Oh lord. Some families grow up in certain ways. Different cultures. Different ways of doing things. But this is not how I do things and if it’s not your way then it’s not your way!
I would tell her the bit to come around if she cant respect you. Period!
Tell her to make it or she can take care of the kids. Grown ass man can make his own plate or he could make the kids. I compromise but screw the bullshit.
Tell his mom to go fuck herself🤷♀️
Maybe just do it once in awhile but that’s not his mother’s business
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If he says something that’s different
She is just living in the past the new generation is different
You have the in laws from hell
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Cut them out. Husband should get his own plate.
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He is a grown ass man! If you are tending to kids and getting their plates, you don’t need to get his too. In my opinion, HE can help YOU gets the kids plates and get them all ready to eat then y’all can go get your plates together. Smh
Id divorce him and his toxic family TBH. LOL were in the 20th century not the 1900s.
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Coming from a guy, I would not expect a wife to make the plate unless there was a reason including but not limited to he was dealing with something like changing a diaper, fixing the kids plate, helping another family member, or is handicapped. After all, every relationship is a partnership. His mother should have raised a better man,one that respects his partner. After all, this isn’t the 50s. If his mother expects her son waited on, then let her treat him like a little kid and let her do the fixing. I’d definitely be cutting off the family unless they change their ways.
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I can’t even imagine anyone expecting me to do that! LOL!
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I’d make him make you a plate in front of her next time. Lol
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Damn he has 2 hands 2 arms and 2 legs and a damn working heartbeat he can make his damn own I fix my kids dinner
I make my mans plate BUT he sits at the table cutting up our daughters food while I’m making ours. 
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I make my husbands, and both my brothers. 
habit. Lol but it shouldn’t be expected and it is none of
His mother’s business. Is anyone there helping you with the babies… doubt it. It’s not easy with two toddlers.
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Does he have hands? He can make his own plate 
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Well then I need locking up mine must be malnourished at this stage 
if hes hungry maybe she should whip out the titty
Fuck his family !!! If he feels that way FUCK HIM TOO!! Y’all don’t be letting men treat y’all this way!!!
Marriage is hard. The family that comes with a marriage is harder. Misunderstandings and poor judgments happen. Just remind yourself this, is it worth ending your marriage because his mom wishes u made his plate? Is it worth ending because she was in a pissy mood and said she wishes he would divorce you? Is it worth shunning her and putting that stress on him? …I think you know the answer. I would laugh it off and say well good thing he’s the one married to me not you. If ur husband doesn’t have an issue with whT u do or don’t do then dont worry about anyone else’s opinion on your marriage. Somethings Rent worth stressing over, gotta let the small shit go
I do it all of time. He does the same for me. I don’t understand.
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Oh hell no… No no no. Just NO. I literally just dont know what to say but good luck with that life.
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I make my kids plates and my husband usually has me go ahead and make my plate or he makes it for me and then makes his plate. If I’m cooking and everything needs to come off the stove he will jump on in and either serve up the plates or I serve them up while he’s pulling everything. He cooks 90% of the time too (I swear he can make anything taste better than mine). Let your MIL know.
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We make the younger kids plates then let the older ones make there’s then we make our own some time I make his sometimes he makes mine. And sometimes when we are both tired the oldest kid makes our plate after he makes his.
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My man makes me a plate at every event. If his moms so worried about her perfectly capable GROWN sons plate being made , she can make it. 
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Tell her to make it if she thinks he’s still a child:upside_down_face:
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If he has arms and legs, he can make his own plate. I only make my husbands if he is busy with the kids, and vice versa.
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My boyfriend does his own
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The only way I’m making any mans plate is if his arms/legs don’t work, or there is some other legitimate reason. I help my kids fix their plates and then I get my own. He gets his own. I work a ton more and pay 98% of the bills, I’m not fixing any mans plate, he can fix mine
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It’s her child, tell her to make it 
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I will if my husband asks me to for whatever reason but he never expects to do this. And his family hates me enough to find something else to bitch about anyway.
Kids eat before lazy husband.In laws may want to be servants,that’s the choice they make for themselves
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He should be helping make kids plates. This is 2021. Tell them to get with the times. Men are not helplessness women are not slaves.
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Hes a damn grown man make your own damn plate…
That’s HER son. Not YOUR son, you do enough! He’s a grown man who can get it himself if he’s really hungry. Clearly his mom didn’t raise him the right way
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Tell her you need to chat thst there’s something bothering you…
Then tell her she isn’t doing her job as a mother by not serving his plate… lol I thought mine were crazy but this is the craziest thing I’ve heard about in-laws for a while 
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He needs to be making you a plate
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F all that noise. He’s a grown a$$ man & MIL sounds toxic af🤢
Slavery was never acceptable!!
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Does your husband feel this way or just his mom who misses having a baby to take care of. My husband is a grown man, my kid is 12, sometimes I make his plate and sometimes I don’t. We work full time jobs and make attempts to split the load. If he’s not complaining he needs to hush his mom. If he is complaining then his mom can make his plate, clean his clothing, and do whatever she feels he is missing out on. She needs a hobby so it seems
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We both make one child’s plate each or he does both sometimes 
and then we get our own ourselfs ,he’s a grown man well able to do it himself
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Send him home to mama
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If she raised a grown ass man that can’t make his own plate of food, then that’s on her. 
Cut them off they sound like total losers. Hes a grown ass man he can get his own dam plate.
It sounds like they’re too hard to please and you’ll never please them you were doing it right my husband always fixes my plate and I appreciate it
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Only reason would be if he had no legs or arms otherwise feed himself
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Nope o don’t make my husbands plate unless he has a broken limb or something and can’t physically get up to get it himself. I’m not his mommy he has one of those. I don’t serve my teenager either those days are done lol
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Your his wife… NOT his maid…. Mother in law is …… loca!!!
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Maybe you should leave.
If he isn’t sticking up for you then they are going to continue.
These things happen because it’s allowed.
I wish people would hook into abuse, neglect and all the truly bad things people do but instead they pile onto the soft target, mum’s not doing things like this as if that’s the reason for the rest.
Because they WANT to find flaws
They can’t find anything else so they magnify the petty.
If he doesn’t stand up then be aware he could be agreeing.
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You should just tell his mother to shut up he is a grown man and you are not his mother why would she even say such a rude thing. Stick to your guns. Tell him to silence his mother.
What the heck! That’s so stupid!!! Mom needs to mind her own business, don’t ya think!!!
Chivalry is dead I say. …it’s dead …you no longer have to serve your husband’s …he can make his own plate and women can open their own doors…
Wait …
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I serve my husband right after our 5 kids. Every day and every meal he is home for. Out of respect, I am a stay at home mom and I appreciate him working his butt off everyday to provide for us. My man deserves it.
Not something to divorce over but you should ask him how he feels about it.
I am 78 yo and always made hubby,s plate when he was tired and I was not working at an out of home job. Also he was diabetic and I took care of portion control.
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He can make his own damn plate and his mother should shut the hell up!
WTF! He’s a FUCKING grown ass MAN& obviously fully capable of fixing his own damn plate! Is he GOING to take care of the twins while you are fixing his plate???
Is she Hispanic? Samantha Soliz
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THAT is NOT PART of the job description
A part from marrying a good partner pray that you marry in a good family, people are suffering coz of these dysfunctional families.
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I think you need to start with, did he agree?
And go from there, family talks shit
That’s kinda crappy. Now I work a full time job and a part time job, and still do the majority of the household chores. I cook dinner every night and I make my BFs plate each night.
But I also dont have small children any longer, and I’m a bit old school.
Your DH needs to stick up for you with his family or I’d be telling them where they could stick their opinions.
Dude, the next time I ate at a family gathering, I’d be asking him to make me a plate…in front of all of them.
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I could care less what is between someone’s legs or their relationship to me. Unless their elderly, sick or physically can’t do it themselves then they’re on their own
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These MIL are ridiculous…She could be serving the twins while you serve hubby…SHE can also feed the twins while YOU eat a HOT meal cuz Lord knows Mommas barely get to eat a hot meal…
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Oh lord gotta love monster in laws. You’re not his maid my man would make my plate for me at bbqs so i mean it’s not like you owe that
He should be making your plate while you are getting the little ones
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Tell them mind there own business…
They dont live in ur home to see how much work u have to do in ur own home…
He is a grown man an he can help himself …
U are not his babysitter !!!
He can more than help u out by making his plate
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Make your own f’ing samich…lol
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Tell her to mind her own business and your husband should do the same if not you should seriously consider an alternative he is a grown man and should stand up to his mother and tell her to butt out
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Shit she can make his plate for him 
Whew I’m glad my MIL is not like this. She’s a rarity. A MIL that actually minds her own damn business. We are really cool. Women like this one cracks me up. She’s the type that probably catered to her husband’s every whim and he was still banging a chick in the neighborhood. 
Sheesh!!! No, you’re not a bad wife because you don’t make his plate. What worls are these people living in? This is absurd.
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That’s insane he is a grown man.
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You’re not a bad wife but definitely terribly outdated expectations. I’d have a sit down with my husband and see if that is seriously something important to him. Mine knows exactly how important it is for me to have an equal partnership with a fully capable adult - he can help himself when I cook, I can help myself when he cooks and whoever’s available feeds the short people regularly. Forget the in-laws but definitely define your expectations for each other so there’s no guess work. Good luck.
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Your definitely not a bad wife he is a grown ass man and is well capable of doing his own and if his mother is so concerned tell her to make him a plate up herself like after all he come out of her not you lol it’s not your job to do everything especially at his family’s get together, they should be doing you a plate 
, they clearly have no respect for you
Ridiculous! Does he need his diapers changed too!
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Good sign if mother in law doesn’t like you. Usually if momma likes you he won’t long.
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If your husband isn’t capable to making his own plate then maybe he shouldn’t be married but should move back in with Mommy so she can wipe his butt too!!! Lol!
People can be so stupid and judgmental. Speak up for yourself next time and let it be known that you treat your husband like the man his is! You’ve got twins to make plates for and handle; if they can see/respect that then they need a life.
Only reason they are able to talk shit to him about his own wife is bc he is entertaining it. He should have shut it down the first time, but I’m sure its a common convo and they think it’s okay by now bc he is right there uh-huhing everything they say. I would be more pissed about that than whatever the MiL thinks.
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He’s a grown ass man & you have kids you’re tending to. He can make his own plate. My hubby has never expected that & we only have one child.
Children get served first, he’s an adult and also their parent, be strong and carry on!
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O hell No!! Divorce, it would be, and i would be filing it myself!!
He needs to grow a pair
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Girl no. He’s grown. They can ef off
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I had one of those husbands that expected me to make his plate! Divorced that one! Now I have a real man!
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They the mom and family need to mind their own business! And your husband needs to speak up for you!
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That’s totally ridiculous! Omgosh he is a grown man, not a 2 year old!!FIX YOUR OWN PLATE!!
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Girl no. He can fix his own plate. And she can get over it. 
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Whata heck?! They’re really overstepping and I hope he defended you.
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Sometimes I don’t make my husband’s lunch when we first starting to living together didn’t even bother to make it then 
Wtf it ain’t 1920’s no more. I tell my kids you have arms n legs go make your plate. Be grateful for what u have. Better Tell mama come make her son a plate or he gonna starve lol
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I help my kids with their plates(we have bigger kids ages 9-15) then I make the hubby’s only cause he works hard for us. He gets up and helps and gets more
That’s some toxic bolagna right there. He’s clearly a grown ass man. If he still needs some one making his plate it should be his momma 
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husbands mom told him he should divorce me because I do not make his plate: Thoughts?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husbands mom told him he should divorce me because I do not make his plate: Thoughts?
Nope like you said his a grown ass man he get it himself. He should appreciate what you do and offer to help it you
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Oh wow that’s very old fashioned I’d divorced my Husband if he expected that of me especially with 2 kids at home. I’d of lost my head over that completely. That has shocked me so much. I don’t think your in the wrong at all like you said he’s a grown man and you have children he can make his own plate. Your not his Mother your his Wife.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husbands mom told him he should divorce me because I do not make his plate: Thoughts?
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Have a conversation with your husband. He needs to tell his mom to mind her business. I have a feeling it’s more conversation going on about you when you are not around and your husband isn’t defending you. That’s why she’s comfortable enough to keep minding your marital business. If it was me, " husband, check your mother about the disrespect or I will."
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