Don’t trust your sister or your mother. They may be planning something very fishy like kidnapping your baby. Better safe than sorry.
Your mom is trying to run your life don’t let her tell you what to do she needs to get over herself and grow up
Absolutely would not have her in my child’s life as long as she is trying to dictate your lives. No no no way!!
Until the relationship between both you and your mom and your husband and your mom was safe, healthy and strong, your mom has no business around your child.
That’s a hard spot to be into. But that aside your mother needs to be able to communicate with both you and your husband. Until then Pray that your mother comes around.
You are not wrong. Your a family. She loves all of you or none. Stand your ground. So sorry
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Would you put your child in the position that your mother is putting you in? No. Your child is YOUR child and it looks like your mother is still trying to dictate who is around your child by stepping away. Its manipulative and underhanded and you should leave her to her self imposed isolation.
The grandmother is behaving badly , she is being childish , manipulative, and irrational. Wouldn’t let anyone with that behavior unsupervised with my baby .
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Apparently she isn’t mentally stable anyway so no you should not allow her behave this way and be apart of your childs life.
You are not wrong. Your mother is being unreasonable and needs to realize this is your child - your rules.
You are a family. All or nothing. She may try to train your daughter in feeling badly about the people she dies not like
Don’t make time for someone to know your child when they don’t take time to put in effort, one day when your daughter asks about her grandmother then you call your mom and let her explain that she hasn’t been around because of XYZ and then your daughter can decide if she wants to see her or not, but until she is old enough to understand and ask to see her grandma then don’t let her go.
I would say that it would suck if she grew up close to her cousins and they spoke of grandma but she never got that relationship, it could lead to a lot of questions and hurt, but i would then say you should try to rectify the situation before she gets to like 3, so that then she can start having a relationship with her grandma. Otherwise absolutely not, she shouldn’t get to see your kid especially at that age without having a relationship with at least one of you, but better to be both or at least you as her daughter.
If your mom wants a relationship with your child she should be civil enough to be in your presence and develop a relationship with your child. She may not have access to your child through another family member. Your mom needs to grow up and look beyond her narcissistic self. My daughter and I had a similar conflict so we agreed to disagree even if it meant discomfort in each other’s presence. We feel awkward when we are around one another but try to push it aside when I come over to visit. They are not my children and she has every right to call the shots, even if I don’t like or agree with her decisions. Don’t let other family members tell you what is best, you are the mom and you know best.
Your mom can come to you. No way is that baby going anywhere.
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No way anyone would take my child if they were not communicating with me!!! You would have no control what she would do with YOUR child. I am sorry ur going through this.
Your mother nerds a relationship with GOD. She should seek counseling as well. Your child, your rules. Your mother needs to grow up because this is petty and sad
If she doesn’t like your rules, too bad. She needs to grow up.
No. If your mother wants to see your child, she can be nice to you, your husband, and whoever else you choose to have over in your home. Bowing to her demands to see your child without you in the equation is giving in to her unacceptable level of control over your life. She can play on your terms or she can lose out on her grandchild. She’ll stop being stubborn if you don’t give in.
You’re not wrong . Your mother is being childish. Tell her to think about that.
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Don’t listen to your mom it’s your baby , your family she’s the one with the problem and don’t let your baby out of your site she’s too small yet !
RI don’t think you are wrong. Time for grandma to grow up. She’s missing out a lot. The Either realize the other woman will be in the baby’s life or she won’t be.
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You are not wrong, if she wants to see the baby it would be on my terms!
Your mother is throwing a temper tantrum. If she wants to be in your daughters life she has to deal with you and your husband. Keep the negativity away from your sweet baby girl.
So as a mother that has had to cut family out of my life due to being toxic. Has the same ordeal I have said it about all of my friends and family if anyone doesnt like me then ur not coming around my children bec honestly I dont want that said person talking bad about me infront of my kids they dont need that in their life … Mother n father is a package deal in my case w my daughter its my bf her step father me her mother her dad n step mom w my son its just me n my bf but both of my kids n myself are deal package you dont get one w/o all of us specially for the mental status of my kids … Its a terrible decision that has to be made but it is what it is
Nope nope nope. She needs to grow up and not cause you any stress or to make decisions like that. She should act like an adult.
No you are the mother you can make all the decisions just like she did when you were little.
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That’s YOUR baby, not hers. I’d suggest maybe reaching out to her if you want a relationship with her to work out. But to let another family member come pick her up for a visit when she won’t communicate with you…hard NO! Bottom line in my house, accept everyone, or none of us need you🤷🏻♀️
No, your mother needs to grow up … sad … but she is making the choice not you. Stay firm, no since in playing her game. Blessings.
Never! She is obviously full of hate, don’t subject your daughter to that. At some point she will pass that on to your daughter.
If she won’t communicate with you or hubby and doesn’t want a relationship with you, then she sure as hell shouldn’t be around your child. I won’t allow my siblings to be around my children since they decided to not have me in their lives.
No, tell her she can’t have a relationship with your child!
Hell no…dont do it. Your baby can’t speak for herself. Your mother needs to act like an adult…
Control. Keep your child away from your mother. So much hatred in her heart. Pray for her. Walk away. Love your child and husband.
Your mother needs medical help. Therapy. She is trying to control bully you. Don’t let her destroy you. It’s NOT your fault she is sick
No you are not wrong and your sister has to respect that.
No you aren’t wrong. You do what you feel is right and what you feel comfortable with.
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Nope nope nope
Someone needs to be the adult so I guess it will be you. Never let a child go with someone who won’t communicate and have a relationship with you. You will be having more issues than not .
What your Mother has to realise is you and your family is a package deal all or none. Tell her to except it. What kind of example is this to your child.
Oh 
NO!!! If she’s not willing to communicate with you or your husband how will she know your child’s schedule, likes, dislikes, the rules & discipline you have for her, allergies. What if something comes up that she’s not certain about & she has to go through several people before she knows the correct way of dealing with an issue. What if there’s an emergency? Just NO. She can do whatever she wants with your child and just use the excuse well no one told me. Why allow someone who so obviously dislikes you and has zero respect for you around your child, that’s insane. Your mom has already proven she’s very comfortable calling the shots in your daughter’s life, without any communication with you she will do what she wants, how she wants, when she wants with your child and that’s not okay. You don’t have to like me but you do have to respect the decisions I make for my child.
Keep her from your mother. She will only undermine what you decide for your child. Not having a grandmother is hard but having one that will most likely put her desires onto the child is worse. Better off letting her go until your mother grows up more and acts like a mature adult.
Tell your sister and mom to take a flying leap. Do NOT allow them to take your daughter for visits. Anyone you choose to have time with your child should do do in your home.
well sounds like your mom is hurting, and wanting some sort of control. this is not healthy.for anyone involved. good luck
Your mother has mental issues. You need to just take care of yourself, husband and baby and not worry or stress out over your mom’s problems.
Personally I would not feel comfortable leaving my baby or child with someone like that.
No you are her parents if your mom does not want to be around you with your daughter. She is totally in the wrong. She is your child Don’t let your mom make you feel guilty You are totally in the right.
I agree with you. If the woman choses to not be in your life, then she choses to not be in your child’s life. Your mother is making a choice and she is toxic. I wouldnt allow my child around that kind of poison.
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No!
But you both need to grow up and quit acting like babies! Call her! Take the first step
Your are not wrong and do not let your sister take the baby if she does and takes her to you mother your sister should be off limits also she needs to respect you and your decision
Nope. Not wrong. Mom punishing you for what your daddy did. And you for not staying away from dad and his new girl, in my opinion.
Your child, your rules. Don’t allow anyone else to govern your family but you and your husband. If your mother can’t be civil, then she doesn’t get to make demands on your baby. Toxic situation that should be avoided.
you are right, if she is so petty she can’t be civil to you and your husband, I wouldn’t want her around my child, as child gets older she may bad mouth you to the child,
She has NO RIGHT TO SEE YOUR CHILD WITHOUT YOU. DON’T LET HER SEE HER WITHOUT YOUR SUPERVISION PERIOD.
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Mama is just is trying to pull your string ! It’s a package deal ! The only one that will miss out is mama! Don’t let her pick sides ! The other woman should not anything to do with mama! That’s a different chapter!!
I would try to work out a solution with your mom. Life is short. However ; if she doesn’t comply with your rules about Your child. It’s her loss.
She sounds spiteful towards you dad so she’s taking it out on you, YOUR child your decision. I myself would not let her see the baby unless it was at your home and your terms w you and your husband.
Your the parents hold your ground my dad never new my kids and there just fine with that there adults now and I told them why and what happened, I’m fine with the out come and would not change anything
No I would not allow her to see the baby without a parent present and she would have to respect both parents before that even happened
My mom never would have done that to me. You have every right to decide who’s in your child’s life. You also have the right to say no to your mom on wanting your child and not you and your husband. You are a package deal.
Everyone saying No.
There are 2 ways to look at it.
However I wanted my MIL to have a relationship with my kids and was told.
“If I can’t have the relationship I want with my son then I can’t have a relationship with his children”
Yes you can. You are an adult.
This is not an excuse to be a crappy grandmother.
Narcissistic
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Every family is unique what might work for some may not work for others. As unconventional as it might seem it’s up to you and how you feel about it.
Package deal. You want to have a relationship with your grandkid, you need to be civil to and follow any rules put in place by their parents. A relationship is a privilege, not a right. Also, not to be overly suspicious, but if you don’t trust certain family members not to bring her to your mother behind your back, do not leave her alone with them.
Ur child ur choice I wouldn’t let her near my baby until she is adult enough to mind the problems in ya’lls relationship
Omg, you are NOT wrong! Your mother is! Don’t allow her to have your daughter without you and your husband being there! She will only teach her to hate your dad and his girlfriend!
I would not allow my child to have a relationship with someone I did not have a relationship with- even if it were my mother. Sounds like your mom has her own issues and that’s not something I would want to be burdening my child with
Sounds like the building blocks to a dysfunctional relationship 
She’d probably do something crazy like pierce the babies ears or trim her hair without permission down the line.
I won’t leave kids with anyone I can’t trust. My in laws have never kept my kids and likely never will. Actions speak louder than words, too. My kids and I are a package deal. Either you get all or none.
Have you considered moving to
Uragra. People’s problems can over run your life. Love your daughter with all you love. And to hell with everyone else. If they want to conform to you and your daughters life let them prove their worthiness.
Nope. If there is no communication or respect, then how do you know what’s happening with your daughter when she is in her care?
No your not wrong. I wouldn’t let my baby be taken to a grandparent who wants nothing to do with me or my husband. It’s your child, you make the decisions about her.
No way would I do that what is that child going to grow up thinking. That is some messed up stuff and I would keep my child out of it 100%.
When she Decides to grow up tell her to call you
No not till daughter older but yr a package deal . Thats awful to do that to u…shame on her. Maybe invite her to lunch so child can see her and if she doesn’t want to thats her loss…
No Way. Your child is a baby. You are responsible for the well being until she is 18. If your Mother doesn’t talk to you, she should not being around your child a lone.
Yes if she wants to be in your daughters life you have to be too!
Just be a family that loves u for who u are she not there so count her out she has too love u too
You are one thousand percent right in this. I would not feel confidante with it at all either. Stand your ground. Don’t let anyone try to guilt you or make you feel bad about it. You are doing what is right for you and your baby.
No way! Crazy for your mom to expect a relationship with your daughter but not you. I wouldn’t trust anyone playing emotional games like that with my child!
You are NOT wrong if she wants neither you or your husband around then she shouldnt be in the babys life. It comes with life
Your mom needs to get over whatever her issue is. Tell her that you, your husband and child are a family and either accept as such or be alone, her choice.
if she doesn’t want a relationship with me or my spouse then you don’t want a relationship with my kids either just that simple.
She sounds very toxic, your child doesn’t need that in her future. Stay away, she will change or get on with your lives and nourish the baby.
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No if u cant be there no bc she us too young to be away from u now. U also dont know what she will tell the child when shes older. I have been there and it’s not good
You’re mom’s got mental manipulative issues. Probably not healthy for your child to be around her. Trust your gut!
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You’re the parents. If I don’t like someone or they wronged me then they miss out on getting to know and be around my son.
Nope never not a chance , she wants to see her comes to your house respect you as a mother
Can you imagine the conflict and confusion for the child as she got older. Absolutely not wrong.
I don’t think I would permit my mother to have her way. You as the parent and guardian are respondsable for the safety and welfare of that child.
No you are not wrong. If she wants to see her grandchild she needs to have a relationship with you and your husband.
Sweetie…I am all for not letting kids see “bad blood” between people, and making up their own minds…but if YOU aren’t comfortable around this person, then your child shouldn’t be alone with them. Those are my thoughts, however I haven’t dealt with your situation.
As a mother, what does your gut say?
Big surprise why the grandma is divorced!
Keep your daughter away. You’re a family and a packaged deal! Bottom line. Mama is just going to have to learn to finally grow up and show you some respect. Your daughter absolutely does NOT need to be alone with your mother to influence her against you in anyway. Your mother needs to apologize to you and stop acting like an immature child.
Sit with your mom and a counselor before this gets out of hand. And NO! No one should go behind your back and leave your baby with anyone!!
I went thru a similar situation. I just let her know that it is a package deal. Remind her that she doesn’t have to kiss butt but she will be polite and respectful or all bets are off
Nope, sorry you are not wrong at all. She’s a grown woman tell her to start acting like one.
If she wants to see the baby let her come to your house for a supervised visit or not at all.
Your child your terms… she can’t visit your child in your home and can’t be civil with you she gets no access to the child…
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Not wrong at all. All other points of the matter aside, I wouldn’t have my child left with anyone that I couldn’t communicate with.
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If she can’t be in you’re life, She sure as heck wouldn’t get my baby
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You are not wrong, this is your child and you do what is good for your family.
Your child! Your rules! You are an adult! Draw the line!
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NO… that baby is so young. I wouldnt want her around anyone that didnt want me around. Relative or not.