I would tell her if he wants someone to fix his plate, you do it. I’m his wife. Not his mommy.
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He’s grown he can walk and use utensils…he’s good. He needs to take up for you. He should tell them that he ain’t no baby anymore!
Times have changed in many ways here in Canada both parents have to work hard to make ends meet .I’m a believer in team work in a relationship a family supports and understanding .that’s old school and reminds my husband hes lucky to have a hot meal or not pick up the phone order or pick up a hot meal . I worked in health care and shift work and tried hard to organize family life . No one ever went hungry and took care of one another and thank God every day for all there help and family support
Sounds like she has mommy issues. Your husband needs to cut the umbilical cord and stand by your side.
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I always make my husband’s plate I’m a full time working mom But when dinner is being made by me I always make sure to make my husband a Plate
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Cut them off. That is ridiculous. He is a grown man get up off your butt and make your own plate. As far as the mother in law I would tell her to mind her business.
My mother in law cMe to visit after 8 years of no contact. My husband catered to me and our kids due to him being on leave for the first time in a long time. I knew and he did as well that " I look bad"… idgf 
I have been with him for 17 years. 17 years of dinners and rearing four kids and one with severe special needs. That lady can say whatever she wants to say about me and it bothers me none. My husband spoils me when he can and it’s super appreciated. Super glad we have always had distance between us and family. My point is… don’t mind her.
Vsrhs so oantzy†111¹
Oh i would make it a point to mention something the next gathering
Hahahahahaha
So. I have some pretty wicked social anxiety. My husband makes my plate at gatherings. And the kids. Your MIL would drop me like a hot potato.
There is always TWO sides to every story. Go live your life and move on!
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His Mother Is from Old school. That S–T don’t jive anymore.
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Not being a bad wife to him. Apparently she wants you to be his mommy and make his plate, and wash his hair, and wipe his butt. Adults fix their own plates.
I used to make everyone’s plate to make sure there was enough to go around. Now i make my grandkids plate and everybody can fix their own darn plate lol. Kids come first up in my house regardless of dad or anybody else. Y’all going to wait.
Why doesn’t he make u a plate? Even tho he works…You cooked the food let him serve it!!!
If he want to eat fix it his self
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With all due respect (and purely my own life) in 45 years of life I have never prepared a plate for anyone other than my children and they are 11 & 13 so it’s even been years for them. Not one of my significant others have even looked at me to grab them one either. To each their own. Keep the peace or tell her to bugger off…
Just because she catered to her husband at all times does not mean all women have to. I make my partners plate sometimes but when I don’t feel like it or I just can’t, I don’t. I’ve had a couple people say things kinda like this to me, including my own mom and grandfather. It wasn’t that long ago that women weren’t even able to file for divorce so a lot of the old ways were done out of fear of what would happen if they didn’t do it. People like this act like they can’t tell that times have changed and it’s for the BETTER! We aren’t slaves, we don’t have to do EVERYTHING (even though a lot of the time we do just to be kind) our partners are with us for a reason and it’s not so we can bring them a plate of food every time they’re hungry.
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Woman like your mother in law are the ones that contribute to teaching boys that turn into men full of toxic masculinity!!!
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Oh hell no. He is a grown ass man who can make his own plate. I deal with the kids and make my own . My husband deals with his. His family seems old fashion and they can get over it.
I’d tell her to do it if she’s so concerned get her to show you how it’s done then she’s done it lol
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That would be a hard no!!
I only serve children. I don’t know how hungry someone is? That’s why they are called ‘seconds’
Wonder what she’d say if your hubby would help getting one of the toddlers’ plates plus his own🤔
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It’s just a matter of different generations and different cultures. As long as he’s not worried about it who care what your mother in law thinks
If he has 2 hands and a heartbeat he can fix his own plate plus a plate for 1of the children.
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I’m with you he’s grown !
I get my kids plates and get this… my partner makes mine !!
Tell her to fix his plate then .
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This is 2021…. This grown ass man can make his own plate snd do other things for you too!
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If this is the whole story, his mother has serious issues. I hope your husband doesn’t feel this way. If he doesn’t, then don’t blame him. 
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My fiance has 4 kids from 16 to 4 Him and I tag team everything including making supper and plates. I serve one thing he serves another the older kids deliver the plates to the table the younger 2 get silverware and napkins and we all sit down together as a family and eat. WTF his mom know about ur life and situations, he as your husband should stick up for you against his family.
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Pfft, he is a grown ass man. You are his wife not his slave. 
You’re doing a great job momma, don’t let stuff like that try to knock you down.
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I would cut them off. Hes a grown ass man and if he cant feed himself time to divorce him. His family is living in the 50’s.
Really that’s stupid. He can make his own plate.
after a event I got my husband his plate he said it wasent full enough and hit me in front of a hall full of people. After 6 kids 29 years work on a farm. I LEFT for good
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Yes cutting her off sounds appropriate!
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I’m sorry, that comment is just asinine! your husband is a grown man, he is perfectly capable of making his own plate of food! It sounds like your mother in law has some deep issues. As long as you guys are making it work together with your young kids, it’s nobody elses businees how you guys function in your relationship!
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I would laugh it off. Don’t stress over drama your inlaws are trying to belittle you with! Kids should always eat first anyways.
Fix his plate next time put I bib on him then start to feed him n see what comments u get then !
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That man needs to put his mother (and family) in their place! They are crossing boundaries by being intrusive and he’s allowing it. What his wife does or doesn’t do is not anyone’s business. I usually make my husband’s plate… because ‘I’ want to, not because I ‘have’ to! Sadly, this Mama’s boy wasn’t taught to be independent. Who’s going to make his plate if he divorces her? Oh, Mama will, and wipe his ass too!
If she expects you to make his plate he would sit in front of an empty plate. Let her fix it for him.
Wow that’s not cool-I offer to make a plate for him sometimes but guys are typically okay and WANT to get their own and make it like they like. My daughter asks to make hers from time to time now. This isn’t the 1940s you sound like you’re an amazing mother and wife
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Its different cultures, if he is latino its a “thing” to make the man’s plate for him, unless he specifically wants to make his own🤷♀️
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Tell his mommy to make his plate,and anything else that boy can’t handle on his own.
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Where the hell is his mother from!? This is 2021! If you want to make him a plate, that’s nice. Just like he can make you a plate while you’re taking care of the twins. It is no ones Job! I hope the apple falls far from the tree here… because she sounds like a whacko who thinks a woman’s job is to serve a man!!
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I fix my hunny’s plate sometimes but if our children are starving & I am too we just dive in. He has no trouble making his own plate but he always thanks me when i do make his. It is a kind gesture but jeez not a marriage breaker… 
I always make our plates up as I’m dishing it out
Well she would have hated me too because as soon as my kids could reach the counter they made their own lunches and once they got into sports and athletics in jr. high they did their own laundry!
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Shit, it’s a turnoff for me when a woman tries to make me a plate. It’s insulting to think she wouldn’t treat me like a grown ass man who’s capable of doing things for myself. I’d appreciate you NOT making me a plate.
Your husband needs to grow a pair, stand up for you, and tell his mother to fuck off and to stay in her swim lane.
I’m in Australia and have never heard if fixing other pols plates except your children’s…good luck with that…
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Buy him a toddler plate, put a bib on him and go to spoon feed him using the aeroplane technique and then tell him he’s a good boy for finishing his food. Lol. That’s only if he agrees with his mother. If not, don’t blame him, tell his mother to come fix his damn plate lol
Has she asked her husband? Do you want to divorce me,? Because I don’t get your plate?
He’s a punk for even telling you that! Like he’s some damn child running to tell what his momma say!
Is there anything preventing him from fixing his own plate? If yes, then ok you should fix his plate but if he’s perfectly capable then what’s the issue
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For some women it is a love language to serve others especially doting on their husband. For women like myself, it’s hard to understand not taking care of him especially since I’ve been afforded the pleasure of being a stay at
home wife and mother of 7.
Not saying that as critical of anyone who doesn’t do it…just saying MIL may be blind to other love languages.
Without anger…talk to her.
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I usually let my man fix his own because I’m usually making my son’s… plus I’m not a “housewife” and he’s a grown ass man and he can do it himself
Its time for the husband to " divorce" HIS mother!
Unless she starts to mind her own marriage and her own business!!!
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I think so honey. So. Sad.
Tell your in-laws the f*** off he’s a grown man get his own plate
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I nevvvvver make my husbands plate at his family’s events
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Next time tell her you don’t make his plate since she breastfeeds him. Does she guide him during sex to? I really hope he stood up for you. Tell her the kids come first and he’s a big boy. if she don’t like it thats on her.
If a man is incapable of making his own plate, than the problem isn’t the wife. It’s the parents who didn’t teach their son, how to make his own plate. The mother inlaw needs to stay in her own lane, and if this is an issue with her, than (by all means) offer her the opportunity to make his plate for him. 
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Make his plate?!? Is she for real? That’s ludicrous. Half the time I don’t even make his dinner, much less put it on a plate for him
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you go girl. I know exactly what you are saying. Be a part of our family ALL the time or not at all. we are not here for your convenience only. We are dealing with the same thing here.
The only man’s plate I will fix is my dad’s. And he says he can do it himself that he doesn’t need anyone to fix it for him. If your man expects you to fix his plate let him know he is grown and can do it himself. Since his mom seems more upset than him tell her to mind her own business
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Tell his mother when he likes your vagina better then mine ill make his plate until then fuck off
Your M-I-L needs to be told to stop coddling her son. He is a grown man and he should be helping you with your twins, fixing their plates, giving baths and so on. Tell your husband to man up and tell his mom to STOP!!
This isn’t even a real debate. Make his plate? What? This isn’t 1902 for goodness sake.
Tell his mom if she’s that worried about it, she could make his plate 
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That’s dumb. I make dinner and my husband makes plates. You have a monster in law.
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We’re both adults, we get our own plates. We show caring for each other in other ways.
Not this girl either KM
How does your husband feel about this! No, my husband does not expect me to make him plate, it doesn’t matter where we r!! I know some cultures expect it, but not this household. We respect each other!
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Well she shouldn’t be his mom because she’s a bad mom for not making his plate. He is her CHILD after all. With that logic throw the whole MIL away
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I don’t make my husband his plate ever…he’s a grown ass man and can make his own. I do everything else in the fucking house, I’m not catering him too!!! Your mil needs to back TF off and your husband needs to grow a set and tell her so!!!
Don’t sweat the small stuff. I’d lol at this.
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Oh my if that’s cause for a divorce I don’t know what this world has come to
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Tell his momma to make his plate you are taking care of your kids
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he should laugh at this too !!
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Your husband is no longer a child. MIL can shut tf up
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Your doing your children’s plate tell her to do her child’s plate lol, don’t go to these dinners stay home with your kids, give them some thing else to talk about
Any time I can get the opportunity to make my husband’s plate I do it along with making my three kids plates first. I don’t think that it should be mandatory or a requirement to make his plate. It’s a sign of respect in my opinion as my husband is our main provider. I know this will get many backlash reviews so be it everyone opinion is different.
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His family is being super extra for no reason.
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Big boys can make their own!
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I think it’s time for hubby to step up and check his mom about this. If he’s happy with what your doing as a wife that’s all that matters. After all you can do way more things for him that she can’t !!! It’s none of her business.
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Tbh depends on the situation . If it is a buffet style dinner , he can get his plate. I won’t know what he might be wanting. Two, if I am with kiddos… He has hands to do it himself. But if he is watching the babies, I ofcourse will get his plate and the kids’. ( Just a note: my husband goes above and beyond for his babies…in public and in the privacy of our home)
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dishing out food for pple is not good in our trad ways. its said that u r stingy of ur food n giving them only a certain amount. pple take what they want n how much they want…
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Ha that’s funny because I don’t fix my husband’s plate everyday now if I wanna save the food early and he’s not home and I’m in the mood then I will but I don’t and neither did his momma Amy Hebert
My husband told me which was good because being the mother of six when I fixed plate number seven he said he knew how much and what he wanted but I never needed to fix my man’s plate to prove anything to anyone that included mamas sister aunts I only wanted one person in the family is.
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Family should mind their own BUSINESS
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He should be a man and stick up for his wife
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Ummm first of all they need to mind there own business. And secondly, if you don’t make his plate so what?!? He’s grown, he can make his own plate. My fiancé doesn’t like me making his plate. I like to do it because it’s what my grandma and mom did but he says he can do it.
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What was your husband’s reaction? That’s all that truly matters. Then your husband needs to stand up for you and tell them to mind their business
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She should make his plate then
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I agree that hubby needs to step up and remind his momma that how y’all handle your relationship roles, who does what, how, when, what parent does what part etc is only your business. I also have 2 toddlers 2 and 4 and I’m a sahm. My husband works hard all week. My job is hard also though. I work my butt off everyday taking care of the kids, the house the cleaning, the cooking, the laundry and every other little thing in between. I even handle most of the budget and pay most of the bills for us bc he works so much beyond “normal” business hours. With this being said, I do still make his plate every chance I get. Obviously our children come first but I like to serve him (and no I don’t feel obligated or like I’m less than when I say serve) I just like to do what I can for him when I can to show him that I appreciate how hard he works and etc. He has never been the walk in the door and done type of dad/husband. Although I like for him to relax as much as possible in the evening after work, he pitches in literally anywhere I need it or anything that he sees needs done. And for that I appreciate him even more and try to do things for him like make his plate just as a token ya know. That’s just us though and wether anyone else does or doesn’t do this, doesn’t make their relationship better or worse. I know this isn’t the 50s anymore and I know I’m also not June Cleaver by any means, but a little goes a long way I feel like. His family should really mind their own business or if his mother is so worried about someone making his plate at the family dinners than maybe she should do it while you are making sure to feed your children… ok kidding, really he just needs to nicely let her know that he’s not going anywhere and that your marriage is working how y’all are happy with and she needs to step off, ya know in a non hateful kind of way lol my husbands mother was wowed when she saw me make his plate bc she said it showed her how much I respect and care for him, however is it required or necessary absolutely not. Just a nice gesture from time to time or not at all, that’s for each couple to decide on their own. I feel like there are so many other big things in life to be bothered by and more important things that a mother should hope for her sons marriage than to judge on this. I would just hope she’s a good mother to my grandchildren and loves my son with her whole heart! But hey again, this is just my opinion and as we all know, we all have one 
Tell him to move BACK HOME😎
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This is the funniest shit
I would like to know what your husband says about this. Did he stick up for you when his mom said that? Did he put her in her place or agree with her?
I make my husbands plate 95% of the time, but it’s just how our relationship is. When we are at get togethers I DO NOT make his plate because I don’t know what all he will want in his plate.
I hope your husband told her to shut her mouth about his wife.
Mama needs a bitch slap
That’s horrible. I hope he stuck up for you??
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I make my husband’s plate and at times he makes mine. It’s a give and take. He also cooks for me sometimes and cleans the kitchen.
I did my time though.
When we were younger our business was in our home. I worked the office and he was a hardwood contractor. He worked hard at a very physical job and came home to a cooked meal, a full dinner plate and didn’t have to wash a single dish. I was glad to do it.
Now that we’re semi retired, he treats me to his kitchen prowess… often:wink:
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