When he said no, that should have been it for you. It wasn’t fair to coerce him like that and I don’t think you did it to try something new with him. You did it because you were caught.
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I think you have problems
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You can feel however you want about it. The issue is are you in a relationship where you can focus on the two of you or are you going to want to explore and do more. It’s nice that you included him in this event but it could be all kinds of reasons why he’s not ok with now bringing a male into the situation. You two are the only ones that matter and only you can decide what you want moving forwards. Good luck.
It kinda seems you “talked” him into it with the girl to hold it over his head to give you a reason to be with a guy honestly. I honestly feel bad for him and feel like you tricked him and now that he’s being honest about how he feels you are not happy about it. You should have listened to begin with and he would never have been with another girl. That shouldn’t give you permission to be with another guy. If he said he didn’t want to, it should have stopped.
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Eew! How could you want your man to put it in another woman? I don’t even want my man touching another woman. And if you love your man, why would you want to be with another man?
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Yeah, you’re 100% wrong. He made it clear that he didn’t want to be part of that. You put pressure onto him, knowing he didn’t want it. He then came to you and explained that he was not okay with what happened and his feelings and you’re mad that he’s not down to let you pressure him again? You’re toxic.
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And what does her now girlfriend think?
Im sorry he didn’t have fun. Did you?
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OMG you can’t be serious he’s telling you he’s not okay with it that he feels disgusted with what happened and all you can think of is being mad you couldn’t get with 2 men at the same time it sounds he was not into it at all and only did it for you he didn’t get off on it even if he did finish you should just get over it and feel lucky that he’s still with you after how he feels things like this can ruin a relationship.
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Move On from this or he will Leave you
Don’t bring it up again.
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You are a crazy woman who should lose her husband
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You cheated on him then basically guilted him into doing something he was never comfortable doing in the first place. I’m the same way. I don’t want anyone else involved in our sex life. If I ever caught my wife with someone else regardless of anything because it was not discussed beforehand, she would be cheating( My wife and I had discussions and set our boundaries early in the relationship). A threesome is something that is vigorously discussed before even attempted. Oof.
You sound unreasonable.
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He said no. No means no. Damn imagine if this was a male writing this about his girlfriend 
Your definitely wrong sounds like you set him up because your wanting to sleep with another man
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No the fact you had to convince him in the first place says alot already. I think you are the problem not him! Maybe you should leave and just go be with everyone else except him.
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It reads that he caught you cheating with another girl and you convinced drunk him to join in to get out of the consequences of your decisions and actions. Now that he is sober and doesn’t want to entertain the idea anymore, you’re getting mad at him. Think about it the other way around. How would you feel if he did the same to you? If you don’t have a clear answer to that question, you probably need to reevaluate the relationship. If you have a different answer than he has, reevaluate the relationship. Have an open and honest(and sober) conversation about what happened and why, and see if you can move forward together, or not. It sounds like a turning point in the relationship and you need to decide TOGETHER which way it will go.
I wish you the best and hope you come out happier than yesterday.
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One no should have been enough. No means no.
Please don’t ever pressure someone to do something. Please don’t pressure someone especially if they have been drinking.
Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. Imagine if it was him who acted this way.
The reason you don’t feel bad is because you are showing a lack of empathy. Empathy means to be able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understand someone’s feelings.
You were not hard done by here. You are not the victim here. No one has the right to include someone else in a sexual act that they are not comfortable with. If he is not comfortable with repeating what happened then respect it and drop it. Do not ever use manipulation or coercion for your sexual desires. This is not ok.
He does have the right to tell you that you crossed a line just as anyone else who said no has the right to voice their grievances.
It is common knowledge that no means no so your failed attempt at pretending you don’t understand this is suspicious. If you cannot understand this then that is your problem and you must fix it.
Please become single and see a counselor who can explain that no means no.
In summary you messed up. So own it. Don’t make excuses. Don’t twist it around. Don’t make it about you. Take your lumps. Just own it.
Do right. Make better less exploitative decisions.
With accountability comes growth.
Learn from this.
Be grateful you had someone who wanted to be faithful rather than being so entitled.
Let him go. Let him find his soul mate.
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You coerced him into it & he regrets it. You sound like a manipulative person.
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So you coerced him into sex with you and another woman, and when he now regrets it and probably has a lot of guilt, tells you he didn’t want to and doesn’t like that he did and won’t do it again, you’re upset? Leave him so he can find someone who loves him.
You got caught that’s what happened. Then you talked his drunk self into acting a fool to cover your own infidelity. Now what if it was you that walked in on him with that other woman…you would probably have thrown a fit. You shouldn’t have a partner…… disgusting 
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seems like this post is going to be evidence in a future legal case but ok
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Wow you talk him into it ,now his feeling disgusted with what happen ,buy yourself a blow up male doll , or do it and end up in no relationship, which you might still end up in
You should have talked all that out before making out w a chick behind his back. I’d be disgusted too.
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He probably acted like he didn’t want to …to show he loves u but then gave in and probably enjoyed it as much as u did. But the fact u want to with a male this time …he’s definitely not having that. He would never want to share his wife with another male and he definitely doesn’t want to be in a 3 some w another male. I guarantee if you wanted to do it again but with a female he would be okay with that.
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He originally said no…
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It seems like you initiated the female 3 some just so you could use it against him so you could have sex with another male….
Be honest and just say you want an open relationship 
Obviously you’re the one initiating all of this.
I wouldn’t have to convince my husband.
Maybe he didn’t enjoy it like you may have thought or maybe he doesn’t want to feel “small” or intimidated by the other man.
I see both sides of this, but if he really wasn’t comfortable he wouldn’t have given in and done it, he obviously enjoyed it while it was happening then made a deal to do it again with another male next time but then 2 days later feels disgusted, my guess is he just doesn’t want you having another man
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You cheated then COHERCED him into a ffm 3sum and are now upset you can’t smash another dude too? Wowwwwwwwww
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I lost the love of my life to this never again
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Sounds like hubby isn’t confident enough with himself to “allow” himself to be on board with the 3rd person being a male. Some guys enjoy the 2 female version but just can’t wrap their head, (no pun intended) around another male being naked and THAT close to them. I suggest, I will not give advice on this, to not dwell on the “issues” here, let this uncomfortable feeling hubby has settle down and have a discussion when he is into a talk. Keep the conversation quiet, discuss the reasons why he feels uncomfortable and maybe you all can come up with some ideas to ease his concerns. Don’t do no blame game bs. Don’t say things like …well you wanted to until it came time for me to be with yadda yadda…or you thought it was fine when YOU with HER but now you dont want ME with a guy… this is a sensitive for most men. Been there, done that.
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Nah F that he’s selfish!
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lol he got his nut off go get yours
It was all by your initiation… I think you want the best of both worlds and the position you put your partner in and the peer pressure is probably the only reason he actually joined in… trying to now play the I want another man card cause he slept with another woman card is gross…like how cringe that it’s unfair to you the initiator …yuckk
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He is not obligated to participate in anything that makes him uncomfortable.
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Most guys are not ok with another man! That’s just they way it is! Girls seem to be a lot more open. Just kinda half to deal if you love them!
Soooo you cheated on him, when he caught you, you asked him to join, he did and now he doesn’t want too.
First, when he said no, you should’ve respected his boundaries and not continued to ask him. Second, you are 100% wrong for being upset because not only did you cheat, you didn’t respect his boundaries.
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So basically you cheated on him with another woman. Forced him to do something he doesn’t want to do to make it seem like you didn’t cheat. And now you have the audacity to complain that he doesn’t want to continue doing something he didn’t want to do in the first place. He is not the problem you are
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He got to do it with the females probsbly.looks at it as I got my way but she won’t 
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Honestly just go get a divorce and go and sleep with whoever you want to. Don’t bring a bunch of shit into your marriage and then blame him for not wanting it. Ugh so frustrating and annoying
Selfish people don’t make good partners. Your SO deserves better. You sound very narcissistic and desperate.
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Ok if the roles were reversed. He was a female and was coherced into having sex. Then the male was trying to make it “fair” and have another. There would be issues. People would be saying it’s sexually controlling behaviour.
He didn’t instigate the 1st… You did. He said no to the 1st at first. You didnt sit down and discuss it with a clear head.
If your partner was the woman everyone would be saying “your body your rules” and talking about consent and not being forced into these things.
You might lose this relationship over this. It does happen so you need to be extremely careful
It sounds like it could be he genuinely he regrets it. But it also sounds like he’s using that as an excuse to keep you from having a male involved. Guys tend to be down for threesomes until it comes to wanting a male instead of a female.
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Sorry, I don’t agree with you. I think you had too much to drink. You shouldn’t have initiated sex with the female much less pushed him into joining in to make it look like swinging instead of cheating. And now you want to include a man? Your partner obviously has no gay tendencies and is disgusted by that scenario. I wouldn’t bring it up again. You may have already damaged your relationship beyond repair by going outside the two of you for sexual gratification.
Omg seriously. Says a lot about you love not your partner.!!!
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Hahaha Hahaha Hahaha 
he walked in on you making out or in other words cheating still with the same sex automatically wanted him to jump in because of course that would make it ok and you could work out a deal to still manage to get nailed by another guy and your partner and expect your partner to not think your a little bit in the wrong. Wow…is your first name manipulation…???
Firstly, youve left out important information like the context of your relationship. Is it open? Monogamous? Poly?
With the information given, it sounds like you pushed and pushed until he gave in which is coercion and if a man had coerced a woman, you’d be well aware that that’s sexual assault.
It also sounds like he walked in on you cheating on him with a chick
He has every right to feel the way he does and he does not have to engage in anything he doesn’t want to regardless of if he said he would.
You are the a-hole here love
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Could you imagine if this was a male saying this?! He said no, but you couldn’t respect that? No wonder he’s not happy with you!
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What if you walked in on him with another woman but invited you to join, it’s the same thing …he caught you cheating 
…he just didn’t get mad about it.
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I guess this is another case where “no means no” comes into play. If he didn’t want to in the first place, it should’ve been left at that, especially now it’s gotten a little messy between you both now.
Side note, might be a good idea to watch how you drink. As you have explained, it can lead to regret later. Moderation is good. Just gotta make sure it doesn’t make you lose control of the situation.
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Yep you’re wrong start kissing your relationship good bye
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I’m sure even those who have threesome’s they don’t just happen like that, they both agree and plan for it, yours is cheating coz you had not talked about it and you forced him to avoid guilty lol.
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Not wrong for being upset as such… I could of predicted it… for some reason I think its very different with men. Not many men fantasise about being with another man but I think most women admit they’ve fantasised about being with a woman. With or without their partner
I do however understand his feelings if it’s purely based on ‘involving another person’ in my experience from friends this very rarely works in a long term loving relationship to ‘spice things up’
He is saying that bc he realizes where it’s going and doesn’t want u to have a 3some with a man and he already got it so he making u feel like shit for it nobody forced him and I’m sure he enjoyed it so now he wants to take it back after it’s done sonu don’t get to experience it the other way. He is a big childish baby
It kinda sounds a LOT like you pressured him into something he wasn’t comfortable with so you could manipulate it into getting something that you want. He verbalized that he wasn’t comfortable introducing any outside parties into your sex life and you pressured him. Not cool dude.
You should have respected his initial no. Leave it alone. He has stated his regrets, I personally wouldn’t push any further.
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Last I checked, that’s called cheating 
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So you started getting intimate with her,he caught you,you pushed the issue until you got your way,and YOU aren’t satisfied?? Is that right? Lmao!! YOU had no business doing anything in the first place unless it was talked about between you both. And you still aren’t satisfied? I would leave your selfish ass
Erm you need to be single if it’s upsetting you that much that your not Gona get the opportunity to sleep with another man
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You are wrong. You peer pressured his no into a yes and then quid pro quoed his ass. Not cool IMO. 
okay, so you had to convince him to do it? that’s not ok. once he said no then that should’ve been the end of it. imagine if he was trying to convince you to do it even though you didn’t want to, you wouldn’t be happy about it. and if you went through with it you’d probably say “he had to convince me” “i didn’t want to do it but i did it anyway”. you’re in the wrong. he is not.
why do you feel hurt? he hasn’t done anything to make you feel hurt. you were the one cheating on him until you convinced him to join in. of course he didn’t enjoy it. why would he? he deserves better than you.
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Not fair? Clearly he said he didn’t like it and you still wanted to? Did you even have a conversation before hand about that kind of situation? Me and my husband have been together for 9 years and this conversation came up and we both agreed its a no go even if it’s a man or women. If the man isn’t interested don’t pressure him into it… that’s WRONG. You’d be mad as hell if it was the other way around.
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Tbf it sounds like you pushed him into the 1st. He’s going to want to please you you’re his partner. And if said no and pushed, of course he’ll regret it. Realistically to start he caught you cheating as by the sound of it you aren’t in a polyamorous relationship. Yes you are wrong you sound really selfish.
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to be honest he Said no I feel like you forced him to Join in. you Shouldn’t of continued To Ask him. you Basically Cheated on him with another Woman. Cant Blame him for Not wanting to do Again! seems like you are the problem here you want ur eat and cake it aswell
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Holy Jerry Springer. He obviously didn’t really want to go along to begin with, so it isn’t surprising he doesn’t want to again and is saying these things. I don’t think it is just because it is a guy. I mean, ask him if you could have another threesome with a girl - and I bet you anything his answer is still no. You should have respected his no from the get-go.
Honestly, you’re being very selfish. Your partner clearly didn’t want this to begin with but after you pushed him into it, tried for YOU. This obviously isn’t something your partner is into and that is OK. If it’s what you want to do, you should find a new partner who is into that kind of relationship. If not, you have to work really hard to make sure your partner isn’t left feeling insecure as you technically cheated and it could cause a rift
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So you got caught cheating, then badgered your man to join in so you wouldn’t feel guilty? And now you’re mad because he doesn’t want ‘another’ threesome??
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A threesome should have bee disgusted first. You basically cheated then pressured him into a threesome
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The guy is a grown man. He may have said no at first but in reality he really wanted to. Just caught him off guard. If he really meant no then he would not have joined and just walked away. If he really meant no but caved in then he’s a weak man. But I doubt that. He got his freak on with two women and enjoyed every bit of it. Most straight men fantasize about this.
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Welp your nasty ideas may have just ruined a marriage.
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Your dead a$$ wrong for being upset . Because he didn’t even want to from the start ! Yet you were being so pushy about it that he gave in why because he wanted to please you and make you happy . Sounds like you should walk away from this poor man because he doesn’t deserve to be with someone so damn selfish ! “ you’re hurt that you didn’t get to get with a man “ what in the total fuckery ! This whole post just has me dumbfounded ! Seriously . Sounds like your husband isn’t enough for you then don’t be with him
Convincing someone is NOT consent.
You were in the wrong for starting without discussion then forcing him to do it.
I hope he has support to process what has taken place
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If you’re both not satisfied with each other, why bother to stay together???
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You pushed him into the first time it isn’t like he initiated it. And if he hadn’t have coke onto the bedroom you were still getting ‘hot and heavy’ with your friend so we’re at that point cheating on him!
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So you pressured him into having sex with you and another woman, and YOUR annoyed that he is upset about the situation, even though he literally walked in on you cheating on him??? Hope he leaves and finds someone better
you cheated on him got caught n then pushed him to join in the “threesome”… he obviously didn’t want to and doesn’t now. If you want to go sleep with other people then you need a convo about splitting basically
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Yes you are right it is unfair that YOU starting something with another person behind his back then pushed him into doing something he said no too a few times . Your fault and you miss out
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If you want your relationship to last, then stop all this bs!! If you want out then go your way but don’t badger him into your fantasies. Woman get your ducks in a row without stealing your partners peace!!
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You just want another dick thats why you are hurt
I hope he leaves you as you cheated on him first and he deserves better. Karma will find you.
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Being drunk has absolutely nothing to do with it. It’s called self control you either stand with him or you don’t you made him do something he didn’t want to then wanted it to reverse and be a male?? You need to be apologising
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Girl just be single. You cheated on your man and got caught, you pressured him into sex with you and the person YOU were trying to have sex with before he walked in, and then you want to cry on Facebook about how he won’t let you sleep with another guy. You’re a whole ass red flag and that dude deserves the chance to be with someone who wants the same things he does and honestly so do you. If you want an open relationship or just casual hookups then you need to let this man go and do you’re own thing and give him the chance to find someone who wants something exclusive like he does.
My honest opinion, you owe him an apology and should actually listen to his concerns when he voices them rather than listen to reply because communication is everything and if you’re going to tune him out because the answer isn’t what you want then once again I’m going to suggest that you just be single.
Sounds to me like he deserves better than what you can give him. When a woman or man has NO care or concern about their partners emotions and feelings whatsoever, it’s a very toxic sad place. Honestly, and maybe I’m wrong but you couldn’t convince me that you care about him even a LITTLE because your post reads nothing to me except that you are am emotionally abusive, controlling, heartless person. Is it my place to judge you, nope absolutely not but I have no filter when it comes to people ope ly posting their personal life and asking for advice, I will say exactly what I think or feel about it.
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Sorry but gross. Should just listened to your man’s. You cheated. End of story
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Wrong on too many levels in my own opinion and your cheating then 3 some most probably has killed your marriage
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He joined you to please you, found out it’s not for him, you picked this lady, and intiated a threesome now you are just being plain greedy, leave him and sleep with whoever you like, or stay with him and stop cheating.
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am I right your moaning cos you forced your fella to go with another woman and you wanted to be with two men!! Sooo wrong but funny suppose that’s karma.
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It sounded like you were cheating he went behind your boyfreinds back with another woman, and now your getting upset cause you want be able to cheat with a man this time, very selfish respect what your boufreind says and stop thinking about yourself, question do you want to be in this relationship I think you need a serious think about what you want
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Yes you’re wrong you clearly have no love or respect for this man and he deserves much better. Technically he walked in on you cheating on him. you sound classy.
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The fact that you care more about banging another guy, instead of being understanding that your spouse is not happy nor would he want to do that again shows the way you are . I Feel like you did this so you can hold it against
Him by telling him “HE had sex with another woman so now it’s only “FAIR” for you to go have sex with a man … NO WHATS FAIR IS Respecting your partners feelings point blank . Even if you do or don’t agree …
Youre bonkers. He didn’t organise the female on ask you to do it. You initiated it and convinced him to join so how does he now owe you a go with a male??
Hes obv not into it cop on
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That’s the way it always seems to be. The man always wants another woman. You got USED!! DISGUSTING
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It sounds like you did initiate it. I think you need to accept that your husband isn’t into sleeping with other people and doesn’t want you to either.
Yes, I think you are wrong for being upset.
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He said no at first.
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You got caught cheating, then try to convince him to join despite him saying no, now you’re shocked he’s upset with you?
You cheated on him and didn’t respect his boundaries. If you can’t see any of that, then you’re honestly toxic and need to leave this relationship and figure some things out
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Drinking is no excuse for your actions. He should leave you. What you talked him into doing is disgusting. Your relationship with your husband will go downhill here on out.
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