourself up for this drama. I lived with mine for 5 years before I said the YES and he understood I was not his mommy, we have kids separate and together and I had no time to play mommy to him with all these kids. We now are just me and him and I still don’t make his lunch for work or make his plate at dinner, he wants his food he best get off his ass and make his plate. If I don’t feel like cooking he is well aware of it. These things should have been well shown prior to the marriage
My husband takes pleasure in making me a plate, saying that that way, he gets to ensure I am well-fed 
… I’ve just crossed the line from overweight to obesity…
I’m definitely laughing at his mother. Does he dismiss her ancient opinion? Unless my husband literally has broken hands, he can get his own food.
Sounds like they are full of misery and jealousy and have no business of their own to talk about 
I dislike individuals like this and I was once married to someone whose family had something to say about me whether I was doing right or not smh they need to stay tf out your life
I let mine make his own, only he knows how hungry he is or what he feels like eating…I would just ignore momma…
And what was your husband’s response to that…? I hope he defended you and not just let that go
This isn’t the old times where woman have to do everything for their husband.
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Your husband should be fixing your plate! Or the toddlers! Or ask mother in law if she would help out at these family dinners! Also have a serious talk with your husband about defending you. He can shut her mouth if he wants too!
I made a plate for 15 years and still got divorced. 
I’m not sure why he’s been tittle tattling to his mum. He needs to sort his own sht out and not go to mummy crying…
He’s got 2 feet and a heartbeat, he can get his own plate.
I can’t make hubby plate cuz it’s too much or wrong thing. Iv even made up plates for microwave he’ll eat then bowl cereal
They will still talk about you, even if you start making his plate. Just sayin. Back biters are back biters. Might as well just be yourself and do your own thing.
If it’s a culture of theirs then just make the damn plate, if that’s all it takes to get respect from the in laws then just make his plate up but only at get together any other time tho tell him to make it.
I have never heard of the “make his plate” thing. Bizarre.
You should tell maw in law that you are not June Cleaver, yall aren’t living in the Leave It To Beaver era and to mind her own business or suggest that she fix his plate if it bothers her so much!!! Smh…
I was in that type situation for 29 years…RUN
That’s hilarious lol. No one in my family gets their significant others plate at a gathering.
Apparently someone is a mommy’s boy, if a grown man can not make his own food maybe she should divorce him for being childish 
I wouldn’t go around them and ask your hubby how to he feel about you not fixing his plate
They’re ridiculous and he should stand up for you
Tell his mom to mind her own damn business! Make some boundaries girl. Rapidly!
He’s a big boy he can make his own damn plate!
You don’t divorce over something this insignificant. His family is shallow.
I’d give the family an earful and if your husband doesn’t have your back, leave
I will not make my husbands plate. And he does not make mine. And that being a reason to divorce is one of the most ridiculous things a mother in law could say…
If mom can Tel this she can plate him.she is only for back biting??
Tell him to have mommy make his plate since she doesn’t know how to raise a man that can get his own.
He’s a big boy-he can get his own plate
The bigger issue seems to be his mother
When you’re at get togethers hand her the empty plate to make it. Say “you’re his mom, I’m not”
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I think your husband’s mom should mind her own business
I serve him in the bedroom, but the kitchen. I would totally get my own plate, and tell the kiddos to go ask daddy to get their plate
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This is 2021 not 1950! My ex mil was the same way! You need to set her straight asap!
Toxic in law family
The important question is how your husband feels about it, it’s your guys life not hers
Tell his momma she dont like it she can make her little boy a plate !! And he can move in with her!
Lol are they Hispanic? It might be a culture thing
As a wife and a mother I make our child’s plate and then my husband’s then mine. Call me old fashioned but a woman should.
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If he can’t make his own plate he’s clearly a child and shouldn’t be married anyway.
Seriously? I cook and clean. My husband can fix his own plate…or he can starve!!
He’s a grown man and can make his own plate. He can also help with the children’s needs as well so you can also enjoy the get together.
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All your father in law when he got his last B.J.
Isn’t That a wifely duty?
I make mines plate and the kids plates, but he also helps with mine while I’m doing it…
I mean…is he complaining about it? I make my hubbys plate but when he cooks…he makes mine 
I would make his plate and fuck it up on purpose. “Oh sorry honey, I thought you’d like a plate full of overcooked cauliflower with a quarter cup of salt” because I’m a petty lil bitch.
At this point, it’ll be my husband serving me
Well… What does your husband have to say about it?
LOL I have five kiddos and preggo with number 6. I make my kids plates, then my hubby’s, and then mine. It’s not that hard 
I imagine it’s a cultural thing? I usually make my man’s plate, but not because I’m expected to.
Heck yeah I would cut them all off that’s why I don’t go to many family funksions I can’t stand fake or judgemental people
It is a southern Kentucky thing to do. Fix ur husbands plate.
He got legs? Arms? Hands? Yes?
Boy can make his own plate.
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Not s child… who ever is up can