Hell No! Especially that young, how does your mom expect to know something as simple as her feeding schedule if she refuses to talk to you?
Your child shouldnt be around such pettiness. If your mom wants to see the baby she needs to see you.
No, sorry but your mother needs to grow up!!!
Its your child, you are the person who decides who is best for your child
You are not wrong in your feelings. Stick to your guns.
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She does not want you or your husband then I would not let her around your baby especially alone.
Not only no, but Hell No!! Your daughter is an infant, there is no such thing as a relationship with your daughter without you or your husband. I can not imagine why you are even considering this. My opinion is, before your mother even sees your daughter again, you & your mother need to work out whatever issues there are between the two of you & she needs to get over her ex & his new girlfriend. Thatâs their lives, not hers & your daughter is your daughter, that means your rules, not hers.
Simple, no. She is manipulating you and will poison your daughter against others when sheâs older. Supervised by you only, period!
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Youâre not in the wrong at all, and she shouldnât be putting your sister in the middle either.
Nope. Sorry grandma. Be nice or get away from my family.
Thatâs me and my mom who stopped talking to me last year after an issue my oldest daughter created. Now the two of them are best friends and Iâm a piece of garbage. 
NopeâŚyou are not wrong. If you give in to this, she will spend her life dictating to you AND possibly alienating your child from you.
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You are 100% In the right
If they donât want to be around you and are angry you have no idea what could happen when you/husband arenât around
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Sounds like sheâs putting the child in the middle of a grown up issue. I would say no.
If she really wants to be in your daughterâs life she needs to swallow her biases and spend time with your daughter respectfully!
Nope! The Grandmother is 100% in the wrong.
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You have every right to make decisions for your daughter and your family. Too bad, itâs her loss and donât let anyone bully you!
No. If she doesnât want a relationship with your and your husband, donât let her have one with the child. I would NEVER let someone else take my child to see someone.
No thatâs insane. Youâre mother needs to stop acting like a child. Mend it or leave it up to her. Donât be vengeful or blame her. Just tell her sheâs welcome to be in you and your daughterâs life if she decides to do so.
Stick to your guns grandma does NOT get to see your daughter, and I am a grandmother too, I would never try to control my daughter and her family, only give advice.
I agree with you 100%, there is something very wrong with your mother.
Ummmm no if she doesnât communicate with you how are you to check on or be notified if something happens with your child
You are not wrong! Stand your ground, and raise your daughter your way, not moms ready!
You are not wrong. Grandma is. You have the tight right to who sees your baby and who doesnât. Stand firm. Be strong. Just tell her NO!
Nope. Youâre right and sheâs wrong. But, leave the door open if she ever wants to start acting like a mature human being. I definitely would NOT be sending my infant to be delivered, like a parcel, by a third party, either!
Sounds like a toxic relationship, which your child definitely doesnât need to be around.
Your mother sounds like a headache! Cut that toxic cancer out of your life
Your child you are in charge!!! Plain and simple!!!
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No great opportunity for her to try and turn your child against you. No, no visits without you
All the germs between your sister and your mother and whoever she wants to visit with your 3 Month old. Tell your mother to grow up. She
Sad as it is your sister will have to miss out too. Maybe she talk some sense into your mom.
She has a mental problem to expect that of you or your husband. Just say ânoâ and be free of it!
I would suggest that your mom needs to understand as a new mom and dad with the Covid itâs probably not a good idea for a fairly new baby to be around even family a lot as her immune system is not active yet. Iâm sure your babyâs doctor would also agree. If she wants to see her grand-child she has to do this on your terms. She needs to know you want what is best for your baby. Grandmothers love their grandbabies, but you are her parents and she needs to understand how important it is for a new born to be more familiar with their parents. She also has to try to get along better. It isnât good for a baby to see her mom, dad and grandmother fighting all the time. It doesnât help a child to see people that love her fighting. Itâs not a good thing. I saw what my granddaughter went through with her motherâs family to my son. It was terrible how my granddaughterâs father was treated. It left a scar on her that she will never forget. So if your mother can not get along with you and your husband, she has to understand that you will not let your daughter being a baby, see fighting as it will probably scare your baby. Fighting is not acceptable. It can scar a child for life. Your mother needs to understand that you and your husband are the parents. If you feel that since there are problems between you and your family that it is not what you would want for your baby to grow seeing fighting all the time Itâs not good. Your mother knows that her granddaughter needs to see good things not bad things. Itâs up to the adults to decide if this family can be fixed so you all can get along. I will pray for your family. Family is important and we can not always agree, but fighting isnât a good thing for any of us. God Bless your family.
Donât let her have her way, it will snowball from there until she turns your child against you. If she doesnât want anything to do with you, and your husband then she shouldnât be around the child. The choice is hers to make but stay firm. Donât tolerate the disrespect
Such a sad situation but if your Mom canât accept you all as a package deal you should keep her at arms length until she can.
Plain and simple , she is your child if she doesnât want you or your husband around then sorry , no visiting !
She will probably be very toxic. Ride like the wind. Protect yourself and your child.
You have to do what you feel is right for you and your family.
Revisit the situation a year from now. Contact with grandma can be on hold.
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I would not allow that. Your mom is very controlling.
Nope and if they canât respect that then Iâm sorry they donât get to take the baby
Absolutely NOT!!! This is your child and she can not dictate who is around your child
life is too short ⌠stop a d think⌠its about the child and child alone.
Do not let her have anything to do with your child she isnât mentally fit
Hell no, if she wants a relationship with her grandkids then she needs to have a relationship with you. You decide who sees your kids and who doesnt.
If mom wants to see her grandchild she needs to see her in your home period. No dropoffs etc.
Um no
What if your child needed something while in your moms care . Who is she going to call ?
Your mom needs to get over her self .
I think your mom is acting very immature. I donât think youâre doing anything wrong.
Your child, your rules. I moved away from my parents for allowing my in laws unsupervised access to my children against my rules.
Anyone who wants a relationship with your child/children needs to go through you and the childâs/childrenâs father.
If they donât want to do that, donât give them what they want.
Do not do it.! Your mother is bitter and will only cause trouble between your child and you in the future. Your mom needs to grow up.
Nope I wouldnât. Like you have already stated, it is your child. If she wants to see your child than she can put on her big girl pants and see her at your home with you and your husband there. Your sister shouldnât have to be put in the middle of it.
I agree. She should not âdictateâ who or why you let someone see YOUR daughterâŚ
Nope wouldnât let her see your daughter except on your terms!
No! Itâs your child. Only do what feels comfortable to you and your husband.
Put your foot down and flat tell her she gets no relationship with your child until she bows down to your rules. Youâre the mom. If you have to, get a judge to enforce it.
She hasnât tried, she doesnât get those privileges⌠Plain and simple. And if I couldnât trust my sister to not be sneaky, my child wouldnât stay with my sister either.
Thatâs a big hell no.
That sounds like the beginning of a messed up mystery show.
Nope
Nope
Nope
You are a packaged deal. She either sucks it up and sees that baby around you and talks to you or not at all.
Nah. If you dont like me/donât talk to me, you absolutely do not get to see my kid.
My dad died seeing my kid once. His loss because he didnât want to see his own kid, why should he have seen mine?
Your mothers way out in left field. Sorry sheâs behaving this way with you.
If she wants a relationship with your daughter she will make the effort.
Your mother sounds very controlling. If she doesnât want to see or your husband, she can forget about seeing this baby.
Grandparenting is a gift and one she doesnât get acting like that towards the me or my spouse
No I wouldnât, makes no sense to me, seems like there is some hidden motive behind this for her
You dont need that kind of negative energy around your child. Period
You are not wrong. Do not let your child go unless you are there. It is too easy for your mom to trash talk any of you. Hopefully Your mom will come around.
Donât send her to your mothers, since she feels that way. YOUR in charge!
You are the Mother and you should decide what is best for your child
You are the childâs mother. What you say goes. Give your mom an inch and the next thing you know she will want custody. Nope! You stick to your guns!
As most people here say only you and your husband has a say who sees your baby. I would have a heart to heart with her if possible. Show her the comments here, maybe open her eyes.
Nope donât do it! It can cause major issues in the future! Think about the awful things she could tell her about you guys when she is little it would be devestating
Sounds like gramas going to be lonely. Someone as manipulative as this probably shouldnât be around you or your child.
No
If she wants a relationship with your child then she needs to work out her issues with you first.
Wouldnât happen. That baby is your child.
Do not let the bat shot crazy woman around your child!
It sounds like your mother is petty, vindictive and manipulative. Why would you want that personality modeled for your daughter as she grows.
Your child is your responsibility to protect. Tell your mother to come to your house to see your child.
Your Mom is toxic. Stay away from her.
You are absolutely not wrong. Anyone who wants a relationship with your baby has to go through you. PERIODâŚ
Toxic people like your mother need to stay out of your life as well as your daughters.
Just got done telling my Mom earlier that no matter how you feel about a Mother etc, if you want anything to do with her child you WILL RESPECT HER!!!
Speaking as a mother i would say its your loss and go on without them Iâm not begging.
Your the childâs Mother absolutely she would have to sit up visiting hours with me and my child.
No way⌠mom needs to grew the f up. Either be a part of the family or stay away, she canât do both.
You have to think if she even thought about if SHE was to get a boyfriend or remarried! Stick to your guns kiddo. I let my mother rule me and I am paying for it now and she is long gone. Your child, your rules. Period. If you let her get away with this she will continue to rule your entire life.
No, youâre not wrong. It is your cold and mother knows best.
Stand firm - its your child and your decision as a united family!
Nope donât let your child out of you sight. Your mom is being selfish and childish .
Never ever. Your the Mom. She is YOUR daughter. Grandma best suck it up. She has no voice. Or rights. Do not let anyone take YOUR daughter anywhere. Ever.
No your not wrong, itâs your choice it would be you have nothing to do with me so their for donât come looking for my child
Definitely not because as your child gets older she can feed hate towards you and your husbandâŚ
Big NO NO NO NO NO NO NO, the child comes with parents and their needs for the child itâs all or none
Nope. I wouldnât allow her around my baby at all until she has a right relationship with me.
You are not wrong its your child your choice if she
When grandma âgrows upâthen revisit the idea
No! How can she love your child if she canât love her own!
No youâre not wrong. It seems that the grandmother is miserable and wants company. Keep your child away from that negativity.
Nope if they know where you live your number and they really wanted to make an initiative to be there then they need to make that effort n step. You donât bow to anyone
Your mom has some serious issues, no, I wouldnât let my child be alone with her for reason
You shouldnât have to. Your mother is being petty