Sounds like it was a prank. I’ve had a whole 5 gallon jug of ice cold water thrown on me at hunting camp by one of the old heads right before we left and I had to ride home for 2 hours in cold soaking wet clothes. 
But your daughter comes first. If your daughter doesn’t like it, for sure tell your mom to lay off and not to do it. Just explain your daughter doesn’t like her doing these things and hopefully your mom should stop. If she doesn’t, then by all means it’s your daughter first for sure and you can do whatever action you see fit to stop the problems.
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In my opinion the issue here isn’t that she tipped water over her (although it is an issue especially if your daughter is upset by it). The issue itself is what the hell she was doing going into the room whilst your daughter was showering. Unless your daughter asked for help or was injured etc in no circumstances should she be going into the shower room with your daughter! Respect and privacy is key with kids!!
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Your mother shouldn’t even be in the bathroom while your daughter is showering, I don’t care who she thinks she is! If she’s already been causing problems, this would definitely be the icing on the cake for me. No one, and I mean NO ONE, messes with my babies!!
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I feel like if it was a prank, your mother would tell you, right? I mean, you should know if it was a prank or not. Was it?
Let me just say this. This is just one scenario. Whether it be a prank or not, doesn’t sound right. A woman doing that to her grandchild … especially when it’s not a common thing that happens between you all. Right? I mean I could understand if you were all constantly playing pranks on one another…
My mum never stood up for me or herself. For 10 years I lived being abused by my step dad. 10 long years!
She had no clue it was going on, because I didn’t feel like I could talk to her. I knew she never really listened. She just brushed anything off like it would improve.
She witnessed the constant verbal abuse at the dinner table and the mind games and torment though. And all she did was walk away from it.
Now I’m a mother of a 4 year old. I’ve recently become a single mother. But let me tell you, I will never ever let someone treat my child any less than they deserve to be treated and talked to. Children And young adults emotions ARE JUST AS VALID as adults. IF NOT MORE! (They ,haven’t been fully conditioned by society yet).
So basically, what I’m saying to you is. Go with your gut on this one. It doesn’t sound right to me. If it doesn’t feel right. Ask her to leave. Family or no family, let the toxic people out of your life.
You’re not always going to be able to protect your daughter from that stuff, I know. But while you can - set the best example you can to her! For her future childrens sake too!
And show your mum she crossed a boundary.
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My Grandpa used to pour cold water on me to wake me up. I survived and now laugh about it
Your making to much of it no big deal
Y’all are freaking wack. That’s horrible.
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You wanted us to agree with you and now that most are not you’re all mad i don’t get it thin why ask us anything at all do what you’re gonna do but now if you through you’re mom on the street without getting her a place to live first you’re a POS in my eye’s
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Kick her ass out as no one pours water on my kids no matter what, it can traumatize her and you have no idea what’s next also don’t leave your kids home with your mom as you don’t know what can happen next and you don’t want to find out. Also contact your local child service office and file a child abuse report on your mom and get a restraining order on her
My mom used to do this to me all the time when I was a kid as a prank LOL so maybe we’re all taking this a little too seriously?
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Y would your mom do such a thing when she did not do anything
Look after your mother, she will be gone soon and you don’t know whats it like until they are gone-no 2 people ever agree on everything
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Sounds like something my father in law would do. It sounds to me like she was pranking her. Trying to play.
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Sounds to me that this is just one of MANY things grandma has done to her grand child. Like maybe she is jealous for whatever reason! Also we do not know if this child has a sensory problems and just bc it didn’t burn you when you was a child doesn’t mean she is lying! There definitely needs to be a line drawn bc yes that is your mother but that is CHILD and your kids will always come before your parents
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Facts your kids always come first!!!
How did cold water burn her??
This was a prank we always did growing up. So idk
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Was she being funny or mean?
If it was just a joke, then ok. But this doesnt sound like she even cared about doing it to her own granddaughter! This is completely unacceptable, shes gotta go before she does something worse! I havent spoken to my mother in 5+ years because of choices she made while she had my kids! I cut her off completely!!! Mother or not, toxic is toxic!
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How did cold water burn her skin? I’m confused.
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My child comes before anyone… Including my mother. Get her out of there.
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Idk I mean I guess it depends on why she did it. Was just joking or being mean? This was a running joke in my family. Everyone did it to each other and no one like looked over the curtain to invade anyone’s privacy. You dumped it and ran as fast as you could before they could spray you with the shower hose lol it was never traumatic and it was cold as hell but it certainly never burned, that mat have been a little dramatic on the daughters part. If the mother was doing it to be mean and spiteful than that’s an entirely different story
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absolutely get her out of there what the hell 
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Get rid before she really does your daughter harm
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Joke or prank or not it hurt your daughters feelings and physically hurt her. Pranks should be harmless and make everyone involved laugh (whoopie cushions, shaving cream on hand while they sleep and tickle their nose, etc)
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I’d advise her that this behavior is not acceptable. People are to be treated with respect or she can get the eff out
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The fact that your Mom said your daughter deserved to have cold water thrown on her in the shower shows that this was not a joke. You state that she has caused nothing but problems since she moved in. Time for a family meeting. Boundaries need to set in place and she needs to know that if she doesnt respect those boundaries, she will have to leave immediately. No lingering because she doesnt have anywhere to go.
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I think if she is Iiving with you, it’s your right to set a few house rules that apply to everyone. Privacy is one…your mom needs to act like a grown up so your daughter grows up knowing right from wrong.
Cut out toxic people, especially if your children are being affected by them.
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Question…Why was your daughter crying? Also, mom should not discipline your daughter unless with your permission.
I feel like this was a joke and grandma is upset ur taking it so seriously I would be. I myself have done this to my kids joking my mother has to. I have thrown cold water on my son to wake him up cause he was being a butt and wouldn’t get up . Now if she hits or verbally abused it child that’s different put her out . My mother and I didnt speak for 4 years because I got tired of her yelling at my children every day and me coming home from work and them crying so I put her out. Ur kids are no.1 no matter what
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This wouldn’t be acceptable even if YOU were the one living at your mom’s. It’s perfect to honor your parents and care for them, but not if it comes at the expense of your kids 
My guess is… this is not the first incident with your mom and your daughter
Was it a joke? My dad and brother have both done this to me 
I’ve done it to my kids. But if it was done to be malicious id be pissed
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I see everyone saying was it a joke…but that doesn’t matter. Truth of it she is a 10 yr old who probably doesn’t want to be seen naked infront of anyone. So for that reason alone it is totally unacceptable. Degrading and I’m sure it will have a lasting affect on her. For anyone who has never had teens or older children and can’t understand this yet then you probably couldn’t get it.
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Consequences. If she has nowhere else to go, she created that situation one way or the other. You were kind enough to take her in to help. But none of that kindness should translate to latitude to torture your child, which is what she meant when she said she deserved it.
Who are you responsible for protecting? Your mother or your child? If it’s your child, evict your mother. That was wholly unacceptable, deliberate and inexcusable. Do it now or what else will your child suffer from her that she thinks she ‘deserves’? You smell the smoke, put out the fire or don’t cry when your house burns down.
Reading all the comments.Why would anyone go in the bathroom when someone else is occupying. Shower or whatever. If this is considered a joke there are a lot of people who need mental health help.
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It would not be wrong to stop enabling your mom protecting your daughter.
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Why would she do such a thing? Doesn’t even make sense 2 me!! I’d have a talk with her n expkaon that behavior isn’t acceptable. If she continues I’d ask her 2 move out.
I would throw her out… today!
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It was a joke!! I do this to my husband all the time 
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I’d pack her shit myself.
If this was meant to be a joke maybe be like yo, let’s try something a bit less invasive to her privacy. BUT reading that no, this is not a one time thing, It’s your job to protect your child. There are tons of resources out there for addicts and to not enable or allow anything to happen to your daughter I would bring her to one of those. You are that child mother though and it is your job to protect her. I am so sorry you’re having to deal with the things you’re dealing with
Why is this even a question? Joke? Are you people serious? Perhaps you missed the part that states her Mom is mean!
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Maybe you should read the entire post before you comment!!!
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Anyone that thinks this is a joke IS A JOKE!!!
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She could give her a heart attack.
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Everyone’s saying it’s a joke but it’s not the fact that she poured water on her, it’s the fact that she said she deserved it, like it was meant to be a punishment. That’s some malicious intent right there, no one got hurt this time but it could very easily escalate if you keep letting it happen. Kick her out.
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My dad used to do this it was a joke. Not a great one but he considered it a joke till someone did it back then it wasnt so funny. if she causes problems have a talk with her. If it persists kick her out
I used to do this to my ex husband… and put a rubber band around the sprayer on the kitchen sink.
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Please do something about it if its affecting your daughter she will start to resint you for not protecting her and standing by her side
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First of all you said your mother said that your daughter deserved it you should ask her why and you should have had your daughter in front of her asking why because maybe the child did something to her first so she just repeat it back to her think about that maybe the ten-year-old did something Pranking the grandma so she was just paying her back maybe that’s why she said she deserved it not anything else second of all you only have one mother in this world don’t throw it away if anything like I said confront your mother about the situation ask her why she said your daughter deserved it but have your daughter standing there with her also to find out what’s going on how do you know your daughter didn’t do something to your mother being mean to her or just pranking her you don’t know until you ask the questions you can’t just assume that you know why your mother said that if you didn’t ask her why and you people saying kick her out did not read her mother has nowhere to go if she wants to get her help get her some help but don’t kick her out on the streets that’s what’s wrong with the world today people don’t have family members to help them out they just throw them to the side and just ignore them instead of getting help for them you don’t know the woman situation why you saying kick her out hello there’s too much hate in this world already you’re not supposed to hate your mother for something that little I can understand if she throws hot boiling water on her but it was cold water and it was probably just a prank and that’s the reason why she said she deserved it maybe the child did a prank on her first you don’t know that because she did not put the whole story out there and she shouldn’t never posted anything like this on here about the situation until she found out the whole situation I would ask my child in front of my mother did she ever do any pranks to her first and I would ask my mother why did you say she deserved it did she do it to you first you got to ask questions you can’t just assume you know why your mother did it and then you going to come on here to put your moms business out there like that, well that was very wrong of you to do… I don’t know why people put their own business out here for the world to know about I don’t put my business on Facebook I take care of things myself I don’t ask other people’s opinion cuz I don’t want to know what their stupidity is like… like I said you only have one mother in this world cherish her but yes protect your children but if your mom wasn’t doing anything so wrong as to just a prank like I said ask questions first and then don’t put your business on Facebook and especially your mom’s business that was wrong of you to do… if your mother is having some issues in her life be there for her support her get her help don’t kick her on the streets look how many people are homeless out there because they have no family to go to or no family would help them that’s wrong of you to do I would never kick my mother on the streets no matter what she has done I would talk to her about the situation and ask her not to do it if the child is not wanting to prank but the child may have done something first who knows nobody but you your mother and your child so deal with it solve the problem yourself sweetheart don’t ask questions on Facebook why would you want everybody in your business … see if you kick her out on the streets That’s what Satan would want you to do, but if you help your mother give her some support and just help her that’s what God would want you to do… God wouldn’t want you to throw your mother on the streets I hope you didn’t do that please tell me you didn’t throw your mother out on the streets because that would be wrong for you to do love your mother love your child find out what the problem was before taking any actions… and for all you people out there telling her to kick her mother out shame on you where is the love for your mother I just cannot believe people say to kick her out on the streets I think you all need help that said kick your mother out to the streets go to church learn something… y’all need to learn what unconditional love is because kicking your mother out to the streets that is not unconditional love do you think God would do that to you no he would not, but Satan would but not God I think you all need some help the ones that said kick her to the streets maybe y’all are doing drugs , maybe all you people don’t love your mother when you should like I said if she has some issues with some things you help the person you don’t kick them to the curb… I hope my advice helped you out sweetheart because you didn’t need someone telling you to kick your mom out to be on the streets they should have been telling you to find out what the reason was and go from there not saying kick her out…
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I’m so sorry for your daughter & you. This abuse from her grandmother is absolutely unacceptable. I wouldn’t question for one second if she has so leave or not hun. Your child comes first, your Mom is not mentally healthy & tho your heart wants to help her, she has to help herself. The action of your mom may permanently scar your daughter. That’s terrible… who knows what her next move may be, she can’t be trusted right now. She needs professional help & your daughter need not live like that. That’s your job as her mom, to ensure her safety & fill her with love.
Again, I’m sorry.
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Why is she in the bathroom while your daughter is showering??? Shes 10. She doesnt need any help. That’s weird as hell and I’d kick her out. If she needs drugs help, tell her to see a professional.
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Bye bye mom or not your daughter comes first. I would be livid if someone let alone my own mother hurt my kids. They would be getting hurt back and sent packing
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She needs to get out!! You helped her but when it gets to hurting your child it’s time to go.
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My dad used to do this to my mom and I as a prank.
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Youre mum sounds like a right bully 
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You are the protection for your child. Mom must go. She has behavior patterns that harmed your child.
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cold ass water being poured on me during a warm/hot shower sucks. that shit feels like the salt & ice challenge. i don’t think i’d kick my mom out if she did something like that to my kid, we’re a family of sarcastic assholes. sit mom down, tell her not to do things like that anymore. she took it too far when she said your daughter deserved it but i personally wouldn’t go as far as kicking my mother out. as to why your mom was in the bathroom when your daughter was showering, that’s a tad weird. i’d tell my daughter to lock the door from now on if grandma can’t stop from pranking her in the shower. and as for my daughter, id talk to her, growing up with a dickhead brother i had water poured on me or the toilet flushed while i was in the shower way too many times to count, i’d cry, scream and yell but then it was my turn for revenge. that shit gets way too fun!! let grandma have her fun, in different ways that aren’t invading anyone’s pri,vacy!
Your mother has some big mental health issues that need addressing , give her an ultimatum, get help or leave ! Never leave your child alone with her ever !
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That’s MEAN!! Kick her out! No questions asked! She isn’t your problem, your kids are and she’s creating a horrible living environment! Put that woman out now before it gets worse and if you don’t take action it WILL get worse!
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Do it to her. Tell she deserved it. Remind her that you are mom and to leave any disciple of your child to you. If she doesnt like it show her the door.
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Yes! kids first always! No child deserves that! And nobody else has the right to treat your child that way!
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Not acceptable… moms gotta go… you are “helping” ypur mom at the expense of your daughter… right to be in her own home where she can let go, feel safe, have some down time, wtfffff… this wil or could lead to anger depressio , cutting… lots of unwanted harm to your daughter… only you are there to protect her… please put a stop to this and help her. Do the right thing. Your mom has to go. Her helpbhas to be found elsewhere… thatbis just f-ed up cruel. :-/
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ok honestly if your daughter said it burned i say it was a prank gone too far… but again the key word here is prank… this is something thats been done to billions of people over the last few decades… i say talk to your mom and set some boundaries and make sure she appologises to your daughter but i dont see this as a reason to kick her out…
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We have done this to each other on fun. Maybe she was just doing it in fun. We need more info.
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Granny said “she deserved it”. That doesn’t sound like what a prankster would say? Also, the mum noted that granny has been causing problems with her daughter.
If granny was “just joking”, then there is a major communication issue between them. The girl doesn’t find it funny, anyway, so back off.
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The fact that you have to ask this question makes me question your parenting!
Get her the fuck out of the house and away from your kid! Protect your child
Her not having a place to go doesn’t mean your daughter has to be treated like this.
And who the heck does that
Mom has to go children are first
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Sorry, mom’s gotta go. That is crazy.
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She gotta go! If she’s being mean & vindictive to you & especially your kids she can get out. My mother would be mean to my son when I let her stay with us. She would smoke knowing we both had asthma, would have unwelcomed company and whatever she wanted. I had to put her out. It didn’t ruin our relationship…we eventually got back on normal mother daughter terms but yea I had no reservations putting her out. She actually moved back in a few years later for about 6 months.
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I literally do this to my husband and brothers aaaaaalllllllllll the time. It doesn’t actually burn but it does feel funny cause it’s a contrast between hot and cold. I wouldn’t kick anyone out for that but if you think it was inappropriate then just tell her. The “deserved it” part sounds weird to me. Maybe I’m missing something. But if it was done to be cruel then it’s not ok but as a joke, just talk to her
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If she is intentionally picking on her when it’s been made clear your daughter isn’t a practical joker I’d consider that bullying. Family or not, it’s not ok EVER to make someone feel discomfort for your own amusement especially if it’s one sided.
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Boot her out. If it was suppose to be a prank/joke that would be one thing… but her saying “she deserved it” shows it wasn’t a joke or prank. Boot her out of your house.
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Your daughter is your responsibility not your mom. Help her pack help her out the door and then. Love and protect your daughter
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I wouldn’t say pouring the water on your daughter would be a good reason, unless it’s a repeat issue after she’s been told to stop, my dad used to do that ALL the time to us growing up. In the winter it was an entire bucket of snow lol I’m even guilty of the cold water splash on my 4 yr old 
if she’s really causing so many issues for your daughter though, and you’ve discussed it with her and asked her to stop, I’d say she has to go. Your child well being comes first.
Id throw her shit out the window and change the locks
You should think of your family first , if your mom cain’t be nice to your children , then ask her to leave .
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I’ve done this to my kids as a prank. In return they have gotten me back. Just talk to ur mom. Tell her she’s not a kid that’s likes pranks and it needs to stop. There are locks on bathroom doors for a reason. Pour cold water on ur mom while she’s showering and tell her she deserves it. And the pranks need to stop. Alot of kids can’t handle stuff like that these days…
Tell your mom if she doesn’t chill out, you will have to ask her to leave.
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Go dump cold water on her when she’s sleeping, then throw her out
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You need to protect your daughter!
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She threw cold water on her and it burned!!!.. I’m confused…
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The family you come from is important but the one you make is top priority
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It’s cold tho… lol dont be a cry baby lol
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You seem like you’re looking for excuses to get rid of her. If you don’t want her there then you need to just kick her out, stop looking for our advice
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“Jokes” aren’t funny when they’re grown adults doing things that hurt children. If your daughter was unhappy and this is one of many things, I’m not sure why this is a question you even have to ask strangers. You protect your kids. Period.
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She can act like an adult or she an get the fuck out. I wouldn’t put up with that from anyone.
U people is ridiculous for saying to kick the grandma out the grandma was playing with the kids it’s not gonna hurt the child to have pranks pulled on her I do it to my kids all the time and all they do is just prank me back kids now days are whimps and parents are teaching them to be that way by sheltering them all their life if the daughter didn’t like it then let the daughter get the grandma back make something fun out of it stop with all the negativity that is what’s wrong with this world today
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She gotta go protect your kids cause one day she will take it to far especially past drug problems fuck no that bitch gottah go
Idiot thing to do for absolutely no reason. Would have already booted her ass out. Would never do that to my grandkids, even when they drive me crazy. Lol
Well let me tell you frist of all you never turn your back on your mother. Second the kid relley did not get hurt.but kids need respect two tell her don’t do it no more or she got to go point blank
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