Then they sent your kid home with a cigarette burn on their face
What would you do?
They refuse to even admit that it happened in their house, but it OBVIOUSLY DID. So they’re questioned about it and they run inside your house to try and physically attack you with the same child in your lap.
Now imagine that person is your boyfriends mother. How would you expect him to deal with it? Because mine sat and messaged his mother that he was done with me and agreed with her calling me a psycho and manipulative.
I literally wasn’t even the one who asked about the burn. He was. And she ran into our house to try to attack me. Then went next door to my aunt and uncles house (we met because I lived with my aunt and uncle so we were neighbors) and told them they shouldn’t let me come over there because I’m a “psycho manipulator”. Then she stood in front of our truck while we were trying to leave screaming “get her the fuck out of here” but not letting us drive away.
When I asked my boyfriend about the messages between him and his mom, he kept telling me he was just trying to make her feel better because “she’s gonna feel bad enough when she realizes what she did”
How do I deal with this situation? He quit talking to her for a few weeks so she started calling people in his family talking about how she wants to kill herself because I took her son away
And he runs over and baby’s her every single time
How do I deal with this when I’m pregnant with his first baby and he wants to come to all the appointments and he wants to take the baby to see his mom as soon as its born??? He made the excuse that “she thinks she might have drank too much and blacked out because she doesn’t remember burning him” like that makes it any better
I don’t want this woman around either of my children and I don’t know how to get him to see that she isn’t a safe person
You should have called the police as soon as you seen a burn on your child’s face. It’s apparent the woman needs some mental health help, but you need to stand up for your children. The authorities should have been involved immediately
Put your kid first. Tell your boyfriend that his mom literally abused your child and is no longer allowed to be around her, period. Honestly, this whole family sounds toxic af. Put yours kids first and leave him if you have to.
Also, I agree that you should have reported this asap.
I personally would of called the police immediately if my kid would of came home with a cigarette burn on their face. Then i would of pressed charges for her trying to attack you. They both sound toxic as hell.
I would report the incident to police and ask for a restraining order for your own & kids safety. Who knows what she is capable of doing when your baby is born.
Umm. No. My child would never be allowed around the people it happened with, again, especially alone. That stuff isn’t accidental and of it was then they should be able to say that. I smoke and my toddlers would occasionally run by and hit my cigarette playing around outside (I smoke outside). But there was never any mark really and especially not on the face! If your bf is defending the mom, then I would also question the child being around him alone also bc he may allow it to happen again. Sorry this happened . Hugs .
I would’ve called the police right away, But I’m sure you can still make a report for both the burn and the assault. Have a chat with your hubby & tell him you’re not allowing your child to go their anymore and if need be file an injunction/restraining order against her for you and your child
Get rid of him and her . He’s choosing her feelings and side over your child’s !! Wake up and file a police report that family sounds crazy and do it before your baby is born
As an ex smoker, I will say that it takes just a second to catch a kid with a cigarette. I will admit. I’ve burned mine a couple times. Accidents do happen. I owned up to it. As for everything else. Make a police report. Drinking too much isn’t an excuse. It’s not going to get better until you put your foot down and place your boundaries.
Report the burn and the attack to the police. Get a restraining order to keep her away from you and your children. Leave your boyfriend, he is enabling his mothers toxic and abusive behavior. Go stay with your family/friends and do not give him or any of his family your address. Good luck!
It could have been an accident. I smoke and I have accidentally had a kid run into my cig before. When i was a kid my step dad flipped one out the window in car and it came back in and stuck to my leg . Sorry but only heard one side of the story. When ppl get acused of child abuse they tend to overreact.
I would have taken pictures, pressed. Charges and got a restraining order period. And had her investigated and let her tell the law that. Hahaha. What the fuck. And leave him like you will find someone else. Period.
You should have filed a police report that day. That is way to crazy. I lived that kind of crazy shit. They will try and take custody of your newborn and say you’re unfit. Get out of that situation before you have your baby. He makes excuses like that for his mother. There is no way in hell she would ever be allowed near my kids again.
No no if she wants to see the baby she needs to apologize and tell her since she drinks too much and burns children she will have to be supervised closely. If he doesn’t like it tell him to go home to Mommy.
So the child is not even her grandchild or even her step grandkid yet? Girl they ain’t no way I’d let a complete stranger watch my child. Sure it’s negligence on her part but why? I’m extremely picky on who my children are around & no one is to babysit them but their grandparents. Sorry you’re going through this but dang. Don’t let either of them children around that woman again.
If someone did this to any of my children. I wouldn’t even think twice of leaving him. And that lady would have already gotten a police report. Kids come first before anyone, we are their protectors!!
I’d leave him, if he’s willing to put ur kids in harms way then he’s not worth ur time and I’d get a ppo against his mother and have it documented about the burn so the courts don’t allow her around ur children
Immediately call the police and CPS. That is physical abuse. And that person needs to be arrested. Leave the BF now! He’s abusive too! Get now before they kill you or your children.
Damn this is such a tough situation because if you leave that man you will end up having to let him have visitations/overnight visits and you know how mother will also see the child how scary I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this
I smoke. I have grandkids that have brushed against my cigarette. It does not leave a burn…maybe a red mark.
To leave a burn sounds deliberate to me and id report it to the police as she’s denying it happened .
Make sure your children are not left unsupervised with them…court if need be
For one my kid wouldn’t be returning there. 2. NO man is worth your child’s well-being and safety and it shouldn’t even be a question! 3. This person needs to be held accountable for what they did. Take photos.
I smoke and my kids have run into my cigarette before it doesn’t leave a burn unless just a small red mark if it was noticeably a burn mark it was held there for a good amount of time
The second she came into my house and tried to attack me or my child I would have whooped her ass then called the cops . I’d also be kicking my boyfriend out for condoning her behavior.
What is wrong with you!!! OBVIOUSLY CALL COPS AND CPS or I fckin hope someone does!!! Omggg wth is wrong with you!!! What kind of mother just leaves it be just cause that’s your bfs mom. That’s fckin child abused.
To leave a burn, you gotta hold it there. If they just brush past it, it would leave a mark but more like a scratch.
The fact she’s drinking when babysitting is a big red flag anyway but to get THAT drunk…
I smoke n couple of tomes my grand kids have ran up to me n brushed it against them but nvr burned them jus had to brush off ashes of them but this sounds like it was deliberately done to ur child …report her she soundslike a violent person!!
Honestly report both incidents to police and get a restranting order against her to protect your kiddos. Leave him and get a parenting plan when baby is born as he’s chosen his mum who’s abused you and your child.
Sounds intentional to me. She doesnt like you so she hurt your child, not her sons child. You just leaving done nothing, stand up for your defenseless baby and be his voice. Itll get worse when the baby is born being her sons bio if shes already doing awful things and your oldest will pick up on the favoritism. But had it been me id be in jail right beside her for beating the brakes off her child abus*ng ass. Sounds like you need to find a backbone…
I’m trying so hard not to be rude here but what the hell is wrong with you? I’ll be damned if my child came home with a cigarette burn call the fu**kn police and dump that excuse of a boyfriend still attached to his mother’s umbilical cord apparently. I just know I wouldn’t be here asking Facebook for advice I would posing for my mugshot. Wtf is wrong with these stupid females.
Put you and your kids first ! Leave until he can put the kids first as well . That woman would never see the kids again EVER. You will all need counseling as well
You should’ve immediately brought your son to the police station & filed a police report. You need to get out of that situation & save your kids many years of therapy. I just realized how lucky I am, my husbands Mom would’ve been a great Grandma (she passed away when he was a kid) & his step mom has class. I wouldn’t deal with this crap, you need to raise your standards. For your kids & for yourself. This is just gross. Also, do not add his name to your child’s birth certificate.
1 the police would’ve been called as soon as the child came home with a cigarette burn on his face and she acted an ass. 2 if this is how him and his mother is gonna act about a child not even part of their family, its only gonna be worse when y’all baby comes. I would get out and run as far and as fast as I could. Ain’t no man worth the safety and well being of your child or your self. Ill pray for you to have strength and peace of mind for you and your family.
He wouldn’t have to deal with anything. You burn my baby and then run up on me while I’m holding the same baby? I’m laying your a$$ out period. Try Jesus, not me.
I would be in jail if this happened to my baby because of what I would’ve done in this situation.
Hell fucking no. This woman just HURT your baby. She BURNED your baby. And on top of that she was blacked out drunk watching your baby?!?!?
Your boyfriend is absolute trash for not defending you and your baby. And she tried to attack you WHILE YOURE PREGNANT?
Call the cops on her. Charge her. Document everything. Leave your boyfriend. I promise you this is going to get a million times worse when there’s a baby born that’s blood related to her.
Please protect your kids at all costs. Your children come before everything and anything. NEITHER your boyfriend or mom should be around your children if he thinks this is acceptable behavior. Please leave immediately.
Sounds like what im going through with my MIL except my husband is completely 100% beside me and now his mom and dad are done with him and don’t ever come back we dont care if we see the baby blah blah blah… Now they’re even more mad because we havnt brung their grandbaby over and keeping baby from them whateverrrrr lmaoo
I dealt with the same. Toxic toxic family. Cut the ties and make your children safe and happy. Safe most importantly.
No one should behave this way let alone to a child.
Call the police on this woman and report her to child protective services in your respective state. Get a restraining order to keep her away from you and your child. I also would not allow your current boyfriend to be listed on your child’s birth certificate once the child is born and I would seek appropriate legal advice where you live to see if you are presumptively entitled to sole physical and legal custody of your unborn child if the father is not listed on the birth certificate, as well as any other rights you may have. Most importantly, keep yourself and your babies safe.
. Hugs 
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If your boyfriend loves you he will agreed to move away from her 
they sound super trashy… don’t associate yourself with people like that just get them all out of you life… including the “boyfriend “
REPORT 
. I’d also be kicking my boyfriend out for condoning her behavior.
report it to the police and never let her near your children again. Seriously
whateverrrrr lmaoo