- pay your mom 2) grow up.
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If you work fulltime and need fulltime childcare that comes at a cost. Regardless of if itâs your mother or a daycare. Nothing in life is free baby I pay about 200/week
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Stop taking advantage of your mom, this is your child. Take responsibility and do what every responsible parent does pay for the services! 20- 40 bucks WTH who can live off that and Stop airing out her business for sympathy shame on you!
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Pay your mom! Quit being cheap
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I wish I had a mom that would babysit for 40 a week geeze
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My mom charged me 20 a shiftâŚ100-200 Week. Your blessed. Yes u should work around her schedule cause u ainât getting a sitter no cheaper
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You are completely taking advantage of you mother. I own a childcare facility. Itâs EXPENSIVE! And one kid or 14 kids itâs her time! Plus the love and time with her grandma you child is getting is priceless! You wouldnât be able to work if it wasnât for her! Before I did daycare my mother watched my daughter. She didnât ask for pay but I paid her! I donât think you are even truly covering you mothers gas! I would be upset too! Just because she is your mom doenst mean she owes you watching your kid on her free time! You need to pay her!! Sorry but thatâs crazy to me! You sound insanely entitled and mean.
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Iâd pay your mum more for child care then. 1) because it would still be cheaper than daycare. 2) if sheâs getting more money for caring for your child then it my stop you feeling like you need to help her in other ways with money because sheâs getting more of an income for the child care.
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Dont rely on her as a babysitter
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Sounds like shes toxic and youâre not ready to admit it. 
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Find a real babysitter.
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Not sure where you live but you could look into some daycare assistance if you qualify to help with the cost. It sounds like having your mom watch your child is already causing some drama so I wouldnât be too worried about there being drama if you choose daycare. She may be upset and some things may be said but if in the long run you get more peace and your child is well cared for in a good daycare then I would say it would have been worth it. Sometimes family help isnât always the best.
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Iâm shocked that your mom would charge you to watch her grandchildren. Is that a thing?
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Just because sheâs your mom doesnât make her free daycare she has her own life
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Ur only choices are to find someone else to watch ur child or to stand up to her & tell her how u feel etc pick ur poison 
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Itâs possible you might have a better relationship with your mother if you find alternative daycare. It is appropriate that your mother expects payment, however guilting you for spending money on your own family is not okay. Having healthy boundaries will only be beneficial for you both. Allow your mother to be a grandmother without all of the pressures of "babysitting.
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I have mixed feelings. A grandma is not just a free babysitter. I work around my mom schedule to work. Her job was to take care of me, not my kids - thatâs my job. However, she shouldnât guilt trip you for not buying her things or spending your money as you please. To keep your sanity id find a daycare.
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Good daycares are out there. And they sound like a more dependable choice rather than your mom even if more expensive.
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My book of law. What kind of care and treatment is anyone providing for that amount? I would look into reputable daycares, find as many references, that will take good care of your daughter and take a load of stress + worries off you and your significant other.
Itâs great that grandparents are available to babysit from time to time, however when it is day after day she should get paid for the job.
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I do have to say this⌠just because someone is related to you does not mean they are free babysitters. Occasionally yes for a night out. But when someone spends 40 plus hours a week with a child that isnât their child, then yes they need to be compensated for that time, because then it becomes a full time job.
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Get a different baby sitter.
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If your mom is watching your child for free, (youâre literally paying for gas which doesnât leave her any money) for 30-40 hours I donât see why working around her trip and appointments would be an issue. You could always work the opposite shift as your boyfriend and eliminate the need for a babysitter. You could pay someone $10-15 an hour to be at your home with your child. You could look into daycare.
Honestly it doesnât sound like an issue with your mother.
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First, be honest with her. Tell her your concerns and why you prefer her to watch her. Ask her if sheâs willing to be more flexible with your schedules. Second, look into daycares or a local nanny/SAHM that babysits out of her home. (Start with friends who have kids and ask for recommendations. Itâs good to have options and an emergency sitter in case Mom is sick or something unavoidable comes up.)
Youâre going to have to come to a compromise with Mom if you want her to continue babysitting but if you keep things going the way you are with such unresolved concerns and frustrations, youâll start to resent her which wonât be good for your relationship. She also needs to understand that you donât feel she earns extra rewards for babysitting. Especially since sheâs being paid. (A regular babysitter wouldnât expect that. It would be unprofessional.) Donât let her take advantage of you just because sheâs Mom and babysits.
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I would try to find a different daycare alternative. My mother watches my daughters while I go to school and work, but I do know that not everyone has that ability. But if my mother was constantly asking me for money? Nope, I deserve to spend money on myself and my kids. She needs to straighten herself out
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Either find childcare, or pay her. You wouldnât want to work for free
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Totally childish, you have no right to expect basically free daycareâŚ
Talk about entitledâŚ
You should shut up forever
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I worked for a year & had family watching my child. I finally put him into daycare. The way I seen it is the family I had watching him loved him and wanted the best for him, but itâs also not their responsibility to take on that role. They have their own lives and freedom they could be doing. Be grateful you have someone thatâs willing to watch your children. But also keep in mind your mom raIsed her kids and has just got her freedom back. Doesnât matter if sheâs working or not. Your children are your responsibility and no one elseâs regardless of grandparents or not.
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She has the right to live her life on her schedule. Thatâs her grandchild. Not her childâŚ
Sounds like she baby sits often/regularly so it sounds a little selfish of you to expect her to not have her own life⌠Her child is an adult now.
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When you find out how much day care costs you might consider paying her more.
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Find a different babysitter. Itâs going to be rough and cause friction, but it sounds like itâs needed to put some boundaries in place. I understand that she may not want to be expected to babysit, and may want to be compensated because she canât realistically get a job if sheâs taking care of her grandchild every day. Thatâs understandable. But sheâs also milking it. Does she actually want to watch your daughter? It sounds like she may be looking for you to give her a way out of it though.
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Can you apply for childcare assistance? Maybe your mom could get registered so she would be paid gor babysitting?
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I spent 9 years working an opposite shift as my hsuband so that we didnât need to depend on anyone else to watch my kid. Your mon is watching her for almost nothing, you can work around her schedule or find someone else.
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Resect your Mama. Additionally why put her private info on here.
She should see this and give ya one week to find child care. SighâŚ
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Sounds like you are taking advantage of your mom.
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Find a daycare or pay the lady
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your mother wants to be paid to watch her granddaughter?? yuck!
paying for her gas in enough, especially if she babysits in your house with all bubs supplies 
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Be thankful sheâs available and willing to help. Yes pay the woman. $20-$40/week is a steal.
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I only used daycare 1 or 2x. I found SAHM who worked with me and I paid them what I could afford. Its because of that I never disrespected a woman on her choice to work or stay home.
I had to because I received no child support and lacked family who would help. And if family did, it was a short amount of time.
Count your blessings, nothing in life is easy. Especially with children and grandparent babysitters. If day care is not an option then maybe you just needed to vent. Maybe look into someone as a back up for the days she is unavailable. Only you and your spouse can determine whatâs best for your family. I wish you the best.
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I would set a rate that you pay your mom every week. Say $200 a week. That way your mom gets money for her services and itâs still WAY cheaper than any daycare would be. At least your mom would feel appreciated and you know your child is being well taken care of
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Ur mother raised her kids⌠Itâs not her responsability. Try paying a day care an working around their hours⌠U might think different !
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I baby sit my grandson for free âŚ
Find you a babysitter then you will appreciate your mom babysitting sheâs grandma not babysitter she also has a life as well
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In my area the program is called "Choices ". If she can get registered through a state program she could get paid without any money coming out of your pocket. If youâd qualify that is.
U sound ridiculous, that is YOUR BABY, u got the pleasure of making it not your momâŚso yes, u need to work around her schedule or find some other source to watch yo babyâŚthe audacity is realđ
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Stfu and let your mom live her life and give her that 40$ when she babysit 
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Sheâs joking yâall, thatâs the only reason for this nonsense post 
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My mom watched my son 2 days a week and I had a sitter for the other 3. My mom made it clear she has her own life and didnât have time to be a full time sitter. A date night a couple times a month is expected for a grandma but not full time care.
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I think what she is asking is a very low amount. I donât know the whole situation, but she sounds kind of reasonable.
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$20-40 a week? Your looking at more a day for childcare, nevermind gas would be around that for the 10 min drive there and back everyday. I wouldnât be complaining. Sheâs making the drive, and really not asking much in return. Sheâs your mother⌠sheâs the best person youâll have for childcare, it doesnât sound like sheâs asking much at all. She has her own appointments and a life, if you want a childcare provider, youâll be paying the price for one. Not to come off as rude, but I think you need to be a bit more appreciative.
Iâd gladly pay a family member to watch my son.
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I donât charge my daughter to spend time with my grandbaby
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My mom keeps my son during the day Monday-Friday while I work and I pay her like I would pay a local daycare. She never asked but she keeps him 40+ hours per week.
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Well its basically free so find another person as back up when you cant bend to her doing u a favor.
. She deserves money too in my opinion⌠look up childcare its expensive and usually 6-6 m thru fri
âŚyou might wanna appear super grateful pay her more and be flexibke or have back up so no guilt trips⌠i used to order my mom food ,groceries and pay her for help when my dayghter was to young for daycare⌠til i got a day care 249. A week âŚ
Itll put it into reality how bad u could have itâŚ
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If you donât want to pay a daycare, because of your fears and worries, then pay your mom what a daycare in your area charges. Sheâs spending many hours a week with your child and if she financially canât donate all of her time, then paying her a fair wage seems reasonable.
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what should you do? You should be grateful you have someone who is watching your child for so little money. If you cant afford day care and dont want your child with someone else, mainly a stranger, then pay your mother more. Surely you can both compromise and find a happy middle.
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If youâre willing to pay a daycare then why not pay your mom. Sheâs doing you a favor by watching her. To only pay for her gas isnât fair to her. Show some respect to your mom and work it out.
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I would discuss what rate she wants. If itâs close to daycare rate. Then consider the pros and cons. Maybe she just wants to watch her grandkid only occasionally. Or maybe she needs more money to help pay for her bills. Or consider paying a babysitter who will work around your schedule.
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Find a daycare! This obviously isnât going to work out unles you pay your mother more and set boundaries! You should work around her schedule as you are paying her less than a daycare. Think both of you need to stop trying to take advantage of each other.
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My mom was our nanny, too. But I knew I was getting a helluva deal, so I paid her better than you are paying your mom. I have 3 kids, but my stepdaughter is older, and was in school, so I paid my mom 200$ a week. Cheaper than daycare but also really good care. Scheduling around her appts or her taking an extra day off here and there to see the boyfriend (by the way, marital status of boyfriend has zero revelance to your story, and just came off judgy and snooty), is not much to ask considering you obviously do not value the service she is providing you.
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you expect your mother to watch your kid while you work 40 hours a week you should be paying her ⌠she had her kids its not her responsibility to look after yours 
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Yes you should pay her.
But, she shouldnât make you feel bad for spending money on your family. Either pay her more or find someone else.
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Time for you and your partner to work opposite shifts so you donât have to pay for a babysitter!! Life changing. Get the same days off. Worth it to save money and not trust strangers with your child
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Grandparents are not daycare . I wouldnât accept payment to watch mine but I also donât want to watch full time. Grand parents are a blessing and should be shown appreciation. Just saying
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Iâm sorry - youâre bitching about paying someone $20-$40 a WEEK for childcare? Her situation is irrelevant to the service she is providing you!! You are taking advantage of her because of her title to you, and her situation. When itâs pretty clear thereâs no way you could afford regular childcare. You better count your blessings.
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It sounds like she is babysitting for free? So you should definitely work around her schedule! I am sure it is putting a lot of strain on your relationship. You either need to pay her a fair fee for babysitting or stop complaining and start appreciating what she is doing for you.
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You donât trust anyone else to watch your child, but youâd be willing to pay someone if you could find someone trustworthy. Why donât you just pay your mother? If sheâs caring for your child for free, you absolutely should be working around her schedule. If you pay a regular wage, you end the expectation of buying her things as âpaymentâ.
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Pay for daycare - Problem solved. Your mom is not a built in babysitter and at $20 $40 a week that is exactly what you are making her. You are using her. As for her schedule - itâs her schedule. If you are trying to get off cheap (and ripping her off as far as Iâm concerned) and she is babysitting hours on end (which Iâm pretty sure she is) the least you can do is work around her schedule. Simple solution - Join the real world and pay for your own daycare. Iâm betting after a month or so youâll appreciate, respect and pay your mother a whole lot more.
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What should you do? GROW UP!
#1 your mothers time is her time. Shes not your personal babysitter. PAY HER A LIVING WAGE! You act like shes there just for the sole purpose of babysitting your childâŚ
#2 find a new job or be a stay at home mother if its to much for you. Youâre causing your own drama by being paranoid freak!
#3 there is absolutely no reason to put your mamas business out there. So what she road trips to see her boyfriend whose marriedâŚTHATS HER BUSINESS NOT YOURS, SHES GROWN!
You NEED help. Start with therapy and hopefully you dont mess up your kid on the way!
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Grandma does not mean free babysitter nor does it mean she has to bend to your schedule. Pay her or pay someone else
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Youâre working full time⌠pay your mom for babysitting your child. And if she needs time off or something she should be allowed it . Sheâs doing you a huge favor
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There are lots of daycares that have assistance! I would definitely find another way! She sounds very controlling!
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OmgâŚthis is the most entitled shit I have ever read. The participation 
generation⌠You are blessed to get that much help. She doesnât have to do shit for you⌠sounds like youâre taking advantage
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Daycare will really make it where you canât go anywhere or buy anything. Youâre getting off pretty much free with $20-$40 maybe pay her more and she will be more reliable for ya. You arent entitled to a free sitter.
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you should have sorted day care before going back to work full time , you shouldnt relie on anyone to watch YOUR child unless its their job âŚ
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You pay your mom $20-40 a week to watch your child full time? That is darn cheap and it honestly sounds like she wants to be compensated more for her time, which I donât fault her. No one would work full time for 20-40 a week.
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She doesnât work? But yet doesnât want to keep her grandchild? These grandparents ainât worth a pot of rice. I could see if you and your boyfriend werenât doing anything but you both work. I guess the village doesnât exist in yâall family and thatâs sad.
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Sheâs your mother. Not a free sitter⌠Itâs sad you think her time is nothing but gas. I used to watch my nephew and my brother payed me weekly⌠Maybe stop having her watch your child for free. And see how much it really cost for a good babysitter.
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Honestly my mom watched my daughter free. I donât think grandparents should ask for money but be thankful for it if offered. They are having quality time with their grandbabies. If using parents for just that I see an issue but any real grandparent would be happy to see their grandbabies. She deserves time off and away plus appointments are important so Iâd say find a backup for it hsoe cases. You are in no way responsible to buy her things nor feel bad about buying things for the house, child or you. Just make sure the cupboards are full off food and so is fridge. Pay her the 40 for gas a week and leave it at that. Thatâs not bad at all. Side note: if she wants more money she could easily grow up herself and get a job(sheâs grown women still living at home with her mom and borrowing her momâs car and has no job. Thereâs some growing up to do there unless her mother is in dire help of watchful eyes and help(she can pay your mom for helping her as well).
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UmmmâŚseriously? This is a joke, right? Like, this canât be a real questionâŚ
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I pay my mother in law $350 to $400 a month
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I work full time an pay my mom, even if itâs just to go to the store she gets $20 for a hour ( we have 2 , 3 year olds) but if shes watching them while I work she gets $20 a hour plus whatever else she needs , I mean itâs a deal I wouldnât put your kids in day care theyâll remember the 1 on 1 time theyâre having with your mom , it will be great memories for them
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Like you say, you expect you mother to take care of your kidâŚyou are the mother and if you want her as baby sitter pay her what it isâŚ
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Our daycare cost $200 a week. Iâd pick your mom if I were you. Give her what she wants
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I am grateful to spend time with my grand-kids so I canât relate.
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Your paying her nothing really so why shouldnât you bend to her schedule ??? If you paid her more maybe she would be less inclined to take so much time off. Also what she does with her time is not yours to spew out on a rant . She raised her kids now you raise yours. Her back story has nothing to do with what she is doing for you! So pay more or find another wayâ:person_facepalming:
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Okay 1 day care or relative pay the price that is either listed or agreed to. Also grandma or not when u chose someone else she will fill entitled to take grandchild whenever she wants to me not a lick of this ass backwards post is making damn lick of sense
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I paid my mother 100 a week and she didnt even ask for it. Also i tended to her schedule not mine. So maybe look at the situation again.
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Put her in daycare for $200/wk then
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My mom watches my son while my husband and I work. I bring my daughter to work with me as my mom canât lift her. She lives with us and we donât pay her. We take her to her appointments when needed and take her to the store. Occasionally she will cook and do dishes as we all do. But she has never asked for money. She believes itâs better to spend time with her grandchildren (my 2kids, 1 from my older sister and 3 from younger) and her kids (my 2 sisters and I) than take money from her kids. If a grand parent wants to spend time with their grandchildren they would not ask for money. To me it seams money is more important to your mom.
Hahahahahaa. Whatttt
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I donât trust anyone else to watch my daughter so my in laws and parents are the only ones who watch her & ive never paid them. My MIL changed her work schedule so we both work part time opposite shifts so I always work around anytime she needs to change it but she does the same for me. I take her to her and pick her up every day & itâs only 4 hours a day 4 days a week.
But, I would 100% pay her to watch my daughter so I know sheâs safe rather than pay someone I donât know and be sketched out and worried.
Iâm sure if you paid her a fair amount it would still be cheaper than day care & you wouldnât have to worry.
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You mom is doing you an incredible favor. It is not her duty to take care of your child. The cost of full time day care is crazyâŚcount your lucky starts girl!!
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Okay Iâm going to put in my 2 cents! No one knows the entire situation. so stop with the assumptions. Does the mom expect full âdaycareâ payments and this wasnât discussed before hand? Or did the mom offer to help and say pay me what you can? Never judge a book by its cover⌠I said I what I said m.
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Iâm a Gma & I do not charge my son & daughter in law for watching my Grandson. My granddaughter is 2 weeks old but soon sheâll be coming to Gmas too. Everyone is different but I would never ask to be paid.
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If she was anyone else, youâd be paying. Her time is valuable too. Instead of watching your kids, she could be out having a life. So you should count your blessings. Those are your kids and your responsibility, not hers. She raised her kids and free of obligations now.
Donât take advantage of her kindness of watching them.
You could be paying 150-200/week per kid⌠so if she is asking for some money, she has every single right.
Just because she is the grandmother doesnât mean she has to or needs to watch the kids. Grandparents, visit with their grandchildren when they want⌠they arenât there for free child care 
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There is no way my parents would ever take a dollar of me for watching their grandchildren. I offered money before when they had them for the holidays while I gave birth and they were both so offended that I even offered.
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I mean would you pay a sitter? Regardless of what she does and does not do with her time is her business. She raised her kids and should not be expected to give up her life to raise your kids I donât mean to sound harsh but you are not entitled to her time sheâs still a human she still has a life and asking someone to cater to you for free because sheâs a grandma is probably not so nice.
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Not her kid. Pay her. Her time is worth more than a measly 20 bucks a week.
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