If your husband doesn’t mind the family shouldn’t.
Why is your husband allowing this?
Just why…didn’t he stand up for you?
I would sit with him and discuss about this and about how it makes you feel. She should be grateful that he has a wife who cares for their children and maintain a home. Tell him flat out that it bothers you that his family talks about you like that and that he doesn’t stand up for you when he should because he’s laying in bed with you at night. Not his mama. so he needs to man the fuck up and stick up for you.
Lol seriously, I can’t even keep dishes out of my sink and I have a 1 year old and is 5 mo pregnant. My MIL is so bothered by our house that she said we live like people off of the show “Hoarders” . But little does she know, I always clean the house on Friday nights and it’s always a new and fresh smelling home lol.
But kudos to you mama! keep going strong
I would tell him to step in and put his mama in her place before I do… I would have some choice words for her
Go low contact with them . If they cant see the hard work you do as a mother AND wife then they dont deserve your energy . Your husband needs to tell them to stfu and mind their business . And you might wanna double down on it .
Tell him go stay at his moms. Then tell her she can fix his plate now he’s there if shes that concerned
Fuck that shit he a grown ass man he should be helping you after being with the kids all week
How people are raised … I’d make my man’s plate, why because that’s what you do. Have 3 kiddos, make theirs too… So excuses why not, come on:roll_eyes:, I eat after they started… Not saying it’s a you must do, but 10000 women make the time… Be a grown woman & just say I don’t… Now it would be my family talking crap . Let my father see me not making my man’s plate & he’d tell me to:woman_shrugging:t4:.
You’re his wife, not his mother or his slave.
I’d tell her if she is so bothered, fix it herself.
Hes perfectly capable of making his plate.
If your husband even entertained that I’d divorce him. What a joke lol
And just like that, MIL lost her invite to Thanksgiving dinner
Speak your mind! If she has a problem ,let HER fix his plate.
So tired of hearing of the “making of a plate” for a “man” barf
Talk to ur husband. If ur M.I.L. say another disrespectful thing u best check her azz then check ur husband for not standing up for you. Then cut them off.
Lol I’d be like if I am divorcing you for any reason it’s the monster in laws
I have people like that.
Are his legs broken? Arms? Are hers?
If she’s so worried about his plate maybe she should make it or take her tit out of his mouth!! I swear I’d tell my MIL to make it her damn self next time!!
He should be helping clean and look after the kids
She had his whole life to raise him, don’t worry about it.
She must be Mexican my family is the same way lol
Tell him he doesn’t have sex with his mom, or if he does then he’s good and you’ll divorce him.
Did she not raise a man??? Her problem, tell her to make his plate. Sheesh
Talk to your husband. He needs to stand up for you and put her in her place.
He’s a grown ass man. He can make his own plate.
Is he two? I’d probably brag in front of her about how I taught him how to make his own plate like a big boy since he was never taught as a kid.
we’re in 2021 lol not 16 1700s🤷♀️if your husband wont defend you than YOU DEFEND YOURSELF👍(theres something else going on behind your back.your hubby is talking bad about you😉)
That is absolutely ludacris!
tell her to make it next time smh
Oh em gee…if people got divorced for lil crap like that, nobody would be married long lol
If she’s so worried about it maybe she should make his plate for him🤷♀️
Your mother in law is stupid!!! Divorce his and her ass too!!
Well she can go fuck off my husband is a grown adult he can get his own damn food. My kids come first. I get them their food. Im not his damn servant
I’d wait till the next get together and confront them all there🙃
He is a big boy can fix his own
If he isn’t capable of making his own plate, he should just go hungry IMO
I would ask him if he even wants you to do that for him first
No. He is fuckin grown. He can serve his damn self and maybe even serve you too
Snip snip. I’ll get the scissors for you!!!
Im sorry but if anything … he should be making your plate!!!
They are jealous that you can do it all, you are doing great !!!
I would be condemned in his family. I made my husband do his own laundry.
Hes a grown man he can fix his own plate
I told my MIL to go fukk herself when she told my hubby that I didn’t deserve to have his children
Girl, ignore them, and he also has to tell them to shut up. What we did.
I’d ask her why she failed as a parent…her son cannot make his own plate…
just be you and keep doing what you have been doing.They will get tired of you not pay attention to their talk.
He can make his own plate
Tell her, that’s fine, I’ll keep the kids, the house, half his pay check—he can go sleep on your couch and you can make his plate
His legs ain’t broke.
Fucken in laws. I swear.
What did your husband say about that? I hope he spoke up for you
Unpopular opinion I make my husbands plate every night. I make his then make the kids. He works all day I don’t… just feels like normal I guess
I’d be having one hell of a sit down with your in laws and husband as to why it’s acceptable to be talking about.you behind your back as well as your blatant disrespect for you. Your marriage and your husband
She sounds like a peach.
I feel good ol Mom should jump into 2021 and mind her own business.
None of his Mothers business
Just tell her mind her business. Apron strings have become unattached
I’d say goodbye to that nonsense. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
I dont even make mine dinner
Wondering what the husband says…
I just wouldn’t go anymore he can chase the kids around and fix his own plate they obviously dont like you for whatever reason just forget it and cut them out
Lmao first of all he’s a grown ass man who doesn’t need to be mothered. Have I made my man’s plate before? Yes. Do I always? Absolutely not. It’s my job to get my kids a plate not my partners.
He needs to stand up for you and tell his mom to shove off.
Oh just ignore her. It’s not your job to please her or any of his family to be honest. It’s your job to be there for yo husband and your children. His family isn’t your burden.
Good lord lol if that were a reason to divorce someone my husband and I wouldn’t have made it as long as we have He already has a momma he doesn’t need another one. I am his wife and his equal. I’m not his maid, mother, or servant. Sounds like his family needs to get with the times
Eh. Just ask him to make your plate at the next gathering. Their heads will pop right off. Problem solved
What a petty childish thing to talk about behind your back.
Let them be petty and continue on. If the mother in law doesn’t like it then she will lose sleep over it not you. Another approach would be to look her dead in the eyes when serving your children’s and say ‘feel free to make your child’s plate up while I do mine’.
He is a big boy. He can make his own plate. And your husband needs to tell his mother that. I get about the cultural side of things if there’s one but no excuses, regardless. Tell him to tell his mother straight. Shouldn’t even be been saying this to him anyway
Sounds to me your husband needs to put them in there place he should have enough respect for you to do so
Time to divorce him if he’s actually entertained this bull shit advice.
Cut that toxic sht off!!! Making a plate is his own DAN job and not YOURS as a wife. Would she like you to wipe his a** and burp him after the meal?? That’s ridiculous. Those are the things she will be teaching your children as well and that’s POISON. hugs to you
Absolutely NOTTTTT… My kids are teenagers and I still don’t make his plate. My first husband made me. When I got with my current fiance he wasn’t having it and thought it was weird. I assist the kids, or supervise, etc and he and I make our plates together and then we all get to the table at nearly the same time, it’s nice and everyone’s food is hot.
You’d think the mother in law would rush to help fix the children’s plates instead of complaining. Most large family meals are so chaotic that I’d never see or sit with my spouse to eat. As a mom you’re tending to your kids, helping with the food, cleaning and attempting to have conversations. I’d hope the spouse would be an actively helping take care of their kids.
He needs to say something to his mama & if he don’t divorce that whole family girl. Y’all got twins, you don’t need another child.
How does your husband feel about it? She shouldn’t say anything because it’s not her place to do so. If your husband doesn’t mind how you both live then that’s all that matters. I make my husband’s plate every night. I also make his lunch for work and set his clothes out for work too. But that’s how WE do things. If someone ever said anything to me about OUR life I’d tell them to stick their opinion where the sun don’t shine. Stay in your lane! Or be prepared for road rage
I don’t make my husband plate
I’ve worked with 3 year olds that can dish up their own food from food at a table. Guarantee a grown-ass man can serve himself, and he can also rinse his own plate and even (gasp!) wash it when he needs to lol
Hell no … my man always makes my plate first? We make our kids then each other’s then our own…
He must be Mexican. It’s what is expected of wives or significant others. Old fashioned, I know. Have a talk with him and try to make him understand all the hard work that you do to take care of them all at home. He also needs to stick up for you with his family. No bueno!!!
You were not put on this earth to serve a man. You are not a slave and shouldn’t be treated like one. Plus you are both parents and should be both doing the parenting
He’s a grown man and should be happy you even cooked
Some nights with 3 kids under 5 I’m like I’m not cooking a full meal
Grilled chz or cereal
Guess I am a bad wife also and he can get his own plate
I use to make my hubby’s to be nice not because I felt it was my job but he’s so picky about how good touches I told him he can do his own for now on
It’s not the woman’s/ wife’s job to make the hubby’s plate… I do it cuss I like to but as soon as it gets to be to much…they know the kitchen… I’m rude asf so I’d called her butt up & said my peace
I do not make my husbands plate, he’s a big boy he can do it himself, if she’s so concerned about it, tell her to do it herself
Inlaws should stay out of the relationship. I guess my question to you is, what does your husband say or think about this? Seems to me his side us quite petty. I hope pettiness didn’t rub off to your husband. You are doing what you feel you need to do. And the only opinion that matters is your own. Maybe your husband, too. Don’t let this mean mother in law drag you down. She’s holding onto her mama’s boy. No fighting that. However, you have every right to stand up for yourself. Does your husband’s mother think he is too stupid to get his own plate?Anyway, BE KIND TO YOURSELF!
Girl if they aint giving you an orgasm, paying ya bills, or feeding you dont even worry bout them. I wouldnt go over to anymore events and i wouldnt allow them over to my home anymore. Your husband needs to tell them where their place is and stand by your side as his equal🤷
Killing them with kindness goes a long way.
Ignore them. Period. It’ll take a while, but they’ll eventually realize you are both adults now and they’ll find something else to complain about. (Your cooking, your house is too messy, you abuse the dog, you’re mean to Aunt Pootie)
He should be correcting them and standing up for you, setting boundaries and leaving when they cross it.
Omg bite me on the plate thing.
I only make his plate if we r at my peoples gathering. I make my kids’ plates, his and then mine but if we are at his people’s he’s making his own. If i cook at home i make his plate and vice versa
You could always make him a plate. And put one thing on it or put something inedible on it. That way she can’t say you’re not making him a plate, you are, just… Not a very good one
I am sorry you’re even having to go through this .
Most important…does he agree? And how does he feel that his mom said that?
Hahahahahahahaha. Hahahaha. I needed the laugh. Hes a grown ass man. He csn make his plate. If he wants his mommy bc his umbilical cord wasn’t cut…he can go home. Hahahahaha he can also eat while feeding the twins and bitch to his mom about that …no thanks. I would laugh in her face.
Tell them to shove the plate up their tight asses.
I make my husband’s plate all the time, not because he expects it, but because he pulls 14 hour days. And I’m already up. With that being said, if I’m busy with the kids or if he knows I’m wiped out from work or my day, he has zero problems getting his own plate. But, I damn sure won’t have anyone telling me that he needs to divorce me over that
If you go to a buffet is the woman required to fix his plate, then the kids plates, then his seconds, help the kids eat, clean up their mess, get hubby some dessert and coffee, feed the babies some jello or ice cream, take them to wash their sticky little hands, then ask the hubby if he minds watching the children while she gets something to eat? Stupid at a restaurant, stupid at home!!! Tell his mammy to fix his plate, while he fixes one of the children’s plates!!
I don’t always get my fiancé plate ready because sometimes he doesn’t eat right away or he will get his own lol he just has a crazy family
Omg…he is a grown man!!! Sounds like a mama’s boy!! No way in hell unless he can’t walk or broke a body part would I be expected to do so! It’s a nice thing to do but monster in law shouldn’t think it is an expected wifey duty!! Omg…hell NO!!! As a mother in law I would be more impressed if my boy helped her and the kids!! Hell NO!!!
I think what’s more important than what they said, is what your husband said in response.
Sounds like his mom needs to mind her own business.
I wonder if this is a southern thing to do. I always make my husband’s and kids plates 1st. I think mainly it has to do with not having so many people in the kitchen. But it shouldn’t be expected or demanded. Definitely non of your MIL business or right to comment on.
Lmao… my MIL would freak out if I told her there are days I don’t make dinner AT ALL. Husband will get home and pop something frozen into the oven and call it a night I have a 1, 3 and 8 yr old… keeping them clean, fed and alive is a job on its own.