Put a bungee cord on your gate
I would put a lock on the fence high enough so that not her or your own children can reach. She will have to learn some boundaries that the parents and or the grandparents should already be teaching her. Eventually she will understand that she will have to physically ask to come over. Its nice to let the kids play with the neighbors bit i can see how this would be frustrating.
Keep a lock on your gate and on days that you don’t want her to come over just tell her that you’re having family time or you guys aren’t having visitors that day. If her grandparents say anything to you just tell them that you would like for one of them to be out there with her so that she can be supervised.
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How about a lock on your gate
I agree to get a lock on the gate that she can’t reach. Bc if she comes over one day when your not outside or worse when your not home and she gets hurt the parents can sue you. Also if she’s being mean to your kids and leaving that gate open your kids can potentially get hurt. I would also buck up and talk to the grandparents and make sure they understand that its not ok for her to come over without being invited bc it’s a danger to your children too.
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Put a lock on the gate. Unlock it when you are ok with her being there, keep it locked when you don’t want her over.
Put a lock on the gate with the excuse that your little one gets out. I would be frustrated too.
I saw this on Supernanny one time. She put a flag pole up and had a red and green flag to hang on it. If the flag is red…she cannot come over and let herself in to play, because it’s personal or family time. but if the flag is green she can invite herself over to play. Teaches boundaries and is even easy enough for the grandparents to understand.
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Lock on the gate and maybe go over and talk the grandma, “It’s fun that so-and-so is over, here’s my number so she can ask before heading over.” Kind of deal?
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Can you lock your gate from the inside? Even if it’s a carabiner clip from Walmart (we use them on our dogs cages as they’re escape artists).
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Maybe go see the grand mother and ask her if she can get the girl to knock on your front door and ask if she can come in and play? Put a lock on your side of the gate so she can’t just let herself in.
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I would definitely just politely say something to the grandparents. She’s their responsibility if they’re watching her. They need to be made aware you’d prefer they ask.
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Get a lock on your gate
Lock the gate. When she comes to it tell her your kids are having a playdate by themselves
Saw this after reading you post 
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Put a lock on the gate.
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CHILL OUT ! their kids 4 god sake!
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Put a lock on the gate so she can’t get in maybe or just talk to the grandparents
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I’d do both, lock up and talk to the grandparents. It’s perfectly okay to not want a random child in your backyard, especially if this child is too rough.
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Send her back over holding a beer 
grandma will stop those visits real quick! Lol
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Put a lock.on the gate.
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Do whatever people do to keep stray animals out of their yards
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Since the kid is rough with your 2 year old AND your responsible if she gets hurt I think that’s reason enough to lock the gate and explain to the grandmother that shes a little rough with your youngest and sometimes arnt the best for you to be responsible for her.
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Elderly generations raised kids differently. My mom used to tell me about how my grandma let her go out alone and wander the town when she was six. Even when I was young, we left the house first thing in the morning and played with whatever kids we could find. Perhaps the grandma in this case is thinking of it like that, letting her grandchild go out to play with other kids without a thought. I think the best bet here is to talk to her directly. And if that doesn’t work, inform the girl that she has to call first and ask permission before coming over to play.
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Put a lock on your gate. Like a padlock. She can’t come into your yard if she can’t open the gate.
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Get a lock on your gate. If the child comes over and wants to come in just tell her “not today.” Simple.
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Put a lock
At the top where she can’t get to it maybe but from your side so she can try to get threw the other side but can’t
Put a lock on the gate lol.
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Lock it and if you already have one that she knows how to unlock put another lock on the gate she can’t get to. This way she has to ask.
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The answer to this is simple. You either- A- put a lock on your gate, this for ing the xhild to either ask to come over or at least come knock on your door where you then have the choice of answering or not. Or B- go over to your neighbors house and politely ask that she make sure that the child asks to come over and play first and to also never use the gate again. It doesn’t all have to be weird or awkward…just talk to her like you spoke on this post. Its not crazy to want someone to ask first before just busting into your backyard uninvited. As you said, it also presents a safety issue for YOUR children. And that is not acceptable. Good luck!
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Try putting a wire or lock on the gate from the inside, if she can’t open it she can’t come in.
Can you add a lock 
with a key or combination that you have to open from inside the yard? Like someone else says if she asks to play just kindly tell her sorry not today or yes if you play nicely etc
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Ray Skwarek any advice for this woman?
Lock it and talk to her grandparents. She is trespassing since she does not have your permission.
That’s what kids do. Don’t be mean.
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Well for starters try talking to the grandparents they’d b better off at understanding and definitely let them know how she is towards ur youngest and that if it happens again she won’t b aloud over ever
Get a lock for the gate where this child can’t reach. Talk to the grandparents. The child is probably lonely and just wants to play, but there has to be established rules.
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Lock the gate & explain to the grandma (if she asks) why your locking the gate now. Shes not your responsibility & if she’s rough with your kids explain that also.
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Hilary Matthews this you?
Put a lock on the gate. Easy Peasy When she approaches, you’ll have the ability to say “sorry, the kids can’t play right now since we’re doing yard work” and go about your business or “sure, come on in. Let me just unlock that for you.” Let her in, close and lock it. When it’s time to go home, let her out, close and lock it.
No talking needed.
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Put a lock on your fence!
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Definitely put some kind of locking mechanism on your gate that she can’t undo. But also go over and talk to the grandparents about it and tell them what you’ve posted here.
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Talk too g.P. lock the gate
Lock it and talk to the gradparents… explain that if anything happens to her they will not know as she has wandered away… … for her safety and your sanity lock it… she would be in routine knowing its open… she will soon learn to give up if its locked all the time 
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I had this problem with a neighbor. I just told the kids we weren’t having friends over right now if I didn’t have the time to watch extra kids.
If the child can come through a non locking gate…who else can🤔 Speak the grandparents and let them know your concern and then get a lock.
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Just put a lock on the gate door.
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Put a lock on the gate and tell the grandmother to keep her grandchild in her yard if she didn’t ask first. Sometimes you have to be bitchy about stuff for people to listen now-a-days
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You can tell from the comments who let’s their kids just wander the neighborhood, and expects others to babysit for free lol
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Walk her back to her grammas house and tell the grandparent that she’s welcome to come over as long as she calls you and asks you first!
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Put a lock on the gate
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Talk to the grandparents.
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It’s ok to say you have to go home now and to set limits on rough play. My yard my rules!
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That is what I would say put a lock on your gate
You must live beside of me! Lol just kidding. I do have the same problem with my neighbor’s kid, but I don’t have a fence unfortunately.
Well I guess I would frog march her back to her grandparents, when she comes in through gate you say sorry not today go home, or better still put a lock on your gate …if she climbs up it shout at her that’s bad .
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I have the same issue. No parents around us watch their kids. If my kids have toys these kids come over & take over their toys. Parents even tell their kids to come over. I’ve tried speaking to parents about me not being their babysitter, I bought things for my kids not for theirs etc. They call me racist. I don’t care about their color. I just don’t want the responsibility of other people’s kids put on me without my permission.
Youre lucky to have a gate. Lock it. Tell her & her grandparents she needs to ask or be invited to come over. I’d tell the grandparents directly that you’re not their babysitter. If they don’t want to watch her then they need to leave her with her parents. This poor unwanted, unloved child is being passed down the line because her own parents & grandparents are too lazy to take care of her themselves.
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Tell the grandparents you don’t have the time or want the extra responsibility of someone else’s child that you all are working on the yard or whatever it may be … lock the gate!!! My mom would be rude enough to actually tell the child to go home … I couldn’t do that personally, but it does get annoying, I can relate.
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Tell the little girl she needs to have her grandma to tell you she can be there. Or flat out tell her to go home 
Talk to the grandparents. But if they get nasty about it just put a lock on the gate.
I would tell the kid in front of the grandparents how I feel and this is the rules of my house. You can respect it or dont come at all.
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Are they old enough to read? Seems like you don’t like awkward convos so maybe you can make a fun “yard rules” sign with all of them, have them sign it when everyone understands the rules. Even your kids might be like ok time for you to go home bc it’s posted and everyone acknowledged it.
Put a lock on the Gate if talking to the Grandparents does not work your not the babysitter
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Maybe she comes over because she is lonely.
Maybe she has something going on at home and feels safe with you.
Maybe she doesnt UNDERSTAND what playing rough is bc besides your kids she has NOONE else.
The neighbourhood kids are ALWAYS at our house. We have the big play yard and all the toys. I have never ONCE been annoyed with any child being here. They are here bc they NEED or WANT to be here.
If they are being rough or it’s time to go home, I just tell them.
And I NEVER know they are coming over. My house is a safe house, you are ALWAYS welcome and you will ALWAYS be treated like my own.
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- Put a lock on the gate and 2. My old neighbors kid would always come and do the same at my house. I got to were I’d just straight up tell her I had too many kids and wants watching any extra and send her packing.
I’d put a lock on my gate. Then tell the grandparents until she stops pushing your youngest then she can’t come over.
Put a lock. I would put it on the inside of the backyard to ensure she stops getting in as she will have no way of figuring it out.
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Put a lock on the gate.
My neighbor’s kids are in my yard all the time throwing their garbage into it and I just don’t know what to say to their parents but I’m going insane and I’m getting so pissed off
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Put a lock on the inside of the fence and next time she tries to get the gate open just tell her the kids can’t play today, maybe in a couple of days. Tell her she needs to go back to her grandmother’s house.
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Put a chain and lock on the gate. Just say you lost the key sweetie, you can come back when we find it. And never find it. 
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Put a latch on your side of the fence and unlatch it when it’s ok for the neighbour’s grandchild to visit
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Talk to the grandparents, before something happens. Stop beating around the bush.
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Do any of you saying to lock the gate realize kids can climb fences?
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Honey I understand completely. Sometimes you just got to point your finger, use your mom voice and say “not today. Go home”. Some kids you just have to be blunt with.
And Definitely lock the gate. Only unlock it if you want her over.
I’d definitely talk to the Grands about her playing rough with your baby. If she cant be kind she needs to keep her tail home.
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Lock your gate…if you have a lock…but still the kid manages to open it…change your lock…if the kid tries to climb…make your fence higher
Age old story parents can’t or don’t care… grand parent to old to be parent… and the poor child becomes the street huligan because she does it know better. She has no example no one that really looks after her or cares for her… she is no one’s responsibility… you have an opportunity to be a guiding light in her life… however that is your choice. You will have to ensure she followed rules when coming over and explain to her the polite thing to do is ask. It is hard and not really your problem or responsibility however it is your choice to guide or ignore
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For sure id latch it and just explain to her its locked right now so the littles cant escape bc its not safe. And if youre busy at the time just tell her to check back later or tomorrow. Write your phone number on a piece of paper and give it to her, tell her to tell her grandparents stick it on the fridge so they can call or message to make stuff easier. And i noticed u didnt mention how old the kiddo is but im sure shes just lonely and looks forward to seeing and playing with u guys so I dont think id really be too stearn unless she ignores anything you put in place to deter the situation in a different direction. But depending on the age id continue explaining things to her to so she eventually begins to get it and knows she needs to listen when in your yard or supervision. And maybe give her something cool to leave with here and there so its not so depressing to have to go home when done playing. Nothing too extravagant, maybe a bracelet made of flowers, the poppers u throw on the ground, or a temporary tattoo or stickers, chalk to use in her own yard, seeds to plant over there, anything really that would put a smile on her face and she could do in her own yard:)
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This is an easy fix. Get a lock
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We had to put a lock and key on pur gate because of other kids leaving the gate open
Does she come into your yard when you aren’t home?? You need to talk to your neighbors. You can’t constantly be responsible for her!
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I would say oh sorry hunny but my kids don’t feel good I would not want you to get sick too.
I think they will stay away
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Lock the gate so she can’t get in … and when she tries tell her you’re busy
I’d put a lock on the gate x
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Add a latch on inside at the top she cant reach to get in or out
Rude grandparents, I no it’s not nice but have a word an put a lock on your side when your kids out playing it’s not your responsibility to look after there child they should respect you if not sod em!!!
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Get a little bike chain lock and lock it when she tries to enter it won’t work and tell her to go ask her grandmother
Lock the gate. Simple.
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Use the mom voice lol. And keep bringing it up to the grandparents. Say that you’re sorry but you can’t have her coming over unannounced a lot of the times
Lock your gate so that she won’t have a choice but to ask. It’s for the safety of your children.
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Put a lock on yur gate
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Id put like a stake in the ground behind the gate so she can’t push it open 
I had the same issues and i told the kids straight up to go away especially if shes rough with your youngest…
But shes not your child so shes not your responsibility… Just tell her to go away. And straight up tell the grandparents she cant just invite herself to YOUR home.
Remember that its YOUR home your rules.
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If she gets hurt on your property u can be sued
Really, Let her play too it’s only for a little while. Sad neighbors
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It’s called a lock and key, and have a candid conversation, if you haven’t already done so, with your neighbor!
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Put a lock on your gate
Lock the gate. Put a bolt on the inside
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Install a lock on gate and notify grandparent it is a safety issue and you are helping with her safety as well.
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can you lock the gate