Sounds like she is trying to upset you and you are letting her. Ignore it. If you can’t ignore it then unfollow her. It doesn’t sound like you have to see her in person ever so why continue to be connected on social media? Who cares what she does in her small world - disconnect yourself from it and move forward.
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My mother was the creep in our relationship. My husband didn’t have to ask. I advised my mother to shape up or she would be gone. Forever. Needless to say, she wasn’t about to change so we haven’t spoken to her in years. And we couldn’t be happier.
As your husband, he should tell his mother to knock off the jerkish behaviors or she will no longer be part of the family. It’s disrespectful and just plain wrong. When she doesn’t change her behaviors, block her, unfriend her, and carry on. It’s called setting boundaries and it’s healthy for everyone.
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You have every right to be pissed…and hurt. That is rude and disrespectful to you. However, this is something your husband needs to handle between him and his mother. Don’t get in the middle of their mess. Just try and enjoy a happy life with your hubby…he chose you! If she wants to stroll down memory lane with his ex, she can do that in a non public forum. I would also unfollow her on Facebook, so you’re not blatantly deleting her, but won’t have to look at her ridiculous posts. I really feel for you, good luck!!!
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You can unfollow her for awhile. She is trying to get to her son through you I suppose. He really needs to check on his mom. If he has siblings, have him see if they ar communicating with her. Something is not right.
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Ignore her. She is not on good terms with her son so font let it bother you. Block her on social media so you don’t need to be reminded of her and go on with your happy life. Don’t make it important because it is not. It is her problem. If she trues to re-engage with your husband count it as a win. She doesn’t have to like you but then find things you like about her. It could be her perfume. Just praise her and say you like her perfume. When she is ready she nay get to like you. Be open if it happens. If not you have not done anything to be sorry for. My ex husband’s parents didn’t like that he was marrying me. I was 24 and twice divorced. If I was his parents I would have been worried too. They learned to love me. My mother-in-law became like a best friend. We had wonderful times together. She was wonderful and my FIL loved me too. It a works out if you don’t build up walls.
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Sounds pretty vindictive to me! Toxic behavior like that needs to stop. Set boundaries! Id start by Blocking her on social media.
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It’s apparent that you and your mother in law are not very close … which is really too bad … but as others have said just block her … life is too short to allow her pettiness ruin your happiness … She may be the Mother in Law that all the jokes are speaking of … Good Luck …
That’s super disrespectful of her and and I can see how it would bother you. The best thing you can do though is just let it go. Don’t let it affect your relationship with you and your husband. It’s not worth it. And she is probably wanting to get a reaction out of you. Dont give her the satisfaction.
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Have hubby & mom always had a strained relationship or is this new? I would definitely question whether it’s an age related issue on Mom’s end. I’m curious now as to Mom’s age. Especially considering she’s on social media (escapism), not answering the door for her son when he visits (current reality) and posting very old pictures (confusion?).
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She did that to hurt you and your husband, sounds like you all should go silent on her. No reaction is the best reaction… If you pray, say a few for her,sounds like a troubled soul. You and your husband stay strong, stay in love , live your best life❤️
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Did she have a good relationship with her? Does she have a good relationship with you? If her relationship with your husband’s ex was good, it could be she’s reliving happier times in her life. Is it hurtful and inconsiderate? Yes. Maybe you should have a heart to heart with her.
My MIL passed 5 1/2 years before my husband and I got together but if she was still alive I wouldn’t ask if she would like me doing the same thing if he’d and my Father in law weren’t together
I guess I should say just forgive her and when you do that it will not bother you as much, anyway you won the prize and love him even more because it really deep down you know it hurts him because of the rejection by
His mother. I talk to my son every day even though he lives hundreds of miles away. And maybe you could put some pictures of you two and let her see how happy 
you are together. Maybe that would stop her.
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In situations like this I ask myself what I can actually accomplish by dying something. If I have no reasonable expectation that she will change her behavior, and I knew the HH is not bothered by it, I would not address it with her.
I would however, probably address it with my SS - probably with some attempt at humor along the lines of “wow! Sometimes I think Gramma’s Wayback machine is stuck”.
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To me it would depend on your mother in law’s age. Possibly she has some sort of dementia and lives in the past and she isn’t really thinking about hurting you by posting stuff. You said teen yrs for your husband is why I lean towards my thoughts.
If she is living in the present and functions comprehensively Id speak to her about it.
My kids have no problem calling me out on things they don’t want or like.
I would approach the subject like “Wow, that was a long time ago and I’m sure he was happy then. Im thankful he’s very happy with me and I with him.”" Would you like some recent pictures of us to post too?
After saying this…
The thing that concerns me is your husband’s relationship with his Mom.
I would follow his lead in saying anything. It’s already strained, then I would ignore the pics. I would focus on helping heal the husband’s relationship. Maybe she’s posting the stuff to hurt him,? not you?
Stay happy and do not let it mess with your marriage.
Best to you
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Wow! As another in law I am appalled at her behavior. I adore both of my dios and would never do that to them. I was great friends with my sons ex gf. While he was stationed in Japan we stayed friends. Once he came back home his ex and I decided best thing all around was to end the friendship. Her husband wanted it with my son returning and I did not want to hurt his wife. Miss her a lot but it would have been fire otherwise.
She sounds like someone you should cut out of your life. If she cares so little about you and her son she is not good for or necessary for your continued happiness. I’d say she doesn’t care about your feelings and is living in the past.
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Sounds like you and Mom need to have a sit down! Ask her about it, let her know it upsets you, if it does! Be up front and talk it out! Communication is always the answer ! Good Luck!
I don’t understand what you are asking? Sounds like she isn’t that big a part of you or your husbands lives as is. I am not sure why she would do something like that other than to poke and agitate. Maybe she has a different rational reason but her caption would make me doubt it. You have a few choices. Pretend it doesn’t bother you and hold your head high and carry on considering your husband is aware and supportive. You can confront her and ask why she keeps doing that. You can also could just decide to do you and your husband and truly just not give a crap what she dose. I wouldn’t let it bother me. If you and your husband are happy dose it really matter to you? MIL will either get over it or miss out on your lives if she can’t. Have you ever had a positive or negative or relationship at all in the past?
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Ignore her she is being petty you are the one he is with he made the choice and apparently mamma didn’t like it if you get upset your mother-in-law will be happy don’t let her win
Just comment on the pictures, just one of his toads. And more on. She probably doesn’t mean anything by it, and if she does then you would be playing right into her hands.
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I would stop following her on social media… problem solved.
If she is doing it to hurt you, that’s a battle you won’t win by communicating with her.
If she’s simply reliving old memories, that’s her business. Again, not something you will change.
Just remove yourself from seeing what she posts. 
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I wouldnt be upset about it. He had a past before you. So did you. Your his future. Keep your eyes in that direction 
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She is trying to wind you up, just block her. I had a MIL who wished my husband was still married to his 1st wife.
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sounds to me like she is posting those pictures to be spiteful, towards you and your husband, (her son) my advise? block her, if you ask her to stop posting them, she will know she is aggravating you both and that’s what she wants. but if you block her, she can’t win.
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Block her and move on. She’s acting like a child, and everyone who sees it knows it as well. Don’t allow this to come between you and your husband, cuz that sounds like what the MIL is trying to do. Don’t give her the attention by confronting her in any way. If she wants to see her son, than she will have to make the first move.
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She may have a part of dementia and doesn’t remember a lot of things or people my mother in law had it it’s horrible
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Well if they don’t have a good relationship, it sounds like she is trying to make you jealous so that you and your husband will fight and she will enjoy the misery!
Do not I repeat do not take the bait! She is what you call fishing, meaning she wants you to bite the bate! She wants you to complain to your husband so it’s starts a fight and she sits from a far laughing! I would ignore it! The more gasoline you throw on a fire the more it will burn. Just be happy with you husband and don’t even acknowledge anything she is doing. Clearly she has issues! Don’t complain to your husband and tell him not to mention it to his Mother and if she brings it up to him he should say oh I don’t care about that and either does my wife. It’s a game she is playing and it’s immature! If the ex girlfriend meant something to him she would be Mrs not you! Remember he has chosen you for his wife. Life is to short just be happy. Good luck! 
The Mother in law needs counseling!
My xhusbands mom use to do that to me . She would put him and her picture up on the wall and say isn’t she the prettiest girl ever , they really loved each other blah blah . She would say he sure does love blondes .well im brunette.
Its disrespectful really. You should let her know how you feel.
Consider the source and ignore her bad behavior. Unfriend her so you won’t be subjected to her pettiness. Cut her off and move on. And remember she will be the one who will be missing out, not you.
Block her on social media and let it go. Ur husband obviously luvs u. She is just trying to ruin ur relationship
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Mean and spiteful. No way to cement relationships with her son or his wife. Life is just too short!
You should post a picture of you and husband and said look he happy now and he found his Queen !
Have hubby talk to her. If that doesn’t work unfollow. I’ve had to unfollow people to keep my blood pressure in check
Don’t let it bother you, if she mentions her, say she was lovely back then but he loves me now. Then shut up and change the subject.
I had the best mother in law ever … I’m not sure she ever did social media & rarely brought his ex’s into the picture
I would take picture of you both and put one on every week with a great caption under it. 2 can play same game. People would love to see how happy you are anyways. Wonder if these girls are married and what there hubby’s think if them
Don’t react to her. Let her post all the pics she wants because in the end, you married him. All the other women were just trials until he learned what not to do so that he could find you.
Delete her, block her, you don’t need her as friend. You don’t see her postings, she can’t see your postings either. It is so simple! If she wants to get together with you and your husband, she could call. Or your husband wants to see her, he could call her.
It’s passive aggressive. Only you know what to do in your heart. Me personally- I would confront both. But everyone is different & circumstances different.
She’s probably doing it cuz she knows it bothers you. Try ignoring it see if she stops. Has hubby said anything to her? She sounds very disrespectful has nothing else to do with her time
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This is something your hubby should be taking care of. Mom, this is disrespectful to my wife, especially when you comment on how happy I LOOKED.
if she doesn’t stop, block her. She doesn’t care about you guys as a couple.
Tell him to talk to him mom or u will n he want like what u r going to say to her. In fact tell him on front of his mom…put both of them on the spot
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husband should be telling mother to stop not DIL…
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All 3 of you need to sit down and discus the situation ahe is wro g and she needs to be told or ignore and let her continue and go on with your life
Mom is just going back in time, it’s part of her history.
She’s reminiscing about her boy/son. Leave it at that, your making something out of nothing.
Keep your husband happy and you should have no worries.
If MIL is so small and petty that she won’t even see her son, why not acknowledge that she is small and petty?
Pray for her and move along. She’s living in some dream, you are able to ignore and move on. She can’t. She’s stuck.
Posting old pics of someone you refuse to see or talk to is being spiteful. The son may should comment something along the lines of “ I don’t know why you would post old pics of me and ex’s then refuse to see or talk to me” And then tell her unless she wants to talk about whatever is wrong that he would prefer her to leave his pics off her posts. Then let her know that she will be blocked if it happens again.
Simple… Everytime she posts a pic…just reply with "yes he had to kiss a few toads to find his princess!! Use the same reply to every pic she posts, maybe she’ll get the hint? If not at least you set the record straight Everytime!!
His mom sounds petty and jealous. Don’t give her the satisfaction of letting her know it bothers you. Maybe the ex could talk to her.
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You are not over reacting, any decedent, self respecting woman would be pissed. I think you both should block her from your social media and stay away from her, maybe then she will get the message that you don’t tolerate BS like that. Stand your ground or she will mot respect either of you.
Why is it an issue?
She has a right to post her photos.
The girl is part of his past.
Or must he deny his past to make you feel better?
Rather embrace the fact that he chose you and appeciate the woman that brought him into the world and raised him.
Grow up and act mature.
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Listen if it doesn’t bother dont make a deal out of it .Sounds like she wants to cause trouble.Ignore her and hopefully she’ll get the message
Every time she post the pictures, you need write this in the comment sections, “they must not have been happy because my husband said he had to kiss a few toads to find his Princess. So I guess he is truly happy now with me. He is so lucky”
Just delete her then you won’t see or hear anything anymore… I wouldn’t say she has dementia she is just trying to stir things up… So do the block thing…
Keep your distance from her. She is showing no class. And disrespectful of you and your husband. At some point of a relationship is desired.she needs to do soul searching and asking forgiveness
Your husband needs to stand behind you and cut the apron strings… unless you aren’t being fully truthful in the story
Don’t put your husband in the middle. You should talk to her and if that doesn’t work simply block her.
Unfollow MIL she won’t know that se was blocked. You would not see her post and she would not see yours. That way she can’t make the situation worse because you blocked her.
I’d be ticked too, but if they aren’t on speaking terms right now I would just ignore her. I would let your hubby know how much it bothers you though.
I personally would like the pictures when she post them 
But that I how I am at times! She is just trying to get to you, if you like them she might stop!
I would say to her Well he married me and ignore the pictures and her.
There are so many holes in this story too many questions . More info is needed to make a decent suggestion
I’d move to another state and ignore the posts she obviously never grew up
since it’s your husband’s mother I would simply ignor it as a problem and like all she posts. You got him and that’s what matters. saying something nasty would only create a bigger problem.
Change her friend status so you don’t get it on your feed. Sounds like she’s being an old poop.
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If you guys don’t bother with her much ignore her
I’d just set the friendship to restricted and unfollow. If you don’t see it, it wouldn’t bother you. Not worth the time or effort to care for it.
That is hard/ sorry she had no place with you.
She’s looking for this exact response, ignore her.
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I would either unfriend her or unfollow her, that way you won’t be able to see her posts unless of course you have mutual friends that she tags. Just block her
Have you considered blocking her so y’all don’t have to see it?
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If you don’t want someone to get your goat. Don’t let them know where it’s tied
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Post pictures of you and him and put how happy the two of you are. Sounds like MIL is just trying to get under your skin.
Maybe she won’t answer the door cause his moms banging his ex
Mine is very disrespectful as well… I have to maintain my distance.
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It wouldn’t bother me. I still have photos of my exes. It’s just memories. Nothing more. They may have had him first, but you have him now. You won. Just smile and shrug it off. 
It’s called drop and block. One and done.
You can always say wow she was a pretty girl and say he sure has good taste in women lol turn it into a positive.
She is being very disrespectful. She can love her all she wants, but I would just block I guess.
Women like her, give mother in laws a bad name. Smh
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Awkward! Block her. I hope she lives miles from y’all.
She’s crazy, ignore her, if that’s not possible block her and be happy 
Sounds like she is upset with him
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Go visit your ex’s mother, buy her gifts and cake take a selfie with her and post it online too. 
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If you don’t want to block her you can unfollow her she will never no but you will not see what she post I have a nephew that is a potty mouth I just unfollow him so I don’t see his crazy stuff
How cruel can a mean old woman be
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I would block her posts…Let her think she is getting to you, but you want even know.
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Talk with your hubby explain what his mother is doing and let him know you are going to talk to his mother
Ignore the mother in laws antics and continue to treat her civil. Continue happiness and peace with your husband.
Don’t touch that mess, then it becomes urs!!!
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She sounds like she is generally trying to cause friction in your marriage . Have your husband post some pics if the two of you . Let him say I’m truly happy now . Good luck .
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I don’t think she is worth worrying about!!
Jealous you are now his princess. Let it go not worth your energy.
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Block her from your social media and you won’t see it.
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She has issues and needs to get some sort of help.
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Give no meaning to it. Unfollow her so you don’t see the crap.
Ignore her …irrelevant…he is with you now not the ex.
Unfriend her, she’s being a rude person! If it’s bothering you then he should tell her to knock it off! She’s being very disrespectful!