I was raised that she is a guest!! I wished my MIL had let me help her!! Sure do miss her!
Respect goes both ways!
I feel like family is family and a guest is a guest. I help my in-laws and parents at their homes and they always help me at mine when over at dinner everything is always a family thing wether itās cooking cleaning or just sitting around and talking everyone pitches in no matter where we are. But thatās how we were all raised and how we are raising our kids you never go to someoneās house without offering to help do something, itās impolite to assume that you just can sit there. 
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I dont like people in my kitchenā¦ Lolā¦ Dont nobody get grease off like i doā¦ God forbid i get soap on my food eitherā¦ 
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My dadās house all guess sits down they donāt do anything
She is a guest in your house. Not there to clean your house.
I dont allow my guest to help.
Whatās wrong. Sheās done this all her life now her turn
She shouldnāt have to do anything, sheās a guestš¤¦āāļø
Sounds like sheās acting like a regular guest to meā¦š
stop hosting and instead go out. Otherwise, this is your life
If I was your mother in law Iād disown you
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I wish my mother in law was here.
She is a guest in your home. MIL or not!
Just move far away 
Tbh and only cause my daughter is a hell raiser, Iād rather her play with her and let me get stuff clean without her right behind me lol
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Thats how I am with all my guest. If they let me. Itās easier anyway.
She is a guest. She should be treated as such
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Ask her nicely can she please help you /give a hand on stuff
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Sheās your guest. If you donāt want to do it then donāt invite her over. She isnāt making you do it.
She is playing with your daughter. Thatās enough help for me
Why would u expect her to do anything shes ur mil she raised ur husband time to give back
Not mine she gets up and helps and Iām the same way
Let her know your glad sheās FAMILY not a guest
I wish my mil would sit back and relax. She has her own home to tend to. Thatās your house fool you are the host.
Girl sheās a guest PLEASE stop it , you just donāt like your MIL
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Uhmmmm thatās how itās supposed to be 
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Talk to your husbandā¦ itās his mom he either needs to have this discussion with her or do her share of work
Itās your spouses mother. He needs to talk to her.
Even old people we do all that
Iāve never expected my MIL clean up nor will I ever expect it
Itās your house and she is the guest!!
You and your husband do the work!!!
In my home you helpā¦ Period
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She s not supposed to help.
You invited her over she is your guest treat her like one!!
Wow. Rude. You donāt deserve a mother in law. And sheās keeping your kid entertained. 
My son and Dil donāt expect me to help when I visit
Leave her plate at the table
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I mean she is a quest.
Iād be happy to be a good host for my MIL. Iād make her stay as comfy as possible and leave a good impression.
What the hell is just read u expect an old lady to lend u hand ? Hats off to ur thinking.
She plays with your child whilst you do those things
Get a new husband! I kid. Sorry for your luck
Well it depends on whether she waits on you when you go to her house 
I guess
Be honest and tell her how you feel i would
Tell her to bring a maid.
Iām Alaskan Native and not just us Alaskan Natives but most to all Natives are taught to respect our elders. They helped raise us and take care of us. Itās our turn to take care of them. And honestly it doesnt sound like shes doing anything wrong really. She is a guest how come you think she has to help?
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In my family, I want my ML to relax and not lift a finger 
I donāt see any problem with that, she is a guest
Donāt eat front of her itās simple
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But dear she is your elder just like your mother,thatās all I can say
Dont rock the boat just invite her a little less stop being petty
I wouldnāt mind that at all
Man oh man Iām so glad my MIL never comes to my house I wish the hell I would wait on her hand and foot screw that
Donāt invite her then you wonāt have that problem
Always at least offer to help. I do.
Rent her a room nearby.
So simple treat ur MIL as ur momā¦ Then no problem at allā¦
I canāt believe this is an actual question!!!
Um itās called hospitalityā¦ get you some
I would give ANYTHING to have My MIL or My Mother here with me to play with my son. I wouls wait on them everyday. They are both in Heaven so I cant ever have that moment. Cherish her
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A decent person would ask if you need help
Sheās a guest. Not sure what the problem is.
Send her to my house. At least she shows up at yours.
Umm. Sheās a guest soā¦ sheās not the problem here.
She should be waited on
Let her enjoy that grandbaby. She has worked hard and cleaned up after your husband all those years.
Donāt do it and set clear boundaries
If you donāt like her donāt invite her over
Sheās your guest
She plays with your daughter while you clean up dinner? What a horrible person 
Some times you are better off when they are it in your way
Give me a break. Stop complaining. Your day will come.
Treat her like she was your own mum xo
Maybe itās a southern thing
Quit calling her to the table. Fix her ass quick!
Girl, who raised you?
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Thatās called a dinner guest
The host should host.
Sheās your guest! 
Wow! A guest is a guest.
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I was raised that guest get treated like royalty
Sounds like you are looking for a reason to complain about your MIL.
Sheās the guest right??
MIL visiting DIL and sin is not agur
When she visits then you go visit your mom
Suggest to her would you like help and if she says no donāt ask again dishes ect!!
You wait on her! Period.
She is your guest in your house!
This sounds exactly like my sister-in-law 
Ummm ā¦ sheās a guest ā¦
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Nailed it! Sharing!
Thats how you treat a GUEST.
Its your expectations a
Donāt wait on her and donāt let your hubby or kids eitherā¦ She will get the hint.
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Sometimes things makes me wonder whay kind of people we areā¦
When my MIL and FIL were visiting us to another country for a month, i took care of them, did all the chores (she never worked -atleast in the kitchen- in her own house so that) and that i was raised to respect the elder and my in lawsā¦
so a week later one fine morning when we woke up, we were greeted by my crying MILā¦ she told my husband that i am a bad person because i donāt let her go to my kitchen to helpā¦ i was shockedā¦ like in her own house she would just leave the plate on the dinner table for my SIL to do them but here she said thisā¦ and mind you it was an open kitchen so it wasnāt like i am locking it or somethingā¦ just out of respect i didnāt let her help me cook or do the dishesā¦ so i told me husband i will not do her dishes from now on and she is welcome to do hers and FILs herselfā¦ the very next day she was crying again that i am.not helping her and giving her all the work to do ā¦
She went backā¦ i thought end of the storyā¦ we NOā¦ thats where it all started ā¦ when we went a year later to visit, everyone was hating me and not talking to meā¦ turned out that i had treated MIL so bad that she almost died in my careā¦ i would lock away my fridge so she never had foodā¦ she was working like a servant at my house. I locked the TV so she couldnāt even pass timeā¦ that i physically and mentally abused them and i am doing the same to their sonā¦ that was the year that we marriedā¦ Iāve endured all that for 10 yearsā¦ finally i went NC with her when i was pregnant with my second baby and she said she wished my baby died in me and that sheād poison my 8yo and me so we can all dieā¦ all that because i am from a different country and she doesnāt like me (her words in front of the whole family) and now she tells everyone how i am a bad person keeping her grandkids away from herā¦ whenever any of my relatives tells me this i tell them donāt worry my son saw everything and knows and i am gonna tell my little one too that her grandmother wanted her dead in me so the reason she doesnāt ever got to meet herā¦
We are in our own house now and i have not allowed her hereā¦ i donāt know if she ever tried but whenever my husband asks me about letting her visit atleast once to see our new house, i always denyā¦ i donāt want her to ever even look at me or the kidsā¦
Sorry for it being too longā¦
Lol this girl thought everyone was gonna be on her side
Omg is that how you treat your mother too
My mom does the same.
Thereās something deeper here.
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Donāt invite her over.