She is playing with her grandchild while u clean up omg what a horrible women 
You would or could do the same at her house I guess ! Did you invite her over ?
Well sheâs a guest soâŚ
Would you rather her walk around like she owns the place?
In our âfamilyâ is family. Everyone pitches in.
But thatâs just us. Love & family respect âŚ
We all enjoy our time together⌠we all work togetherâŚ
A guest is someone new to your family.
With us. If youâve been over more than 3 times & we are going to have an on going friendship
You become family.
Dang I am not treated like a âguestâ
Iâm loved. Family is everything 
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When we have family over we do all of those things. When we go to either of our parents WE STILL DO THOSE THINGS. In either situation we cherish the time we have and our kids want to play and spend time with their grandparents while we or they are visiting and the happiness it gives all of them makes me happy.
I mean If you take a step back from the situation and evaluate it see if your kids are happy with her, if she is happy to be there, is your husband happy, and are you the only one unhappy? Is it really because SHE isnât helping you cook and clean or socialize with you when you are? Do you feel left out of the fun because husband is off doing it too and not helping you at all? Thereâs got to be another reason to be upset. Re-read your question after a relaxing shower and see if you still have the same mindset or if you feel differently. I donât think cooking and cleaning is your actual issue.
Iâd HATE to have some of yâall as guests at my house. I couldnt imagine going into ANYONEâS home and making them wait on me hand and foot. LAZY. My momma always taught me that when youâre a guest in someoneâs home you help outâŚor at least OFFER. Youâre telling me they donât have to clean up after themselves at all? Iâd be embarrassed if I stayed with someone and just made them do everything. MORTIFIED. Literally and my momma would wanna bust my asa.
I never expect a guest to help clean up.
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⌠ask her to help you?
Let your MIL spend time playing with your daughter. These are memories sheâll cherish long after your MIL is gone. Now sister and brother inlaws are another story!
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ReallyâŚshe did her stuff, itâs Your turn now.
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UmâŚsheâs your guest.
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Hmm. What are your husband and father-in-law doing?
Wow are you sorry you asked this question yet.
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Wow . Itâs not a big deal lol . If sheâs my guest I wouldnât let her do that !
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You can either order pizza when MIL is invited over or move out of state far away 
Let her enjoy her grandkids. My kids didnât have that opportunity to experience that, and I wish they did.
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Whats it like when you go to her house?
Is this not the norm ? Lol
Is this the way she treats you when you are in her home?
Seems this fan need to learn some respect for elders and parents.
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Are you kidding ? I mean really you want your guest to do help you with chores and the guest is your husbandâs mother
I mean really ???
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Do you clean or cook when you go to her house?
How about you just grow up and ask for some help 
She probably does it because youâve never said anything 
and most people wait on their guest.
I wish my Mom in LOVE was still here for me to âpamperâ!! She raised 7childrenâŚshe deserved to be waited on!! The same way as I treat my Mom!!
Maybe I am old fashioned or just have more respect for my elders. I donât expect ANYONE I invite to do anything except sit back and enjoy.
I am now a MIL and even though I offer to help, I am always told to sit and enjoy my grandbabies. Please remember, you wonât have her forever 
what do you do when you go to her house?
Ummmm shes your guest and your husbandâs motherâŚyou remember the one who gave birth to the man you married. 𤡠come on now âŚwhy would you expect her too do that? Let her enjoy not doing anything and spending time with the grandkids. They took care of usâŚnow its our turnđ
I wouldnât expect my mil or mother to lift a finger to do anything may they rest in peace x
She is not a guest she is family!!! As a mom of boys I would never come plop my butt down at their house and put more work on their wife especially if she already has my son and grandkids to care for!
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Sheâs a guest and entertaining her grandchild not your maid
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Wtf are uou kidding me. Shes your guest so if she chooses not to help then so be it. If she did I bet your prissy ass would have a problem there too .god bless you do realize one day sheâs gonna be dead and he will miss his mama,oh and she plays with her grandchild so sheâs actually helping with your daughter ,keeping her busy ,oh the gall .honey grow the fk up .you sound ridiculous.
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She is a guest in your home do you expect all of your guests to act like they live there?
I hope never to be hosted in a home as welcoming as yours.
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Sheâs literally a guest in your home, itâs rude of you to expect she does your house chores.
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Well I was raised to help in any way I can when Iâm invited
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Kinda hurts my heart that youâre complaining about that. I dont mean offense by saying that though.
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Quick whinningâŚshes earned it. Be kind. Itâs your kids gramma.
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My advise love her. She will not be around forever so be kind. Wish mine were here
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Thee audacity of this broad. sheâs your guest.
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Depends on her culture. It may just be a sign of respect
For Godâs sake let her play with her grandchild. Quit being selfish.
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Shes family not a guest. Tell her to help out.
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I wish I had the chance to give that to my mother in law again I miss her dearly she was my best friend
When my MIL is in our home she is our guest and I do not let her do a thing. I let her relax for once!!
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Be humble she has done a lot of job rainsing your husband. You are the host thats what host do serve
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But I am an MIL and I love to help and cook for my family
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I was taught that when you host a dinner or whatever event you take care of your guests, and if they want to help good if not good, and when we go to a family dinner, we all help with whatever we can I think itâs the way you are raised everyone its different.
ok⌠maybe i am the only one raised to believe that as a GUEST in someone elseâs home, you offer to help. You do not leave a mess and you clean up after yourself. 
My mama and daddy taught me that. Their parents taught them that way. And I continue to teach my kids the same! It is called Human Decency and Courtesy. At least OFFER. When MY family or friends come over, they at least take their plates to the kitchen. Is this something only Southern mamas teach??
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Sorry Carlene, I disagree. She should be grateful enough to offer
I never let anyone who is a guest, help with any of that. Let her enjoy her time with her grandchildren
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I wouldnât mind I love my mother inlaw.
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Umm its YOUR house not hers why do u expect her to help you with YOUR house?
I never expect mine to help with anything
She offers to help and asks if i need help and i politely tell her no i got it
Dont expect ur MIL to help at YOUR house
Itâs the polite thing to do to offer to help clear the dishes but should not be expected. She is spending time with her grandchild which is probably the main reason for the visit. If you would like her to help. Maybe suggest that she give your child a bath or get her/him ready for bed. If it really bothers you, communicate this to her.
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I would not expect my MIL to do any cleaning/ cooking. Her days of doing that are over! She should just enjoy her grandkids.
Your MIL has spent her years working! Now itâs time for her to enjoy her GRANDCHILDREN. Get a life girl or take her out to eat.
Sheâs your guest, if i invite people over im surely not going to ask their help in cleaning up. Like thatâs what you do when you have guests over
sheâs a guest in your house right? or does she live with you?
I donât invite people over for the âhelpâ . They are invited for the company⌠No expectation of help regardless of status: family or friends
Truth is she Clearly doesnât like the MIL
If she was invited. Sheâs doing what a good guest would
Entertaining the kids
I wish my MIL was here so I could wait on her hand and foot!
⌠i donât expect anyone to help me with those things.
Aww babe⌠You ainât from the south are you? That woman GAVE you her precious baby boy.
Did she raise hm right? Does you tempest you well?
Make that woman a plate and hush up by Gawd.
Ur mil raised ur husband cleand up after him bathed n cooked for him ext she is ur gest she earned that right to be waited on in my opinion
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I never have my MIL help when sheâs over. In fact, I tell her, you get to sit and relax đ¤ˇ
Remind her she is family and as a family we all help⌠good luck
Hi Iâm 60 years old and I was raised 2 help out tell anything I can in the house I was not brought up to be served if I wanted something I would being feel free to get up and get it and do whatever I can to help out I never had a mother-in-law but I mean thatâs the way I was raised my kids are raised to help around the house and do all that now theyâre grown up and married my daughter-in-law has a mother-in-law and when she comes over she like if sheâs at home she helps herself and helps them cook and clean and does everything you donât have to help your mother-in-law to hand and foot Surfer I mean thatâs ridiculous youâre not youâre not in the 1800âs where in the 2020s so you either put your foot down and tell your mother-in-law to get on her butt and start helping or you just refuse to have her over for visitation I hope you can understand my opinion
Seriously?? Shes a guest, dont invite people over if you cant host them.
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Gotta remember mom did all that for you at one time ⌠You only get one mama ⌠Some of us would LOVE to see our mom come visit 
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Donât invite her over anymore! Well, that was easy. Next Question please!!
Stroke her ego by saying I love the way you ----- please show me how you cook this or make a bed so perfect or basically what ever it is you want done.
The expectation of nothing is the foundation of gratitude.
I bet thereâs about 10 more pages to this storyâŚ
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I am sorry about this, but I think it is lovely that you let your MIL take time with your daughter. Enjoy your time cooking dinner and talking to your husband.
MY daughter always comes to my house for dinner at least once a week. I get to play with my grandson while my husband cooks. Then my grandson and I clean it upâEVERYTIME!! And I raised this child!!!
Itâs ok. If she is all over the place you complain too. Awkward
I was raised to helpđ¤ˇââď¸
You could always ask her for help
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And she plays with kids so bonus.
Sheâs your guest, Iâm sorry but you are wrong in this situation.
We were raised as a family everybody helps out no matter what
Just do it. Thatâs family. Sheâs your Mom. I wouldnât personally care.
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Wow.Donât expects too much after all she has given you her son.
Both my mil and mom I waited on them ! Loved them !and now I miss them lots
Start asking for her help but honestly my grandmother does this too. Itâs for attention.
Make your other half do it, itâs his momma.
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Stop hosting and when you go to her house and do the same.
𤌠sheâs a guest at your houseâŚ
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I never ask my mil to help me⌠I wait till she goes home⌠than clean my self⌠shes my guestâŚ
Her turn to enjoy grandbaby. Her time to relax
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Sheâs a guest. I wouldnât expect her to help
MILâŚmeansâŚhere HUSBAND YOU WAIT ON YOUR MOTHER! CUZ I AM NOT!
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Sheâs a guest, maybe you just werenât ever taught proper manners 
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I love to wait on my guests especially family
Yeah thatâs kinda your job as the host. If you donât like it, then stop hosting.
I wouldnt mind that at all!
UmmmmmâŚyou lost me at âHostââŚread the definition
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Um yes thatâs called respecting your elders 
Ask her if sheâd like to help you serve ,clean up , ectâŚ
Sheâs playing with Ur kids. In my books, thatâs a big help.
Ya we donât expect our guests to help especially the Moms
MIL has done her time doing what youâre doing. Let her enjoy it.