No is a complete sentence!
You don’t have to let her move in, your getting married in a month so letting someone move in should be between you and your Future husband.
You don’t need to stress out your daughter for anything.
She can book a hotel or a tent, camper
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Just tell her she can be near you but not with you not saying won’t be hard but you have to consider your life praying
Trust me you do not want this to happen!!! Say no fast!!!
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Did she just tell you she was moving in with you without asking? Because that’s a bit insane. Just tell her no.
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Tell her no. There’s no obligation to house her. No one can just invite themselves to stay in your home, regardless of their connection or what the bonuses of their stay would entail.
As much as it sounds you have on your plate already… you would be neglecting your family’s needs if you allowed her to move in with you. You definitely aren’t in a position to be able to help someone and she’s a terrible person for intruding in this manner 
Did your mom tell you the reason why she made that decision so abruptly?? Talk to her and discuss your feelings
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If u don’t want your birth mother to move in then tell her no , I wouldn’t be taking my kids rooms off them for anyone I’m sorry but it seems u don’t have the room and need to tell her to make other arrangements
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Wtf… How is she telling YOU that she’s moving into YOUR home and you’re just accepting it??? No. Its 100% your call. Even if she DID raise you. Still your call
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Why exactly is she moving in? This is something that should’ve been discussed first and just not her saying she is. She didn’t even raise you. How is she able to just move in on a whim? I would just tell her it’s not the right time and list all the reasons. I would only let her move in because it’s an emergency like she’s gonna be homeless or something. Sounds rude of her to just do what SHE wants when it is going to impact YOUR life, YOUR kids’ lives, YOUR house.
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No judgement here. Curious as to why she didn’t raise you and if it was reckless bahavior that could in some way bite you in the ass when she moves in and instead of helping out makes your hectic life 10x more hectic. You have to do what is right FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. and if that means biting the bullet and telling her no then that’s what you have to do.
Just say no. She cannot force herself in. If you didn’t offer or she didn’t ask and get your approval, she can’t just make that decision for you.
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You can not let her tell you she’s moving in. That is your home. It is okay to tell her NO, sounds like you have a lot on your plate now you don’t need to add anything else to it.
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I am a B*tch cuz I’d be like “no you’re not” lmfao
I’d be saying no… the fact that she TELLS you she’s moving in is a huge red flag
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No you are allowed to feel how u feel she really should have spoken to u first however if shes coming n you decide not to say anything then it may be an extra pair of hands to help out with everything yano either way hun i really think you need a break for ya self other wise ya guna explode xxx
Hopefully because of your situation that your mom is moving in to help, but knowing that you are getting married and your entire situation she seems kind of selfish to add more to your already busy life. Maybe try to set her up in a rental room somewhere till you get settled
She can help with the babies with house work if you need a babysitter for date nights then you have your Mom but give her a time limit to get her own housing she has 2 months of staying then you gotta go; lol
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Um, she really should have asked you. Your not wrong for feeling the way you do…Okay
Tell her no. Its complete sentence
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Tell her NO. just because she is your biological mom does not mean she can tell you anything. She is a grown woman.
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No is a complete sentence. You need to set boundaries for yourself and your family. You don’t have to explain yourself or feel guilty for doing so.
I’m sorry to say this .u have enough on your plate like u said she popped this on you make her move to hotel or something till finds a place and u dont need with your kids and pets and your stressed now just waite and imagine if moved in with u it might get stressful if she got pets and your pets might not mix .you both might not mix.
Just say no. She cant force her way into your home
Just say no, your mental health comes first…
Tell her no? You’re an adult? And she decided at one time not to live with you, so why should she be able to choose now to be apart of your life? Why stress yourself out and create chaos (which you clearly have enough of) plus, for the sake of your daughter alone, I think would be enough to tell your mom, No. you need to take care of your family first. Plus, what grown women wants to live in her granddaughters room? She needs her own space.
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I would have never told her yes to begin with
It is hard. My mom lived with us a long time. My mom would not go anywhere. Keep your Mom active. Set boundaries. I would not move your daughter to a different room. God bless you. I went thru so much stress with my mom
No! She can go somewhere else
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Tell her no. I know it’s hard but it’s better you may hurt her feelings now than to be stressed more with all on your plate already.
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You need to learn about setting boundaries. You wouldn’t be feeling this way if you would have told her no 
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You dont have to do anything just say no
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tell her you can’t let her move in w you rn you got way too much going on
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are you kidding. this sounds like bs
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Share this to her now.
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Iam really upset about this this your just remember who hold you for nine months who take care of you when you were a baby all this thing it isn’t enough. To help your mom
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Tell her no! Your house, your rules, if you’re not 100% comfortable with it you will end up resenting her and the relationship will be ruined. Also. She TOLD you shes moving in? Nah fuck that. You’re a grown woman nobody tells you shit. You should tell her to find somewhere else
You don’t “have” to do anything. Your mother shouldn’t be calling you telling you she’s moving on. She should ask and also consider the fact that you have so much going on and that would probably make a bad situation worse. I would do anything for my mom but as long as I’m capable of doing so.
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Tell her NO! You owe her nothing!!
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I would tell her no. That’s not ok to surprise you with that and have her expect you to bend to her needs.
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Tell her ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Family moving in never ends well. And who the hell does she think she is forcing herself into your home like that?! Nope. She doesn’t have your best interest in mind and it seems as though she never did.
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I love my mother and life isn’t guaranteed to anyone so appreciate every second you get with her because you would feel pretty shitty if she passed away tomorrow 
Be an adult and tell her no! My house, my rules, no, you can’t move in. Period. Or give her a couple weeks to get settled and find a job and her own place but make sure she knows from day one, better yet before she moves from where she is now, you have until this date then you have to be out. It was completely out of line for her to announce that she’s moving in to begin with. She doesn’t have that right, it’s your home!!
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Your house, your decision. Period. If it’s too much, then tell her that. You little family and what’s best for you guys is ultimately the most important.
Less than 2 wks notice? Why the abrupt decision to just move into your home? And with 3 pets?! I can’t fathom why she would think this is an okay thing to do?
Sounds like you’ve got a full house already. 4 kids (special needs as well), pets of your own…and I assume hubby is moving into your house??
You need to tell her it’s not what you want, that it’s not good for you & the children and that’s your first priority. AND you need to tell her ASAP!! So she can either stay where she is or make other arrangements.
Now, if she’s going to be homeless (for whatever reason) it’s not going to be easy. But you already say it’s not what you want so stick to your guns. Or it’s not going to be easy on anyone. Good Luck to you, and to her as well.
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I would definitely put my foot down on this one. I especially would not make my kids give up their rooms for someone else. I’d go to Walmart and buy a $20 blow up mattress and put her in the living room.
Tell her no. She can’t just up and say she’s moving in. That’s a question you ask and talk about beforehand
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Did you invite her to live with you? I’d tell her to kick rocks! She sounds toxic to me
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Your mom “told” you she’s moving in?? Sounds like a very unhealthy person. Put your foot down. It’s not fair to disrupt your children’s lives. Offer her some other type of help.
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Tell her no. Plain and simple.
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Well for one , it’s disrespectful to impose yourself on someone regardless of the relationship ! It’s okay to tell her no. Her problems aren’t your problems just because you’re her daughter … you have your own shit going on.
Tell her you can not take her in but will help her to find suitable living space somewhere else. You have your own faimly to consider.
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Just because she gave birth to you does not give her entitlement. She didn’t ask?? You are an adult. You have your own children to worry about. Tell her no. Nothing good can come of this. I know it feels like your being mean but the answer has to be no.
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I would tell her no. You need to take care of yourself and your children that’s so messed up for her to think she has the right to TELL you what you are going to do
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If she did not raise you I would not be responsible for her.
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Learn to say no or you are going to make your family suffer not cool
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Had you asked her today move in ? You two need to be on the same page for this to work.Is she coming out of need for her or you ?.
Good luck hope it all turns out well.
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Say no, you will feel better.
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Uh say no, sorry? It’s your house not hers.
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Tell her no. What do you mean she’s told you. She can’t tell you shit she didn’t even raise you. Put yourself first put yourself foot down. No. Under no circumstances no.
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Um no she’s not lol like at all. Say no 
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You are the adult in charge of You! Tell her no she is NOT moving in with You!!! No One can force themselves on You!
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NO, your spelling disaster on top of disaster
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Did you invite her before to live with you? If you did not then you need to put your foot down and tell her she cant.
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Grow a backbone,and do what is right for your children, that is where your responsibility lies.
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You don’t owe her anything!
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Explain to her the reason why you can not have her living with you. Any good mother would completely understand.
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I would say No no no
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I’d say hell no. Mother I not, no one should say that they’ll just move in with you because they say so. Your kids comes before your mother. If she’s young enough to not need help, she can sleep in the living room and get a job. Give her a set date to get out and write it down. when said date comes, and she’s still there after, force her out. call cops if she won’t listen. it’s your home, not hers.
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If you are not comfortable with it and it is going to upend your life, tell her you can’t let her move in, even temporarily if you think she’s not going to leave.
Curious though, why you call her your birth mother and why she’s trying to move in with you when she’s aware it’s going to strain your household.
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Um well I’d just tell her not gonna happen. You don’t owe her or anyone else your sanity!
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Once u let her IN it will be almost impossible to get her OUT!!! Ur responsibility is YOU and YOUR CHILDREN!!! NOT HER!!!
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How can someone give you notice that they’re moving in with YOU? Obviously it’s a bad idea, say no. You’re an adult with children of your own to be responsible for. You are creating your own disaster by letting this happen.
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Say no. It’s a complete sentence.
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Hrmmm say NO sorry you cant move in with me! Shes adult! You are NOT responsible for her! Sorry but not sorry! Learn to say NO!
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No is a complete sentence.
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Tell her no. Its not her house its yours. No. Absolutely not.
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Absolutely no! Tell her you will help her find a place to live.
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Tell her sorry mom but right now is not a good season, lets try this 12 months from now
Your an adult tell her no she wants to move closer fine but she needs to make other arrangements for housing.
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Just say no. Why are people so scared to say no.
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I hope this is a joke! Stop her now. All you have to do is say NO. Don’t let your marriage be over before it starts.
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Doesn’t sound like a good idea…you should tell her why this won’t work…do not put YOUR families comfort in jeopardy…any selfless loving mother would understand
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Is it possible that she thinks you need her? Sounds like u have a lot on your plate. If she didn’t raise you maybe it’s her way of making amends for something. Talk it Thur with her. Maybe she can find a place near you to move into. So she is near by but not in your space. If you have a good relationship you don’t want it to turn into resentment because this isn’t what you wanted.
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Your house your rules. Try asking first. Powerful word…ummm NO
Just tell her no. You need to put your family 1st. Say no and stick to it.
Um she’s inviting herself into your home ? Hell no, you better put her in her place sis
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I didn’t see my birth father until I was 37 I maintained a good relationship with him even after I moved out of state. Once a year I paid for him to come down for a visit. I did it for about 10 years until I couldn’t afford to, although I did send money on holidays and stayed in contact by phone. He still came by bus and he approached me about moving in with me. I just had to tell him that it wouldn’t work out. He took it pretty well. I gave him the reason it wouldn’t work. My family came first, you need to get your priorities straight! Your family comes before someone that didn’t raise you!
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I love my mom dearly and respect the crap out of her, but I’d flat out tell her no 
So wait, she just dropped a bomb that she’s inviting herself to live with you? 
No is a good word, a firm one at that? Unless I’m missing something?
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Tell her how you feel! Not very considerate of her to pop that on you when she knows your situation! I’m sure there are places for rent?
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Tell her don’t think so she didn’t raise you. Tell her no no
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You must have invited her. If not thats intrusion on your life. This should have been thought through better.
It’s your home. Tell her she is not welcome to live with you & direct her to the local rentals in your area. If that’s not good enough than I guess she’ll have to stay where she is.
Ummm say no. You have no obligation to her to allow this. Say no. Tell her immediately and tell her that If she wants to move by you, she needs her own apartment. Put you first. And your family first. Be firm.
Why would you move your autistic daughter?!
She told you she was moving in with you. You say NO to her. It’s your house.
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Nope, no room, no time, no permission, not going to happen. You wouldn’t owe her that even if she did raise you.
Tell her hell no. She didn’t wanna raise you, you don’t wanna raise her
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Grow a back bone and tell her no, she can find somewhere else to stay, caravan park, or some other place. But she can’t expect to just move in with you and disrupt your families life