U shouldn’t have to raise her…she didnt raise you…just say no
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Why is she moving in? Is it temporary? Does she think she’s going to help out with the kids? An honest conversation needs to happen now while there’s still time to figure things out. Good luck!
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Once she and pets are in, you’ll find it impossible to get them out! If pets destroy your home or she’s a nightmare to live with, you’re screwed! Just tell her that you might all have to move due to the roof or something to let her know the situation is not stable for your little family already and she needs to make other plans. Bottom line; she didn’t sacrifice for you as a child and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice for her now! 
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Id tell her No moving in with me.
Why would your mother want to move in with you?
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I’d tell her no…don’t feel bad…
I would tell her that it is not possible for her to stay more than a few days and no pets. You aren’t obligated. A non existent biological parent during your childhood that just tells you they are moving in it’s unacceptable. Her deciding she’s moving in with you gives me the hunch she may be mentally ill.
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She TOLD you?! Fuck. No. Id tell her to figure it out you aren’t staying with me and you’re not demanding to move in when I couldn’t even stay with you as a child. And you’re displacing your daughter? What is wrong with you? My daughter is also autistic. That’s fucked up. Sorry not sorry. Grow a backbone.
Just be honest with your feelings about the whole situation. Sometimes people don’t say what they’re truly feeling because they anticipate the response. You might just be surprised 
. I wish you love!
Look at what you wrote. Your answer is right there. You do not need anything else added on your plate.
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How the fuck is she TELLING you she’s moving in?
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You’re an adult with responsibilities… She should respect that…
If she’s gonna be homeless, that’s a different scenario.
Otherwise heres the couch, heres your time frame to be out.
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No…she needs to accept that
Did you invite her or did she invite herself?
Why are you stressing when you can easily explain to her that her moving in with you just isn’t a good idea.
You do know that you’re allowed to say “no” right?
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Wow, you have every reason to be upset. My mother moved in with me but its stress free. Im sorry, i think you deserve a break
Follow your gut instinct. It never steers you wrong. As difficult as it may seem you should do what is best for you and your family. If that means telling your birthmom not at this time , then that’s what has to be done for your own sanity and the well being or your family. Good luck!
Where are you located? I need a house to move Into as well, also, I’ll need you to build a barn for my horses which I’d like you to purchase for me. Holy cats woman! You need to stand up for yourself and say “I’m sorry, you moving in does not work for me.” You can do this!
you have to look after #1 first (YOU) Just tell your mom you are sorry but you cant take her in right now. If she doesnt understand well lets put it this way she wasnt there for you as a child so you owe her NOTHING !
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Why would she just up & tell you she’s moving in? Just say no!
For someone who didn’t raise you, she’s pretty effin gutsy. My real dad never raised and no way in hell would I ever let himself invite himself into my children’s home. I’ve tried reaching out as a kid many times and a few times one of his own sister who is my aunt told me to leave my biological donor alone.
You don’t need to do anything for anyone(except the children) especially if it’s to help her now that she’s old. If she wants to be cared for then she should have cared for you growing up. I would look up homes within her budget, honestly. &Don’t feel bad about anything especially saying “No”!
Sounds like trouble. Do what is best for YOU.
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Just say no.isnt your daughter important
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Hell no. That is the phrase you need to use when you speak to her. She needs to make other arrangements. She has no right demanding to move in with you.
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Um… No… Say no.
Create boundaries, your home is your sacred space, you welcome people into your home, not people welcoming themselves into your home.
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Boundaries baby…boundaries…
No, no, noooo. No one, not even family, should be allowed to just decide they are moving in without even asking. That’s rude to think someone has the space, the money, nor the time to take on an extra roommate. You know yourself more than anyone, so if you know this will add more stress for you, I would tell her no.
Say no. You dont owe anyone your peace
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I’d sit down make a agreement to cover both sides n if y’all can compromise great if not then written n verbal agreement needed ?
That’s a big fat no. Your daughter is more important than that woman you hardly know.
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Mom sounds irresponsible. Love yourself enough to set boundaries, your children would appreciate it.
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You have every right to say I cant or I dont have the room.
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Uh… say no… I’m sure your a grown woman, deep breath and No… easy as that…
You absolutely have the right to say no and set your boundaries NOW before it’s too late.
Pray to God about it.
Never let anyone including family make you feel like you have no way out … Only You know your children an with everything that is stressing you out sounds like its stressing is stressing them out. I Would definitely do a big no . Let it her know that with everything that is going on that you cant displace any of the kids from thier daily lives and you can not have her move in. Your would love to help if you have time to find her efficiently apartment
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Id tell her no. Your not obligated to just allow people to say they are moving in. No means no.
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Tell her you don’t have enough room for her.
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No is an acceptable answer, she cannot force herself on you. Where will she live, when u get married?
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I’m sorry but i think your kids are way more important than your mother…
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Why are you doing as she says? Did she threaten you or your family? I don’t see a reason why you would move her in
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Please, don’t let her do this to you 
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Say “NO”.
This is ridiculous
No way would I announce to anyone that I was moving in with them
How entitled & so thoughtless
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Sounds like she is taking advantage of you…tell you she is welcomed to live in the same town, but not at your house!
I wouldn’t allow it 
Just say no, she is not your responsibility, you are an adult, she doesn’t get to tell you that she is moving in with you. Just because people are “family”, does not give them any rights. Trust me, been there, done that, learn to say NO, the sooner the better for your sake & your kids.
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It was a simple no… you don’t owe her anything 
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You dont owe her anything. Put on your big girl panties and stand up for yourself. Your not her door mat. Tell her NO.
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Tell her no plain and simple you don’t have to explain yourself to her and she has no right to barge in like that.
NOOOOO she can not make you upend her life for convenience
How inconsiderate can someone be? If she truly cared about you, the least she would have done is asked if it was ok. It is your house and no one has the right to dictate who will live there but you. She is an adult and needs to act like one. I would tell her NO!!! She is not your child so you are NOT responsible for her
No means no family or not
Umm put your foot down and tell her no.
Clearly she has no right ir is your house and you dont have to let her move in personally i am tried of these people who think they can come in my house and tell me they are not leaving. When the bills are due they dont help at all yet think they can tell me. Sorry guys i can get pretty mean. This is my house. Noone comes here and tells me how it will be. Dont know where people get the entitlement but they find out quick it dont work here. Every one wants to stay. For free. No one will live here any more free than i can i dont get a free ride. I am not giving someone else one
Tell her that you just dont have the room …and if she gets mad thats her problem…she is an adult…and you are not obligated to house and feed her for a long term stay. Tell her she needs to start looking for her own space
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U are crazy if u just let anyone move in like that. U said u are already stressed and she isnt there yet. Just say nooooooooo
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That’s a big ole nope. Didnt ask and no discussion. That’s just rude and very inconsiderate. I can only imagine how awful she’d be once she arrived.
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You have to speak up and say no
If you didn’t offer her to move in she is making assumptions and you need to tell her how you feel
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Your priority has to be your stability physical , emotional , and monetary. You have your own family to take care ( your kids and future husband)
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You do not have to turn your life upside down for your birth mother. To be a strong healthy minded woman you need to learn to say No! It’s not wrong & it’s not disrespectful to her. She sounds like she’s manipulating you! Be strong & do the right thing for you and your marriage! It’s impossible to please everyone.
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Just say no—-she is. It your responsibility and you have yourself and your children to think about.
If your not feeling good about it you have to speak up you have to stay healthy minded for your kids she needs to understand or get over it
Is she moving in because she feels like she is going to be helping? Did she indicate that this is temporary?
You are NOT a bad persons for being stressed by this. You DO have a lot on you plate and your kids should have priority over your mom…either mom.
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Had all discussed her moving in with you prior, And you are just expecting her to move in at a later date? Or did she up and impose?
Just say no. No guilt.
Maybe she’s coming to help you!
It’s ok to say no. She may take issue with your decision, but, you have the right to say no. Go ahead and stand up for yourself and your sanity.
Dont do this if shes the pushy kind youl have her around your neck always you dont need it neither does your childrentell her undont have the room you will never be free of her its not spiteful its not practical to have her move in causing disruption for you or your children explain it nicely but be firm u dont have the room end of story
Move her into an apartment close by. Ahh no your not her caretaker
You can say no for your own mental health there is nothing wrong w that.
She couldnt raise you and thats fine but now you can’t take on what she has and thats ok.
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You already know the answer to this. Be strong for yourself and your family and do what’s best for you. SMH. Just invites herself to live with you. WTH.
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No. Nope. Can’t do. Sorry but no that’s impossible. I cannot have a house guest or roommate with animals in my house. Sorry Mom that’s not possible. You need to make other arrangements. You cannot stay in my house. Not even one day. My children have special needs and their comfort comes before you.
I got a headache just reading about what you alone have going on so my question to you is why would you add to your already hectic lifestyle? I know she’s your mother, but you said she didn’t raise you so you don’t owe her anything. I just see you regretting it and possibly you two ending up at odds! You shouldn’t disrupt your daughter or your home. God bless you and I hope it all works out for the best!
Tell her no, and dont be afraid to. You are not obligated one bit to deal with her or especially having her intrude on your life without your permission. You dont need that toxicity in your life.
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Please say no to her, this doesn’t sound like a blessing to you. You have plenty on your plate! Let her know she needs to make other living arrangements. You have a new husband and daughter who are your priorities, as well as your own mental well being.
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Tell her NO that easy
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Put your foot down. Do not turn your home topsy turvy for someone who dudnt even raise you. What is her reason for moving? Also this can not possibly be good for newly weds. Especially with kids involved. Tell her sorry need to make otger arrangements.
Tell her No. Plain and simple.
Say No! She didnt raise you where was she when you needed her? You dont owe her anything. Be happy and carry on.
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From your post it seems she just invited herself to live in your home. She’s taking advantage, say no. I raised my daughter and we are very close but I wouldn’t dream of overburdening her in this way. This is a recipe for disaster. Talk to her and explain that you just can’t add another person to your home, much less three pets. Don’t let her emotionally manipulate you in this matter. I understand you wanting your bio mom in your life but this situation will end badly if you don’t draw boundaries now and stand your ground
You mentioned you’re getting married and yet you’re stressed instead of happy. That says it all. Don’t feel bad. Just like your mom had a tough choice to make when it came to you, now you have a tough choice to make when it comes to her. The best advice I have for you… choose YOU.
Say no. This is YOUR house and YOUR life. She has managed to live this life on her own until now, she will figure it out.
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You know in heart the answer to this they talk about tough love for young kids but sometimes you have to do it to your parents it will hurt but you are a strong person and can do it Praying 
for you
Why is she moving in? She shouldn’t have just told you she was moving in. What are her circumstances as far as her life gores. Is she able to work? Is she able to help you out financially with the bills if she is going to be living there?
Don’t let her. Say no! Been there done that before. She is using you. I learned from my mistakes. Did and dropped everything for family. But when I needed help they pretty much told me to f off.
Tell her it’s already a house full? Or ask her how long she will be staying, say 1 week or 2 put a time limit on it to let her know it’s just temporary. Or would it be a blessing in Disguise? Maybe help that you need to be less stressed?
If you didn’t invite her and don’t wa t her there…tell her.
Ummm…no. you have to tell you you just can’t and why! That’s too much for one person! Good luck!
Why is she TELLING you and not ASKING???
She’s your mom yes, but if she’s not in need of help as in being old… tell her no, she’s an adult and she needs to find herself her own place…
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Wait she told you she was moving in or she asked and you agreed?
Just tell her no you and your family arent ready for such a dramatic change yet!!
She would be going elsewhere. PERIOD
I’m sorry, but no one tells me that they are moving into my house. Be firm but pleasant when telling her that her moving in is not an option and offer to help find someplace else for her. Don’t budge!
What? Just gave you less than 2 weeks notice? I’m so confused Why does she feel she has a right to make this decision? You have every right to say NO
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Create boundaries. Tell her no.
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Why does she HAVE to? And why is she TELLING you? Get a backbone and say no. You owe her nothing!!
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No way. Tell her sorry. Youll help her find a place but no moving in
I said no to my step daughter moving in with us in the past. I knew I would be the bad person if she moved in so I could just be the bad person and say no. That is what you should do. It won’t be good if she moves in so say no now.
I can’t help you feel better about a situation that someone is FORCING on you.
What value does she bring to your home?
If you have a good relationship now, after she moves in, you won’t. Because she didn’t even ask, she Stated she is.
You do not have to validate her neurotic behavior. How does the fiancee feel about this? What’s her game plan? Time frame to move out? Paying Bill’s?
Heck, can she bring a dryer?
If she brings nothing to the table but stress, that’s a hard pass