Grow up you sound immature
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Your MIL sounds like she is experiencing some memory issues due to her age.
I forget myself. My family are very good to my kids so it doesnāt bother me. My husbands mother is 90 and has lots of children, grandchildren and great grand children. She never forgets. Iām just happy they are all alive and well.
Lifeās too short Get over it Dont sweat the small stuffv
Hell my grandmother called me my sisters name and she called my sister my name! We didnāt get upset, we loved her dearly still! Maybe she is getting with age difficulties with these things ! I know I am 65 and I have to look up their birthdays and I was in the delivery room with them also! It happens and we have to accept that these things as we age
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Life is too shortā¦let it go show love
Seeing everyone take up for this MIL makes me absolutely LIVID. The grandmother is playing favorites. She is not suffering from a āmedicalā condition. If she was, she would not remember the names and info for the other grandchildren. And those of you saying that it does not bother the child, YES IT FREAKING DOES. You try sitting back and watch the other grandchildren get treated better than you. 
No one day sooner than you think you will be her Be kind
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Maybe your MIL is suffering from extreme stress and that is why she is forgetful. I have been under extreme stress most of my adult life and I find Iām forgetful and have been for many many years. Iām now in my 70s. Give her some grace. She could also be suffering from depression and possibly severe.
Lady I want to see you at her age!!! The older we get. We loses brain cells!!! Get over it!!!
Get her a diary and write in important dates with the persons full names.
Whatsa matter? You canāt live without constant attention and feeling of importance and not knowing your own worth? What others canāt do for you, YOU CAN do for yourself.
Sad all around. My MIL was never what āIā wanted her to be she was just herself. Live and let live. Many years I put a wedge between myself and my man over this. Married 26 years and together 30. Must say wasnāt worth it. We can only control our reactions. My own mum has dementia. So sad. People forget all kinds of things. Hurt peopleā¦hurt people. Dementia is insidious and can take years to fully be recognized. Hereās hoping your MIL isnāt heading that way . Would be sad for your husband who it sounds like you love very much. Pick your battles. I didnāt and wasted so much time being angry at him for what was not in his control. Celebrate your love and pray for your MIL., if your into that sorta thing. Death is final my MIL has been dead for years. Still sometimes renting space in my mind and causing strife to this day in my marriage. It just isnāt worth it. Live and let LOVE. Namaste.
No big deal-some people just donāt do birthdays-my x could never remember his own much less others lol
Its Alzheimer, dear! Donāt be mad.
She may have early cognitive problems
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People tend to have some mental blocks as they grow older. I think you could have handled this better than you did. Your MIL may be going through early dementia. I think all you have done is draw attention to her aging memory and have probably hurt her feelings and embarrassed her. Look inside and see if there isnāt some jealousy involving the attention she gives her other grandchildren. I doubt her memory loss is deliberate and you can help her by reminding her when your childrenās birthdays are coming up, so you can be sure she will remember. Give her a calendar and put everyoneās birthday in it. She will appreciate that.
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OMG , SO Glad I am not your motherin law
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Honestly, you sounded like you acted like ā a 3rd wheelā
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You should grow up and stop being, Oh, pity me. You will be her age, one day, see how you will act. Older we get, some people have dementia. She feels bad enough. She probably donāt like to drive as far as you live. Have compassion and tend to your elders!!!
Its just my opinion that remembering their first name is more important. I think not knowing when threw kids birthdays are is irritating but my brother is the same way. Your husband can reminds them like my sister reminds him. Was it worth it to make a scene? Is it worth it to damage your health? It seems maybe you might be your own worse enemy.
puhleese we canāt remember our own names
You completely overreacted. I still get birthdays of everyone mixed up.
She could have early stage dementia or Alzheimerās. Then youāll really feel stupid if it is.
All peopleās memory gets worse with age. Some worse than others.
Omg get over yourself! And teaching your 19yo son to be āhurtā because his grandmother couldnāt remember his middle name is STUPID. Being over 60yo myself, I can tell you we have our days when we can remember things very well and our days when we cannot. Itās a shame you have to judge her and look for every little thing she does āwrongā or what you imagine she does wrong. Why canāt you just love her, leave your husband and your children be, so they can love her too? Why all this judgement over a middle name, a date, what grandchildren she spends more time with, etc. Youāre the ones that moved away! Not her! Of course, sheās going to feel closer to the grandchildren she is around more oftenā¦ and sheās more likely to remember their middle names. I have a daughter-in-law like you and, to tell you the truth, sheās not punishing me by only showing up at Christmas time! Frankly, I love it! No more having to watch what I say and how I act in my own house! No more pussy-footing around her, so she wonāt āget her feelings hurtā or think Iām stupid. Iām not stupid and her feelings donāt get hurt. Itās all an act! And Iām tired of it. Once a year is fine with me. The only people youāre hurting are your children and your husband (the poor man). I hope youāre real proud of yourself.
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If she is getting old, maybe she is showing signs of dementia. Dont get mad if she canāt help it.
So hard to hear complain about things like this. Does she love them? Do they know she loves them? Remind her if itās so damn important! I have someone who reminds me about every birthday because thatās just how I am!
Sounds like calling her name wrong would make the point.
Dude. You are severely overreacting. Why does it matter if she remembers their middle names and birthdays? Your husband is probably wondering wtf you are really upset about because surely it couldnāt be something so trivial. Sheās obviously a busy woman and rarely sees these kids that apparently arenāt even kids anymore. This is ridiculous. Stop being so childish and yes you definitely looked absurd when you flipped out.
What you could do as a gift is make calenders with family pictures and add appropriate dates to each monthā¦ we do that each year for motherās day. They cost 15 each to have printed and binded at staples if itās that big of a deal to you
Its sad for anyone to accept (possibly) alzheimer disease. Be supportive with subtle reminders, not anger.
No point getting upset over that ā¦if your motherinlaw really cared she would remember these things or write it down if she forgets n wants to keep the peace with you ā¦I forget dates n names but wouldnt be pissy if others did either ā¦id remind them of special events n those little detailsā¦life is to short get on n enjoy it ā¦
Your making a Mountain out of a mole hill, stop it. Life is to short.
Your MIL, isnāt doing it to be hurtful, she is one getting older dates are harder to remember etc.
Your the one missing out and dwelling on trivial things.
I think that you are wrong on this the older people get the harder it is to remember especially if they arenāt around explain this to your son so that he wonāt be hurt and apologize to his mom and be the example to your son that you need to be
Youāre doing way too much. Stop creating unnecessary drama.
If you are around them constantly you will remember their middle names. I rarely get to see my grands, so no , I donāt know their middle names. Well the first born I do, because they lived here when she was born.
Youāre just being upset over NOTHING, and youāre blowing it out of proportionā¦ Take a rest, be happy and stop inciting hatred in the family
Wow I just canāt. You are immature beyond belief.
Doesnāt your mother in-law have a name?nah ; youāre even. All people forget. Just remind her.
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Depends how many does she have?
Seems kinda petty to me since you askedā¦
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5 words: stop being a big baby
Yes. You are 100% crazy. Sheās not perfect. Get over it.
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Maybe they are old? Laugh it off! Donāt cause drama when you donāt have too! They are your kids, not grandparents responsibility to remember everything
My mother in law never sent me or my 2 girls any birthday cards but there was always a card for her precious son and had the damn nerve to complain if she didnāt get oneā¦I stopped sending her A card and she kicked up a fuss so I told her to see her son about it as Iām not his damn secretary and if she canāt send her granddaughters a card she can kiss my ass
Probably not. I get my kids birthdays mixed up because some are only a year apart. Could she be having a little memory problem.
Wow wow all the drama for what? Infact u should discipline your son first for walking away from his grandmother when she got his names wrong. Some times in life we have to reflect , what am trying to say is u were in wrong.
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Maybe she is having memory problems and if not , dont ruin relationships over this. Life is too short!
You know beginning stages of Dementia is a Bā¦ At 12 years old my great Aunt called me the brown girlā¦ She could not remember my nameā¦ But she remembered I was good at training cuttersā¦ So i was not upset. It was because she knew my skin colorā¦ Close enoughā¦ My own grandmother forgot my kids and thingsā¦ So it happensā¦ But it starts as we ageā¦ Be lucky that is all she forgot was the middle name. Frankly I was present at birth for all 6 of my grand kids. I have forgotten their actual birthdaysā¦ It is no malice behind it. I had a brain injury and it takes a minuteā¦ My kids sent a text when it is close so I got reminders on my Calendarā¦ But really ā¦
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It seems like youāre being a baby. Get over it. Life is too short. So what, she forgot their middle names. I certainly hope she doesnāt have the beginning stages of dementia- you would feel like a complete idiotā¦ā¦
You cant change her. And you just tear yourself up with your hurt and anger. Write it all down for her and then let it go. You are hurting yourself much more than you are hurting her, if thatās the desire. And hurting your husband. I doubt my kids spouses and partners know my bday or even my age, but I know their stuff and send cards and am hands down the best grandma. But thatās me. We are different people. You gotta get so you dont care. She isnt suffering at all. You are. Resign to it in peace and move on. Serenely.
Iād be pissed and your husband should be also it hurt his sonās feelings what a ass
My grandma has misspelled my name and forgot my birthday. Shes old. I dont hold it against her at all.
I learned not to make myself and everyone around me miserable because of something somebody else did. When my MIL forgot my name and how many children we had, I just laughed and said āItās Toots and the Gang:ā She never tried that trick again.
Sometimes you just have to accept reality. BILs kids are/ have always been closer. You are better off to laugh it off. Maybe even make a joke of "forgetfulness,"but be careful not to be too snarky. You might make your point with humor, better than anger
Anger & grudges hurt you more than the person are mad at.
Yeah, itās you. Too much effort for something you wonāt change. Proximity is key, and you live further away. Take a deep breath and move on.
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She might be losing her memoryā¦ it happensā¦
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Ring them to remind them you fool ,they probably forgot thatās no crime
No. I dont think so. She may possibly be experiencing memory issues. I would hope, you would not like that.
Grow up. Life isnāt all about you.
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Is this for real??? 
I think that was carried a little bit too far
Dementia may be happening
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They arenāt her kids
You be nitpicking sounds like your the one with a problem
You are the problem have you ever thought that maybe she has a little bit of dementia and even if she doesnāt people forget names birthdays all the time you are just a whiny little bitch
Lord have mercyā¦ā¦ Get over yourself!
Simply putā¦ I think your being petty.
Sounds like your are way dramatic
She might be going into dementia!
Why are you so dramaticā¦jeez calm down
Donāt sweat the small things.
Could be ole timers.
Nonsense, life is what matters
Wowā¦ stomping your feet and throwing a tantrum?
Wow you are petty 
Has it ever crossed your mind that she could be having some medical issues. You sound very selfish an insensitive. Your sonās feelings were probably hurt because of you, your reaction to her.
Was going to comment, but after reading the comments I think the answer was loud and clear. Get ova it.
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Age might be playing a part in this scenario.
Wow, you are exhausting!
My mother in law doesnāt even know my first name! 
Omg grow up, and get over it. 
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If thatās all uv to worry about fml
WOWā¦.I literally have no words. All I got is WOW. 
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Donāt be mad
It happens
Iām sure it wasnāt on purpose
I have done it with my grandchildren
In al d instaces dat u were furious there was no reasonan. Stop digging for trouble. U except dem to hate u n dat wat u wil c coz u have already created it in ur mind
Does the thought early dementia or Alzheimer s have any bearing on your anger issues
Donāt sweat the small stuff !
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Donāt sweat the small stuff. Yes this imo qualifies as very small
Let it go. Donāt go to next reunion
I would think so! Only 4 grandkids?
Wow. You are so petty and self absorbed. Ruining everyone elseās holidays and family gatherings because of your selfish tantrums. Sometimes there are medical reasons for not remembering things.sometimes itās just a matter of frequency and familiarity. I have to repeat things over and over now in order to remember. Faces I see daily I can remember, faces I see once a year I have a tough time with. You seem too have zero understanding or compassion for others. This is YOUR issue and no one elseās.
Shame on you for ruining the family get together for everyone, esp your son who went to bed early because he saw his mom get upset.
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Reallyā¦ pettyā¦ smh.
Does it really matter??
come on you are causing a lot of trouble over insignificant things! aging is a factor and you are setting a pretty bad example of intolerance for your family. apologize to your husband! you actually left and went to a hotel ! what are you really angry about ?!
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Why are you even quizzing them??
She could have early stages Alzheimerās.leave it be
this is nit picking at itās bestā¦get over it.
im living this myself
I wouldnāt worry about your MIL not remembering birth dates or middle names of grandchildren as age tends to take a toll on memory! I would worry if your MIL mistreated your children!
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You can let it eat at you or accept what it is.
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For Godās sake, if that is All you have to complain aboutā¦Lucky you!!! Pick your battles!
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