My kids grammas don’t even call them let alone babysit.
Check into daycares. find the cheapest one you can afford that fits your minimum requirements…then pay your mom half, even 1/3rd of that and watch the problems disappear.
Do you realise you only pay dimes on the HR… Who does that ? To expect your mom to spend her life revolved sround yours for pennies …Nope not me
Parents are a godsend don’t abuse it.
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Don’t use your mother, she’s not your baby sitter. Why does this keep being a question people have???
You’d rather pay a daycare than your mom a decent pay? Lol 
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Either deal with her or find someone else to keep your child
They r not ur motherd kids yours be responsible for them
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Id never charge to look after my grandkids… just saying.
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We pay almost 400 a week for PreK so be thankful you are only paying 20-40 a week. Good lord.
Honestly if I was your mom I would quit lol
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Find child care or pay your mom a fair amount 
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Grow up is what the heck you should do. 40 a week? Are you kidding me ?!
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Same here…who expects pay for watching their grandchildren?..good God!!!
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If you have to ask then you already know the right answer.
Pay full price for an actual nanny and solve your own problems 
also, bashing your mom on social media doesn’t make you sound better.
Whoever wrote this sounds very entitled.
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Time to find a new babysitter.
I mean, you should be paying more IMO, especially since she is traveling to you and you’re expecting her to drop her whole life to watch your child. We pay my my 20$ a day (for 1-3 hours total a day for the younger 3 kids). My ma lives next door to us and we work around her schedule, we also buy her whatever she needs, groceries, smokes, etc. That’s really cheap for us. I really wouldn’t complain in your situation since she is basically watching your kid(s) for free.
So what I’m hearing here is that you expect your mom to give up her freedom for free because you had kids. You’re acting very selfish entitled & selfish. Grow up! If you can’t afford to pay her I believe all states have assistance programs for daycare. I’ve known grandparents who were paid by the state to watch their grandkids. Look into it.
You get what you pay for.
Put mom in her place
She didn’t have a baby, YOU did. Pay her until you find a daycare
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I’d give that grandmother at least £150 a week.
sounds like your mum needs to grow up
Stop working and baby sit ur daughter! 
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I’ve paid my mom $100 just to watch my daughter for one weekend after I put her to bed lol
You’re wrong! Pay her!
Do you realize just how little you are giving her to care for your child?
Normal full time day care expenses run up to a 1000.00 a week. You are paying her 100.00 roughly. Its seems to me that you are the selfish one.
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First of all up her pay. I had charge my son $75 a week and that was cheap for a 10 month old. Daycare alone for a child start at $150+ a week you better tighten up
If I were u I’d be embarrassed by what u posted and seeing what most ppl are saying and that’s ur a spoiled brat and ungreatful …I’d be ashamed if I said this on social media
These comments didn’t pass the vibe check and I am so sorry for people that actually have to pay their parents to watch their grandchildren.
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Pay ur mum a working rate? U r so entitled its breathtaking! $40 a week! Criminal!
I would find another sitter
Wow…pay your mom and be greatful.
Questions…how old is your mother? Why isn’t she working and why is she living with HER mother? Did she offer to help without pay to begin with and you’re just being nice and giving her gas money now?
What it sounds like is someone who is living with her own mother and could be working because she’s able to drive long distance to see her boyfriend is trying to get money the easiest way by asking you for more. If it’s that bad and she really needed more money why doesn’t she get a job instead? Or a part time job and she can still get money from when she watches your kid.
Yes she is saving you a lot of money but if someone offers help they should not hold it over your head for the rest of your life. It sounds like you’re both helping each other out. She doesn’t want to actually “work” for whatever reason and you needed a babysitter. I do think that the amount should be a little higher weekly.
I wouldn’t dream of asking 
I paid my Mother $100/per week 43 years ago. Maybe you should offer her a little more than gas money
My grandmother, my daughters great grandmother, said she would watch our daughter for NOTHING. I’m sorry your mother won’t do the same. Family in my opinion should help out. If she would take money from us I told her I could pay 50$ a week, 10$ a day. 200$ a month is literally all I can afford or I would be taking her to a daycare and spending 400-500$ a month.
Your mom is making a huge sacrifice for the child you brought into this world. I say go to daycare. Try it for 2 months. then go apologize to your mother and beg her to watch your child again. I’m sure after day care, you’ll approach this subject differently. And with compassion and appreciation for what your mom offers you. Your child can barely speak to tell you if something happens at day care, that alone is worth every sacrifice to keep baby with gramma. Someone who you trust and do not have to worry all day long about what’s going on at daycare. Unanswered questions about where did this mark come from on my child? calls to come pick up your child bc of a 99.9 fever, a bite mark from the toddler in the room bc they haven’t been taught better, did they even eat their lunch? No daycare for me and mine. The last daycare I took mine to, I watched the worker slam a child against a plastic slide and dared the child to move… I parked my car, marched myunhappy arse right back in and demanded my children. After my 2 were collected and signed out, I told them exactly what I witnessed and why I was pulling my kids. Screw that! Not going to happen to my kids! No thank you!
Tasha Natasha Taylor Gina Roberts I want $40 Lol xxx 
Sophie Leah I need payment 
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Okay, lot to unpack here, and a lot feels really familiar to me. First, if you asked her to babysit this solution is creating all kinds of new problems. If she volunteered to babysit, she is not respecting boundaries or behaving like a grown ass adult. If she voluntold you she was babysitting, you should have known this was coming. (I get it, I have a parent very similar, I’m not saying anything to you I have not told myself about half a million times. I know it may not feel like it but I am speaking from a place of compassion.) Second, regardless of how you came up with this idea, based on your descrption it sounds like a lot of drama and issues already, any time you want to buy the umiquitous frickn $20 umbrella stand. if she’s throwing shade about whatever because you want to take an hour to yourselves, or buy a comforter for the bed instead of kicking her another $20 bucks, you need to re-evaluate this arrangement. Either she, or you, (or respectfully probably both), are struggling too hard with boundaries and communication for this to end any way but tears, unless you end it deliberately and carefully, and hopefully with the guidance of a family counselor. Let me sum it up for you (and I’m going to be a little blunt due to nuerological disorder and pain and being up really late at night because unable to sleep due to pain): Your mom is holding your family’s happiness hostage because she can’t man up; and you are too anxious about your mom’s explosive reaction to an unpalatable truth to put a stop to the situation. That’s a recipe for disaster. Check out the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud. Consider some time with a family therapist. Either she’s crossing boundaries and you are letting her because you are afraid to stop it, or she’s crossing boundaries and you are letting her because you don’t even know where the boundaries should be. Either way, you will do such a kindness fo ryour children if you tackle this now instead of a decade later.
My mum has our kids one night every two weeks just to give us a break and have our time. And even just doing that I always give her a small gift from the kids to say thanks for having them. But if she ever took them on full time whilst I worked, then you bet your ass I’d pay her a proper wage to do it. Just because she’s family doesn’t give me the right to take advantage of her! You want to count your blessings your mum is willing to help. Some people don’t have that luxury, heck some people don’t even have their mums anymore!! You have a wonderful mum who helps you raise YOUR children so you can work.
You don’t realise how lucky you are!!
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I’m feeling not a small amount of secondhand embarrassment for the woman who posted this question. It makes her sound like an entitled jerk, to be completely, brutally honest.
Are your living conditions your boss’s business? Are your travel accommodations? Your social life? How and on what you spend your money? Who you’re spending time with?
You speak of your mother with very little to no respect. You don’t respect her choices, her situation, her time, her sacrifice, or the huge service she’s doing for you & your family.
Why do you feel that your mom owes you 40+ hours of her life every week for little to no pay? If you work full time, your mom works at least an hour more than you a day, but for argument’s sake, let’s say she works 40hrs a week. And you say you sometimes pay her $20 to put gas in her mother’s car. So for watching your child, you think 50 cents per hour is fair compensation?
It would seem to me that she’s watching your child out of love for you & your child, because she’s certainly not getting anything else out of it. Not a decent wage, not appreciation, not respect.
Just here for the comments…
Take care of your own kids. Or quit bitching. It ain’t your moms responsibility.
Whew I’m just here for the comments 
My mom doesn’t even Ask for money if I tell her to watch my kids she does it for free cuz she loves her grandbabies!
My parents wanted to look after my children and would never have asked for money! It’s family and they enjoyed it! I find it very odd that any grandparents would charge to look after grand kids! But then my parents wanted to do it and were happy! Xxx
You are one cold bitch lol either pay her more or pay an actual sitter. Hell I would be doing the same thing if you weren’t paying me shit only to fill up the gas. Can’t even buy myself food or nothing. She’s totally justified wanting to take time off for her own personal life. She is not the mother 
You are taking advantage of your Mother. She is your mother not your child’s Mother.
It doesn’t matter where she wants to go or who she wants to see she’s an adult.
You cannot have your cake and eat it 2.
If you want your mother to continue to watch your daughter you should pay her more money or if you don’t you should pay for childcare and believe me that cost would be amazingly different. If your day care closed because the power was out or the water had a leak or the air conditioning didn’t work, you don’t have to take off a day so give it some thought.
Respectfully… You kinda lost me at $20-$40… Then the complaints you have, got this Nana of 7(1 in heaven) speechless! Ridiculous to expect your Mother to give up So much for yes So little Money, but even worse, so little Respect! Just A little appreciation goes a long way tbh. Maybe start there🤷🏿 Just my opinion…
It’s not your mom’s responsibility to take care of your child. And for ‘gas money’? She’s doing you a favour honestly much as that is her grandchild. Sorry but you’re being selfish for expecting her to ‘pause’ her life for yours to move. Put your child in daycare and let your mum help when she can. But I can bet you’ll discover you have been having it good all this while.
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You know when you have to pay your sitter it’s going to be much more money but at the same time I understand how frustrating it is just try to remember she doesn’t have to do it. But it sounds like she may be trying to take advantage of the situation. Maybe there’s another mom you could trade babysitting with so it’s not going to be anything out of pocket
You want your mom to be onboard and help but can she not live her own life? She watches your child all day and you just give her gas money? She would be better off finding a job on her own so she can pay her bills
Get another babysitter
2 incomes and you feel 40.00 for a 40 hr a week sitter is REASONABLE? GTFO! I would Laugh your ass out of my house!
Folks quick to jump but missed all that was said. She’s not complaining about paying her mother. Sounds like that mother only asked for gas money in the beginning. She is saying that they agreed for her watch her grandchild while they work. Now her mother has changed the situation. She is suddenly not available to watch the child as previous. She stated that her mother is making unreasonable demands when they purchase items for their household and in turn suddenly can’t watch the child which sounds like at the last min…which is putting their jobs on the line. However when she attempted to discuss putting the child in daycare her mom threw a fit and said that was pointless bc she can watch the child…if that is how it is…
That’s a rock and a hard place. Neither your mother nor you are obligated to the other. I say research day cares…maybe put the child in part time that way you have coverage and mom can’t suddenly disappear. You can increase the days at the daycare if need be. Look into childcare assistance.
No offense but you are a total user and extremely immature and just an overall ungrateful brat! How dare your mom not exist to serve you and you SO? How dare she want to live her life, and get paid for her time And work? Slavery is Illegal. Look up daycare prices and then kids her ass and apologize.
Seems to me you’re doing alot of Complaining for someone who needs Help… She did her Job raising you and she Don’t Owe you anything… Also the fact that she doesn’t work and drives your Grandma’s car and is dating A Married Man has Nothing to do with the Situation… And you’re Not paying her to Babysit you’re paying her Gas money only… If you have so much to Complain about then put them in Daycare or get A Stay at Home Job… And Stop Bad mouthing your Mother because you can’t have things your way:bangbang:
We pay our daughters grandmother to watch her 4 days a week for us, we drop her off and pick her up and we work around her schedule as well. Just bc she is her grandmother doesn’t mean she shouldn’t be compensated for taking care of your child 40 hours a week. It would be one thing to ask her to babysit once in awhile it is another thing entirely for her to basically work for you full time without compensation. I am sure you can come up with a figure that is reasonable for both parties bc trust me if you think you’ll be saving money and getting the same care by putting her in daycare you are sadly mistaken. Also what she does on her personal time is none of your business she is a grown woman and if her decisions aren’t directly impacting you then you have no right to have a say as I am sure you wouldn’t appreciate her trying to have a say in anything you do.
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Sounds codependent to me. You don’t want to cause any issues, but y’all already have issues. If your work schedule is not as flexible as your current childcare, you need to find alternative care for those times.
Your mother may resent you spending money outside of childcare when she feels she’s not being fairly compensated for her time. She probably feels taken advantage of. It’s not going to resolve itself.
Even if she’s your mom… she definitely deserves and probably needs compensation for her time. She does not have another job. Not the amount depends greatly on what you all can afford. But if she’s already asking for more… then more would likely be worth it, then you won’t feel as bad when you tell her no to other things.
Also nice ask her if she wants to do the job or not? Tell her what you need hours/days.
Maybe find an InHome
Person who will watch her as that’s usually the cheaper route. They can be just as good as the licensed. Definitely shop around.
I’d say $20-40 a day is reasonable If you can afford it. If not give an amount you can afford and offer it to her or see if you can find other options in that price range. Good luck. Childcare can be so hard especially good care. But it is out there and can be affordable. Otherwise I guess you would be stuck working with your mom’s demands.
I watch my sisters kids mostly for free but that’s because I can and have the time.
She still gives me money for activities or pays me in other ways! Our situation was different and we worked together to help each other children. I also do it because good daycare is so hard to find let alone afford! But if I needed the money and didn’t have an income I’d have no choice but to charge for helping.
If you’re want your mom to work around your schedule, treat her like the nanny you would hire: pay her reasonable amount of money for a week ( and believe me, it costs a lot to put your child in daycare), and then she will feel it’s her job, so she won’t make any comments about stuff you buy and be more willing to work with you regarding her and your schedule.
And with all my respect to you, I would be ashamed to share with anyone that I pay my mother $10-20 per week. It’s disrespectful towards her.
She takes care of your child long days, she has her own life and want to do her own stuff.
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I wish my mom was alive so that she could see you complain about this she quit her job so that I could not work two part time jobs so I could work around people time for babysitting I could not afford then went threw a company to help me I was a single mom and between myself and the company we paid my mom 125.00 a week she said no but I would not let her help raise my daughter full time and not get money besides she is your mom someday like myself it’s been a year and half and just to see her or for my daughter the bond they have my daughter misses her like if she was her daughter too so plz count your blessings your momma is still here ok
I can’t even begin to understand the level of entitlement in this question. You pay for your moms gas to get to an unpaid job, and act as though you’re “paying” your mom. My guess is that she’s doing this for you because you told her you don’t have the money for daycare, hence her being annoyed that she’s essentially doing it for free and you’re buying stuff for the house. Then you’re upset that she wants to have a life outside of being a free nanny.
Here’s a little perspective. My mom watches my daughter for a total of 4-5 hours a day. She takes her to and from school, for a total of a 10 minute drive round trip. We pay her $130 a week to do this. Why? Because it is a job. Gas, wear and tear on the vehicle, making her meals or snacks, and being a safe and reliable provider with whom my daughter is comfortable. This is the same rate that we’d be paying any other service for the same care (and we live in a low cost of living area).
I’d barely get out of bed for $20. She’s doing you a HUGE favor. Get a daycare for your kid or stop complaining.
Girl , you lucky you get anything in the first place . I pay $407 a month for daycare . You bitching cause you gotta pay Hardly nothing .
So you are thinking about paying some strangers than to pay your mom whom you trust with your kids? Grandparents aren’t free baby sitters!!! Those are your children! Pay your mom more and she can use that money to get other things she needs.
Oh boy wish I had that problem haha your lucky.
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Your complaining about giving her more money when she’s doing you a favour. 40$ covers ONE day of day care so yes you should be paying her a fair amount. If you don’t wanna pay her a fair amount then put your kid in daycare n be prepared to pay 200+$ a WEEK
That’s absurd!! Your mother needs an attitude adjustment! I watch my grandchildren out of love & wanting to be with them. I would never expect or ask for money!! I would do anything for my daughter & her family!! But, that’s just me…
What? $20 to $40 a week!!! What a joke!!! You should be giving her a lot more than that.
You should take care of your own child if you don’t give her more money or simply get your child in day care… she still has drive the child … haha… what? You can’t drive your own kid to your moms?
Ugh… I’m sorry… you are definitely taking a HUGE advantage of your mom … it’s actually annoying. SHE IS DOING YOU a FAVOR!!
Well she needs to set a weekly amount for you to pay and that’s it. Yes you should pay her and probably more than you are but she shouldn’t be asking for other money. She can’t afford what she wants then she should get a job herself. You need to tell her how you feel.
Better listen to mom or get used to paying five times that amount for babysitting
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I would do pro/cons list and then decide 
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Best off to figure out is it cheaper to pay your mom more or the daycare? Write it out on paper and if the daycare is a lot more then pay your mom more. Yes it is her granddaughter but that doesn’t mean she is forced to be your babysitter. Also throwing your mom under the bus by mentioning her boyfriends marital status is not cool. It sounds like you put that in here to make her look bad and have us feel bad for you. In the end I feel bad for your mom cause she’s being treated like a doormat!
WOW! You are taking advantage of your mom and on top of that you think she is asking for a lot!
Having someone drive to the commodity of your home to take care of your daughter full time is a privilege. I’m a profesional nanny and would not work for that “gas money you give your mom”
My rate is $20+ PER HOUR
$800 per 40 hours.
Be appreciative, or find a daycare and I hope your mom can work for herself and continues to do what makes her happy.
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I personally think its crazy your mom is asking to look after your child for money. Its her grandbaby!! I dont pay my parents when my daughter goes over for the weekend or weekdays. They are excited and happy to have her! They would love to have the opportunity your mom has. I would say stip using her and look into subsidy for child care. And not all daycares have horror stories you just have to find the best fit for you! 
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You said you n hubby had full time jobs. Im sure yall bringing in 500 plus a week. Your mon must not have anything if living with granny and useing her her car. The lil change of 40.00 you give her out of the kindness of your heart she dont get cause it goes back in gas so in all your not giving her anything. I sure between yall both working you could find a way to give her a lil more after all you not having to guess what kind of person has your child.
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Why must you pay for her roadtrips…bc shes babysitting that wrong pay her something every week or month and the rest of the shit she wants is not on you my mom loves to look after my and my susters kids
My mom gets one thousand per kid when taxes come in but we also all help each other out when ever it is needed we all break even in the end but my family also believes in being there for each other not just when its convient
If u don’t want to pay ur mom the extra then get a daycare quick u will realize the difference in price
The cheapest I charge is 20 a day and that’s just to family or close friends sometimes free. It they will always give me something or watch my kids in exchange now my mom Dosent charge me she will watch my kids feed my kids in her house but I do it around her schedule
Your mom gave you life. You gave life to your kids. She doesn’t owe you you owe her. What makes you believe she’s your servant for life. Honor the person who gave you life.
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I was so blessed my mom never asked for money to watch my son but I always told her whatever she needed i got her and always will
You would pay a daycare much more, pay your mom. Maybe not do all the other things u don’t want to, we don’t know what they are. But pay her. U would pay someone else who u may not trust. You trust her, your child is in good safe hands.
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Ffs, you sound like an entitled brat!! Pay your mom, she’s doing you a great service for only $40 a week. You have no right to complain about that. Daycare fees can be anywhere from 600- 1500, and in some places, even more. And that doesnt include your gas to get there and back. That doesnt cover all the extra little charges they throw in there. Be greatful your mother does this for you.
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You are really taking advantage aren’t you ?
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Could you put your child in daycare part time. Like 3 days a week and mom watches her 2 days a week. Tell your mom you want your child to socialize with others. And that way you could have grandma still involved but let her pick what two days she wants to babysitting and set those days that way you don’t have to work around schedules and don’t hurt anyone’s feelings?
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She needs to be paid more. Instead of watching the baby she could easily get her own job with that time and make lots more money. You wouldnt pay $20 for a daycare to watch your child so why do you expect your mom to work for that much. Growing up I would watch people’s kids for the night and make $20 a night and that was cuz I fed them we watched a movie or played for like 30 mins and they went to bed. Shes up taking care of the child, chasing after her, and teaching her new things all day.
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This question HAS GOT TO BE a joke…
Tell me it’s a joke.
Right???
FFS!! Your mama didn’t lay down and have that baby… YOU DID.
#spoiled
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First off she’s the grandma… grandma’s don’t get paid watching their grandchildren. Secondly, you don’t need to work around her schedule, she needs to work around yours. Honestly I would look into daycare and figure it out on your own. Dealing with that and giving into your mom is not worth it at all. Just saying. 
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See about vouchers an don’t let these people make you feel bad for stating how you feel. You shouldnt be paying her zip! NADA! She should be happy you give her gas money. Im sure she ain’t going on empty driving 10 mins away. I would look for daycares near you. They’ll offer more an you won’t feel guilty
Spoiled ungrateful brat. The end. Put your child in daycare and you will quickly realize how MADE you have it with your mom. She don’t mind you paying $40 a week least pay for things extra that may be needed. It’s not your mothers obligation to watch your child. She’s taking time out her life to watch your child. Pay the extra necessities or take the child to daycare
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Why don’t u try applying for government assistance like CCDS, they help u pay for daycare. I think u have it pretty cheap paying your mom the little u do. But it’s seems like it’s putting more of a strain on both of y’all’s relationship. I would choose Daycare first and talk to other parents there and get their feed back on the daycare. Do your homework! And then as a back up use ur mom when ur child is sick 
or can’t go to daycare for some other reason. Don’t pawn ur child off on ur mom because it’s not her responsibility to watch UR child. Coming from experience and know what ur going through, it will make her miss her grand baby and she will be calling u to drop her off on date night. Hope u take everyone’s advice into consideration. Good luck
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It’s your kid not your moms pay her or watch your own kid
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If she gets upset about you taking her to daycare that’s her issue. But just remember that money you’re giving the daycare (expensive) could just go to your mom who you actually trust and your kid is right in your own home. Oh also most daycares usually charge you rather the child comes or not. If the daycare worker goes on vacation, or they have to close for a day. You still have to pay for those days.
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I’m a grabdma: I babysit for my grandkids from 3 - 4 days awesome, I do not get paid don’t expect to because if there is away to help my kids out in this crazy economy I will. I know this is very appreciated by my kids because mothers day last year my boys bought me a vehicle to say thank you for all I do so my point is a grandma should watch the grandkids it’s something a grandchild will always cherish, love not $ should be enough. But remember a grandparent doesn’t want to feel used so once I awhile a show of appreciation is called for
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So start paying her. It will still be cheaper to pay family than to pay day care
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I pay 125/wk for my two kids 2yr and 4mo . She provides food as well… if my mom wasnt an hour away id pay that to her. If shes not working and watching your kids I feel she deserves more than just gas money… kinda sounds selfish.
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