So if you pay her between $20-$40 a week you’re not even consistent on what you give her. Imagine going to work and your employer decided to pay you a lowball ballpark figure. If you paid her a decent wage and had set hours for her then you could complain. I’ve paid as much as $200 a week. $20-$40 a week? So a 40 hour week you’re paying her between $0.50-$1.00 an hour?
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Dude…she’s taking care of that kid for free basically. And why did we need to know she’s got a married bf? Lol petty…
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Sounds like your taking her for granted and she asks you for more because she needs it an to be honest deserves it you cant afford a daycare shes your option don’t be so petty you got it good right now you don’t have to pay for childcare and there with someone you trust maybe work out something more than gas money she might not feel the need to ask for more
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Soooo the way OP casually throws in the the moms married boyfriend feels like she’s trying to muddy her moms character and gain sympathy. Your child isn’t your moms responsibility. I went back to work 8 weeks after my daughter was born. My hubby worked days so I found a noc shift. We didn’t need a sitter. She’s almost 2 now and we’ve yet to use a babysitter for work. I personally think dragging your mom through the mud like that to a bunch of strangers says A LOT about your character tbh. I couldn’t imagine treating my mom like this.
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I hope she finds nice paying job and you have to enter the real world 
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I think your mum is right to ask for some extra cash. If you don’t like it I would look into child care. She’s your mum not your babies, she doesn’t have to do it. I would offer to pay her more tbh
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Unfortunately family and friends are not obligated to be free child care so you just have to decide whether you want to put up with the other drama but you’re paying a minimal amount so consider the cost before letting a little drama steer you away. Personally, my mother chose to quit her job and be our childcare because we had concerns with daycare as well… We talked about all she was giving up and the cost of childcare and settled on an amount that helped us all. We pay her half of the cost of childcare and nowhere near what she was making at her old job, but it is money she can put towards my parent’s retirement which is what was most important to them. Also, just like any other sitter, we are expected to accommodate her appointments and vacation… All babysitters expect this. If you choose a larger daycare with substitute caregivers, you can get away from that but even those choose to close for holidays and things and there’s nothing you can do about it. My mom has already given me a projected time off schedule for the rest of the year so that does help to plan. Honestly, you just have to realize, you chose to have a child and the responsibility is yours and she is helping out so sit down and hash it out because she’s essentially working for free when she doesn’t have to. Talk to her like an adult and write out and agreement that works for both of you.
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Be grateful you have your mother to help you,why should she work her life around you, it’s your child so therefore it’s your responsibility,some people don’t know how lucky they are.
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I think it’s cheap personally. I would give her a set week amount and that be it. No extras. Just the reasonable set amount for hours she does
If you’ve considered paying more to a daycare but not your mother, you’re wrong 
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#bye lol .
Sounds like your mom is greedy
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I would suggest working out a payment that works for her and your budget and go over both expectations… You shouldn’t expect her to babysit for free all the time. Thats taking advantage of her especially only paying her pocket change. Could you afford to give her maybe $100-200 a week? My grandma watches my kiddos and I pay her bc its like her job and I want to compensate her for her time and it thanks her for helping me keep daycare out of the picture and costs down.
So to those of you who just told this mom she’s selfish, yall are assholes. I’m in a similar situation and i feel for her. Sounds to me like her mom is an irresponsible flake. I think $20-$40 is fair considering SHE ONLY LIVES 10MINS AWAY. As for my mom she forced my sister and me to pull our kids out of daycare. I take care of mine and my sisters kids while working a 12hr shift. I think the mom needs to be cut out of her life, especially where it concerns money. Use your anger when she tries to guilt trip you. My mom use to do that all the time until i took a stand. Pm me anytime
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Wow she’s helping you and she wants you to work around her schedule
How dare her
Re read that
She’s the one extending help
One kid where I live is at least about $200 a week for full time child care and you got to pay it regardless of holidays or them being sick and out
If it’s causing fights get a nanny child care or babysitter
It will be way more expensive tho
Or don’t take the help for granted and if you’re working so
Much she could get a daily rate for her time
Watching a kid isn’t a cake walk for anyone
ESP when You’ve already raised your grown kids and youre older yourself
And still helping
Not her responsibility to pick up where you can’t
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You should be grateful your mom watches your daughter for that small amount of money that would MAYBE cover one day in a daycare. Seeing your mother is doing this as a favor to you, you need to work around HER schedule. Your mother has a right to her own life to visit friends, run errands and make appointments. Be grateful for the time she can give you and your children. I believe if you want to set the schedule like a job , then pay her like a job comparable to what you would pay a local daycare.
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I use to feel leery about daycare, but I put my grandson in daycare/preschool and he loves it. Such a wonderful group of ladies and gents that work there. See if you qualify for state assistance to pay less.
Be grateful, normal childcare is $1200-$1500 per child per month. Your $20-$40 a week is probably great for a day or even less. It is not her biological right to have babysit her granddaughter.
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First was the $20-40 a week agreed upon when she first agreed to watch your child? How did you come up with that? Second does she give you enough time to make schedule changes or request schedule changes when she needs to do something that she can’t just take your child with her? If she tells you the day before I could understand the frustration. My Mom watched my girls for me for a while. All she asked for was gas $, nothing else. I gave her the same amount for each day she watched the girls. She told me $10 in gas a day so if she watched them 3 days she got $30 total. However I always gave her more when I could bc she would go out of her way to take them to the park or other places. Sometimes she would take them out for lunch or dinner depending on when my husband got off from work. She had a set schedule for the most part but there were times my husband would end up working over and she understood as long as he told her and didn’t just expect it. I don’t think anyone needed to know that your mom has a married boyfriend. Maybe you feel guilty for buying for yourselves or your child bc you know deep down you are not paying your Mom a fair amount each week. Daycare is expensive. Where I live I paid $660 a month for one child to be full-time and the other was after school care only. My sister is about to put her kids in daycare both of them full-time and is going to cost her right a $1000 a month. So thank your lucky stars that your mom is willing to work for nothing.
So Stop using your mom and get day care or a Baby sitter solve all them problems real quick SMH
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It’s selfish to expect her to sacrifice her life to make your life easier. If she were willing and financially able, that would be wonderful, but to expect that from anyone is very unreasonable. Getting older doesn’t mean she no longer wants or deserves a life of her own wherein she can seek out and do things that she finds to be fulfilling. She raised you…it’s not her job to raise your children. I guarantee you’ll be paying much more than $40 for daycare and then you can budget what’s left and spend it guilt-free!
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What bills your mother has and whom she lives with is not your business. Who she visits is not your business either. If you expect her to give up major portions of her days consistently for taking on your responsibilities of parenting your child. Then you should pay her a fair wage. You would have to pay alot more to put your child in day care or to hire a nanny. She is entitled to days off, vacarions, dr appointments etc. Just like you are at your job. Be thankful, gratedul and helpful towards her gift of working to keep your child safe and loved.
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When you consider the alternative count your blessings! To solve this, come up with an amount because to me you both are being selfish. You expect free babysitting and feel your mom owes you to babysit. If you come up with a price then she can buy her own stuff without expecting you to buy her things.
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I pay my mom $10 a day during the summer and on holidays/overtime days. She is disabled and works selling stuff out of her house. I would never tell her no to that amount. Even if she went up within reason. I’d still pay it. She has a life too. If I couldn’t afford to pay her I’d put him in daycare. At the same time she doesn’t demand I take off too often outside of her having appointments.
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I can’t with this. I paid my mom (who ran an in home daycare) $300 a week to watch my 2 girls while I worked. If she had an appointment, I worked around it. Days off too. And she still got paid. Your way of thinking seems very childish. What you should do is pay her and show her some respect and gratitude.
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if the way it’s been going isn’t working (for one of the parties, anyway), you need to have a sit down. discuss how much she’ll be paid and what those terms are (daily? weekly? hourly?) and how to accommodate her days/time off.
if you guys can’t come to an agreement, then it may be time to look into other daycare options and let her have “grandma time” when it’s convenient for both of you. anything less than coming to an agreement will leave one of you resenting the other. 
it’s not an ideal situation and finding an answer that will make everyone happy may be difficult.
you need a reliable child care and she (apparently) needs more than $40 a week.
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You should pay a daycare believe me you would stay home and watch your own child! She not your moms shes yours!! I wouldnt do it for free! I always got paid to watch my grandchildren! I got paid 400.00 a month! Thank God for my son and daughter in law they have always been responsible for there 2 kids!
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So you don’t want to pay for daycare but you also don’t want to pay your mom either? If you’re just “mainly paying for her gas” She’s supposed to just sit around and watch your kids for free but also not be able to go to her own appointments or anything? And it doesn’t matter who she visits. She’s an adult. I don’t know if you understand how big of a deal it is for someone to watch your kid for only $20-$40 a week. Wow. And it doesn’t matter who’s car she uses. Idc if she pulls up on roller skates. She deserves to be paid. Paying a service for someone to watch your kid JUST for the evening, is way more than $20 - $40. And that’s definitely NOT a weeks service. That’s just for one evening.
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Definitely shouldn’t expect your mother or ANYONE else to do anything for FREE! She is your child’s grandmother NOT the child’s mother! Grow up pay her a fair amount. Nothing compares to knowing your child is safe in their home, if you feel she’s asking to much then get a daycare/nanny and then I promise you won’t complain! SMH
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Put your child in daycare and stop depending on your mother. And TBH, babysitters/nannies average $15-$20/hour and daycares are $150+ a week depending on the child’s age. Grandparents are not free babysitters. If she is watching her grandchild 5 days a week for 8 hours a day, she needs more than $40/week. Whatever reason she wants more, she has the right to ask. Sounds like you 2 already have a toxic relationship and it’s in the best interest of the child to put them in daycare, hire a real babysitter or pay her for her time.
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I mean, there is nothing wrong with her wanting more than $40 a week for babysitting. Working around her schedule is a given as well, as she is doing you a favor. Outside of babysitting you don’t owe her anything, but there is nothing wrong with her wanting more than $40 a week.
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$20-$40 per week?!
How do you sleep at night!? Lol That’s so awful it’s comical! I don’t care how old your child is, that’s not enough pay! She has every right to ask to be paid more. Either pay that woman or try your luck with another sitter! 
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With 2 incomes you only wanna pay your mom 40 a week for a full 40hrs. That’s $1 a hour 
idk how you gonna pay for actual daycare. Ijs
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Wow! You pay her enough to put gas in her car? So she is watching your child for free? Shame on you for complaining about it. You should pay her more she has a life to live too.
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If you paid a babysitter would you ask: who she lived with, whose car she used to get back and forth to your home, whom she chose to have a relationship with, or expect her to alter her personal schedule to watch your child full time for 40 bucks a week? Then dont do it to your mom. Period
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I would advise that you look into a daycare that’s affordable, and maybe on the way to work for you and your boyfriend so should anything happen, it’s not out of the way.
In terms with that getting your mum upset, she will get over it, she needs to understand that you doing for the best for your relationship with her, it’s something she has to accept as you are making the decision and it’s not going to affect her.
Work is work and you need reliable help, I’ve had both my kids in day care, you need to find 1 that you trust and check out everything.
If it’s something you can’t afford, see what you can cut down on and get your daughter there for your own sanity and for your relationship with your mum.
Your mum will respect you for this, you also taking responsibility for your daughter which will make her understand.
Xxx, all the best
Look into daycares and subsidies etc. Your mother sounds a bit immature and manipulative. But at the same time maybe as this is the only job so to speak that she does see if there is something you can afford to giving weekly/fortnightly that she can use for her Bill’s or wants
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It sounds as though you expect from her what she expects from you and the biggest problem that I see is entitlement. You feel that what you give her is enough and that she should be grateful and then you added that her boyfriend is married that she goes to see. I suppose she feel that you should be grateful she doesn’t charge you more…Well to be honest I don’t think that you should have even considered asking your mom to be your babysitter. Once you found out that you were pregnant you should have been researching daycares for your child. The easiest way to ruin and relationship with mom is assuming that she will babysit, because that doesn’t work. She has a life as you do and whether her boyfriend is married, single, divorced whatever thats her bag of rocks let her carry it, and your baby is your and your husband’s responsibility, she has raised her children now you raise yours. Spending time with your grands should be a blessing not a burden.
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If she has appointments or anything else that’s her business. She doesn’t want to bring a child with her to get her nails done and shouldn’t be obligated to or made to feel bad. You are probably a young mom and you have a lot of growing up to do.
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Wow, guess I’m happy to be blessed to be able to stay home with my kiddos, n my parents never have asked for any $$ when they watch the kids.
Grandma loves her time with the grandkids
I’m sorry, tho maybe you can apply for childcare assistance??
Not sure what they have in your area
Don’t have any experience in daycares but In-home ones tend to be cheaper, just make sure to do thorough check on the one you choose
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You are being extremely selfish. Be thankful she watches your daughter and asks you for the bare minimum which honestly she should NOT even be asking you. (It costs you nothing to share some groceries or details with her to show your appreciation for her FAVOR -not duty- and you paying for her gas is honestly FAIR.) She raised you, she doesn’t have to raise your daughter, our parents are not supposed to be our nannies. Be grateful she is willing to help you with a reasonable request in exchange, no daycare is going to be so accommodating. I encourage you to really re-evaluate the way you’re being. Good luck.
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No find a new babysitter even if it means spending a little more. Family shouldn’t hold stuff like that over your head especially if they’re offering to help.
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I would look into daycare! I pay $110 I have a 2 year old and it has been the best choice I’ve ever made. He knows how to count 1-10 on his own, colors, shapes and a lot of things that I know he wouldn’t know if I had a family member keep him.
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I pay my mother aloottt… more than 40$… they need to pay their bills too. I wish I could pay my parents 40$
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There are a couple of things that weren’t in the story 1) Who set the price? Her or her mother? If she did the as someone suggested sit down with her mother and negotiate a fairer price, if her mom did then her mother could be just being difficult, but still a conversation needs to be had to talk about a fair price and to set expectations on both end. If a agreement can be made great, if not time for a new situation for caring for the children.
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How often are her “Appointments or Trip” Are they once of twice a month or is it 3 out of 5 days a week.
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How much advance notice is given? Does she call the night before saying she has an appointment or taking a trip, or does she give you a week, 2 weeks a months notice which allows for either work schedules rearranged or vacation day to be take.
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I’m glad my gramma was willing to watch my daughter free of charge. For us family is everything. When I watched children, I didn’t tell the parents to work around my schedule. I took the children with me with parent’s permission.
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Im sorry but you sound like a spoiled Adult Brat! Very rude! Put your kid in daycare and pay 300 a week if your not happy
I feel sorry for your mom.$20 a week is insulting for anyone.
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sounds like someone else blows it way out of proportion when she doesnt get her own way too… go fork out for proper childcare, maybe you’d appriciate your mum a bit more then. you sound spoilt and selfish.
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Your mom has raised her kids and has earned her time to live her life as she chooses so anything she chooses to do with that time even babysitting needs to accommodate her schedule why should she give up something she’s earned after all her years of hard work because you choose to have kids now you need to do your roll as the parent
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This can’t be real. You’re getting free childcare and you are complaining? The audacity you have. Pay $200+ a week in childcare. Your mom’s a saint.
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So you and ur husband work fulltime and ur complaining for that $40 and some extras ur mom is asking you, and u can’t afford daycare and having trust issues? O cmon, u shud have planned it before having a baby and don’t excpect someone else will do it for you for $40 a week geez , that’s ur mom ur paying and not just someone else 
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Sounds like she’s super underpaid and unappreciated 
she deserves to have a life of her own too!!
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I don’t think 1 she is complaining about paying her mom it’s the fact that her mom expects her family to buy her extras while expecting her family to do without and also probably expects her to pay for a road trip to see her married lover which is wrong in so many ways itself
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So she’s basically babysitting for free and you want her to put her life on hold?
Discuss how much she wants and how you can plan her visits so that you’re not inconvenienced too, that way both parties are happy
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Due to the fact that you can’t afford daycare you use your mother for your needs. GROW UP!! Value and treasure your mother. You only have one. And what she does with her personal life is none of your business. She’s grown!!
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Maybe you and the father could work opposite work shifts so you do not need to pay a babysitter at all. $40 a week is nothing compared to what a daycare would cost you could pay her more and still be cheaper than daycare. Also, working around her schedule is a given…you also have to work around a daycare’s schedule especially for holidays
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I pay any family who watch my kids. Just because they are family doesn’t mean you can take advantage of them.
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What I wouldn’t have given to have what you have!! Not everyone has someone in their life that can help the way your mom does!! You should definitely be paying her more!! And you should be grateful for her!!
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Child care for full time cheapest in my area is $175 a week for 2 and up and $200 a week for under. You should probably pay her more
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I treat and over pay my sister for looking after my son as the minding bills are far more expensive… And I couldn’t be more grateful for a trustworthy person to be minding my son. If I was you. I’d be happy you’ve got someone so trustable. Can not put a price on that. And just stop feeling guilty for buying things for your home. Youre allowed. Your feelings you are in control of, so feel happy when you buy something nice.
Alot of daughters expect grandparents to help out. But seriously… its their time to actually do as they please after doing one of the hardest jobs around.
My mum has bad mental health now…
I wish I could pay her to watch over my boy.
Youre very lucky to me!
This is difficult. Either daycare or deal with it. I support the idea of intergenerational households so don’t know why she wouldn’t watch your kids for gas while living with her mother. But I don’t know the details. All I’ll say is it takes a village needs to come back.
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Sounds like you already pointing to continue with your mom.i have three kids I never sent to daycare .I work night dad days.try looking into new job then u dont need her. But daycare so expensive n all the horrible stories.i would use mom.
Find out how much daycare would be so that you can see how much would be a reasonable amount to pay her for caring for your child
Then maybe she wouldn’t have the need for you to pay for things for her.
As long as you have a fair amount of notice for her appointments etc you should be able to work around them.
Cut her some slack she’s nana not the mother it was your choice to have this child so ya know your lucky to get this far cos daycare and paying proper baby sitting well go for it cos it’s a expense be greatful for the help your getting.
Split it… daycare somedays and mum care the other. Keeps daycare costs low and keeps family involved
I wouldnt charge for watching my grandkids or anyone in the family but… each to their own maybe pay her minimum wage an hour and then dont stress about it when you buy stuff for yourself or what have you
Uhmm what? Just because she’s your mother doesn’t mean she’s obligated to watch your kids for free. If she does you should be grateful! If she ask for gift etc in return for babysitting and it’s such a big deal then have a sit down and figure out a price you can pay her that works for you both! Not just you. I guarantee you that no babysitter/daycare is going to give you a better price. Again she’s doing you a favor, don’t expect her to just put her personal life to a halt to cater to you.
Sounds like you need to stop treating your mother like free daycare. My advice: work different schedules and little to no childcare will be needed. It sucks relationship wise but it’s manageable.
If you can’t afford daycare for one child either you or your boyfriend need to quit their job and stay home, or work 2 jobs. You can make it work with one income if you have to. You will have to change your lifestyle in ways to be able to do it but it can be done. Your mother doesn’t have to help you with your child, ever. It is solely your responsibility.
My mum does nothing aswell and doesnt drive its rare that i ask her for support but when i do i drive 20 minutes there and back and ive given her $100 aswell as packed food, toys, clothes but i dont trust anyone else with my girl if not more…I dont mind. I dont think you should have put your mums personal life up btw thats her choice and the married mans…
Id just continue to let her mum do it because childcare is so much more then that.
You should pay your mom proudly, a lot probably couldn’t do it that.
She even drives to your home,I’m sure a daycare or any other babysitter would be much more expensive
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Draw up a contract in regards to babysitting as a job. Include an agreement about paying her. The amount, have a conversation with her, be ready to compromise, but know what you can and cannot do. On her side also. Once an agreement is made, you both need to sign it. If you have a community law bureau. Ask for their advice, if not a citizen s advice bureau may help. Once it’s written, decided and signed, stick to the agreement, both sides.
I wish I could have my mom to babysit my kids, I would drop a good amount of $$$ for my mom knowing she’ll take good care of my kid. You should be grateful she’s not petty and asks for atleast the minimum wage. You’re ripping her off and yet still complaining. She can be my kids grandma and I’ll definitely take care of her.
Personally, I’d probably deal with my mom and all that comes with that. Sounds like you feel at ease with her keeping your daughter, thats most important and cheaper than daycare.
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She is doing you a favor by coming to your home and watching your daughter and you’re complaining about that? She raised you and it is not her job to raise your daughter and cater to you. My parents live with my son and I until my dad retires and they buy a condo at the beach. I don’t pay my mom when she watches my son for an hour here or there because she won’t accept it- I’ve tried- but I buy her things, take her to dinner, etc. because it is appreciated and it isn’t her job!
My aunt was a day care provider out of her house for years. It was $25/day, $100/week. And I paid it. She was lenient occasionally but I paid it. My mom never really asked for anything but she also didn’t watch him full time and I always helped her out when I could. I get the frustration as far as having to call off because she makes appointments but overall I don’t think she’s being unreasonable. Maybe she could at least be open to discussing appointment days with you before she schedules them so you have time to find a sitter. Unfortunately this is part of the risk you take when using “private childcare”. Someone might not always be there every second you need them.
Sounds like u need to find a new babysitter since she doesn’t meet ur needs. What ur mom does with her life is none of ur business. Ur kid is ur responsibility not anyone else’s.
All what she asked was for an advice. Not to judge her. Now days is to hard to pay babysitter i will suggest between you and your husband. Find a job where both of you can see your baby. Maybe one work morning and the other afternoon
Find a babysitter. It’s your child, your responsibility. Your mom shouldn’t have to move her life around for the child you had… if you think you shouldn’t babysit her for watching your child just because it’s her grandchild, you’re wrong. She’s doing a job & should get paid 
Pay her more because that’s not enough and I promise you a lot of the other problems will go away 
she “expects” things because you pay her pennies. I pay my daughters grandma $150-$180 a week to watch my 2 year old because it’s a lot of work.
You should work around her schedule she’s done raising her kids and I bet she did everything she could to take care of you so now these are your kids you need to do your part you want to work then work on proper care for your kids then you can get on with your 9-5 job
I would throw that 40 back in your face. How dare you complain 
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I’m a grandmother and sorry but you sound like a selfish brat who forgot that the baby is yours not your mom’s she doesn’t have to watch your daughter at all you should be grateful because another person is not gonna charge you 20-40 a freaking week and then you get upset she’s the grandmother not the mother. If you can’t afford a babysitter don’t have children especially if you want to have a bad attitude because your mother has a life.
20-40 A WEEK!!! I wish that was what I paid when I was working. now thankfully I’m a SAHM but still my babies first year I worked it all and we paid WWAAYY more than 20-40 and it was to an aunt
My 2 kids pay me for baby sitting one pays me 10 dollars a day or 15 she works 2 jobs so depending on if I have kids from 4am to 10pm or what on what I charge and she hands me her link card to buy all the food for the kids plus she lives here the other is starting in a nursing home this week I told her $15 a day but she don’t send nothing except diapers no clothes wipes bath stuff food or anything nd she lives with her dad with her 3 boys I provide food clothes nd all cleaning stuff for them 3 I figure it’s fair
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You should be extremely grateful she’s watching your daughter at all let alone for almost free. Mine never has even helped me. It’s a full time very hard job. You try it. She has a life and appointments. Hire a nanny or daycare if you’re so unhappy and you will be paying much more too.
Thinking about looking for a daycare instead of just paying her a fair wage for her time? This makes me angry! Yes you should be paying her!
Maybe she just wants to be be appreciated take her out for lunch or dinner every once in a while
How do you complain about not being able to buy yourself anything when you are only paying 40$. Your mother is not the problem your life decisions are. Why did you have a child if you can’t afford to pay for childcare? If you are afraid to use daycare did you ask your mother BEFORE you made a baby if she wanted to sacrifice her time and freedom to make your life easier? Instead of complaining about having to be financially responsible for YOUR child are you or your man looking for a better paying job so you can stop treating your mother like slave labor? How your mother lives her life is her choice and if you don’t like it leave her alone and find a way to manage your child without bothering her because she does not owe you. Most Grandmother’s are still working and living their own lives as they should be we don’t exist to make your life easier.
My mom didn’t charge me but it also wasn’t that often just when I needed her most and she works 6 days a week so I had daycare and if my mom couldn’t I paid my sister. Mainly used for when daycare was closed for whatever reason. You may want to see if there are any programs in your area to help with daycare costs. Because my family didn’t make enough to cover ours was free most of the time there was a time I had a co parent fee but it wasn’t too much.
I think you should be paying her to look after your child, especially if it’s full time. I would pay her maybe 1/2 to 3/4 of what it would cost to put your child in daycare. Why should she watch your child for free? If you don’t like it and you can’t afford daycare then you stay at home and look after your child. Did you not factor these costs in before you thought about having a baby? Then & only then would you be able to say anything about schedule & times ect, if your not willing to pay then you have no say over when she can look after your child & who she sees outside of those hours. I think you need to sit down together & think of a reasonable payment if you want her to continue looking after your child.
Someone needs to work 1st shift and the other 3rd. Problem solved! When you make additions you have to sacrifice. When adulting you make it work!! Paying her 40 dollars a week you better not even look at a daycare
I would pay her more to make her happier. If not I’d look into daycare.
OMG how AWFUL to think because you had a good time making babies the results is her obligation.
ARE YOU SERIOUS.
( BE GLAD SHE IS HELPING)
$20.00 DOLLARS THAT IS TEENS ALLOWANCE FOR TROWING TRASH.
THINK HEAVY YOUR S LUCKY SHOW SOME RESPECT. I was a grandma at 32 at 85 I have seen my forth generation. NO BABY DITTING.
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You have someone you trust, that will come to your house, for nothing. You have it made.
try to find a daycare for bout 100 a week ,if you can pay ,its not worth the headache ,less drama ,or quit and stay home til she gets in school ,also maybe take on a couple of kids yourself ,theres options
Guess one needs to work day shift and the other night shift so you won’t need a babysitter some ppl so ungrateful
I paid my mom $10 a day. You should pay her more, and tell her that’ll be all from now on.
I pay my mom $50 a day when she occasionally watches my daughter. That’s cheap
You need. Not take advantage.
Hire a true babysitter or use daycare.
Pay the woman!! Better yet, put your child in daycare and then you gonna respect your mother. Kills 2 birds with one stone.
Look at in home care, with a registered in home daycare.