Your boys are old enough to learn to be respectful with noise levels and the words they use. Even during the day, if you live that close to others it is polite to limit the noise level.
Perhaps her windows are open to get some fresh air but she can’t hear her own tv over their yelling.
That said, she should not have ever spoken that way to the kids! She should have asked them politely to model the behavior she wants.
I would discuss it with your boys and then walk next door with them to tell her you have spoken to them but to please talk to you next time instead of swearing at your children.
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You should handle it by handling your kids…
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I would have been at her door 2 seconds later!
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I’ve been on both sides of that fence. Maybe when you knock on her door you should have a plate of cookies and two boys ready to apologize. Her home and her yard are supposed to be her place of peace too. May be a good time for a lesson in respect for others and their spaces.
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Kids are supposed to be able to play and have fun. If the neighbor doesn’t want to hear children playing then she should move to a place with more land and less neighbors. And I don’t give a crap what the kids were doing, she would have seen my face within mins for telling my children to shut the f up. I don’t even speak to my kid that way.
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I would like the fact that the neighbor used the “F” word at my kids, but if they were being extremely loud, and argumentative I wouldn’t be mad at the neighbor, shows your kids have no respect for others. Maybe your neighbor was not feeling well that day or maybe she had a baby trying to sleep.
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I mean I would NOT like the fact the neighbor used the “F” word
Neighbor was definitely wrong and I’d confront her but kids also need to be considerate of those around them. My kids fight like crazy and if they cant get along and carry on arguing and yelling they dont get to continue playing. With that being said if someone spoke to them like that I’d have a lot to say. All the comments blaming just the neighbor or just kids… Both are in the wrong and can learn something from this situation 
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Maybe teach them to talk at a tolerable decibel.
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He don’t want u to cause issues bc he likes her lol, nice
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You should have told your husband where to put it, and gone out side immediately and handled the issue SHE was causing. No way. I would have gone out and lost my ever loving mind.
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I’d be right out there giving it right back at her! You do not speak to someone else’s kids like that. If she had a problem with it she could have knocked on your door an spoke to you the adult like an adult should when it involves children. An at 1pm please get over yourself kids can be as loud as they want to be so long as they’re not hurting someone or in danger there’s zero reason to say a single word about it especially at that hour. Noise ordinances don’t cover the afternoon hours they’re generally 11pm -7am. Plus you don’t cuss at someone else’s kids. You’re doing the right thing by letting your kids argue it out since they only use their words that’s good they’re learning how to problem solve between them which will also help them get along better the older they get. They’re kids they’re being kids who are learning how to express themselves and communicate to one another they’re not being bad. I mean my god they could be left outside running the streets terrorizing other ppls properties instead of being in their own backyard playing I think neighbor needs to mind her own.
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maybe your hubby knows she can control your kids more then you can
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Knock on the door. I WILL BE THE ONLY ONE to say that to my boys. Bet on that. I would be screaming that at her in all honesty
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She has no right cussing at your kids period.
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Send her an anonymous glitter bomb!
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Frankly, I’d need more information. How obnoxiously loud and argumentative were your kids to make the neighbor that angry? Perhaps you should stop giving up and teach them there are other people. That being said, your neighbor could’ve (as we tell kids), mind their language.
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Yeah that wouldn’t fly with me
I’d walk my happy ass over to her house and inform her if she yells at my kids like that again I’d be dragging her ass up and down the yard. Don’t fuck with my kids!!!
You should’ve handled it right away, don’t try and go back later and cause a fight over something that should’ve been immediately handled. You didn’t need your husbands permission to stand up for your children.
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Outside is meant for running around, yelling, and expelling energy. It’s the middle of the day. Not early am, or evenings. Even as someone that works overnight, and sleeps during the day, I understand when I hear the neighborhood kids outside playing, and doing what kids do, I do not go out yelling, or even get upset. And the days I take my kids outside, and they run around yelling and playing, my neighbors don’t get upset… bc that’s literally what taking your kids outside is for, for them to play rougher, or louder than they’re allowed to inside.
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I would go over and tell her to mind her business and not speak to your kids that way
I would’ve knocked on her door. No one should be talking to someone else’s children like that. She could have been a mature adult & knocked on your door & spoke to you abt it. I would be absolutely livid.
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I would go over and tell her to mind her business and not speak to your kids that way
Maybe be more respectful and not let them have fights outside so the neighbors don’t have to constantly hear them fighting!
She should not have spoke to them like that
However I think all parties need to Apologize
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I would NEVER speak to someone else’s children that way. If she had a problem with your children she should have come to you and your husband.
You should be more respectful of your neighbors by advising your children it’s rude to be so loud for so long that the neighbors can’t contain their rage any longer.
I mean I wouldn’t want to listen to two kids who’s mom gave up on parenting them either, that said I’d have asked for them to go go you, then I would have have screamed stfu. 
Parent you’re damn kids.
I would’ve knocked her tf out lol
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Kids laughing and playing outside is one thing— kids arguing and screaming is another. It’s a respect thing for me. I don’t put anymore weight on one word over another… so using the F word would not have bothered me personally. But who knows how many times she asked them nicer to quiet down or whatnot. Perhaps you only heard her last ditch effort to get results. Is she a shift worker? Does she work from home? Is there a baby napping? There are a dozen reasons for people to be respectful of their volume outdoors when you live in a neighborhood
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I would cause an issue. No one needs to yell at a child like that. The sounds of kids being kids is wonderful to me.
I’d buy the kids a bullhorn!!! 
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I wouldve had my husband handle it, because if I go and handle it… lol
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If you didn’t handle it right then forget it- BUT this gives you a little time before she does it again, to figure out how you want to deal with her. (trust there will be another time because she got away with it)
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You gave up on the aspect of parenting. Doesn’t mean other people need to deal with it.
In steps the village to pick up your slack.
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She should’ve handled it differently but that being said she shouldn’t have to listen to your kids being sh!ts to each other either. I only say that because I have a 7 and 9 year old - both girls - who can’t hardly be in the same room right now without being down each other’s throats and I do everything I can to keep them from being obnoxiously loud outside. It’s not easy.
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First of all, your husband should have wanted to stand up for your children!
Secondly, I feel like the opportunity to address this issue has been missed, it should have been handled immediately. I don’t talk to my kids that way, no one is is going to either. If she wanted to be respected she should have acted respectfully. It’s earned not a right. There were many better ways to handle it, and she chose incorrectly. You should have let her know immediately swearing and yelling at your children isn’t acceptable.
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Ummm cause issues?? u don’t wanna ask how I would handle that one lol
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Ummm KNOCK ON HER DOOR ! She has no right talking to your kids like
Maybe a hey, can you keep it down but flying the F bomb ar someone elses kiddos no ma’am not right
Your husband sounds like mine
Tell him.you got this and buckle up !! Your yard, your mortgage, your taxes YOUR RULES NOT HERS
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Que me walking outside to ask her who tf she think she talking to. Honestly that’s a fist fight
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As a parent I do not meditate kid problems. I have 5 of them and they already know if they are arguing about something and I have no skin in the game they have no reason to bring it to me. If they come to me asking for my input on their disagreement I’ll give them my honest opinion but I don’t provide resolution. They also know if they get too loud with it they need to take that mess to a bedroom or outside cause doing it in the common areas of the house ain’t gonna fly either.
With all that said… The neighbor may have had a totally valid complaint if their noise levels were really that high. But they handled it terribly and I would need to address that. Kids have to experience stuff in order to learn how to handle it so they would be involved in the conversation with the neighbor. I wouldn’t blow over there yelling and screaming because then I would be as crazy as the neighbor but there would absolutely be a conversation had.
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Well if they’re constantly fighting and you don’t give a crap to stop them I’d be pissed having to listen to it too. That’s bogus because your kids are being rediculous and you aren’t doing a damn thing. Could she have done it without saying the f word sure but guess what if you were actively parenting them and not standing for it someone else wouldnt feel the need to scream at your kids 
take responsibility and the sign that you giving up isnt an appropriate answer.
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So you decided not to parent and then got mad when someone else did. Got it 
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Tell her to say it you your face
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You gave up trying on your kids fighting so someone else decided to discipline for you. You don’t like/want anyone disciplining your kids, then don’t stop trying.
One thing is hearing kids laughing and yelling out of happiness. Another thing is to hear kids fight.
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Cause issues?! I would have hopped that fence. It’s 1pm and kids are loud how dare she’s yell & curse! She obviously caused issues when she cursed at your kids. My advice is to go over there and speak to her the same way she spoke to your kids. I’m sure if you and your husband were arguing she wouldn’t have yelled at you to “shut the fuck up”. She felt comfortable disrespecting kids because they normally won’t fight back.
For one she shouldn’t have used that type of language. No language should be used in front or directed at kids. There should be a way to talk to them without cussing at them. You and your husband also need to find a way to solve the kids from fighting. Once they start separate them. My brother and I used to fight all the time when we were kids and it ended up physical, but he ended it. My parents never knew about the physical fights. So be careful before they really start physical fights one day there will be force behind the blows.
Yep no freaking way someone talks to my child that way. Ever. I think you need to acknowledge that your children may have been out of line and overly loud but also that at no point ever is it okay to address a child in that manner and if it ever happens again there will be issues. For all these ppl saying she disciplined/parented your child because you didn’t… I feel terrible for your children if this is how you “discipline/parent “.
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I have twins, they are 13 year old boys. I’m tired of yelling at them. I dont want my shit broke so if they fight they gotta take it outside. I do believe it takes a village to raise a child, and I’ve done my fair share of correcting other’s children. I would never cuss at another child, unless I was super close to the family and the kids were close with me. Like the kids my kids grew up with are and were raised like cousins and the parents are long like 10+ years of friendship. Also a friendship like this you’ve discussed raising each others kids and they know what kind of parent you are.
Because you are neighbors, for atleast the foreseeable future, kindly walk next door, knock, and have an adult conversation. Tell her you didn’t appreciate it and would greatly appreciate it not happening again.
Next time shut her the f up…
Good luck Mom.
So did they shut the F up 
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I would’ve went right out there and flipped tf out. My kids are loud when they’re outside. They also fight and argue a lot. They’re 9 and 6. If any of my neighbors ever said a word to them about it, I would’ve definitely handled it immediately.
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Sorry girl you missed that opportunity your reaction should have been direct and immediate when you heard her say it you should’ve immediately addressed her. Whether it was politely or impolite should’ve been done immediately
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My Children do the same thing and when they act like that, I bring them inside. Many People work from home now or some may work 3rd shift and need sleep. You need to be mindful of that. She shouldn’t have yelled the way she did either. Both parties are at fault.
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Sounds like you just ignore your kids and let them act like little shits because you don’t want to deal with it and it sounds like your neighbor is sick of it . Seriously why should she have to put up with it just because you have given up ? If you don’t like her saying something to them then you should handle your own kids .
Children need to learn to work out their own issues without parent involvement as long as they don’t hurt each other. These kids were doing this outside. Kids have alot of energy and I would rather see them playing outside in their yard than sitting inside with their video games. They get loud. Babies cry. If neighbors don’t like to hear the noise from childen they should live in a remote area. They should not use the F word yelling at neighborhood children.
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Bake her some cookies , you both can’t stand YOUR kids. Someone had to tell them to shut it. Maybe a neighbor or Stranger saying something made them realize how ridiculous their fighting is. She could have said it differently but
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Sit in your backyard peacefully and every time you hear that heifer open her mouth repeat the same thing.
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Bring her a cake 
and thank her.
Meh. I’m that neighbor so… they should probably just stfu.
They’ll arrest you for cursing at a child under 12 years old in GA🤷♀️
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you have to control your kids this is what is wrong with kids now days no parental guidence. never let them yell at each other like that take control are you the parent or do they rule you. unbelievable.
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Your neighbor is probably sick of hearing your kids fight all the time and would like to have some peace in her back yard. I think even I would have said something to them after so long. A person can only put up with something for so long. Maybe they will catch on that people don’t want to listen to them bicker all the time.
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yes, she was wrong to use that kind of language, But are you sure that she didn’t ask them nicely before, to keep the noise down a bit??? I would get over there, Apologize to her for your kids being loud, and then see just what she says, Then say, 'I did hear you yelling quite loudly at them, I honestly thought something was wrong", And then see if she says anything about that, if she hasn’t already. Then talk to your kids, yes they are kids, & kids are loud, but to continuously disturbed a neighbor/neighbors, who as we do when we get older, will have some level of hearing loss, yet this still is bothering her Yea, I probably would also ask the kids to keep their screaming down a bit, & if that doesn’t work, I would talk to the parent’s. Just maybe their noise doesn’t bother you, but it seems to be bothering her & find out
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As a neighbor, I would let the first time slide but after that I would speak up. As a parent, I would go back to trying to keep the kids a little more docile than you do to teach them to respect others in the process. Was your husband out there with them? Because if not, yall are crazy letting them play outside like that unsupervised. This isn’t the same world parents grew up in and there are some psychos out there.
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She said it through the fence, probably out of frustration and anger, people can only take so much. Get off your high horse. You’re taking it personal when it’s not at all personal. Kids are annoying. Sometimes they need to hear it.
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I mean…did they shut the F up or nah…
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You “gave up trying to stop it”. Well, it takes a village, right? Guess your village didn’t give up yet…& got tired of hearing it.
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Ignore it unless it happens frequently. Then confront her. Put up a backyard camera. If it continues, go after her for harassment.
Idgaf who you are …no one talks to my kids that way… I’d tell her off
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You “gave up” on teaching your kids to not fight “as long as they don’t hurt each other” but what about if they bother the neighbors? You need to handle your kids!
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If you don’t want to deal with it what makes you think anyone else wants to? You had them take it to a public area where anything goes at that point. If it was that big of a problem you would have went over and spoke with her on it, not be on here asking how to handle it. You are a grown mama woman with children… not a child who needs your hand held through a “tough” situation. If you don’t want someone talking to your kids that way SAY SOMETHING!!!
I get it I have 6 kids and 7 on the way… they argue all the time and quite frankly I don’t care to listen to it. If it was had been my kids I would have screamed AMEN….
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Yeah, she doesn’t need to be doing that. I’d go over, definitely.
I bet they stfu after that Lmaoo if you gave up breaking up their fights someone has to give a fuck
When my kids do that, I give them a warning and if they keep doing it I make them come inside. I tell them they need to respect our neighbors if they want to play outside. Its one thing to have random screams but no one wants to hear kids yelling at eachother constantly. Theres a lack of respect there. I personally dont understand why you allow it period. Its just teaching your kids to scream at people when they’re upset. I always try and teach them screaming and crying doesn’t solve anything we use our words to express how we feel. But to each their own. On the other hand, no matter the situation id be upset if a neighbor did that. I would calmly walk over and talk to them. You’re going to be neighbors for a long time. I’d just explain that you understand but you’d prefer them not to use profanity towards your children though and maybe next time they can ask your children nicely to keep it down and if they don’t maybe give them your number so they can call you if they have an issue again.
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I’m sorry if I was your neighbor I’d do the same thing. Specially If your not going to do your job! I’m not gonna listen to kids argue especially if their parents aren’t going to do anything to stop it. Kids need discipline! Even when arguing something needs to be done. When your a parent you can’t just give up it’s your job 24/7 that’s what you signed up for when you had children.
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It’s the middle of the day and the children are on MY property? And without so much as a conversation with me, you start cursing atMY children? Who again, are on MY property, in the middle of DAY.
Oh no, see this is where I show my ENTIRE behind.
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I don’t talk to my kids that way and no one else will! They could have come knocked on my door or choose appropriate words to scream out.
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If it were me, I would have seen red and gone off on that bitch. Who cusses out little kids? She must be complete trash.
I am gonna go out on a limb and say there is more to this story. Like a parent needs to be there when kids a fighting to correct their behavior. I am will to bet it went on longer then a few minutes and there was screaming involved.
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Teach kids to be curious others use softer voices
I would have jumped over that fence and the cops would have been called. They’re babies let them play! Ooh it would have been ugly. NOONE yells at my kids besides me…and I would never yell that. That’s something you yell at a barking dog or grown people being loud at 3 AM…not babies. Poor things were probably scared after that.
I am not gonna lie my kids probably would have told her no you shut the f*ck up 
I don’t talk to my kids like that no one else is going to either. Kids are loud and it’s in the middle of the day and no noise ordinance is in effect. She can go suck a toad.
I’m a petty b*tch and would be out there with loud music playing today
If it worked I would do the same and thank her for solving the problem! Haha
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Tell your kids to be more considerate of neighbors. Then take then to neighbor to apologize
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Id stick up for the kids. I’d be livid
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I mean if you won’t control your kids, the neighbor is probably sick of hearing it.
She was wrong for swearing at them.
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It’s amazing you could hear your neighbor correcting your children, but you never bothered to stop your children from disturbing your neighbors peace in her own back yard. Not everyone cares to hear children loud mouth. You should apologize to your neighbor for having to do your job as a parent. Even though the neighbor should not have used the language that they used.
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I love hearing kids play, or fight lol. Next time go out and ask her what part bothers her.
My neighbor did the same exact thing, and I loudly said then I can hear your yippy dog. Every time I am out and they are out I tell my 2 year old dog make sure not to bark I wouldn’t want to upset anyone. My kids…. I would say something in a stoic manner with a very stern face. What a jerk!!!
Sit in the garden quietly, If she does it again. Loudly state do not shout at my kids! The shock of suddenly hearing your voice should quieten her, if that doesn’t work then just tell the kids to ignore her
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Look. I understand the “instinct” to “protect” your kids. I also understand how kids can bicker over some pretty stupid things and that often it’s better to let them work it out.
I’ve got two of my own who bicker all the time.
The problem here is that you and your kids reside in a neighborhood and your kids are bickering nearly constantly and loudly outdoors. You as a parent aren’t trying to dissuade them anymore.
It sounds like at this point, your neighbor had enough of not being able to enjoy her own back yard with the nearly constant bickering and said something because you don’t.
And I’ll agree. Listening to my kids bicker is much more annoying and nerve-grating than listening to them play…and They’re super loud with both.
While I agree she’s wrong for cussing, I don’t think she entirely was too wrong for telling them to shut up.
I think unless you’re willing to go over there and hear things from her perspective and try to find an actual solution to both of your issues that you’re probably better to just leave it for now.
Ma’am, YOU are responsible for YOUR children!!! Let them stay inside and be as loud as they want to be INSIDE.
Just because you’re loose on discipline doesn’t mean your neighbors are OR that they want to deal with it! That neighbor could have been resting/working.
Personally, I don’t want anyone telling obscenities at mine.
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Tell her to just mind her business if she does it again. They are kids and kids are LOUD. Outside is where they are to be letting out all their energy. But if your kids are fighting, tell them they are aloud to play outside, but by themselves until they can can pkay together right, they ate to stay apart. They will probably get board, and want to play with one another. My kids know when i say break time, they need to split apart till they can be nice.
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Control your children
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So you just going to not parent your kids when they’re fighting with each other? So you’re just going to let them fight and argue always and never stop it? You do realize that’s creating a bad behavior especially when they get older. Are you going to say the same thing when their teacher calls you that they’re fighting with other kids better yet with the teacher and saying “words” to them as you described? I cannot stand parents who do that. I’ve had parents tell me “well idk what to do I’m over it and just don’t know what to do” like I’m sorry what??? You’re the freaking parent!!! What do you mean you don’t know what to do. It’s the worst hearing parents tell me that. Just shows some people don’t want to parent.
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This same thing happened to me but with the dogs. And they only barked for a few seconds (I take them in when they do that and I had just opened the door to get them when I heard someone yell) mine are tiny dogs behind a 6 foot fence and it was in the middle of the day too. I yelled back and the person shut up. I guarantee you that person who yelled at your kids realized you weren’t there and only yelled because they thought they’d get away with it. Idk what to do now but I agree it was wrong. That person can mind their business. If they wanted peace and quiet they can move to the country. Kids make noise.
No one wants to hear your kids yelling and fighting. Be an actual parent and take care of it. Learn that the world doesn’t revolve around your kids. Get over it. Yes, I am a mom of 2 kids and my kids were taught yelling , screaming and fighting is not ok. They also learned respect for others. Try it.
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I mean if it got them to stop.
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They are kids. They are going to be loud. Your neighbor Karen needs to stfu herself. Let them be kids.