Um just say no point blank
Umm no tell her she aint moving in with you no stress there tell her to go else where call the law have her arrested if she tries any crap.
Is she gonna help or be a burden?
Wow. Maybe let her know that this doesn’t work for you and your family. You have to put your kids first.
Perhaps she could help ease some of your stress,maybe take some of the weight off you
Help her rent close by but please say no. She’s gonna upset your routine and you sound like you’ve already got so much going on
Sorry but it isn’t going to happen mom
But you agreed to her…
Honey you don’t owe her a damn thing and since she couldn’t be there for you you don’t feel obligated to be there for her don’t feel bad at all because she should have asked you not told you and you need to pick up the phone and tell her NO that living arrangement is not going to work out for you and your at this time on such short notice and for her to seek other housing and before she gives you the guilt treatment hang tf up period end of it you owe no one an explanation of why you can’t accommodate her your life you live it your way don’t move her in you will regret it you only have one life to live so be happy
It’s very simple you say NO. You don’t even have to explain it, just tell her she will have to figure something else out because she can’t live with you. Period. End of story.
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you have enough to worry about so just tell har you don’t have room for her she will have to find somewhere else ,Your children come first
Hopefully she will be more help then hassle!
Why would you say yes!?.. the answer is because you thought it would benefit you and now you’re panicking and second guessing yourself.
Look back to why u agreed to begin with and there’s your answer. Regret unfortunately wont help you.
Oh hell no tell her no she is not moving in you don’t owe her anything and do not have to turn your life upside down to accommodate her.
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What do you mean, your mom told you she was moving in? That’s not how that works. She might be your mom, but she is no longer the boss of you. She doesn’t get to unilaterally make life altering decisions like that for you. So tell her sorry, no room at the inn and the manger is full too!
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bet new hubby is overjoyed
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Just tell her she can’t move in. There is to much on your plate. You are getting married and you have children. It’s just not going to work. Why is she moving in with you ?
Is ur mouth broke? Ur door? U say NO, and just don’t open the door.
Bio ain’t been around, a little late to play mommy now
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If I was you I’d be like “
your not living with me find somewhere else! 
”
Set rules boundaries and limitations. Expect them to be adhered too.
Tell her that you still want to have a good connection with her just that you already have a full house . Tell her it’s too stressful and I can’t have you move in with me.
My mother in law moved in with us in April and it was supposed to be temporary… She’s still here. Doesn’t help with bills, groceries, nothing. Even gets upset when we ask her to watch our kids. My advice to save your sanity is say NO!! I’m now trying to figure out how to get her out of our house without being a bitch…
Just be open and honest about your stresses and see if you could come to a compromise like her living near by
Tell her no! I’m sorry she’s your mom and everything but she just can’t say I’m moving in, hell her find her own place maybe co sign a loan
No would be the best answer for all involved!
Tell her honestly! Tell her about your situation and say I’m sorry but I can’t have you come live with my family I don’t have time space or energy to allow it I’m sorry. My house is full as is.if she says f you then she’s just gonna use you anyways at that point… She’s a grown a** woman who needs to get her sh** together. She shouldn’t be relying on you when you’re already busy and stressed!!
She will be there to hlep you and your family no mother let you know why blessings are coming to you and your family 
What do you mean she just called you and told you she is moving in? If this wasn’t something you have ready set up to take place maybe you should have another family member help her find a place she can afford. You did state your plate is full why add more on yourself? This won’t help your relationship
What are you, a wimp? Say no.
I’m all about family comes first and we need to help family when in need. However your household family comes first and if it is going to upset my household and I wasnt talked to about it. I was told… it wouldn’t be happening. However that is me. Family is always number one. By my kids and my household are number 1 out of that.
Sorry she needs to get a JOB and get her own place. She didn’t raised you …Your future husband is going to get sick of it. You need your privacy.Good luck.
100000% No!
U need ur sanity and this is obsurd!
Don’t do it. You don’t have to let her move in especially if she didn’t ask
Boundries! Mom I would love for you to live near by. I am getting married and my new husband will be adjusting to a ready made family. I can help you find an apartment near by if you want to move to this area. I would love to have you nearby so my children can have granny in their lives. And
Not your job to take care of her. Did she takes care of you? You’re children are your priority.
SIMPLE…JUST SAY NO … END OF STRESS…YOUR house not hers! YOU run your life not her!
Your mother sounds like an absolute arsehole.
She has absolutely no right to move herself in to your home.
You DON’T have to just go along with it.
Put your foot down, and tell her it’s not happening.
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Sorry Mom I truly don’t have the space… Still love ya though good luck
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No offense but she didn’t even ask? Is she going to help with bills or does she think she’s just getting a free ride?
Be selfish for yourself… and your household… tell her no she needs to find somewhere else to go.
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First of she needs to ask if she could stay,what’s the reason does she have no where to stay etc if she does well u need to let her know how u feel an she’s boldface doh
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Is there a reason she is moving in with you?
Remember, you are an adult and you gave choices, these choices will reflect upon your children. So make the best choice for you and your children, who are unable to make those choices.
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Sorry, she told you? No discussion? That is not right and very selfish of her. You have every right to be upset!
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Why is she moving in with you? Did you invite her? You have every right to feel like you feel and you also have every right to tell her NO. Why upset your whole household? Especially when you say that she doesn’t need help? Sounds like drama and a headache on your horizon.
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Purhaps mom knows you need help and plans on eliminating your real stress… JS
It’s your house.
And no judgement intended, but it’s your daughter who is autistic, not your autistic daughter.
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This is super simple, I have the best answer for her, short, sweet, and simple: “NO.”
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Boundaries, girl, boundaries!
I lived with my mother in my 30s…lolZ…
The best advice incan give you:: stand firm. Dont be afraid to keep control of YOUR household. Dont b be afraid to give her notice to leave. I personally wont, but if YOU feel the need for police intervention…thats ok. 
Family is so taboo…i cant stand it; Expectations from “blood” are generally unfair… Stay healthy and dont let her grind you down
TELL HER NO. SHE IS WELCOME TO MOVE CLOSER TO YOU, BUT YOU HAVE ENOUGH ON YOUR PLATE.
Next thing you’ll be writting how it’s destroyed your relationship. Just say no.
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Tell her she can’t move in with u
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Breathe sister breathe 
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Sounds like a bad idea if it’s causing you this much stress
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Um she has no right to make the decision to just up and move herself into your house! That is YOUR DECISION AND YOURS ALONE! Tell her if she plans on helping then she can find a place near yours especially if your getting married in a damn month! All it will cause is more shit on your plate
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She said she moving in with you? Did she even ask you? Sounds like its gonna be a stressful time and despite how you’ll feel it will not change.
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The problem is your mother told you she is moving in- she didn’t ask. Your choice. Be happy with what YOU ALLOW.
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She is a grown up and so are you Tell her no and let her look.after her self
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How the hell do you invite yourself to move into someone else’s house??!!
It would be a big fat NOPE from me.
Call her NOW and say no. Block her too. She’s an adult she can figure it out.
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Help her find somewhere else but say your place isnt an option
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I dont think she has the right to make the decision toove in with you without your consent. Tell her it’s not great timing, that you dont have the room.
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Nope. Nope and nope. Lol. In all seriousness, absolutely not. You don’t owe her anything. I’d put my foot down and say what you said in this post! Way too much on your plate. That is not ok., and you owe her nothing. Not ok for her to just do that or assume you’re ok with that!! Hugs, wishing you the best 
You have one mom in this world and if you can’t love her and accept her in your house and put a roof over her head and you’re out to see her homeless well then you’re not a real daughter
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Take care of yourself and your family first. Personally I would have a problem with the demand. She should have asked first.
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Don’t let her take advantage of you. Giving you up was that as well…
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Your house your rules.
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Told you? You have a say
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Yes…I would tell her NO… you have enough on your plate… you don’t need to be taking on more!!!
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No one but you decided who stays at your place. Learn to say no
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She told you? Where’s your backbone? No is a powerful word. USE IT and lock your door.
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Maybe just say NO ? but whatever you decide please know you have my prayers
No way. You’re responsible for enough already. How does your about to be husband feel about this ?
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How is this even possible that she can invite herself
Use healthy boundaries - tell her what you
Can and will do to help her and what you cannot or will not do to help her
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Try saying no and meaning it. This is only the beginning of a nightmare if you don’t stop it now!
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No way. Especially since she’s an able-bodied person. Tell her NO! I’m going through this right now with my 81 year old mom. My stepdad died November 1st. Her finances are a mess. She’s keeps bugging me to sell my house and move in with her. No way. Love/hate relationship. She’s narcissistic and controlling. She’s going to have to sell her house and downsize. They were hoarders. Not the dirty kind. Just too much crap. I live on a farm (horses). Lived here for 21 years. But get told I’m choosing my animals over her. All because she can’t afford the mortgage. They were terrible with money. They lived there for 38 years and the sale of the house will not cover the mortgage because dad’ took out all the equity and blew it.
Girlfriend the answer is no, no, no.
Find her a place of her own. Yours is not an option. Make that clear. You are an adult, too.
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Umm, say no! She can’t just assume that she can move in!
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Posting your business on social media ain’t the one keep your life personal and off social media … you getting married you said discuss that ish with ya soon to be husband not a bunch of random people who dont give 2 fucks
There’s nothing wrong with you except you don’t have the balls to disappoint. You have the absolute right tell her no. She did not raise you so why do you feel guilty? It is ok to take care of you first.
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How does anyone TELL YOU they are moving in with you?? Lol just say NO
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Um why not just tell her no? You decide who lives with you
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I mean if you were a sloppy single woman in her 40s I’d understand why she’d insist moving with you without further discussion. But, girl, you are getting married. You can take care of yourself obviously since you can raise three kids with special needs yourself. You basically have a family of your own, now. Making your house, not only YOUR sanctuary, but you CHILDREN’S sanctuary as well.
Parents should have boundaries, especially when their children are mature enough to be independent. She can’t just barge in like that unless you offered it. I wouldn’t sacrifice my kids being uncomfortable and having to adjust to a stranger in their own private safe haven. It’s your job as a parent to protect your kid’s safe place. Even against your mother.
It’s ok to say no she should see you have your hands full boundaries are my life saver
Difficult situation,but you going to find no joy in this. It’s best to let her know at this stage.
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Uhm…she literally can’t do that…she can’t just force herself into your house and you owe her nothing. God she sounds like my bat shit birth grandmother
There Is alot we don’t know. There is more back story here.
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You have no obligation or responsibility to let any adult move in with you if you are unable to do so or if doing so with create havoc and stress in your life. You can start looking in to options in your area for her and her pets. You should NEVER feel pressured to help an adult if it means your children are going to be affected. Pay for a week or 2 in a local motel and tell her to get to the local DHS office to get benefits and take care of herself.
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Tell her…at this moment you can not and will not do this…and that. IF the time comes that you can…you will make the offer. Then have your about to be husband make the same statement…if she is once in your home…it takes HUGE effirt and $ to get her out.
Girlfriend, if you continue to let other people tell you what you’re going to do with your life, YOU WILL BE MISERABLE! You better learn how to say NO! STOP worrying about hurting people’s feelings and take care of your own!
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You can’t displace your children and their needs for you mother .
Tell her she can’t stay with you . And stand your ground . Like you said you have enough on your plate
You don’t need more . She is an adult not your responsibility.
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She told you ?? Um you need to set her straight. Your not a child any more at least I would hope not. Can you afford to have her there. Do you have space ??
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If you have a good relationship, can she not help you with your family then,help around the house etc,set some rules, boundaries, talk to her,you have a good relationship I am sure she will understand, xx good luck
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Ugh. Maybe give a time limit…? That is a really rough deal.
No I wouldn’t take her in you have enough on your plate ad she will break up ur marriage she dint care for you ad why should you care for her let her find her own please ad your putting a sick child out of her room x
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Ps. If she has a key to your home…tell her the locks are changed. Please. This demand .like on her part is grotesque.
I have a biological mother, i was adopted, and there’s NO WAY I would allow her to live in my house. Especially if I had all the things going on that you do. Just because you’re a good person doesn’t mean you have to cause detriment to your own life. She didn’t raise you, so you have ZERO responsibility towards her. Prayers for you and your family.
No no no. She shouldn’t tell you. This relationship will go down hill fast.
Just tell her no. She needs to respect your boundaries. Don’t let her manipulate you. Stand your grounds.tell her you are moving if you have to. You can always change your mind. Lol
She gave u less than two weeks notice she’s moving in with u? No, she needs to ask, not tell u. Tell her no
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You have enough on your plate. If she wants to move closer so be it but to allow her to impose herself inti your already stressful situation is asking for trouble
Let your mom know how stressful this time is. Let her know that now is not a good time then tell her exactly what you just wrote. As a mother she will not want to cause more stress to you.