Linsey I think u hit the nail good idea I would never have known what they wanted maybe he soukd be waitiing on her she doesn’t hav a 9 to 5 job like him
She sounds like a “mamas boy” kind of mom. Who probably didnt stand up for herself in her own relationship. Who probably hasn’t lived with her husband as a team like it should be. I think if it really gets to the point its bothering you, either stand up for yourself and tell her how childish those statements are, that she wants to break up a family over a dinner plate. Pathetic. Or at least talk to your husband so he can stand up for you.
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Let his mother have him.
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I’m so sorry my mother in law is Amazing she dishes everyone’s plates and when my babies were really little she would hold them so I could eat a warm meal because she had 5 children and new and knows that’s never an opportunity for me 
I’m sorry but it wasn’t always easy it took some serious growing pains for me and my mother in law we got to the point where we almost got into a fight lamo now I laugh she like a mom to me and always extremely supportive maybe things will change and get better
Just let it pass. You are the lne that her little baby boy married. Sl she will talk behind your back. When you have little ones. They come firsthand. Just try to stay calm. Dont cut them off. It may make bad things between your hubby and You. I am sure his Mother is just blowing off jealousy. Try to make small of it. You know you are a good Mother and wife.
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He has two hands and is a grown man, why can’t he make his own plate and help you make yours or the twin’s plate. She should mind her 2 cents.
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It’s never only one thing. Her reasoning is coming from some where. And in her motherly mind you’re not good enough for her son.
For this reason a man should separate himself from his mother and father and become 1 flesh with his wife. You are no longer 2 but one so when she attacks you it’s also him.
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There are things that people do that are nice then they come to expect them and suddenly you’re the bad guy when it’s not done.
This is not 1950! I am a stay at home mom/wife and a full time student. My husband works outside of the house anywhere from 8-14 hours a day. He STILL comes home and cooks most nights. Everyone likes his cooking better. He never complains. Sometimes I make his plate, my plate and the kids plates. Sometimes he makes everyone’s plates, sometimes everyone makes their own plate. You need to do what works for your family. If he’s not complaining, ignore her comments.
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Tell her to do it if she feels he is not capable of doing it himself!!!
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Ummmm id say if u want a plate for him u go make one he a grown ass man
My aunt always told me to never make a man’s plate 
And I don’t.
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I always make the kids plates first, then my husband’s, then mine. If I’m cutting up the kids meat I’ll offer to cut his up too too while I’m already at it but he doesn’t expect me to do any of that and he does the same for me if he cooks dinner. So long as you’re all happy and healthy noone should judge how your family works. Tell your MIL to kick rocks.
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Nope not a bad wife…if it bothers ‘Her’ let her fix his…and chew it for him also!
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Is he Mexican? Lol. That sounds like my grandma.
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Is your mother in law Hispanic?
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No he is big boy now if he gets hungry he will get his own plate Make him put his big boy pants and help you with the children 
Uhm, his family is bonkers. Hahaha
I have in 25 yr NEVER made my husband’s plate and I’m not planning on it. Is that really a thing over the age of 5🤔
If he’s hungry and has 2 hands He Can make his own or let his mama do it. I would also tell mama, he’s capable. Let hubby know you could use his help feeding the toddlers or ask his mama to pitch in. Get peed off enough tell her your a very good wife and you don’t appreciate what she’s saying.
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She birthed him so she can do it🤷🏻♀️
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Are they Hispanic ? If so I guess it runs and I hate it! Everyone in my family is like that… Wife serves husbands plate
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Why is the mother not helping her man child if he’s in need 
cut those ties ! Xx
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if he cant make his owne plate let him do with out or tell his mom to come over snf make his plate
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Tell them to eff off. Your his wife not his slave.
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Lol. Ignore her. She’s just petty AF. How did you find this out? Did your husband say something? Was he agreeing with her? There’s no reason a grown ass man needs to be treated like a toddler. Maybe, instead of expecting someone to make his plate, he could make one plate for one twin while you make the other’s. In my house ill do it to be nice if my husband is busy or has a bad day or something…but it’s not every single meal every day. If we’re gonna get that petty and make it a daily expectation every meal, shit is gonna get real REAL fast. If he’s got two working hands, he can make his own. Especially if he isn’t lifting a finger to help with the kids.
There is no such thing as a job when you r a wife it is not a job for the love of god!
Nope you are not alone in this. I’m not dealing with the situation with his family saying something but I used to make his plate for him every time we ate dinner and I eventually got fed up with it because not only am I making dinner, taking care of the kids, cleaning the house but making dinner for us and our children and putting his food on his plate, ours and theirs and I have to put it the food on his plate too? No, not so much anymore. Sometimes, but not as much as I used to. He’s a grown ass man and he can serve himself. Period. I don’t know if these men think they are entitled for us women to do it for them because they had a “long day at work” or what but so do I and I don’t see him or anyone else for that matter making me dinner and making my plate. Just sayin. Your not alone! Lol
I hope she said that in front of you, and I hope you rolled your eyes OUT LOUD
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Than his mother should make
It’s her excuse I guess she is jealous cuz he is spending more time with u and the kids than her
I only put meat on my mans plate the rest he can do himself I’m not his momma
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F**K them! Why don’t she get up and make his plate since they are so concerned about it!!
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Tell him to stand up for you.to his family…you are doing the hardest job in the world…taking care of kids and keeping a home…he a big boy he can fix his own plate…
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Have to love it when our parents are stuck in the 1920s . I don’t expect my wife to serve me food on a silver platter. I’m a grown adult I can get my own food thank you. 
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I’d tell them all to kiss my ass!!!
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If he doesn’t have your back now, he never will 
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I can’t imagine this even being a thing and I’m pretty old fashioned ! It’s food……he can get it himself, and let momma know that too!!
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I wish I could say don’t take this to heart, our parents are probably the last generation to do this… not saying it’s not done… but where it was supposed to happen. She’s just old school. If she’s saying divorce I’d have a talk with her… tell her it really hurt your feelings and you are doing the best you can… we must speak up for ourselves. Or ask your husband to speak up for you. I protect my wife at all times. Let’s not let hate trump us. We must love our neighbors.
I never make my husbands plate… I make the kiddos plates then mine…sometimes my husband will make a plate for me but it’s rare
Oh hell no. Toxic family cut them off. If he won’t stick up for you then he needs to go as well. A wife isn’t a slave. He’s a grown man not a child.
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My man is fully capable of making his own plate 
He’s grown lmao
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My question is why isn’t he correcting his family?
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Just advise her that you have taught her son independence, which includes getting himself a plate while you attend to twins… You shouldn’t have to have taught him, but he came with many faults 
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Are you kidding your mom in law is from ancient times she needs to get a life as for your husband sorry if he doesn’t have the balls to stand up to his mom you will have too
That’s a bit childish.
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I will bet the men wish the women wouldn’t make their plate.
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I’m gonna go against the flow here and say I actually make up my mans plate I make the 4 kids, his and then mine. But, that’s because I enjoy doing it for him! By no means do I do it because I have to or because “it’s my job”.
Has your husband said anything? Or is it just that they think you should be doing it? Does your mil think she didn’t do a good enough job raising him that he can’t get his own plate of food?
I find it so rude that she even commented on it.
My husband makes my plate. Has been for years. He even does our toddler’s plate. I’m too busy nursing our infant or everything else 
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I typically make my husband’s plate, then kids, then mine. He’s never asked me to make it I just do it because I want to. Cooking and serving food to my family makes me happy. But not making his plate by no means should be a negative thing. Maybe he wants to make his own plate.
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Well I wouldn’t make his mother a playe that’s for sure
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Tell he you’re gonna have to put her in a home for being a senile MIL. 
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Aslong as he aint talking shit , i think youre overthinking it a bit .
I always make the kids plates and hollar at my husband to make his unless hes busy or did a lot that day then ill make him one and give it to him but he does the same for me im not sayin make that man plate at every meal but once is while is good like a small token of appreciation and if MIL says divorce over it girl id tell her to 'ten her own nitti or me and her would go round and round like fairis wheel js
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I don’t make plates for men they have arms and legs and capable of making their own.
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Some things change over time… Children may not carry on with things that were normally done in their house growing up. Unless I’m making some kind of dinner where I’m running my stove like an assembly line and I need food out of the way to make more … we rarely make plates for EACH OTHER. I hate guessing how much of a different side someone wants or how hungry they are. You shouldn’t have to say anything… Your husband should be the one confronting her and handling it. If she’s so extreme to suggest divorce… Nothing YOU say is going to change her mind and will likely cause more issues with you being the bad guy. Your husband will have to be the one who needs to set her straight… And not just for you but for himself also. Be ready for her to get pissed off, give time for things to cool down, then work on rebuilding the relationship.
If she is so worried about it she can go to your house and make her boy a plate.
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OMG. How old are you & how long have you been married. Is this cultural? Possibly some counseling is in order
Gurl, your husband needs to MAN UP. what year is it?! You are a team. He is fully capable of making his own plate, he wipes his own butt, doesnt he?!? And tell him how you are hurt that hes even discussed this with his mother. We are woman, not slaves and many of us are moms, to our children, not to our husbands.
I never have made my mans their plate I also never been married and everyone tells me your not married cuz you don’t make your men their plates. But I have always been the one leaving them and I don’t want to marry them and they always want me back so family is wrong. Making a dinner plate doesn’t define love. My bf now I don’t make his plate either doesn’t bother him. I have a son and I would be pissed if his women made him a plate. No my son can get off his butt and make his own plate and he can make his wife’s
Hes a grown man he can make his own plate…if her “son” ur husband isnt independent enough to make his own plate maybe she should have taught him better
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First of all it’s not a woman’s job to make a plate! She didn’t marry him to be his mom. Ughhh that stuff bothers me so much! It’s also just as much of the mans job to clean up the house and get the kids plates too. It’s called being an adult.
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If I cook, I make everyone’s plate. If my husband cooks, he makes the plates.
I would be annoyed tho too if I were you. She needs to mind her damn business
She’s petty and jealous of you. She sounds like a miserable bish. He needs to put her in her place or she’ll keep fucki g with you. Either that you’ll have to stand your ground and let her know her opinion means nothing in your marriage. Laugh at what she says and agree with it.
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I would have said your his mother not me if you want his plate made you make it
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That’s toxic and abusive. Absolutely cut them off. He’s a grown man. He can absolutely make his own plate AND take care of the children. Marriage should be a partnership. What you have is practically slavery. Let the man make his own plate! In fact, let him take care of his own children! Take a day off. You deserve it.
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My bf don’t make my plate either but that don’t bother me, I got hands
Cut them off! That’s a sad excuse for your mother in law to say that it’s worth a divorce over making ur man a plate of food is insanity. I really hope u make boundaries now since you found this out keep the negative away. Keep doing what your doing ur a great mom an wife no need for outside opinions when u have kids to care for as well. Mind ur business mom in law.
My husband has back issues and when it acts up he can’t walk so I make his plate, but any other time he makes his own. You need to have a talk with your husband; he should be standing up for you.
She’s clearly living in the past where women did everything for the man. You are not his slave and he is capable of helping himself.
So how does he feel about it?
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Is his hands broken?
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If he wants to eat he will get up an make a plate
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Your husband is a grown ass man. If anything since you are caring for the twins, he should be making your plate. And it seems like mama needs to mind her own business.
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Throw away his plate and him
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He’s a grown man, once in a while its ok but I don’t think its something you HAVE TO DO! He can fix your plate if you’re busy too wtf 
I feel like this is your husbands fault.
EVERYONES inlaws talk shit…Why would he even tell you something so petty? If he told you then he was trying to hurt you.
Think about it…I am sure your mum has dropped a comment about your husband and you didnt run to tell him
I’m a pretty domesticated wife. I know that & I’m okay with it. I always make husband & kids plates.
HOWEVER - if I’m busy or tired, HE makes their plates. Because marriage is a partnership, not ownership.
You have your hands full, and his legs aren’t broken.
MIL is just being hateful. If husband doesn’t have an issue w it, I wouldn’t worry about it. And if husband does have an issue with it, the two of you should have a discussion about it.
He should also tell his mother to mind her own marriage & never disrespect his wife/marriage like that again.
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Lol he’s a grown ass man. Noone needs to wait on him… kids come first and he can fetch his own dinner or go without…
He is a grown man. I think he should fix your plate. Sorry wouldn’t happen at my house.
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Give him back to his mom to finish raising!!
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What kind of backward 17 th century nonsense is this? Men are not infants. If he can’t get his own damn food then he probably shouldn’t be a role model or a parent. I’m not sure what her( mil) malfunction is but sometimes for reasons unknown people can’t be happy and decent unless they are bringing other people down and trying to start issues. You know you aren’t a bad wife don’t let a group of dumb asses let you think you are…
My mom once told me to get up and fix what Is now my ex husband, a cup of coffee. I told her he knew where the kitchen was. She said she didn’t raise me that way. I replied you sure didn’t, I watched you wait on your husband hand and foot and vowed I never would!!
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The only concern here, is your husband. Is he agreeing with them? Did he say it to begin with?
If he defends you & has your back, tell the family to screw off
If he’s in with it… throw the whole thing in the trash and start over
My aunt once mad a comment to me that I needed to make my husband plate. “He works hard, you need to take care of him.”
My husband actually told her to stuff it because I also work hard. I have never been so proud.
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That’s the ridiculous old world thinking bs. I hope he told her where to shove her unwanted opinion. When my husband cooks he makes our plates and when I cook I make them. Everyone does what works for them.
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Haha she’d really hate me. My husband makes my kids plates, mine and his when we are at his parents. If we are at mine I will make the kids plates and his. I feel like it’s a fair trade. I wouldn’t want to go there either
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I fix my husband plate. Not because.i have to.it because i want to .
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Will I would say next time I went o wait go sit down mother in law and I will get your plate and load it up so freaking high that it falling off and if she says anything then I would say will thats why I don’t make my husband’s I give him to much
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Must be a southern thing, always fixed him plate
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Your husband should stick up for you.
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If she’s telling him to divorce you based off not making his plate… there are bigger issues afoot here… she don’t like you… not one bit.
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You are his wife not his mother, we all know men have to grow up sometime
He’s adult and if he can’t get his own plate He’s the one with the problem
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I just feel like this is a discussion between you and your hubby, not you mother in law. Make a plan, invite him to help you cook, get all plates ready so everyone including you can eat together as a family. Also help with clean up. Its a team effort. No one us anyone’s maid, chief, clean up crew. Maybe get your kids involved too so they don’t grow up as your husband thinking its ok to always be served… just because his mom did it. Its not a bad thing, it maybe how she learned but if its not how you learned than create together what you want your family ways to be. Communication is key! Good luck.
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Ha…I told my mother in law…her son’s hands were not broken…and he could pick out his own food…I was the bad wifey…baaaahaaaawaaaaa
I always fix my mans plate. He works hard out of the house to keep a roof over our heads. Least I can do is serve him his dinner.
I make 5 plates at every meal.
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- have them all over for dinner
- make your husband a plate
- chuck the plate at your MIL’s face
- have a glass of wine, laugh at everyone, and tell em to F OFF
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Sometimes at home we will fix each other’s plates but it’s not expected or required. Usually I prefer to fix my own and the same for him.
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I want to know how your husband feels about it? That’s my question.
And I sometimes make my husband’s plate. But that’s if I’m not getting my daughters. We help each other so we can eat together.
Well, first - was she serious? Or joking? If you heard her say it and she was just joking around, then laugh about it too. Tell them he doesn’t want you making his plate cause you’ll throw in some Ex-Lax powder and mix it in or something. lol Now, if she’s being serious - I’d flat out tell her to get up and make it herself since she believes she raised her son to be incapable of it. 
But he should be standing up for you too.
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